35+ TTC#1 Thread 7

[PixieN]

It’s time for a new thread for a lovely bunch of ladies supporting each other through our TTC efforts, possible IVF plans, possible alternative life journeys and adventures with or without babies after the age of 35. Think that about sums it up

@BambiOnIce80 @79andnotout @CNizzle @VenusStarr @QuantumGirl @Carley321 @Wannabemum38 @Russkispy @Kescilly @Laney79 @Weathergirl1 @Pinkywoo @birdbybird

I’ve included everyone who has posted on the last four pages of the previous thread. Hope that’s o.k as I know some of you have graduated to another thread, but still like to check in and apologies if i’ve missed anyone.

Lots of luck to everyone at whatever stage we’re at 💕

Here i am, lovely ladies. All went well! Lining was 9.28. Blast thawed out without any issues. Planted in a perfect place, my doc held my hand and said a little prayer, then had IV drip and acupuncture. Loaded with drugs and on my way to the airport. Again. Haha was told to do HCG on 28 and 30 October but dad is coming next week and it will be tricky for me to go to London. So will do FRER and HCG after he leaves. Let’s just hope it’s all good news at the end!

It felt a little weird during transfer. I know it’s not 100% my blast but it had my name on it when the embryologist dished it out and inserted into a catheter. But it’s my baby! All being positive, will carry and nurture it for 9 months! There’s no fear or worry but just want it to be BFP and consequently a healthy baby. Or two. Hmmm

Hi @Russkispy oh that all sounds very exciting and promising! Fingers crossed for a peaceful TWW and a very sticky bean!
I'm feeling weirdly jealous of your healthy lining! Mine was 9.8mm when I had my HSG two months ago but I've just taken my course of Clomid, had bloods yesterday and a scan today (815am on a Sunday morning isn't my idea of fun!) and my lining is only 6.4mm which I am not happy about! Even more of a concern is that she initially measured it at 5.7mm but then got me to change position and read it from a different angle....
I have two follicles ready to go at 18 and 17mm and a third of 14mm that may also go if I ovulate tomorrow.... we have been told to DTD every day for 4 days?! Actually in the text they sent it does say you can do every second day but I'm worried we'll miss our chance (I know, i know, its better to save it up but somehow when you're in the thick of it all logic flies out the door... )
Am already thinking ahead to next month as I'm worried we've missed our chance this time and I'm going to ovulate earlier than normal (@Carley321 you did say you ovulated earlier than normal right?) as i pushed for a blood test a day later than they wanted and they obviously got my blood results last night and rush-booked me a scan this morning. Doctor mentioned something about changing the meds if the Clomid is thinning my lining and might ask about doing that, and accept an earlier scan next time! Have texted DP warning him to drink lots of water today at work ... I've spent the rest of the morning on a video call with a lovely ex colleague I haven't caught up with i ages and it's awful, her partner has left her and his PTSD / other undiagnosed MH problems have him behaving a bit manically and he is now living 6 hours away and she is left with a 17 month old in a town she moved to a month before he left where she doesn't really have any support. She looked quite broken and I was so sad to not be able to just jump in my car and help her as her tales of parenting are exhausting!! It's quite sobering, I do wonder if I'll be able to cope if this miracle ever does happen, and if it will strain our relationship (almost 100% yes) and how we'll survive.
Oh yes and @BambiOnIce80 I had the multiples warning from the doctor, she thinks triplets is 1% chance but twins is 10 - 12% given the number of follicles i have ready to release.... although was at pains to point out that at 40 years old my egg quality is fairly poor so she thinks multiples unlikely. I've only been 40 for two months and it seems to be a trigger for doctors, like a switch has been flicked! I'm not liking it!!

Oh I know Chelonia, how the hell there's some magic switch that's flicked at 40 and all our fertility statistics go to 💩 I don't know?! 😕 Thus the mad rush for us to get IVF before May (didn't feel like that much of a rush when we were referred this May, but everything is taking bloody ages! 😣). Our doc was really enthusiastic about getting our IVF done now so that our eggs/embies would be "frozen at 39", and I'm sitting there thinking "you can't really be telling me that 6 months is really going to make all that much difference?! 🤨". That's great that you've got at least 2 follicles ready to go and that they've got a back up drug if clomid is thinning your lining 👍🏻

Oooh, fingers-crossed for your TWW @Russkispy 🤞🏻🍀🤞🏻🍀

How did the school reunion go @Carley321? Did you test early or did you ban yourself from the booze?x

AF is two days late normally bang on 28 days took a pg test and BFN. Not sure what's going on. Didn't have usual pre AF symptoms and today had weird pelvic cramps low down also had a faint positive on 10dpo so no idea

Yes @Chelonia I ovulated around CD14 and it’s usually around CD18. It’s strange.

Hi @BambiOnIce80 yes I drank... To much. I didn’t test because I couldn’t handle seeing another bfn. I can’t let ttc take over my life. It’s a long bloody game isn’t it 🙄. I already have af symptoms though so not to worried lol. Hope your well?

Oh and it was lovely apart from all the marriage and baby questions. I’d have never survived soba!

Hi all,
Sorry I have been quiet, I have been lurking but find it hard to keep up!

I've got my appointment at the fertility clinic on wed to discuss my results, quite anxious and not sure what to expect?

Just started getting my usual week of spotting before actual AF. I'm going to ask for a laparoscopy, but I feel Like they will say no!

@Carley321 oh god, a school reunion would be the worst thing to try and do sober! I've said it a million time and we all know, but people are so rude with those questions!!

@bunhead34 I could never had stayed soba 😳. Good job to because af is beginning to show her stupid ass symptoms.

Why do you think they will say no?
How did your appointment go.

I ovulated early this month CD 14 and now at CD24 I have had 1 (almost brown) spot sorry for the tmi. So here I am again feeling shit shit shit. When do I just get over it and stop expecting this month to be different. I’m driving myself into and early grave.

How is everyone?

Eugh AF, she is the worst!

I had my appointment this morning, I asked if endo might be something to consider. She said it's not likely as my ovaries were moving freely in the scan, plus a couple of other reasons I can't remember now!

I've been given progesterone pessarys to take as I get a lot of spotting before af making my luteal phase quite short.
And I'm booked in for hycosy -the earliest they can do is jan 😭 they had a cancellation for Tuesday but I'll be in China for stupid work!
She said as we currently have unexplained fertility, we would only get Ivf on nhs after 3 years trying 😭

Feeling a bit shit TBH!

I am the same, I still convince myself every month that this could be it - I feel like such an idiot!!

@bunhead34 oh I’m sorry the appointment wasn’t as positive as you’d hoped. But atleast the endo was kind of ruled out. That has to be a good thing. What’s a hycosy?

How long after af do you get brown spotting, I get it for 3 days before af about 10 dpo. Is it a sign of something?

Sorry your feeling shit. I’m with you on it this month though. I’d built my hopes up more than usual after the hsg.

Remind me how long you’ve been ttc?

Hi folks, space for a new one? I bring virtual gifts: ! (And for those who have had unwelcome visits from AF )

I'm 35 and my partner is 39 and we've been waiting to until I found a new job and had passed my 6 month probation etc to start but, we're finally there and can start TTC next month. It's felt like agony waiting so long but now we're actually thinking about trying I am terrified too.. I am one of those people who deals with anxiety by READING ALL THE BOOKS so looking forward to having some similarly placed people to chat to in the Very Unlikely Event it doesn't all go exactly as planned and we get lucky first time..... (sarcasm in full force, don't worry!)

@Carley321 I think hsg and hycosy are the same thing - the dye test?
Anyway at least I will have a couple of months to try the progesterone before jan!

We've been ttc for 20 looong months!

I think the spotting is fairly normal, but I get a lot of it for a lot of days so it may be stopping an embryo implanting. Def worth mentioning to your dr if you haven't already.

@AsSurprisedAsYouAre welcome and congrats on starting ttc!

Oh I did wonder @bunhead34. Yea it’s the dye test. I had it done in September. I have one blocked tube 😕.

These months do get long don’t they. I just can’t imagine seeing that bfp... I literally had a dream the other day that I had a bfp (sad I know) but the feeling I had was just pure happiness! The fact that it’s a bloody dream says it all 🙄 lol. I’m even at the point where in my head I’m not having these cramps lower and lower down my abdomen and af definitely isn’t on the way!

Yes I have mentioned the spotting no one has really seemed to bothered. 🤔 but I am being referred for a lap so maybe they have their suspicions but just won’t say because it will Add stress.

Hi @AsSurprisedAsYouAre welcome.

As you can see I have officially lost the plot!

Excellent work on not letting TTC take over your life and having a few drinks at your reunion @Carley321! 🍾🥂There's absolutely no way I could have done a reunion sober either (even drunk I don't think I could face it! 😂). How long now until your gynae appointment lovely? I have in my head it's anytime now-ish... Do you have your list of questions ready to go?x

Crikey! 3 years is a bloody long time to have to wait for IVF @bunhead34 😰 The post code lottery is literally insane! Sorry you're feeling shit - I think we can all relate 💐 Hopefully the progesterone pessaries will work some magic for you before January 🤞🏻

Welcome @AsSurprisedAsYouAre 👋🏻 Really hope you will be one of the 'first time lucky' ones 🍀

How's things looking at your end @wannabemum38? I hope AF stayed away and you got your BFP 🤞🏻

Not much to report at my end (getting pretty standard, isn't it?! 😏). It is technically FW here, but I've pretty much given up on the notion that it'd happen naturally now (and I've come down with a bastarding yeast infection, so it's definitely not getting any kind of chance this month! 😒). Just waiting for December to come around so that we can get this IVF show on the road 🥚💉🎈🙄

@Carley321 maybe the lap is to have a look at your blocked tube and try to unblock it?
When are you having that? Fingers crossed all goes well! How long have you been ttc?

@BambiOnIce80 oh yeast infections are the worst! Cherry on top of this in-fertility cake!

On the bright side, if we do want Ivf we can afford 1 round, and if that fails we still get another one on the nhs. I don't think I could handle more than 2 emotionally so That will be that.
Turns out DH has thought Ivf costs about 40k this whole time, so the real number is quite a relief 😂

It was hard at first @BambiOnIce80 but soon started to enjoy. After the alcohol kicked in.
Yes it’s Tuesday I’ve written it in my notes. But will get it on paper lol.

Aw sorry about the infection. 🙄 things have great timing don’t they.... I’m currently on my way to being bed bound I think.... terrible back ache tickly cough and now my voice has almost left me. But atleast it’s not FW lol. Hope it clears up soon for you so you can get a shot in before dec 🤞. So no appointments or anything until December?

Hi @bunhead34 I haven’t had an appointment for the Lap I’ve just been referred about a month ago by the private clinic. 🤞 it’s not long.

Well I was unaware that tubes could be Unblocked at all? I think someone has said on here that a lap may help but I haven’t been told that yet. 🤞 it can though. We’ve been ttc since last May so about 16 months.

I bet DP is relieved lol. You could throw a few extras in if he’s been saving for that, nice Hol, new car lol.

Well the hsg has fudged me up I think. I’m 11 dpo and would usually have brown spotting maybe today or tomoz, for a few days but just to mess with me I’ve had light brown pink and now brown spotting ( tmi 😳) today. Surely 11 dpo is to early for at to start, I’ll never have the chance if af is on her way before implantation has even had a chance! I’m starting to wonder if the egg and sperm has even ever met 🙈😱. Any ideas?

@Carley321 I think a luteal phase over 10 days is considered "acceptable" I've definitely heard of ladies who conceived with a short LP but it's something that always worried me too as I think I have an LP of about 9 days Have also heard of people using progesterone pessaries after ovulation to promote a longer LP maybe you could ask your Dr? (Hope you managed to shake off your impending cold BTW)
In our consultation with the fertility Dr he sort of breezed through a quick monologue of whether or not he believes in progesterone deficiency (he does) but said if we were on Clomid it would help naturally (ie not need supplementation) as multiple follicles = multiple corpus luteum = more progesterone produced. So I'm watching with interest to see if I have a longer cycle this month!! I'm not using opks so not sure when I ovulated as they strongly discourage the use of them as they can be very inaccurate during Clomid use. And as the cycle is monitored they don't feel there is a need. I was scanned on CD10 and told to get busy so am assuming I was about to ovulate then!
Well ladies I am feeling like a right idiot. Having spent this month with renewed hope as we're trying the Clomid (aka in my mind the "magic bullet") and even getting to the point of seriously wondering how we'll cope with the twins (because obv) I have been at an event this weekend and come down with what I can only assume is food poisoning 🤦‍♀️🤢🤦‍♀️Spent all night V+D then all the following day sleeping and possibly feverish. I'm so cross with myself, I'm a vegetarian and never usually worry much about food poisoning as its not as common with the foods I eat but the roti I had contained decidedly lukewarm dahl No-one else I know had the roti so I can't confirm if it was that, but feeling like I'm such an idiot for not being more careful!! When my sister was pregnant I rolled my eyes constantly about all the things she refused to eat, including ice-cream (!!) but am realising that if I want to have a baby and keep it safe I'm going to need to turn into one of THOSE women 😒 it goes massively against the sort of person I am!! So I guess we're out this month as can't imagine any little bean could have survived the last 24hrs (in my more dramatic self-pitying moments I was fairly sure I wasn't going to myself 🙄)
But in more positive news we have a property inspection today by a rescue organisation to give us the okay to adopt a dog!!! We have already met the woofer in question, we were absolutely positively not going to get a puppy, not a male and not a large breed (we used to have a St Bernard so are suckers for big doggos)
Obviously the dog we are going to get is a 4.5 month old male large crossbreed, think ridge back cross 🙄
Hope you're all doing well, @BambiOnIce80 hope the infection clears up, we went through a stage where EVERY TIME we dtd I got a UTI and that certainly didn't help our efforts to conceive as we would only dtd a couple of times a month.
@wannabemum38 how are you doing, am hoping no news is good news...?

@BambiOnIce89 sadly not a BFP but probably a blessing think me and DP are breaking up so silver lining.

Oh my god @wannabemum38 I'm so very, very sorry to hear your update 😔💙 We're always around if you want to talk and if you don't, then please know I'm thinking of you.x

@bunhead34, sounds like you're getting you're IVF ducks in a row 😊 That would have to be one amazeballs clinic to cost 40K for a round!! 😂

Nope, no appointments at my end now @Carley321 until early December when we actually start our IVF cycle... Eek! We're practically in November now, so I'm sure it'll be upon us before we know it too! What's going on with the spotting? Did it stop or has AF turned up? Agree that an 11 day LP is still considered 'normal', so please try not to worry lovely.x

That is crappy timing for food poisoning @Chelonia - sorry you're poorly 💐 I remember doing a microbiology lab at uni on different foods to see which carried the most bacteria and surprisingly it was salad that was the winner! 🥗😮 Apparently, because it's grown using manure and isn't necessarily washed that well food poisoning can be a real problem - who knew?! The lukewarm Dahl certainly sound like it could be the culprit. Hope you're feeling better soon.x

@BambiOnIce80
Thank you appreciate that. Just feel like my chance of having kids has gone now im 39 and the prospect of meeting someone and starting over before its too late is just not that realistic feel like ive wasted my time

AFM, OTD today and it's a BFP! I'm 9dp5dt today. Couldn't believe my eyes! Especially after having a brown discharge on Saturday. Thought AF was on its way. Fingers crossed is all going to be ok!

That's a lovely strong line @Russkispy 😍 Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞🏻 🍀 🤞🏻 🍀

I know how you feel @wannabemum38 💐 I was with my XH for 13 years, went through 3 & a half years of TTC and infertility investigations, finally got the green light for NHS treatment and he ended us - I thought my world had ended too. But he really did me a favour - I'm so much happier and stronger now and, yes, my chance of kids may have passed me by but I'll be alright with that. One of my my friends is having her first at 42 (she'll be 43 when the baby is born), so you're really not out yet.x

@Chelonia well hopefully I’m averagely normal in that area atleast then lol. It’s more my chest and no it’s not being shaken anywhere 😕.
That’s rubbish about the food poisoning 🙈 hope your feeling better? I always judge others (I know I shouldn’t) but in all honesty I think of a miracle did happen then I’d be far worse than anyone I’ve known in the past lol.

Aww lovely news on the doggy 😍. I love my fur babies... I just hope they get to have a little mini me to keep them company one day 💜.

I’m so sorry @wannabemum38 hope you’re holding up xx

@BambiOnIce80 December will most certainly be here before we know it. I feel excited for you.
yes AF reared in full swing, quite heavy which I don’t know if it’s good or bad anymore I’m just so inconsistent. 25 day cycle. I’m CD 4 now.

I’m glad a shortish LP is normal but is it normal to get so many symptoms so soon after ovulation? Same spots, spotting, cramps, tender breasts etc 🤔.

Wow @Russkispy that’s a great line. 🤞 for you 🥰 xxx

Congratulations @Russkispy

Thanks ladies been hard today seeing lots of kids and babies at work half term here this week but my job is keeping me occupied.

So had another apt today... . I’m having more bloods, and also going to be scanned over my cycle to see what’s going on and was again reassured that I am waiting for a lap. So it went ok and their doing everything to see what’s going on which is all I can ask for at the moment. He also said a little weight gain wouldn’t hurt. But this I’m struggling with, I just can’t seem to gain weight...having said this, since starting this med diet I have gained 2lb so 🤞 lol. Hope you are well?