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The Hut of Gl/Doom Part V- for the unapologetically despondent

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duchesse · 01/08/2007 08:56

The new hut. Ta-da!

This one is a snug little basement World War 2 type nightclub, with dim lighting, snug velvet sofas, red walls and certainly no politically correct smoking bans. Occasionally certain selected men may be admitted at our convenience.

Sit down, make yourselves at home, and never, ever apologise for feeling like shit. That's about it.

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ladylush · 15/01/2008 18:38

Hope it all goes well Lissie - good to be getting seen at least.

The good thing about mumsnet is that we can pretend we aren't skint as is the norm in January and hence have bought duchesse some obscenely extravagant virtual gifts

Oh and I have to confess to (what seems like many moons ago) saying I would like a summer baby Stupid, stupid and stupid.

What are your plans tonight duchesse?

OracleInaCoracle · 15/01/2008 18:51

lol at the end of every cycle i tell dh, wanted a spring/summer/autumn/winter baby anyway (delete as necessary)

ladylush · 15/01/2008 19:13

I really hope it is a better year for all of us

ronshar · 15/01/2008 19:30

I wanted a baby at least a year ago, does that help. I now dont care when, what, how. I will even have a C-Section and a hospital birth if that helps my baby turn up. That is how bad it is getting. I hate hospitals.

Asgoodas · 15/01/2008 20:22

There is this girl I work with. She is due on the same day I was. (m/c for me) She had a m/c in May so knows how awful it is. Anyhoo her pg is all she talks about to me, all the time. Every topic I bring up she turns it round. I have started to stay away from her but feel immature and petty. Is it me being over sensitive or he not being sensitive at all?

ronshar · 15/01/2008 20:42

I would say that you are probably being understandably sensitive but more importantly your friend is being more than a little insensitive! Maybe a little chat to remind her of how she would feel if situation was reversed. Obviously you are happy for her but there is only so far the human spirit can stay happy when ones nose is being rubbed in it!!!

Asgoodas · 15/01/2008 20:49

Thanks Ron, I will have to take deep breaths and remember that she is a cow -- just very excited x

Asgoodas · 15/01/2008 20:50

Oops Fraudian slip.....

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duchesse · 15/01/2008 20:57

A friend of mine is such an enormous situation (that I can't talk about on here) that I can only feel deeply sympathetic for her even though it involves one of the things I would really really like for myself at the moment.

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Asgoodas · 15/01/2008 20:59

Oh I get you - I think. How are you dealing with it Duchesse?

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duchesse · 15/01/2008 21:01

It's such a breathtaking thing that I can only feel happy/ sympathetic for her in equal measures.

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Asgoodas · 15/01/2008 21:05

Nope, I don't think I know what you mean at all. After reading this thread and lurking for a while I think you are more than able to deal with it brilliantly. Best os luck x
Seriously intrigued now.....arggghhh

nomoremagnolia · 15/01/2008 21:06

for lissie
Still makes me smile, hope it cheers you up

OracleInaCoracle · 15/01/2008 21:14

god, i love that thread!

Triggles · 15/01/2008 21:25

Is there room for another here? I'm 42, aggravated, and so tired of getting the timing and everything just right and then nothing.... A couple women at work are pregnant and some days I just can't face it... especially the one who is due same week as I was prior to m/c.

It seems like as soon as I join a thread (or even lurk) a bunch get pregnant, and it just makes me hesitant to even bother sometimes....

There... my irrational vent for the day...

OracleInaCoracle · 15/01/2008 21:28

sounds like youre in the right place.

Asgoodas · 15/01/2008 21:32

,gives Triggles a chaser

Asgoodas · 15/01/2008 21:34

Triggles, I can do one better than sympathy - true empathy - same age too!!

Triggles · 15/01/2008 21:42

thanks. I've pretty much given up on this cycle. Asgoodas - are you doing any type of medical help (sorry, none of my business, I know - if you don't want to answer, I understand)? I think I'm too old for NHS to do anything (such as IUI), GP says since I ovulate regularly I don't need clomid, and as I've gotten pregnant twice in 10 months, won't refer me, as (in his words) "obviously I don't have a problem getting pregnant". [angry} I swear if he'd mentioned "old eggs" I'd have knocked him off his chair! So I just keep feeling more hopeless and frustrated each cycle. God, yes, thanks for the drinks - I think I need them! [blush} Sorry - think I'm in a rather bad mood tonight.

Triggles · 15/01/2008 21:43

and obviously I can't type smileys tonight

Asgoodas · 15/01/2008 21:51

They said the same - along the lines of 'you should see the fact you can get pregnant as a very positive thing,' EHHHH??? I got te quality of your eggs thing. I feel I was told to go away and stop being silly. Well I bloody well am silly I want a munchkin and will give up when I'm ready. I have been in same mood for a week, isn't it horrid o have no contro; over it?

Triggles · 15/01/2008 21:58

It is. I swear I'm going to go demand clomid, just in case it could help. Maybe if I talk to another GP at the surgery. Or just have a complete breakdown in the surgery....

Asgoodas · 15/01/2008 22:03

How long have you been TTC?
< nearly 7 years off and on. I get really down and resort to contraception to avoid the stress.
The devasttion of a m/c makes me feel more desperate/alone/at fault/...broken.

Triggles · 15/01/2008 22:07

We have a 18 month old DS, and have been TTC since he was about 3 months old. Due to age, we didn't want to wait. (We also have 23yr DS and 21yr DD) I get really aggravated when people say "Oh, just be thankful you have children, and don't be greedy" but I AM thankful I have children. But those 2 m/c's really haunt me. I feel like we're meant to have another child and it's just not happening. I'm sorry that you've gone through this for 7 years - you must be an incredibly strong person - or just much better at faking "sane" than I am!

Asgoodas · 15/01/2008 22:13

Lord, who said I fake sane? I work with kids and so have a lovely job. It helps me.I have a wonderful DH and hope I'm not too old. There are lots of old birds out there doing it!! With a little luck...x