TTC Baby number 1 - Looking for buddies

[Hewie30]

Hi Ladies 🙋,

I'm new to the forum so thought I'd look for some TTC buddies.
I'm 30 and TTC baby number 1, I came off the pill beginning of May and had a withdrawal bleed a few days later then got my first AF 4 weeks after that. Last month I sadly had a chemical it was gutting seeing the faint line go but I guess it wasn't my time!
AF arrived on time Sunday so looks like my cycle ranges from 34-35 days.
I'm currently taking pregnacare and using the Ovia app for ovulation, I'm thinking if I don't concieve by month 6 I'll try ovulation sticks. Onward to month 4 I go 🤣

Hi @Gigi318 I'm at work but it's a desk job, so doesn't tire me out. I do not know what is going on. I really don't want to keep hoping it is IB, so I would much rather have a half decent bleed so I know 1000000% that it is actual AF! It is soooo irritating.

@Katie1109 absolutely. What CD are you again? So sorry if I keep asking and you've already told me lots 🙈 it's like, you just want to know either way!

@Hewie30 how are you doing chick??

@flossy12 babe, how are you sleeping? I'm finding like every other night I just cannot get to sleep and then the day after my nausea is SO much worse. Sorry for always using you as my preggo guinea pig - but, you know, you are the preg one hehehehe 😘

Hi @Gigi318 God knows! 1st day of MC bleed which I counted as CD 1 was 21st of August. Cycles were always 27-28 days, it would be CD30 today, but I've got no idea how MC changed my cycle! I thought I ovulated 1-3 Sept only going by ovulation like cramps on one side, but also had similar cramps 13th and 14th of Sept :(

Morning Ladies!

Sorry I've on late, I got up late and was straight into work 🙈😂.

I haven't done a test this morning, I think I might try wait until I'm late. The few tests I've done I've got faints but I don't want to get my hopes up and tell you guys I'm seeing them then AF come 🙄. No AF yet and I'm on CD33. It usually comes between now and CD35 so think I'll test at the weekend with you @Gigi318

@Katie1109 How strange!! Could it be possible that your bodies still adjusting to the MC or that you are pregnant and having some bleeding? Sorry your feeling rubbish!! If it continues it might be worth calling your GP and explaining what's going on so they can do some bloods?

@Katie1109 yep, I'm with you again - I think that's why I couldn't remember then because we're actually unsure where you are. How frustrating! So could essentially be like 2 days late OR 5/6dpo! Oh our bodies are just insane. But at least you can sort of relax at your desk a bit. Hopefully nobody is looking over your shoulder today and you can just go at your own pace!

@Raizelea Haha! Your definatly excited 😂🤗. Hopefully we can bring you some positive news!! I'm going to test at the weekend I think. Seeing the faint lines are making me feel I'm going crazy and there isn't something there because the camera won't pick it up 😂😂. Plus I don't wanna get you guys hopes up and then AF come!

@flossy12 Oh my god that's amazing!!! 😍😍😍. That MUST make it feel real? It actually looks like a baby already 💓

@Hewie30 morning babe! Oh no, hope you've got tea/coffee to wake you up! Yayyy, glad you didn't test - just in case and OMG we can test and get our BFPs together (just throwing that positive thinking out there for good luck 😏🤞🏻) so you'll be either due AF or a bit late on Saturday, which is good. And mine will be one day before AF. Eek! And we posted the same-ish time again so missed yours 🤣 how are you feeling today?

Sorry @Gigi318 I just looked at my app and I had cramps 7/8th as well as 1-3rd Sept, not the 13th/14th as in my previous post x Ffs Lol.
@Hewie30 I cannot help but to be excited for you, I think this is your month, quite frankly I think both you and @Gigi318 will have you BFP's on Saturday x I feel like I'm in need for some good news, so keeping my fingers crossed for you both x

@Gigi318 Ahhh I haven't had time! I got some water but that's about it 🙄. I'm a senior HCA so I have patients and clinics of my own so it's constantly go go go. Awwwh yessss we definitely can do 😍😍. Hopefully we can get our positives together eek!! I just didn't feel the need to test this morning and leaving it as long as I can is probably the best. Yeah pretty much 😊. How are you feeling? How's the symptoms? Haha we have a habit of posting at the same time don't we lol! I'm okay this morning you know, no cramps so far just a few niggles but my nipples are so sore at the moment. I have noticed I haven't had a break out of acne which I usually do so hopefully that's a positive!

@Katie1109 I hope your right hun will be nice to give everyone some good and positive news!! How you feeling today? You okay?

@Hewie30 nah I'm certainly not ok, my bleeding is all over the place staring and stopping and god knows what else. I do not even know anymore if this is af, I was expecting it to be really heavy after mc but it is the exact opposite. My whole body aches and I'm not sure of anything anymore Lol x

@Katie1109 cool, so either around 2days late (ish) or maybe even 11/12dpo which is baffling as symptoms literally could be IB/preg symptoms or AF. Our bodies couldn't help us out with the timings any worse, could they!!! Oh my goodness, do you think??? Oh I hope all of your gorgeous girlies and my gut instinct are all correct 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 I really do! I hope we can bring you that positive news too! So sorry that you're feeling so crappy, I just wish we could do something or get a concrete answer for you because it's really so confusing!

@Hewie30 oh goodness me, so you're always on the go. I have a lot of nurses and HCAs in the family and they are all busy bees! Woohoo, that's the spirit, as testing too early could just be more frustrating! That's amazing, no cramps for me this morning either really. Just the odd twinge. Nipples feel okay, but nausea is bad! BAD! Funny you should say that as I was thinking about my skin, I usually get a few big angry ones around the chin/jawlines about now and I have a tiny one under my lip and that's it. It's definitely not like normal. Although I did mini freak when I saw it yesterday. If anything my skin is a lot better than it usually is!

@Katie1109 Oh hun! No wonder your not feeling great. MC can do funny things to your body especially with your cycle. Are you in pain? If so take some feminax it's amazing for period sort pains and try your best to rest when you get home from work. Take some time for you and look after yourself. If it's still like it tomorrow see your GP so they can do some tests and maybe a scan?

@Hewie30 no period like pains at all, has some mild cramps yesterday but nothing today. Seem to have flu like muscle pains but nothing other than that. Just feel generally exhausted :( I think an early night for me is in order x

@Katie1109 That's good your not getting any pains. Most definitely hun, rest as much as you can. It could be your body trying to sort itself out 🤗. I'm sure I speak for everyone that we're here for you whenever you need us

@Katie1109 yes definitely an early night chick. I don't know what you've got planned for dinner, but if it's boring grab yourself something nice to have at lunch or on the way home. I know it sounds silly but sometimes a good dinner or your favourite meal, a bath, and an early night can really do your body (and your mind) a world of good. That little bit of selfcare goes such a long way 👌🏻💫 we 100% are here. It's not fun being exhausted and having your body mess your mind about, so we're all here!

Thank you @Hewie30 and @Gigi318 your support is invaluable x We were planning to go out for something to eat tonight, but I am not sure whether I can be bothered x I could literally eat a whole bar of chocolate right now, and I do favour salty snacks normally. Funny enough that's how I felt last month before I had my BFP and mc. I read online that flu like symptoms are quite common with IB, so yes I am doing it again and building my hopes up which makes me feel even worse, because deep inside I know it's just an abnormal af :(

@Katie1109 try to think otherwise, lovely one. That you're healthy, and fertile, and this WILL happen for you. It will 💖💙 it's strange these symptoms we all get. And, I think you sound very emotional today (not a criticism, I just mean symptom wise) do you feel more hormonal? Maybe going out for dinner could be just what you need tonight - sometimes the times you don't feel like it actually do cheer you up. But then still go home and have a nice hot soak in the tub and an early night 😘😘😘

Katie1109 It's not a problem at all, we're here to support you every step of the way. That's not building your hopes up at all, that's a completely normal reaction that we would all do. Spoilt yourself with some chocolate, I understand you don't want to go out for a meal but Gigi's right it'll keep your mind off of it even if it's for an hour and it'll give you company's and do you good 😊❤️

@Gigi318 definitely feel emotional today so good spot x I just feel like because of the mc I completely lost control over my body and mind and everything is playing tricks on me. You both might be right about going out, I'll have a think about what I would fancy to eat and go for it x I'll keep you posted if anything changes x I wish you two were testing today @Hewie30 and @Gigi318 x

Those of you who have got your bfp, what was your CM like after ovulation? I'm 4dpo today and have creamy cm 🤨
Also have back ache but think that's cos I was lifting 10l of water last night changing the water in my fish tank more than anything else lol

@Katie1109 Yes Hewie is right, it's a normal reaction and I say keep up the hope - hope helps. It'll keep you sane! I find when you expect the worst, you just feel so rotten all the time. You've got this babe, just try to tune in to your body again and be kind to it. It's doing something spectacular at the moment, and I will make it my mission to keep your mind on track too - the mind is so powerful, it can really duck us up (duck with an F 🤣 typo but kinda like it so left it). Yes just see how you feel and treat yourself if you fancy it. You can always eat and go straight home, so won't be out late 🙌🏻

On another note ladies, I actually managed a run today despite feeling 🤢 it was a bit shocking but I did it and now blessed with a bucket load of CM. What is it about running that just shakes it right out of you?? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 TMI? Soz not soz!

@claireb707 @flossy12 and @Nicecupofcoco are your girls for that! I'm not testing til Sat but mine was very watery and a bit of EW last week. Now creamy but sticky/stretchy at 12dpo. Hope that helps 😘

Thank you very much @Gigi318 and @Hewie30 for your support. I have just looked at my calendar and my notes. 1st day of mc bleed was indeed on 21st of August, but I still had a BFP on the test 26th and then BFN 27th. So I guess my question is, would I be even able to ovulate between 1-3rd of Sept when I thought I did?! Or is it more likely it was 7-8th Sept which would make me 11-12DPO? Ahh...the hope is alive x

@Gigi318 Yes we DTD on Monday and Tuesday, then skipped Wednesday but I'm sure we will tonight again. I can definitely tell peak will come within the next couple of days, I feel really energised today, inexplicably happy (while this time last week I was feeling down in the dumps) for no reason. Also a staff member sent a photo of himself for the directory and I thought he looked quite attractive in said photo (he's a bald middle aged man), so somethig's definitely up 😆

And yep can attest to that statement about running and CM - though I haven't gone in weeks now!

@Hewie30 Don't put extra expectations on yourself on our account, we'll be here either way to celebrate or to commiserate as needed 😊