Page 8 | Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...4!

SparrowSG · 2019-07-22T13:57:20+00:00

Here's our new thread (sorry, not good at coming up with exciting titles!!) SparrowSG: 44. 1 DS 2.5. TTC for ever! 1 ectopic 10 wks Feb 2014, 1 successful IVF 2016, 1 failed IVF 2018, 1 MC 12 wks Feb 2019. Planned IVF Oct 2019. KCM99: 43, 2 DC, ttc no.3 since April. 3 early losses since then.

kenhomsbestwok · 04/08/2019 07:41

I'm on August Bus thread but think I might be better off on here just because of age.

Me: 40, 41 towards end Sept. 1 DC, almost 11 months. Wanted to wait to TTC No.2 until after our "honeymoons" (because is it really a honeymoon when you're taking your baby?!) in Sept/Oct but doc has told me to get on with it because my cycles are changing (longer periods but shorter cycles/cycles all over the place) so we were all ready to go this month but, because I had a 23 day cycle last month and a 27 day cycle this month, I am now in FW but also on period!!!!

DH not that keen on sex during period (though has said he will if I really want to try) but I'm thinking not much point as womb lining is probably not going to be ready for it to implant anyway (even if it got fertilised) so thinking might wait until september unless anyone thinks it's worth trying anyway?

I am very conscious that we now don't have time to mess about - I got pregnant easily last time (first time I was 38, almost 39 though we lost that baby by MMC at 9 weeks, it had stopped developing just after 6 weeks), then we got pregnant again on 4th try by which time I was 39 and that resulted in DC, whom I had by elective C-section. But I am conscious that we are almost 2 years on from that now, I'm older, my eggs are less good and the likelihood of a) having difficulty/being unable to conceive and b) MC is higher.

It basically sucks BUT we will try! x

Catconfusion · 04/08/2019 08:12

Thank you so much @KCM99 and @littlemimosa I’m still a little in shock. It’s the due date of the baby we lost down to the mmc soon so I’m pleased this has happened now.

Long cycles make it so much harder to try. I found it exhausting trying to figure out when to try and cover all bases. Ovusense was very good for tracking even though it wasn't always accurate about the precise day. I will let you know how the scan goes. Good luck ladies! Xx

Constance1234 · 04/08/2019 13:11

@KCM99 that's an interesting study, but how would you know exactly when you were going to ovulate unless you are having regular scans? Opks only give you a vague window of up to 36 hours. Also don't some sperm swim faster than others so what if your partner has slow sperm? Do you have a link to that article? I'd be interested to read their methodology! x

@Catconfusion congratulations, what lovely news! x

Catconfusion · 04/08/2019 14:48

Thanks @Constance1234 and @Harriettenightingale Now I need to stop poas as I’ve done five tests, all showing line progression. I just need to keep busy until my scan on Wednesday! Xx

KCM99 · 04/08/2019 16:10

@Constance1234 took me a while to find it again but here it is: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/7755073/

Constance1234 · 04/08/2019 16:32

@KCM99 Thank you for finding that for me :) I can’t see the full text, but read the abstract. Does the full text say if the sperm quality of the partner of each participant was checked and all showed to be of the same quality? I can’t see how they could have come to such conclusions if the sperm wasn’t used as the control factor! x

MaryShelley1818 · 04/08/2019 16:40

Huge congratulations Catconfusion! That’s brilliant news :)
Welcome Ken - it’s very unlikely you’d be ovulating during a period. Your womb lining is shedding. Have you tried tracking with a fertility app? I use Ovia and find it really good.

Catconfusion · 04/08/2019 16:52

Thanks @MaryShelley1818 I’m proof it can happen soon with pcos, after loss and over 40. I’m still in shock and just about managing the anxiety as it’s early days but hopeful our first baby will be with us next year in April! Xx

kenhomsbestwok · 04/08/2019 18:14

@Catconfusion - sorry, totally missed this - huge congrats!!! X

KCM99 · 04/08/2019 19:17

@Constance1234 sorry I don't have the full text.

Catconfusion · 04/08/2019 19:19

Thanks @kenhomsbestwok it’s so hard not to worry about mc and egg quality over 40. I just think fertility is such an individual thing. Even with previous loss, your chances are probably still good. I hope you get a bfp soon! In the last six months I’ve had two losses: one mmc and a CP so I’m slightly cautious but hopefully all will be fine this time. Xx

kenhomsbestwok · 05/08/2019 07:08

@Catconfusion thank you and so sorry for your losses xx

Yes, I am trying not to worry, just I guess being alive to the possibility this time whereas I really wasn’t expecting it the first time it happened and didn’t deal with it too well!

Constance1234 · 05/08/2019 12:59

Hope everyone had a good weekend.
We spent it with some friends who only have one child by choice. Seeing how content they are with their little family has made me realise how obsessed I have become with ttc no2. For instance when we are out and about I was always noticing families with multiple children and feeling quite envious, or thinking when we have another child we can do such and such differently - and not really living in the moment and being grateful for what I do have. It has really been a lightbulb moment for me, and my husband and I have had a chat and decided that if we aren’t successful this month then we will stop actively trying for a second and be happy to be a one child family. So I am going to bow out of this thread, but just wanted to wish you all lots of luck, and say thank you to all the support and advice you have given xx

Chatbash72 · 05/08/2019 17:44