The Hut of Gl/Doom Part V- for the unapologetically despondent

[duchesse]

The new hut. Ta-da!

This one is a snug little basement World War 2 type nightclub, with dim lighting, snug velvet sofas, red walls and certainly no politically correct smoking bans. Occasionally certain selected men may be admitted at our convenience.

Sit down, make yourselves at home, and never, ever apologise for feeling like shit. That's about it.

aaaaaaawwwww

Thank you merrylissiemas.

Am sad to be here, but glad of your company IYSWIM????

Merry Christmas and in the words of Robin the Frog in "Muppet Christmas Carol"...

"God bless us....every one!"

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Many congrats wheely - enjoy your champagne I am looking forward to some on Christmas Day. I was too sick to wallow today. Self-inflicted post xmas work do hangover. Ironically it was only when I popped the max strength vit c that I puked My body was probably horrifed and yelling "gimme more booze"! How u doing Becca? It's horrible miscarrying so close to xmas isn't it I discovered I had a likely ectopic just after New Year. I remember being really annoyed that I hadn't found out earlier so that I could get hammered on NYE instead of watching everyone else drinking.

I feel like a stalker here because I have never posted in here although I read the thread. Part of the reason I come read here is because I feel like I don't belong in the ttc after m/c thread because of the very issue you all mention, its kinda like having your face rubbed in it re so many pregnancies so long after their BFP's, so I stopped reading and posting pretty much.

Yet then again re this thread you have all gone through so much more than me I feel like I can't really contibute anything here, well I can contribute a nice sancerre but that's about it. So sancerre it is for tonight. Several bottles.

oh yeah and I know it is jealousy but I'm not too proud to admit that I'm jealous of every pregnant woman there is, especialy those 24 weeks pregnant right now. And those that have actually got to see scans of their babies whilst still alive. Hey ho.

Sancerre gladly received - will drink it tomorrow though as hungover today Claire - the only criteria for joining this thread is that you must feel like shite. So it seems you qualify Please don't think you are less worthy of the hut than anyone else. Sadness is not objectively measured and no one has a monopoly on it.

I saw a scan at 8 weeks when baby was alive but it died just after. Good thing I started bleeding just before my nuchal scan otherwise we'd have gone to the hospital full of excitement.

'm sorry Ladylush - that was very insenstive of me I'm so sorry.

No it wasn't - no need to apologise. I think you meant scans of live babies that then make it to term/delivery.

ladylush- I know what you mean about the advance bleeding. It did rather cushion the blow to know there might be problems...

Yes duchesse - I still shudder when I think about it.

I was almost glad that it was all definite by then. Sounds awful, I know, and I on balance I would much rather have kept that baby, but the pregnancy had had so many problems from the start, that to find out that there really had been a problem was almost comforting.

I was still hopeful until I started to get pain as well as bleeding. Then I knew it was over.

Have done alot of drinking to make me feel better.
Surprise it hasnt worked

Hi all.

I am sooo cross - and am being unreasonably mean to DH. 'Tis the trying time and usually I am worrying that DH won't get home from work to do the deed. So, was looking forward to the fact that this month it will be the christmas period, DH will be home so whats to stop us. MANFLU. AAARRRRRGHHHHHHH. I am so pissed off. Hung dd's stocking on mantelpiece and sobbed as I couldn't imagine seeing another alongside it . Am beginning to think its not meant to be.
Am drinking red wine and feeling VERY sorry for myself and to make matters worse, MIL arrives tomorrow so I am dashing round like a loon trying to get christmas ready.
Right off to wrap DH's presents (not that he deserves any and then get an early night as I fear tomorrow may be a long one.

If I don't get on tomorrow I may well pack the laptop away for a couple of days so hope you all have a good christmas even if you don't get what you really really want this year.

Oh Wheely hope you manage to have a nice xmas inspite of everything x

i too am signing off for christmas. (shall probably come on tomorrow evening but don't know) would like to thank you all for your support this year, thank god for the hut!

xx merry christmas xx

Merry xmas Lissie xx

Hello all....

I am trying really hard for my ds's sake, but I really just want to dive under the duvet and not come up for air til the new year

Am going to make some reindeer food that we can put out for the reindeer in a minute (birdseed and glitter in case you were wondering!!)

Hope you all have a good Christmas and a peaceful new year xx

hello clairepo sorry to see you on here. it is quite a haven tho. i am still posting on the ttc threads but i think it is out of some kind of desperate clutching at straws - set myself up for a fall every month - will i never learn?? i am genuine on them, it's just i can't help but feel sorry for myself - not proud of that in any way.

anyway, i hope everyone has a lovely christmas and new year.

Hi all - i am just popping in from the mc thread - i hope you dont mind me posting. I am one of the guilty pregnant ones that have continued posting. It made me feel really sad reading the above comments but only because i have contributed to making people feel bad

I think the idea of the thread was that we would all stay together whether trying to concieve or pregnant but i think that although it was a nice idea it hasnt worked. I know when i was TTC i was avoiding the mc thread because i felt that everyone was pregnant apart from me - and this made me feel miserable and mean. I also know that after my mc i would not of found the thread as it is at the moment useful.

I think the reason alot of us have stayed on the thread is because we are having problems in this pregnancy and have got to know each other and found the thread such a support - HOWEVER - we could easily move over to the pregnancy board and support each other there! I think the mc thread needs to focus on those that are going through or had a mc and TTC.

So i am going to go and join the pregnancy after mc thread and just pop in now and again.

Good luck LCY x

Thank you Ladylush - that is just what I meant. I'm so sorry if I came across as insensitive. I was just venting but my words could have been better.

Hope everyone had a good Christmas. I felt a bit empty tbh and just kept thinking maybe next year it will be a 'proper' family christmas for us. So many people say 'it's all about children' and 'its so different when you have children, it makes it special again'.

Thank you for your post Lcy.

It's ov time for us and OH is all hopeful and I'm not. I've had 3 textbooks cycles, charting and ov'ing on day 15 with daily BD'ing at the crucial time and nothing so why different this time? I don't believe in Santa anymore I'm afraid.

LCY
Do not worry about us here. We are all very . We dont mean to be horrible and I certainly dont want to make anybody who is going through it with a difficult early pregnancy feel even worse. Please dont feel that you have to move away. That is why all off us old crones come here to hide when we feel horrible about ourselves.

Sorry, I have kind of spoken for lots of people who may disagree.

Hi ClairePO, I feel as shite as you at the moment I think. I didn't ovulate last month and I had a fake period - on CD18 so fuck knows what is going on with my cycle. I hope 2008 has some good news for us all. We sure deserve it imho.