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The Hut of Gl/Doom Part V- for the unapologetically despondent

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duchesse · 01/08/2007 08:56

The new hut. Ta-da!

This one is a snug little basement World War 2 type nightclub, with dim lighting, snug velvet sofas, red walls and certainly no politically correct smoking bans. Occasionally certain selected men may be admitted at our convenience.

Sit down, make yourselves at home, and never, ever apologise for feeling like shit. That's about it.

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viksam · 30/12/2007 12:33

Hi I feel like poo........ does that qualify me for joining? Feeling v sad and peed off and not quite finding a thread that i fit in to. ttc #1 for 3.5 yrs
Fed up now. Finding it hard to pick myself up every month. Hufffffffffffff...........

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duchesse · 30/12/2007 17:51

Viksam- definitely the right thread for you. Step right in, have a virtual drink (or several), and slump in the corner if you'd like to.

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becaroodolf · 30/12/2007 18:19

Hello ladies.

Welcome Viksam.

Feeling very odd today. Been shouting at dh, feel all tearful and dont want to do anything or go anywhere.

Went to MIL's yesterday for a family get together and my cousin was there with her new baby (who is HUGE!!) and I felt more empty than ever. Its only been a couple of weeks since my m/c but I realy feel I should be getting a grip by now.

Dreading wednesday - going back to work (thats where I started bleeding) and I should have been going to my m/w booking in appointment too.

Oh well, my ds is having a sleepover at his ma & pa's tonight so might get some sleep!!!

Happy New Year xx

santasmissus · 01/01/2008 23:44

hello happy new year cd1 again. really fed up. have been too fed up to mn properly for a while. have lurked a lot and posted a little. so peed off with it. was working this am when i came on took me all my energy not to cry. now think it probably it isn't going to happen. feel sorry for dd and dh as well as myself, perhaps more for them. going to throw myself into the rest of my life and ignore pregnant people. easy to say on cd1

ronshar · 02/01/2008 23:15

Yep me too. New year New cycle. What a load of pants.

ladylush · 03/01/2008 12:44

Happy New Year all

shreksmissus · 04/01/2008 17:03

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anniemac · 05/01/2008 13:55

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hedgepig · 05/01/2008 23:07

Hi all also I generally just lurk but annie we are like twins
CD8 of 13th cycle TTC #2. DH gave me a hug when I cried but thinks it is not a problem and all will be well. Given the fact I'm so blinking ancient I really don't think so .

shreksmissus · 05/01/2008 23:21

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hedgepig · 05/01/2008 23:37

I know I try to be hopeful but it just keeps not happening. Its not helped by being a work my colleagues know I am trying (don't see any point in hiding the fact) but they (sorry they are blokes) keep making little asides about maternity leave and how cushy it is and how they would like a year off argggggggg.. They are good guys but I am just getting p£$%^& off with it. Sorry I just need to rant I'll be better tomorrow.

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FlossieF · 06/01/2008 19:49

Hello fellow refugees from the ttc after mc thread, and everyone else.

I know this isn't the place to be happy, but reading that some others had abandoned the ttc after mc thread because so much was about pg and not about ttc cheered me up. I'd been thinking the same thoughts (during occasional lurking) so now I feel like less of a freak.

Other than that, af arrived today, so still pretty miserable.

Trying hypnotherapy tomorrow in a vain attempt to brainwash myself into being less miserable, less obsessed, and more relaxed. Desperate times, desperate measures.......

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duchesse · 07/01/2008 11:05

People who say "just relax" deserve a fist in the gob in my opinion.

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FlossieF · 07/01/2008 11:36

I'm inclined to agree. Probably best not to try it out on the hypnotherapist though!!

shreksmissus · 07/01/2008 19:37

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hedgepig · 07/01/2008 21:55

can I add "when are you having another one" to the people that deserve a bob on the nose??
I'm getting sick of smiling and laughing (like I don't give a stuff)and answering in a jokey way that we are still working on it.

wheelybug · 08/01/2008 10:31

Morning all. Happy New year and all that.

CD1 here . Have lost count of cycles although its now 18 months since m/c.

The only positive thing to note (if I may use the word positive on this thread) is that DH finally did his test on friday so at least we'll be able to move forward in one way. Also last month and this month I haven't had the raging and painful PMT that I have only had since m/c so am hoping my hormones have just taken an extremely long time to settle down ?

RIght, I promised if I wasn't PG this month we were going to have a couple of months break and go skiing.... suddenly it doesn't seem such a good idea

Welcome to those who have joined us here.

ClairePO · 08/01/2008 11:00

Wheely - why are you not so keen on the skiing idea now?

wheelybug · 08/01/2008 11:04

Because if we book now we will have to take a 2 month break from ttc as I wouldn't want to ski if I did get pg.... I know we should just go for it and it'll probably do us good but .........

ClairePO · 08/01/2008 11:09

hmm I see what you mean. I would feel exactly the same way. If I skied. We've been putting off getting tickets for Silverstone as I didn't want to be waddling around the race circuit heavily pregnant come July. Now the price has gone up, I'm not pregnant and we have no tickets. TTC sucks.

wheelybug · 08/01/2008 12:24

Well have rung up about availability for skiing and have an option on a holiday so.... we'll see.....

A quick qu for those whose DH's have been tested - how long did it take for the results to get from the hospital to the gp and did your DH just ring up ?

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duchesse · 08/01/2008 12:49

I remember way back in the days when we still wondered whether or not to book skiing or transatlantic holidays on the grounds that I might be 7 months pregnant by then. Ha! Fat chance, I think now..

On another note, the 44 yr old friend who was pregnant has now lost the baby, leaving me with a set of very confused feelings, as I can't say I was overjoyed for her in the first place.

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poppy75 · 08/01/2008 14:32

Was lurking thought I might join you guys, with a post.

It is so wierd that when I read your posts it could have been me writing them!

Yes shreksmissus everyone is pregnant, those who I work with just seem to stop the pill one moment and then don't even have AF before BFP!!

I had mc in July 06 and had to have ERPC afterwards, just assummed I'd fall again but nothing, nada since! DH also thinks it will just happen, and has no urgency which is alittle annoying.

I am generally positive but when BF keeps moaning about lack of sleep with new DS, I feel alittle as she got BFP 1st month and perfect pregnancy! I do try to be understanding but I think that those that have never had to ttc don't have a clue.

Whow needed to get all that out - sorry about ranting feels better now

ronshar · 08/01/2008 14:37

We are going skiing regardless. I remember in my younger pre MC days I was snowboarding while 13 weeks with my dd2. This time I shall not be going near a board if I am lucky enough to get pregnant this weekend!!!!