TTC first baby

[Izzimai20031998]

Hi,
I'm on cycle 5 of TTC with first child. I used clear blue advanced ovulation test for the first time last month and have purchased another one to use this month also. I'm on day 7 of this cycle and am planning on starting ovulation testing on day 12 as I ovulated on day 17 last month. I have a pretty regular 27 day cycle (no longer than 29 days).
I know it's still early days but I feel like it's never going to happen. I can't imagine actually getting a positive result. Is anyone else in a similar position and want to be on this journey with me?
Thanks x

[Izzimai20031998]

@AlmostLondoner oh wow that's very lucky. Fingers crossed it's a BFP!

[Izzimai20031998]

@AlmostLondoner which app are you using?

[Samantha11K]

Hi Ladies,
Do you mind if I jump on?
TTC first baby after coming off mini pill in December last year.
Fell pregnant in Jan and had early MC at 4 weeks. Pregnant again in May and had another early MC at 6 weeks.

Spent the last month or so not even thinking about getting pregnant. Husband and I bought our first house and just moved in a week ago.
AF just arrived and I'm in pieces, don't know why this isn't happening for us 😔
I just assumed that when we'd start trying it would all happen easily. Anyone else been the same?

[AlmostLondoner]

@Izzimai20031998 Fertility friend for temping. I've been temping from February to learn my cycle better. My ovulation is usually around 18-20 day, quite later.

[Izzimai20031998]

@Samantha11K so sorry to hear that 😔 I was on the drop injection for years and the. Went onto the pill for about 4 years. I came off that in December.
My partner and I recently just brought a house and moved in in March so we are in a similar position. We started trying in March but it doesn't seem to be happening for us either! I havn't even got to the stage of taking a test because I try to wait until I'm about 4 days late and don't even get that far!
I'm 1dpo now but feel no different (I know it's still very early) so hoping as time goes on it might be this month!
Try and think positively though next month is another cycle and another opportunity! I know it's so so hard though!

[Izzimai20031998]

@AlmostLondoner do you not use ovulation tests?

[AlmostLondoner]

@Izzimai20031998 yeah I used those cheap ones from Amazon. I also do fertility yoga (free videos on Youtube by YogaYin) and eat healthy (vegan) so I believe that must have helped too

[Samantha11K]

Thank you @Izzimai20031998
You're definitely doing the right thing by waiting until you're a few days late. With the first one I tested on the day I was due and then bled a day later so had I not tested, I would have been none the wiser.
With the second time I did wait a good few days late and was over the moon when I saw the BFP, I just assumed that was it and this time would be fine.
I've had some tests and everything seems to be ok, just bad luck I guess.

I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and it will happen when the time is right.
I'm tempted to get some OPK just to check I am ovulating but Dr says it's likely I am as periods are very regular.

Wishing you all best of luck x

[Izzimai20031998]

@Samantha11K I'm using clear blue as I like to know when I'm at my peak but not sure if that makes things more regimented and is then having a negative impact.

Did you just know when you were pregnant or did you not have any symptoms and just tested?

[littlelisa34]

@Izzimai20031998 I use it for both conception and as lubricant if required.. and I might not test early I always try and wait until I'm late I don't even have tests in the house but I do symptom spot a lot!!! I'm 5dpo and other than a pulling sensation in my uterus last night absolutely nothing so far.. but when you look online and you see so many people get symptoms so early on i always just think "that's it I'm out" but I can only wait and see and hope for the best 🤯

[tryingforbabyone]

@littlelisa34 yeah that's what I always think which makes the TWW even longer! So I'm massively symptom spotting now but so far nothing I don't think it does also say that you don't necessarily get symptoms until 5-19dpo though so there is still hope!

[Samantha11K]

@Izzimai20031998 that's exactly why I never used them in the first place because I didn't want to be like, ok we must go have sex now because I'm ovulating lol.

I didn't really have any symptoms, I just had a very strong feeling. It's nothing specific, I just felt a bit off colour.
I was doing the same, reading online about feeling sick, boobs getting bigger but I didn't notice anything like that so early on.
I'd say the second time around I started to feel really exhausted all the time but that was at about 5 weeks.
It's difficult because it's so similar to period symptoms and when you're TTC you do read into every little thing x

[littlelisa34]

@tryingforbabyone I know unless your actively trying I don't think anyone can understand this tww, you'd think after time it would get a little easier to just wait but I swear it gets harder every month.. there's definitely still hope though, how many dpo are you?

[Samantha11K]

I agree the TWW is horrendous. I found myself planning my life around the possibility that I "might" be pregnant. It's so hard to do but I think you just have to try and forget about it.
My DR told me to delete my apps etc and just have fun, look after myself and have sex regularly.
I hoping that they're right and it will happen the moment I stop thinking about it x

[littlelisa34]

Yeah I envy people that have that attitude to TTC I wish I could just let it all go and just see what happens but because I'm a little older I don't think I have that luxury of doing that unfortunately

[tryingforbabyone]

@littlelisa34 I'm only 1dpo so still really early for me but just feel like I should be noticing something as other people say they do.
Although it's promising that @Samantha11K said she didn't necessarily know.
I'm thinking I'm going to have to be a little more carefree and maybe delete the apps ect but I just feel like when your ttc how can you not constantly be thinking about it. I can't imagine just being like oh let's just see how it goes because I want it so bad! I just naturally do it now.

[littlelisa34]

@tryingforbabyone I know I couldn't imagine being like that every month either, I have to ban myself from google past 7pm because I'm just constantly googling things, nightmare!! All the people I know that have had babies didn't notice much even the ones that were actively trying so I try not to get too hung up on no symptoms until around 10dpo that's when I start to feel disheartened and research like crazy until AF shows up. I'm like a mad woman sometimes all the things I don't eat or do "just in case" is insane. I never thought I'd be this woman that is TTC crazy on month 5 🤬😡

[tryingforbabyone]

@littlelisa34 I feel exactly the same! I am putting off doing things in case. My OH wanted to book a holiday next year and I've said we can't because hopefully we'll have an extra member to the family! We're going to save money instead and have said if it hasn't happened by then then we will go to Australia in the summer holidays but I secretly can't imagine (or want it to happen) because it would mean no baby STILL

[littlelisa34]

@tryingforbabyone try look at it a different way hun, hopefully you will have the new addition to your family but if not and that a great big huge IF then plan Australia and who knows what could happen on that holiday, the relaxation, sunshine and lots of bd'ing maybe that's when you'll make your lovely new addition.. I'm keeping all my fingers crossed for you this month 😁x

[tryingforbabyone]

@littlelisa34 thank you! It's just so difficult to be positive. But I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you to! It's nice to have someone to talk to because people don't understand.

[Samantha11K]

@tryingforbabyone remember everyone is so different too, what some women feel, others won't. I don't think there's such a thing as normal! Definitely don't put your life on hold. Do everything you want to do and if you happen to get pregnant then cross that bridge when you come it.

@littlelisa34 I also find it very hard to not calculate everything and read into every little thing. I'm 33, 34 next month so I also feel like I'm running out of time. I had to stop doing it for the sake of my health because every month I wasn't pregnant, I felt like I was getting worse, getting more and more obsessed with planning.

[littlelisa34]

@tryingforbabyone I know I haven't told a great deal of people we are TTC because I know the minute I do I will get the dreaded "are you pregnant yet" and it's hard enough telling my partner AF has arrived every month without all my friends and family too.. it's always nice for somebody to know exactly what your going through, what cycle are you on? If you have any weird remedies your trying your more than welcome to share them with this crazy lady 😁

@Samantha11K Yeah I've just turned 35 so it feels like every passing month is another month closer to menopause, which I know in reality that's just ridiculous well unless I go through it early then not so ridiculous.. and wait for the referrals from my gp seem to be taking forever.. I always thought because I was on the older side of things it would take a little longer but I didn't think I would become this obsessive!! Me and my partner spoke the other night and if we are unsuccessful this month I'm going to try acupuncture and nothing else and we are just going to BD throughout the whole month sort of as and when and see if we can relax a little and see if that brings us any joy.. x

[tryingforbabyone]

@littlelisa34 yes I feel exactly the same. I'm only in cycle 5 but I have thought about it for years so just feels like forever but we'll see what happens

[littlelisa34]

@tryingforbabyone it will happen for us all I'm sure of it.. I only decided it was the right time for us this year but now I feel like I should of made the decision years ago but not much I can do about it now.

[May2311]

@littlelisa34 3 cycle of officially trying. Men definitely easier! My hubby can totally switch off 😂 I must admit I knew it wasn’t going to be just as easy as coming off the pill and falling straight away but I never realised how long it takes so many people. When I joined this site and started reading threads- it made me so nervous and made me obsessed with researching everything!!!

@Ginfizz90 ah yes what a wonderful birthday pressie!!! Keep us informed!

@AlmostLondoner agree with the others- I can see something! So exciting!!

@Izzimai20031998 I say if your up for it go for it! At the end of the day it cannot he healthy if the only reason we DTD is to get the BFP- we might as well have some fun in the process!