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The Hut of Gl/Doom Part V- for the unapologetically despondent

986 replies

duchesse · 01/08/2007 08:56

The new hut. Ta-da!

This one is a snug little basement World War 2 type nightclub, with dim lighting, snug velvet sofas, red walls and certainly no politically correct smoking bans. Occasionally certain selected men may be admitted at our convenience.

Sit down, make yourselves at home, and never, ever apologise for feeling like shit. That's about it.

OP posts:
becaroodolf · 17/12/2007 17:39

Scan tomorrow at the EPU at 10.20am...my main feelings are "whats the fucking point, theres no baby in there and I dont need some bloody sonographer to tell me that!"

(Not a big fan of sonagraphers - you may have guessed!)

Ate half a box of green and blacks chocolate this afternoon and now feel a bit dodgy - well, dodgier

(Is that even a word????????????)

ladylush · 17/12/2007 18:23

My dear, in the scheme of things I don't think anyone is scrutinising your grammar. Good thing you have your scan in the morning rather than having it hanging over you the whole day. Just tonight to get through. Wishing away the hours for you. Sonographers - yes their bedside manner leaves a lot to be desired.

wheelybahhumbug · 18/12/2007 17:37

Bec- how did the scan go ?

I need to the hut for some self-indulgent winging for a few minutes.

I have a v. good friend who I met as we used ot live opposite each other and have DCs the same sort of age. We see each other a number of times a week and she of all people knows how rubbish I feel about failing to conceive etc. She has just had a second dc although she wasn't sure they wanted another (she did try for a long time for no 1 so even more reason why I'm cross about what she said). Anyway round there playing today and dd has a big melt down about something so I ignored her and it went on and finally she got over it so I gave her a cuddle and thought that was it. Anyway my friend says 'that's why in the end we decided to have another one because we thought 1 just gets too much attention'. WTF. I didn't say anything at the time and have been really busy today but just sat down and thought about it and thought HOW F**KING INSENSITIVE CAN YOU BE. She's often making comments about 'we decided to have more than 1 because this that and the other' and she knows about m/c, how long we've been trying, how we originally wanted a big family etc etc....

AAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

Thank you. Sorry.

becaroodolf · 18/12/2007 17:53

Wheely....thats really awful....how very insensitive of her.

Had my scan earlier today, and as expected I have lost my baby. Feel completely bereft...more so than the other times for some reason.

The nurse from the EPU just rang and said my HCG levels are already completely back to normal levels and I only mc on friday so maybe the pregnancy wasnt viable from the start....

Anyway, after this awful, awful day, how about a drink (now that I can!)???????

wheelybahhumbug · 18/12/2007 17:55

I'll 'ave anover... hic hic..

Sorry to hear about your day Bec (and thanks for the sympathy when clearly my day was nothing on yours) - its the pits, it really is. Please have a large drink (or 10).

becaroodolf · 18/12/2007 18:08

Dont mind if I do

ladylush · 18/12/2007 22:22

sorry becca Here's a VERY large one A friend announced that she is 6 mths pg on saturday. She doesn't know about my m/c's. She said she was pleased to say how it had been such an easy pregnancy so far. Gulp.

becaroodolf · 19/12/2007 09:18

Oh dear lady....how hard for you.

Everywhere I look at the moment I see babies...

wheelybahhumbug · 19/12/2007 09:21

Oh LL - hard news to take - as its the festive season it can't be too early for a drink can it ?

ladylush · 19/12/2007 17:28

Thanks becca and wheely. No, not too early to drink. I have put off my no drink in the week rule til after xmas/new year. Doesn't seem to be helping much anyway. This month I got brown bleeding on CD18. Wtf It's still going on 2 days later. No idea what is going on with my deviant body. Pretty sure I didn't ovulate either.

santasmissus · 19/12/2007 21:32

i was am in a really good mood, christmas on it's way, all the shopping done, just a few minor things to organise, on work day left, blah, blah, blah...even managed to have coffee with pg friend.... and have just heard about yet another conceivee only three months post mc what a cow i am i am happy for them but....

i'm going to pick myself up, dust myself off and carry on with my good mood, pretend i don't care and continue trying to conceive

ronshar · 20/12/2007 10:11

I am still feeling a little bit horrible. Although now I have read about all your weeks I am going to give myself a good kick and tell myself to pull together.
I would like to know why people are so bloody stupid.
Wheely I would tell your friend how much she upsets you with her comments. Shit it isnt me is it????
Becaroodolf. It is crap. I am so sorry.
My mc's have taught me a very hard and well needed lesson in life.

Drank bottle of Chablis last night so all is not that bad!

ladylush · 20/12/2007 14:26

Wheely, your friend was so insensitive I'm astounded at some of the things people say. Are you tempted to say something to her?

wheelybahhumbug · 21/12/2007 08:39

ll/ron - I will tell her if she makes simila comments again. I think she is having a hard time of it with the new baby - has had an infection, being watched for PND and so finding everything a bit much so I think it was 'just' a thoughtless comment and I hope think she'd be mortified if she knew how much it had upset me. I'll tell her next time though.

I too have thrown the non-drinking out of the window over the festive season - hurrah ! I love wine !!

ladylush · 21/12/2007 08:54

Wheely - v gracious of you I must say. Enjoy your wine - is it too early for one now d'ya
think?

ronshar · 21/12/2007 10:25

Never too early for wine at christmas!
I am looking forward to going out tonight. I am going to get smashed. DDs will be at my mums. Life is grand.
I am however supposed to be doing the cleaning. But really I cant be arsed. I hate housework.

There are too many pregnant women on the mc thread. I am so happy for them but I am not sure I want a day by day account of their pregnancies.
I know I am a horrible person.

merrylissiemas · 21/12/2007 10:30

i feel the smae way ronshar. thats why i am back here.

santasmissus · 21/12/2007 10:34

you're not a horrible person ronshar or if you are i am too. have you read my last few posts on here recently: that is my continual whine aswell, not from the mc thread necessarily just generally. i think it must have been one of the worst things i could have been told (by nearly everybody) "oh you're really fertile after mc; people conceive really quickly after mc." yeah right, where's my baby then??
and no, i don't need a blow by blow account of other people's pregnancies either, like my friend whi was due around the same time as me continually told me how ill she was because she was tired. aren't most people unbearably tired when pg?? at least she was pg and healthy, i've had 2 mc's nearly died when i was pg with dd aaaaaarrrrrgghhhh. actually ronshar, i don't think you're a horrible person to frankly state the fact; i think i might be to let it upset me so much and actually sound quite bitter i'm not as bitter as the typed word makes me sound - honest.

ronshar · 21/12/2007 10:37

Hello to you Lissie. I have been trying to avoid the thread a bit recently. It does seem to be full of pregnant ladies. I dont mind but I think some of them are a bit insensitive. Some girls are in the middle of MC and the next post is all about how great it is to be pregnant and everything is perfect.
It isnt that I think they shouldnt be there but I think that most of us dont want to know what precise day it is and the exact details of every twinge.
Sorry but I am feeling a little testy at the moment.I think I may be (whispers) jealous. Which is an ugly emotion and I am ashamed of myself.

merrylissiemas · 21/12/2007 10:46

ikwym. i hate myself for it, buti cant be optimistic

ronshar · 21/12/2007 11:27

Thank you Santasmissus. I know we are all in the same boat. I know we are not horrible we are just human.
Lissie you are also only human. Try not to beat yourself up for something which is totally beyond your control. There is absolutely nothing you can do to change your situation. I know that doesnt make it better but try to keep it in the front of your mind.

ladylush · 21/12/2007 13:46

I feel the same ladies - this is the only place I feel free to express myself at the moment. I want to go on the conception board and ask a question but can't do it in case I get a hundred replies saying "ooh I had that and now I'm 8 months pregnant" etc. They are being kind in replying, but I just don't want to hear success stories atm (because it's someone else's success - not mine). I think I am wallowing in self-pity and negativity. It's not like me at all

becaroodolf · 21/12/2007 15:40

You wallow all you like lady....can I join you???

merrylissiemas · 21/12/2007 18:26

of course beca. dont think we've met. can i just say that im sorry you have to be here.

wheelybahhumbug · 21/12/2007 19:18

Evening fellow wallowers ! Nothing to report here just thought I'd agree re: ttc after m/c thread - it seems a bit mean saying it but there is a pregnancy after m/c thread (not that I would know of course because pregnancy after m/c appears more elusive than me becoming queen at the mo) so whilst it nice to keep up with those who have been on the thread they could just come and pop in and say hello every now and then whilst we get on with our own misery and frustrations. Its a shame because there are some lovely people there but it is just soooo hard..... oh god I'm such a miserable mean person...

Right the sun has been well and truly over the yard arm for hours so must be time for a drink (should be champagne chez wheely as wheely and mr wheely met 10 years ago today....1 2 3 aaaaaahhhhhh)