TTC Baby number 1 - Looking for buddies

[Hewie30]

Hi Ladies 🙋,

I'm new to the forum so thought I'd look for some TTC buddies.
I'm 30 and TTC baby number 1, I came off the pill beginning of May and had a withdrawal bleed a few days later then got my first AF 4 weeks after that. Last month I sadly had a chemical it was gutting seeing the faint line go but I guess it wasn't my time!
AF arrived on time Sunday so looks like my cycle ranges from 34-35 days.
I'm currently taking pregnacare and using the Ovia app for ovulation, I'm thinking if I don't concieve by month 6 I'll try ovulation sticks. Onward to month 4 I go 🤣

Thanks @Gigi318 🤗

I have been getting mid month twinges, it varies each side each month, so thought that was positive! I don't tend to notice any EWCM 😪 so I'm thinking OPKs next just to make sure I'm actually ovulating!!

AF hit me today, right on schedule. So CD1 for me! How's everything going for you? Stress free and zen I hope 😅 x

@Izzie94 sorry, you did say CD1 in your first post. I'm on the app and can't see what I'm replying to as I type 🤣

I'm yet to use OPKs but these lovely ladies do and have some good insights. But if you're not seeing EWCM or even wet CM then they could be the next step for you. Maybe order some in time for your ovulation window?

I'm doing okay, I think. Cycle 1 for me and just going with it. I feel confident, as this is all very new - but we shall see next weekend! I think I'm quite relaxed - either because that's just my outlook or because it's my first time 😂🙈

@Gigi318 hahaha its OK, I went to go back to re read your OP and it wiped everything I said, so I have no idea what I'm doing🙈

I do usually get wet CM, so hoping it's just as good 🤞 never knew how complex the body is after spending years avoiding an accident!!

Ahhhh, you'll breeze it 🤗 I was so calm and chilled about it until this month when I really thought it would be the one!! Now I'm feeling a bit more crazy and Mr Google never helps 😂 trying to go back to calm and collected Iz 😅 the BFP's I see on here get me through!!

@Gigi318 aha I was like that cycle one, might aswell save money and wait till AF due then you don't have the heart ache of a negative test unless AF is a couple days late 💞

@Izzie94 that's good news. Wet CM is good! I'm always a huge advocate of listening to your body - without that sounding too hippy 😂 but like, try to avoid reading too much or even making comparisons and just be kind to yourself.

I'm hoping so, just going to see what happens. Have no idea if I'm naive or what 🙈 yes definitely try to avoid Google if you can - don't let stress slow things down for you 💖

@flossy12 that's what I think - just going with it atm and not trying to put too much pressure on myself as I know that won't help! Here's hoping ✨

@Gigi318 Wine in the TWW or just while TTC in general? So far I'd been trying to avoid alcohol in the TWW but then obsessed about how to hide it during events and it probably just stressed me out more. And then once AF arrived I went to an Austrian beer garden (I was on holiday) and drank two enormous 1litre jugs of beer... So I think maybe overall moderation but not complete abstinence might be a better way to go now rather than flipflopping between extremes and being hyperfocused on which part of the cycle I'm in all the bloody time (no pun intended).

@Izzie94 My period was quite light when I cam off the pill too though eventually increased. Don't think it ever got quite as extremely strong as it used to be prior to the pill but I could just be remembering it wrong with it being so long ago! Not nuch experience with OPK yet but I'm starting the Clearblue one tomorrow so will report back on how I'm getting on with them after a while.

@Raizelrea alcohol in the TWW - I just feel guilty like I shouldn't 🙈 but then I do know that maybe a glass won't hurt as I don't technically know. Soooo much to get my head around. I'm usually quite good with moderation as I have one or two glasses and not a big drinker but I'll just see how I feel 😂

@Gigi318 I know what you mean, I think it's all about balance - obviously you don't want to get hammered or drink every day, but at the same time stressing over a glass of wine on a special occasion probably has a similar negative effect as drinking the glass would anyway 😄 At least that's what I've concluded so far. I don't have any events coming up this month though so I may just have a dry month anyway as a post holiday detox haha

@Raizelrea it can't hurt! I always think balance is best. And it sounds like you had a great time. Plus, put a bit of practice in for the potential 9 months without it 😂

Kinda wishing I didn't have the plans I have next weekend now as I've got the TWW and would just like to know. BUT time does fly so I'm sure it'll be here before I know it.

Are you going to so your CB in the morning? How exciting! Not that I know much about how the work!

@Gigi318 What plans do you have? Sorry if you mentioned already! I think it's good to keep busy during the TWW, it will make it go by quicker ☺️

Yes I'm starting with them tomorrow morning, I believe the first one is always blank as it establishes a baseline, so probably a little anticlimactic haha

@Raizelrea OH has a works do so he will be away and then hungover so not keen to test then. Then we have a local community event I'm helping with the next day and don't want my head racing all day. Flo predicts AF for 23rd anyway so think my best bet is just to wait until then. I hope I don't sound nuts. I know people usually like to test as early as they can. I just don't want either a BFN or BFP over me that day 🙈

@Gigi318 No you don't sound nuts at all, makes perfect sense. Best to enjoy the event without being distracted, and they always recommend to wait till AF due date for testing anyway!

@Raizelrea good thinking! Did you do your OPK today? Excited to find out when the day is 👌🏻

@Hewie30 how are you feeling today? Still backache - which is annoying but not too distracting. Also (again sorry if TMI), I've just been for a run and felt really wet, checked and lots of EWCM! Either that's a good sign or I'm ovulating on CD20 😂🙈

Hey ladies how we feeling? Gigi you don't sound nuts at all! A lot of women work testing around events and plans ☺️.

The backpain isn't too bad today BUT I got a bit of a spanner in the works. I did a opk yesterday to see if it's faded and it's dark like the control line at 5dpo and CD25 so I dtd just incase, then today at CD26 it's even darker so not sure if I'm ovulating extremely late or I'm ovulating twice 🤣🤷. Completely confused.com! I have no symptoms of ovulating other then sickness and achy boobs x

@Gigi318 I did - also managed to accidentally tip the cup with wee on our bathroom floor

Not expecting high fertility for another couple of days just yet.

That's unusual about the EWCM, make sure you are "covered" in case you did ovulate later! ☺️

@Hewie30 hi! How long are your cycles? I've heard that OPK's can also show positive if you're pregnant? Sorry to confuse things even more lol x might be worth doing a pg test?

@Hewie30 I'm with @Katie1109 on this one. Could be a BFP. But hold on if you can eeeek!! With my EWCM this morn, I though hmm am I really ovulating CD20?? But doubt it. Glad I don't sound nuts - just don't want OH drunkenly telling people or it throwing off the event. SO 23rd it is! I'm feeling SO positive for you though!

@Raizelrea oh no!!! That sounds like something I would do 😂🙈 but at least the ball is rolling. I could be ovulating late, I guess? I'm not confident but OH was at work when I saw it, so I will pounce on him when he gets home just in case 🤣

@Katie1109 @Gigi318 Oh my god do you think?! It's confused me SO badly I've had no ovulation symptoms but I did the other week when I thought I ovulated. The only thing is the line is much darker then my peak the other week, I'm not sure if it's the pregnacare sending my cycles mad? 🤔. I'll send you ladies a pic on here and see what you think. I'm only 6dpo so I would have thought it would be too early?

Gigi Haha!! Not at all hun, we all do it trust me 😂😂 xx

The darkest one is today and the other one was last night

You might have ovulated earlier than you thought @Hewie30. I would do a pg test tomorrow morning just in case, because I do not understand why your opk would be so dark on CD26, especially if you think you ovulated in this cycle already x keep us posted!

@Hewie30 definitely exciting. I hope it means BFP because like @Katie1109 said, ovulating CD26 is quite late. Although if you think you're 6dpo and ovulated CD20 - maybe I am ovulating today. I'm sure it was last week though. I think I'm driving myself nuts! Do you usually ovulate later rather than earlier?

Like you say, either it's a crazy late ovulation or Katie is bang on. I know nothing about OPKs but if they do flag up when pregnant then maybe you are!!! You must keep us updated. Do you think you might test in the morning? That saves the wait until Wednesday if you do 🤣🤞🏻💫

@Katie1109 Yeah it's very dark isn't it! It's possible I could have done as I had a relatively dark opk earlier on but was waiting for it to go darker so I took that as a surge but not a peak but I'm not 100% sure. I think I'll take a pregnancy test tomorrow morning just incase to see but dtd incase I am ovulating really late. It would make my cycle 40 days if this is my peak and my cycles never been that long it's ranged from 33-35 past few months.

@Gigi318 Yeah hun it's definitely possible for you to be ovulating now as cd20 that's when I thought I ovulated although that is with a 35 day cycle. How long are your cycles usually? I think I might do you know just incase although I'm not expecting anything! 🤣🤣

@Hewie30 I think taking the test is a good idea as this is so confusing but don't be disheartened if BFN as, like you say, you could be ovulating. Have you been stressed this month? Or anything that could have delayed ovulation? My cycles are usually clockwork 29-30 days. Usually ovulating on queue too. I've never officially tracked but have always been aware of my body and cycles for years, like I said as my own version of contraception. Still going to DTD tonight anyway as I'm waiting to test 23rd and if I am ovulating today I'd still be 11dpo then so it wouldn't be too bad. Oh how funny our bodies are!

@gigi318 Nah haven't been stressed at all I've been trying to keep stress to a minimum. The only thing I can think that's extended my cycle is pregnacare, a few ladies on here have said it sent their cycles haywire but I've been taking them since trying to conceive so having one long cycle would still be strange 🤣. Yeah I definitely won't be disheartened but would be interesting to see!

That's strange! Id definatly dtd just incase you are ovulating a little later then usual. You can ovulate on different days each month but it doesn't tend to be too far apart if that makes sense, but definitely worth covering yourself ☺️

@Hewie30 ah maybe that's it then? Although if you ask me, I'm saying pregnant. Let's wait for the HPT in the morning. I'm going to wake up like 👀👀👀 for you! I know I will need to take prenatal vitamins at some point but always hate the idea of things messing with my body. Hence the no contraception 🤣 I do take multivits though so that's something! Yes will definitely cover myself - no harm trying and sure OH won't complain 🤷‍♀️🙊