The Hut of Gl/Doom Part V- for the unapologetically despondent

[duchesse]

The new hut. Ta-da!

This one is a snug little basement World War 2 type nightclub, with dim lighting, snug velvet sofas, red walls and certainly no politically correct smoking bans. Occasionally certain selected men may be admitted at our convenience.

Sit down, make yourselves at home, and never, ever apologise for feeling like shit. That's about it.

ahem, if you are easily offended please cover you ears eyes.

fucking wanky shitting bollocks.

i am so fucking sick of people whingeing about it taking 3m ttc.

i am so fucking sick of people moaning about their pg.

i am so fucking sick of "oh shit im pg" threads.

and most of all i am fucking sick of having a crap body that cant even hold on to a 5w foetus. i try to be a good person. i give advice, i try to be sympathetic, i make jokes about my inability to carry a child. why isnt that enough?

and more than all that i am furious with myself for not being able to give up. i have ds, im lucky in that respect. but why isnt that enough?

and breathe

I am stroking your hair in a soothing fashion.
All the while I am looking for the horrible ladies who have made you angry. I will find them and give them a really hard time for being stupid.

Let rip in the hut! That's why we love it here!!!

Lissielou know exactly where you are coming from. Try not to beat yourself up though, I think there is a distinct lack of sympathy for those of us ttc. THe only people who are remotely interested or slightly sympathetic are previous ttc mums.

Have some yummy chocolate, wine and try not to let the bastards get you down

I get frustrated after ttc for two years, when friends get upset with ttc two months and say insensitive things like ' yeh I was really worried because after the first month I was really shocked I didn't fall pregnant'. I then have to reply 'oh two months really!!!' Whilst screaming through my teeth 'poor you' eight weeks heh? What a nightmare. Then you had a perfectly healthy PG no mc or problems, must have been a real trial!!

Luckly I am quite good at it now, only the hut really knows our frustration

Hope you feel better soon, take care

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I so know where everyone is coming from at the moment. I have decided to stay up for ages tonight so that i finally actually sleep when i go to bed!! i have spoken to my brother today who had NB in Jan, and all he could talk about was how difficult thinks are and how she isnt sleeping and....blah blah blah. I found it really hard to be sympathetic, god i feel like a horrible cow, but couldnt he have found someone else to have a moan to!! I sooooooooo cant wait for my app re L&D now, think im going to go insane through waiting.

Please please please can i join you???
I am fed up of being the oldest member on ttc boards and i feel really horrible when i'm on other boards and someone announces their BFP when all i want to do is wail and scream in frustration!!
i have a beautiful dd and have been trying for dc2 for 12 months now.
I have only just strated doing routine tests and scans and i have bruises on my arms from all the blood tests. I have resorted to wearing long sleeved tops becasue i look like some kind of freaky drug addict! No offense meant!
To make matters worse i have just had a tvscan and my eggs are too small and my lining too thin and my estrogen level too low to conceive and be able to carry a prenancy. In the meantime everyone around is is pregnant without even trying or wanting to be.
So please can i join you so i dont feel like i am the only blippy failure around?
Sobbing loudly

rmm, welcome. You are in the right place. Sorry to hear about all your tribulations. It is hideous always to be the Cinderella, left behind while everyone else goes off to the ball... There are some veterans of that feeling on here. That's why we're here rather than there any more... Smoking and drinking behind the virtual bike shed.

Although looking at the size of this thread, we may have to up sticks soon... Need to start thinking up a theme. (hang on- didn't we do this a few weeks ago at around the 500 mark?)

hi rmm, welcome to the hut.

duchesse, sounds good to me..

did we decide (i went off in a cloud of "we are not ttc"- well that worked!)

Hello - if we move threads let me know how to follow. Need the hut in times of frustration.

Welcome rmm you are in good company!!

One of my good friends has a 2 month old. Trying to give her support as one of my friends said that she was feeling out of it as it is harder than she thought. I do really care but I just find it really hard to give out sympathy, when she conceived by chance and evrything was so smooth. No-one apart from one or two I've confided in have a clue that it is so hard ttc.

Anyway don't have to tell you guys, am not ttc for the next two cycles as have had injection which you should give three months from. It is strange as I feel so much more in control because I know it is not going to happen this week. But a small part of me really wants to just go with and to hell with the consequences, I won't though.

Thank you everyone.
I was honestly starting to think that i was the most negative person around!!
We aren't trying this cycle either - so in a way i don't feel the pressure of every cycle, but i still feel as though i have failed in some way.
I have an appointment with my gyno this afternoon. DH has had enough of the bruised arms and TVSs and he wants answers!!! I wish things were that simple!!
On the upside we have deiced to set ourselves limits once we know the exact situation.
Does wanting another dc make me incredibly selfish?????

Rmm- sorry, but there are quite a few of us fighting for the title of Negative Queen.

Please somebody tell me I'm being stupid for even thinking about buying some pregnancy tests. I mean, we officially gave up ftc* months ago. It's a bad idea to buy more, right?

• NB for newish Huttees: Here in the Hut we don't like to use optimistic expressions such as "Trying To Conceive". We feel that "Failing To Conceive" injects just the right note of deep pessimism. We leave that chirpy TTC malarkey for the boards where they do just that.

oh arse. Feels like AF is on its way. Due over the weekend sometime and although we pretended we weren't trying we most certainly did. But I don't care because we're going on hols on Saturday and I didn't want to be pg really because it would have messed up skiing.... Am I convincing anyone ???

ARSE ARSE ARSE.

Hello girls.

I'd been feeling quite chipper, so natch not coming into the hut, but seem to have hit another low.

We've been looking into adoption, but TBH we were going to keep trying for a baby too, and see what happens first. We had an interview with a social worker yesterday to get the ball rolling (which took four months to organise) and she said strictly we should use contraception during the assessment process, so as not to muddy the waters. I thought I'd be Ok with this, but I'm not. I'm just not ready to give up having our own baby, even though it's so unlikely. I feel like I'd be letting all our lost babies down. And DP seems to have taken the social worker's word as gospel. All confused.

herby- if you think you can manage having two babies at the same time (and you wouldn't be the first to adopt and then get pregnant- I know two people to whose parents this happened), then I personally would tell the social worker you are, and then not. Apart from anything else, you don't really want to start taking the pill, do you? And condoms can be unreliable. Tell her you're using them. The social worker will be worried about whether you would want to hand back the adopted baby if you had one of your own (honestly people do do things like that!!) which would manifestly be crap for that baby, or that they won't love them as much as their blood child.

Wheely- let's arse arse together. Day 1 again for me (er, not that I'm trying to ftc at the moment, just not not trying. If you see what I mean). Am convinced something is wrong, just really unsure what to do about it.

ARRRRSSSSEEEE (That was especially for you Duchesse). Am sure you've said before but have you been to the docs at all about it. I know you've been ftc a long time.

Also bad time of year here - my due date for the baby I lost was 15 March so we are coming up to what would have been his/her first birthday. ARSE ARSE AND ARSE AGAIN.

Herby - I think Duchesse is right - after all no contraception is 100% reliable is it ?

Use the withdrawal method. It worked for my parents 7 times.

Good idea, Ronshar!

herby, pre-ds we were going to adopt. one of those annoying stories whereby we got through the 1st stage, i started throwing up 2w later and ds came along 8m after that! agree that you should carry on ttc in the meantime, you'll never forgive yourself if you dont.

sorry ive not been around ladies, been far too chipper for the hut. but my period is now 3d late (regular as clockwork) shows no sign of landing, did a hpt today and..... bfn. im so pissed off. havent been obsessing about it this month, so why hasnt the fecking thing shown up. have managed to convince myself its another ep and that im screwed... oh well.

hope you are all ok, ronshar tis good to see you. do we have a new name for the hut yet?

how about "The hut of gl/doom - and yes we've tried fecking relaxing!"

Hello guys herby I agree with the others and continue ttc just tell them you're not. Who knows what will happen, but it all due to fate. The pill seriously mixes you around, wish I hadn't been on it for 10 years without a break.

I had HSG yesterday, good news is there is no blockages etc... Was uncomfortable but not too bad. I have missed fertile time this month but as had yellow fever injection 2 weeks ago not sure whether to ttc next month or not.

Have looked on web and advice ranges from 2 weeks to three months before trying. Not sure what to do?! Have a few weeks to decide though.

HSG showed no blockages so that was good. Due to see my consultant in April, not sure what the next stage is. Does anyone know???

he might put you on clomid. thats what my old cons was going to do. glad HSG went well, mine was vv painful (altho doc tried to push dye thru my tubeless side

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