Hoping September WILL bring that bfp

[toytownmum]

I've had to leave the Aug thread very early on.... Blasted AF

Now going all out to get that BFP in September

TTM x

digitalgirl & sweetkitty - yeah, been hearing that more and more I conceived straight after coming of the pill last time but then MC'd so it's best to wait. Just don't want TOOOO long a wait as ds is already 4 and half, dh is 46 and doesn't want to be having another in his 50's . I've decided that because there is a history of VERY early menopause, I'm going to see the Dr and see if they can test me. I'm only 31 now but my mum was in her late 20's, other family in very early 30's, just terrifies me not being able to have any more. Best I ask now than try for months and months, presuming cycles are still adjusting then find out there is a problem.

Sorry to those who've had MC's

Maybe is a good idea LT to get down drs and get tested, i know that women in my family go through menopause in early 40's, am nearly 25 so not bad at the moment.

Hello all,

I've been a lurker, and had intended to stay that way, but felt I had to post my relief after reading about people's Mirena coil experiences - I had mine taken out three months ago, and since then my cycles have been crazy (after beign regular as clockwork on the Mirena).

We have been TTC for two months, and this month started to use ovulation sticks. Am now CD14, and no + ovulation, which I thought was strange as on my old cycle this would have been very late, but having read this thread I feel much better!

Anyway, here I am, a little calmer, and ready to throw myself headfirst into TTC obsession!

hi pip sorry to see you on here as well where is the ttc after miscarriage thread I can't find it (probably right under my nose )?

I have my scan on Wednesday to see if it's all gone after that we can get back to ttc, they wanted me to have it tomorrow but I said no as it's my birthday didn't really fancy that on my birthday.

TheMuppetMuggle - well, just got off the phone to my mum (managed not to cry but was hard - HORMONES!!! ). Mum added another family member to the list which I didn't know about....her mum (my grandma). My mum confirmed she was 29 and grandma was about my age but I was wrong about my aunty, she was late 30's/early 40's. This all scares me, it really does, I feel so emotional now [slaps self round face!]. My mum said she thought she was pregnant at 29 (desperate not to be as had me and twins and that was enough lol) as had no periods and felt pregnant at times but the Dr finally did a blood test and it showed she'd started the menopause. I'm praying this isn't the case for me but I can't bear the thought of trying for ages to then find this out Hoping to get appointment with my Dr a week on Thursday (next time they have appointments with her that you can call about day before, i plan on phoning after midnight and using their automatic system - that will guarantee I don't miss out - she's popular )

Right, moan over, back to the kiddies......

aww looneytune I think you have every right to be emotional, I also think going to the doctor and getting testing will put your mind at rest one way or the other, it's the not knowing thats the hardest part.

I think people haven't been as sympathetic to me about my mc as it was no3 as because I have 2 already it somehow makes it OK to mc no3. Yes I am so grateful to have the DDs but this one was a baby in it's own right if you see what I mean. I was fed up saying "yes it was planned" and my mother even turned around and said "maybe it was the best thing as 3 children would have been expensive" WTF just because you have one or more doesn't make it any easier.

sorry I'm going off on a rant again see your not the only one

Thanks Sweetkitty. I'm desperate not to have an only child but what will be will be. The hardest part is because I'm a childminder, I have babies every day and want another of my own so badly. The 2 I have on different days of the week atm started when they were 7 weeks old (now 8 months) and 8 weeks old (now 6 months). Having them soooo young made me realise how badly I wanted another. I've wanted children since I was 13 years old, had to wait 13 years to get pg with ds (not that it took ages, just took a little persuading dh LOL) and I just want another one (look, I'm a right drama queen, sure I'll be fine ). My sister was never maternal, fell pg twice and now being sterilized even though her dh has had the snip. beginning to wish I hadn't told her or my family I was ttc, they all keep asking me AM I!! You are right about the not knowing being the worst bit, I'm pretty sure I'll be fine but the whole worry of what if there IS a problem is killing me. I think I need to drink seriously every night to take my mind off it til next week

I'm soooo sorry about your family's reaction, how TERRIBLE for them to say that. It's the sort of thing I'd expect from my parents too I'm afraid. My dad has already commented on us finally doing well for a change and now we could be skint again with another. I said I was very disappointed in him, that he used to go on about how he hated being an only child and that I thought he'd understand! A baby is a baby, even if you have 10 already. At least MN are a lot more sympathetic!!

That must be hard being surrounded by babies looneytune. I know I have two but I am so broody for another one I just feel that there is someone else missing from our family. DP feels the same he wants 4! I was the most unmaternal person up until I hit 27 1/2 then all I could think about were babies it was quite a shock for me. My family already think I am crazy having 2 in 18 months but I love the gap and to be honest wish I had had one a year for 3 years hard work but they are hard work whatever age they are. Everyone else in my family has had two it's like you are only supposed to have two so it was a surprise when I announced no3 think thats why I got all the mistake questions. Mistake what a horrible phrase. 3 pregnancies in 13 years think we have contraception pretty sussed.

I know what you mean about the ttc and telling people I think that because I have had a mc people have already started asking me if I will be trying again, think I'm going to be asked every month now.

When is your docs appointment?

I am 32 tomorrow so am going to have a box of chocs and a big glass of wine.

MM- i'm fine thanks how are you? did you get back together with your BF then? (am assuming you did! lol)

kitty - see you found it. re hte insensitve comments - I only ahve one and am being told I should be grateful - along wiht you're young and have enough to deal with already the list is endless! lol. re the ttc now - i'll say the same as before all of this happened- if it happens it happens if not then we'll deal with it when the time comes.

the amount - well i'd have 6 if DH would let me - more if my body will actually! lol. DH is saying 3 but I def want 4 so will keep on at him after! lol. got to have a suscessful one again first thou - my biggest fear is every time I want a LO i'm going to ahve to go thru a m/c first - tbh i'd rather have no more than do this a 4th time.

lt - you def need to talk to the dr's tomoorow - do they do blood work or soemthing?

i'd best get of and wash up (yeah right! lol) also have a dr's apt tomorrow and need to make a list of questions I want to ask her - poor woman! lol.

LT - Hugs honey must be really hard to take in.

Pip - Yeah i'm back with my ex but not Andy someone different.

sweetkitty - HAPPY BIRTHDAY! yes, it is hard being around babies but also lovely as they are my extended family Had the 8 month olds older sister since she was 6 months old, she's now 2 And I know what you mean about the lovely age gap - the sisters I have 3 days a week are 8 months and 2.1 and it's a lovely gap - the 2 year old is SOOOO protective of her baby sister But I just have ds (4.5) when they all go and as much as I love him to bits, I really do, we feel like (as you said) something is missing and our family isn't complete. Dh doesn't want to be much older as even if I conceived now, he'd be 47 so we don't want to wait and wait!! Dr's is hopefully going to be a week on Thursday (but I have to book it the day before). Anyway, what you up to for your birthday? Hope you have a good one

pipsqueeke - yeah, mum said she had a blood test at 29 and the hormone levels showed she'd started the menopause.

TheMuppetMuggle - thanks, yes, was finding it very hard yesterday as was very emotional after talking to mum. Calmed down now though, dh doesn't want me getting upset about things that I can't do anything about but yesterday I just couldn't help it, you know how it is sometimes!

Morning all Happy Birthday to me not up to much had my official birthday on Sunday with lunch out, presents and a big chocolate cake. Todays plans are toddlers exciting stuff.

I got a new phone which is pink but it has a thing that you put your cycle in and it predicts ovulation I kid you not it also has calories taken in and burned, a pedometer and a shopping list thing. Won't work in a tnnnel but will tell me when to have sex for a baby!

looneytune - oh I remember you having a moan about the Drs now it's terrible nowadays trying to get an appt, so you are going to ask for a blood test to check hormones for menopause? I think you are doing the right thing and keep on at them to get what you want I think you have to be a pest sometimes to get them to do anything.

Hope everyone else has a good day x

sweetkitty - thats so sad that people have been so insensitive towwards you. Luckily I haven't had comments like that but staying in the house and not answering the phome for about two weeks after it happened meant that when I did finally see people the moment to talk about what happened had passed. After my first m/c at 20 weeks my inlaws soaid a few times that ot was for the best and as me and dp hadn't been together for very long we could get to know each other properly as a couple(this was said hours after it happened!).

Still no af for me but I suppose it has only been fours weeks today. It's a shame pipsqueeke and sweetkitty that we are in the same situation but it's nice to know that you are also doing the not trying but no stopping it from having method!

g43. OMG.

kitty - happy birthday.

Happy Birthday sweetkitty

Your new phone sounds fab! I need one that will cook dinner and do the ironing for me - leaving me more time to obsess about ttc on mn!

Hi all, can I jump over from the august thread please?, so on CD1 now.

Have been trying to conceive for 8 months now following an ectopic,have one dd aged 2.10.

Having just joined , may not be around for a few days, but wanted to say hi to you all !

Hi Pipsqueeke, Pennybenjamin & Bellie!

LT - glad you've got a dr's appointment, it helps to know you've done something productive, when you feel so out of control.

SK - Happy Birthday!!! Enjoy the red wine and chocolate and new bd demanding phone!!

Pipsqueeke - sorry for your m/c. Good luck questioning the doc.

Today I'm CD24 and confused (again) about cm. Have had cramps for the last week, which I first of all assumed were ov symptoms...then after a few days with no ewcm I assumed they were either pre-AF cramps or PG symptoms. Today I have what seems like ewcm, but didn't think ov cramps lasted a week. Has anyone had anything similar?

Admittedly, this is my first cycle ttc so I'm new to all this self-diagnosis and rubbish at it - EVERYTHING's a symptom Will definitely be doing ov sticks next cycle as this not knowing is driving me to distraction!

Right - off to a meeting where I will NOT be thinking about ewcm, ovulating, ttc, cramps, pg tests, bd'ing.

Hi digital

I too am fairly new to ttc, had no idea about cm before i came on here, but am having similar to you. am cd19, fairly sure i ov last week, but had something like ewcm yesterday and today, but it does not seem to be as stretchy (tmi sorry!). Think post ov you go back to the type of cm that you get just before ewcm, but i am no expert. i too have been cramping, since yesterday, and also quite nauseous. am sure it is far too early to feel pg. can't remember with dd, wasn't ttc with her, so prob wasn't looking out for every symptom!

Hey Ladies

Happy Birthday SK

LT Glad you got Dr's appointment Hope your okay.

Pip How are you today??

I'm CD10 today, lots of BDing tonite woohoo
Am at boring old work at the moment, someone keep me entertained

Signing on yet again. CD 9. Here we go again. I am off on holidays next week, so hopefully the relaxing vibes will make the difference. Fingers crossed for everyone!!

Can I join too please. Ttc no.2 ds just 2 and we started trying on fri!
I'm 36 so hoping my eggs are still of quality iykwim!
Last time we conceived first time trying which was a real suprise after a life time of the withdrawl method as contraception and no accidents!
I have bought ovulation strips off ebay and had my surge Sun, we had already had sex fri anyway and again Sunday night but last night dh refused and it caused a big row. He was tired and didn't want to think that conception was all we were making love for - I had lots of tears and he has gone to work feeling guilty. I'm trying to be positive as it has been a struggle to get him to agree to no. 2, just hoping he's not got cold feet.

HI AS - Lets hope you have a very good relaxing policy.

C&C - your DP will come around, hope your okay tho??

Thanks Penguinmum! i think mine's the same. CD24's gotta be way too late to ov...still, no harming in bd'ing anyway (even tho cramps are not sexy)

Hi Aussiesim and Cookies&Cream! I know how you feel re: bd'ing C&C, got really down when dh wouldn't bd every night last week. and didn't want to push it because i didn't want to put him under pressure. so you just sit there all glum saying 'no, nothing's wrong' . I guess this is when all those seduction techniques we used to try become handy again - saucy underwear, oysters and asparagus.

Any seduction plans for tonight MuppetMuggle?

Not thought of anything much for seduction plans, DP has got Football first then we can play together hehe!! if i wear something fitting tonite for football and they win it's going to be a great night in my house.

No time to read all posts but just wanted to let you know it's not good to do it every night anyway. They need a rest to get the sperm up to scratch They recommend every other day when TTC