Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...4!

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Here's our new thread (sorry, not good at coming up with exciting titles!!)

SparrowSG: 44. 1 DS 2.5. TTC for ever! 1 ectopic 10 wks Feb 2014, 1 successful IVF 2016, 1 failed IVF 2018, 1 MC 12 wks Feb 2019. Planned IVF Oct 2019.
KCM99: 43, 2 DC, ttc no.3 since April. 3 early losses since then.

@KCM99 to be on safe side dtd ever couple of day for couple of weeks... then you're covered x

Just wanted to introduce everyone to this little one. Conceived at age 41.

It’s not been easy. I had gestational diabetes and this little one crashed at birth requiring resuscitation but he’s home now and seems well.

Good luck to all still waiting for your miracle. Sending as much baby dust as I can.

Many congratulations @Karigan195 he's absolutely beautiful! ❤️❤️ sorry the birth was traumatic - do take time to heal, but wishing you a lifetime of happiness with your bundle of love! xxx

Beautiful @Karigan195 xx Congratulations

Congratulations karrigan, amazing

Beautiful! Congratulations Karigan! Xxx

Congratulations @Karigan195 - he's gorgeous! Xx

Congratulations on the BFPs and babies!

Hello everyone, hope it's ok if I join in this thread.

I have just turned 42 and have a 2.5 year old. I was prescribed Clomid in April as we'd been ttc our 2nd for a few months, and a scan revealed I was only ovulating on one side. I got pregnant the first round of Clomid, but after seeing a heartbeat at 7 weeks, I had a mmc at 9 weeks which tests revealed was due to trisomy 21. My consultant thinks this was just bad luck despite my age, and I am due to start up on Clomid again tomorrow. I'm really worried about a chromosomally abnormal egg being released again though, but if I don't take the Clomid I may not ovulate. I go back and forth with trying to decide whether or not to take it again! Does anyone have any experience with Clomid they can share? @KCM99 I see that you are taking it - is this your first round of Clomid?

Wishing everyone lots of luck!

@Karigan195 what an absolute cutie!!! 😍

@Chatbash72 we usually do BD a lot in SMEP style and has resulted in 4 pregnancies in a row. Sadly none have made it. This month we are ml as normal but using protection right up to the time of ovulation. Trying a 'fresh' sperm approach this time. I know we run the risk of missing it but going to give it a go anyway. I read a study that said women who've had a previous loss in previous cycle are more likely to lose again using 'old sperm'. So just giving this a go as will try anything now. I'm 43.

@Samosaurus I'm so sorry about your loss. Yes I took clomid this cycle (unmonitored). I took it for 3 days only. I want to try and bring on earlier ovulation as I ovulate later (CD17-19) and last month CD24. I've no idea if it will work. It's like I'm firing everything at this ttc and hoping something works. At our age they say up to 80% of the embryos are abnormal that probably accounts for all my losses. Just hoping for a good egg!! I've done a little bit of research on clomid and older ladies. The real top experts (Dr Sher) say don't bother as it produces lower quality eggs. But I've also read that if you do a lite version then it can be ok. 3 days 50mg is a super lite version. Use the least you can get away with for the results you want? For me, if I do get pg again and it doesn't stick or I mc, it's down to egg quality rather than the clomid based on the stats.

@KCM99 Thank you for getting back to me :) I really hope the Clomid works for you! I am hoping for a good egg too - that's interesting that it is thought to produce lower quality eggs, but I guess a lower quality egg that might stand a chance is better than not ovulating! Which days did you take the Clomid? I have been told to take it from days 2-5, and it is 50mg, so not a high dose either. I used to ovulate around day 17 and when I took the Clomid I ovulated on day 13. I am really keeping everything crossed that it works for you this month x

@Samosaurus yes I agree - better an egg than none at all. I took it CD5-7. I'm CD8 today. I really hope it works for you well.

I thought I was getting a scan today but they just took my blood and tested me for a million different things including lupus. I don't have lupus, I got tested before for that. Anyway, I'll probably have to wait another 1-2 months to see the consultant at the RMC. I'm disappointed. My DH is an optimist and said maybe we won't need it and be pg and stay pg by the time the appointment comes around. Here's hoping!

Has anyone been told by their GP that they won't do fertility testing until you've been TTC for 12 months or more? I went today as I'm aged 40 & TTC for 7 months but that's what they said 🤨 I thought they decreased it to 6 months of aged 40 or over

Hello all you lovely ladies, I have been away for quite a while, and after a failed IVF cycle in January I just did my usual and tried to distract myself with work and other stuff that doesn't really get me anywhere, even reading about TTC made me feel so lost so I stayed away, I have always been thinking of you lovely ladies and great to see some familiar names still on the thread!

@Crittertamer, I have thought of you and you twins often! and although I haven't read every post I've just scrolled through and am so so happy to see your beautifu Twins! a massive congratulations!

@Russkispy I was so elated to hear your news then so sad to hear about the MC within a few posts, I am so sorry but sending positive vibes for your next steps with DE!

@littlemimosa, @Booseysmom @Chatbash72 @Cleozeta @Realitysucks and anyone else I've missed out, hope you are all well, i hope to catch up on everyones news by slowly working through the last few threads I've missed!

AFM ready to go for round 2 of IVF next cycle, still trying, still not giving up hope, I feel so lost somedays and wake up with a dread of panic which lasts about an hour, thinking about how I've let my parents down, myself go this long without trying harder (I know its my head but I can't help it!) I get the biggest lump in my throat when I think about being an old childless lady because of my choices in life, for an update I am (yes I need to update username!)

44 TTC#1 3 years unexplained fertility DH 46 IVF#1 failed

Anyway sorry about venting, why does it just have to be so god damn difficult!! I screamed in my car the other day for no reason other than feeling I wanted to scream!!! Think I am losing the plot!

@Letsdothis42 - thank you so much! I wondered what had happened to you and whether you were ok. I really wish you all the best with your next round of IVF - it was round 2 that was successful fur us 😊 hopefully your clinic has made some tweaks to your treatment plan based on the results of your first round?

@hmmm123.. Congratulations on your bfp

@Crittertamer.. the twins are gorgeous! Thanks for posting photos x

@Karigan195.. aah, he's amazing! He looks like my s-in-law's new baby! Gorgeous x

@Letsdothis42.. lovely to hear from you. I haven't been on here for a while either. I am sorry you are having a hard time. Good luck for the next round ..this could be the one. Def keep us posted x

@lorns01 that doesn't sound right. I thought it was 6 months for over 35, or maybe over 38. When I was ttc my first at 34, I went to him after 4 months and he did an AMH test but told me to try for another few months then come back.

@CritterTamer yes I remember you were successful on your second try, and yes I have a different protocol this time!

@Booseysmom how are you?

@Karigan195 congratulations he's gorgeous 💕💕
@Samosaurus welcome I don't have any experience with clomid sorry
Ohhhhhhhh @Letsdothis42 sending you massive hugs.... you haven't let anyone down... are you following emma cannon on Instagram... I think her positivity could really help your thoughts and they way you view this journey... vent away my lovely xx

@Karigan195 congratulations! What a gorgeous baby. Enjoy every (exhausting!) minute:-)

@hmmm123 and @Realitysucks congratulations to you both too. Amazing news. Gives me hope. Hmmm if I remember rightly you’d been having irregular cycles and peri symptoms?

@Russkispy I was so sorry to read about your miscarriage. You sound so positive though and it’s so exciting that you’ve got a donor.

@eloisa246 good luck hun with your ivf too. Please keep us updated with your progress. We love hearing from you.

@PetraRabbit glad to hear your pregnancy progresses well. Could I ask if at 44 you’d started with any peri symptoms? I ask because my cycles are so unpredictable now at 43. I still ovulate but not as regularly as before. It leaves me feeling like I’m a fool to even contemplate ttc. It also seems like most ladies on here still have v regular cycles except me. It makes me think my reproductive system is winding down too much now:(

@Cleozeta how are you hun?

@Letsdothis42.. i'm ok i think(!?) Thanks for asking. Still hanging on in there but decided to stop actively ttc and just trying to come to terms with that. I know i shouldn't be on here really but like others i just find it so hard to leave altogether. We've all come a long way, haven't we? I'm having peri symptoms now too so my time is up

@Karigan195 gorgeous baby! Many congratulations!
@eloisa246 how are you getting on?
@KCM99 how are you getting on with Clomid? Have you finished it this cycle?
How's everyone else doing?

AFM, bleeding after MC stopped this weekend but had some fresh blood yesterday afternoon but not much. And today had a follow up appointment at EPU. Sick of that place. Anyway, had a scan and my lining is back to normal size. Took urine pregnancy test and it was still positive. No surprises there. They also took HCG and full blood count tests. HCG is 233. FBC is all normal, iron levels etc so asked to come back for repeat HCG next Wednesday. Not sure why they want me every week for that. My fertility doc wanted first HCG 3 weeks after MC, and only then it was around 15-30. I'm sure it will still be high when I go next week. And believe I'm sick and tired of that place

In the meantime, our donor more likely to start IVF stimulations end of next week.

Hi ladies ! Just caught up a bit!

@Karigan195 omg beautiful! Well done you glad all turned out ok for you!

@BooseysMom how your ok, I wasn’t sure if you were still on here. Glad you are !

@Letsdothis42 hey girl don’t give up! We had two failed ivf rounds this year. We were due for our third TIA appointment today to start our next and final round, for not to find out I was pregnant on Friday 🤣🤣🤣🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️. Honestly I’ve been canning it ! Drinking, smoking on holiday at the end of July . A massive blow out after the first half of the year being so good ! 😬😬

@littlemimosa I’m 41, but had low AMH then they found some irregularities when my eggs fertilised. Periods were still regular but we went straight IVF due to low AMH. Pretty big surprise to find out I was pregnant exactly a year to the day after we started trying !

@littlemimosa I didn't have peri symptoms. My cycle was still very regular but had become much shorter (24 days rather than 28, often a day here or there out but nothing 'irregular'). Periods were increasingly light but they have never been heavy. Everything seemed pretty normal hormonally. Sorry not to be more helpful.

Was thrilled to read about the BFPs!

@russkispy I think they have obligation to to prevent infection etc in case of retained products. Yours is still fairly high. Mine took a long time to go down after my tfmr at 13.5 weeks. About 3 months and I was in and out doing bloody hcg tests!

Hope you're doing okay as you can be mentally. Sending my thoughts to you.

@rubyroot thank you. He said I don't have any retained products but still wants to see me for repeat HCG and that's fair enough. This is different to when I had d&c as there wasn't any follow ups. I'm doing fine otherwise. And how are things with you?