The Hut of Gl/Doom Part V- for the unapologetically despondent

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The new hut. Ta-da!

This one is a snug little basement World War 2 type nightclub, with dim lighting, snug velvet sofas, red walls and certainly no politically correct smoking bans. Occasionally certain selected men may be admitted at our convenience.

Sit down, make yourselves at home, and never, ever apologise for feeling like shit. That's about it.

er "got" crept in somehow. Must be the pouilly fume.....hic.

You're doing a grand job Ladylush.

I suppose after a while nobody could be bothered with the tent of indifference, whilst we sat out of our heads in the Hut. (it is 1940s underground cabaret, this one...)

No contest - the hut wins every time. What happened to the tent - not that I'm interested you understand

Probably sank into a slough of despond I should think.

erm, not that I care

I wonder how all the hut formers are- Beansprout, Impatience, Seaside, Greedy etc... (have missed loads out, sorry)
do pop in and say how you are from time to time, ladies... Even if we still are a bunch of miserable barren women.

Ah yes, I remember those names. I used to think of the tent as purgatory and the hut as hell. Champagne and wine takes some of the rougher edges off I reckon.

Spot on, Little Miss Catholic ( ;) ) On both counts (drink and descriptors). The only way you can have hell made worse is by having people coming in trying to be chipper.

Although haven't they now abolished purgatory? Isn't it just up or down now?

When I mention chipper people, I absolutely do not mean anyone at present in the hut. Am thinking of the occasional person popping head around door and sprinkling that evil babydust.

No afaik they still pray for all the poor souls trapped in Purgatory (in the month of November). I don't know who thinks about them the rest of the year Ugh baby dust............

i try really hard and i am genuinely pleased for the bfp's other people get but i am finding it so hard to be gracious about it.

what i'm finding especially hard at the minute is when people fall so quickly after a miscarriage. i know they don't forget their pain from their mc, and i know they are delighted to conceive again, but they can have no possible idea of how painful it is to see the months clicking on and on and on...and on. i have a friend who had an mc was pg again within a few months and delivered around my due date and thinks i should be over it by now - she hasn't got a clue . i thought i would fall again quickly and it would make it easier, but here i am over a year later, and resigning myself to it being unlikely to happen again.

should have also added, i know that i am having a paddy and spiting my dummy out, but felt i needed to rant. could have cited a few more examples bothering me at the moment but perhaps too much detail about rl so i won't. couldn't finish last night as dd poorly and came down so had to abandon.

santamissus - If it makes you feel any better my AF is 2 days late after my 2nd M/C and I can't even bring myself to pee on the stick. I'm so scared it will be a BFP and in my heart of hearts I feel if it is I've lost this one already as well. Being crying in the toilets for 2 days, at what point do we think my dh will realise something is amiss?

Just want to crawl under the covers. pull the duvet over my head and stay there.

Hello,

Not sure if I am in the right place....I mc on friday and feel very low. £rd one for me, with a ds in between.

Got a scan on tuesday but its academic.

OK if I mope around here for a bit??

sorry, that should have read 3rd....brain turned to mush by two days of crying.

hello beca- by all means mope- you're in the right place, but the (virtual) drink is mandatory, so have this. Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. They stink.

Lovely.....Is it a large one?????

Hi becca - so sorry about your m/c (and the other 2) I've had 3 too. It's horrible when you know but you have to get it confirmed. The days drag by.

Thank you.

Going to be a bit of a rubbish xmas this year

Definitely a flagon or a yard or a schooner of whatever you fancy, yes.

Yes it will be becca but I find alcohol helps trememdously in these situations. I hope 2008 brings you much better news

hey ladylush just saw you were in the hut and popped in with some chocolates, mince pies and some mulled wine for you ladies.

I'm 10+4 weeks now had a bit of bleeding last week, EPAS won't scan me as they have no appointments and it's not urgent apparently so I am in limbo land, no new bleeding since Thursday so I am hoping everything is OK, I almost don't want a scan as I don't want to even start to think if everything isn't ok yet at the same time I refuse to acknowledge I am pregnant if that makes sense. I can't imagine holding a baby at the end of this can't even begin to hope this one is fine, hate it when people talk about the bump and names and things.

Anyway wish I had some words of support and comfort for all you ladies in the hut, take care of yourselves x

Hi Sk - so sorry to hear about the bleeding . Got everything crossed for you. It's encouraging that you haven't had any more bleeding since then though Hope you don't think I'm being anti-social by not catching up. It's just a bit difficult going on the ttc/pg boards at the moment. Try your best to take it easy over xmas and new year and hopefully you'll have some great news when you have the nuchal scan I don't think the other hut dwellers will begrudge me sending you some positive vibes (normally against hut rules)in these circumstances xx

thanks LL I knew you were staying away from the ttc/pregnancy boards but just wanted to send you a wee message so quickly jumped in the hut, nuchal fold don't be daft, I get one sodding scan up here at 12 weeks, am having to pay for a 20 week one (hopefully will need one IYSWIM).

I am scared witless right now I cannot even begin to imagine what women with more than one mc go through, you are all bloody amazing you know that?!!!

at postcode lottery

What a load of shite. That is all I can say really. To the whole thing.
I have finished the absinth just off to the shops. Anyone have anything in particular they fancy??

Other than a baby. Cant get one of those in Sainsbury's yet!!!
Bastards