Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...4!

[SparrowSG]

Here's our new thread (sorry, not good at coming up with exciting titles!!)

SparrowSG: 44. 1 DS 2.5. TTC for ever! 1 ectopic 10 wks Feb 2014, 1 successful IVF 2016, 1 failed IVF 2018, 1 MC 12 wks Feb 2019. Planned IVF Oct 2019.
KCM99: 43, 2 DC, ttc no.3 since April. 3 early losses since then.

@Russkispy that's wonderful! You got to see the heartbeat! All seems well. I am sure if the yolk sac was a big concern they would have said. They probably just want you back to make sure all is proceeding ok. You'll probably get lots more scans now. That happened with me before with my last baby (enlarged ventricles).

I got the all clear - wasn't a molar! It's fine for me to ttc now.

@KristieP2018 found her on YouTube and Instagram! Thank you!
@KCM99 I can't worry about every single thing! I haven't googled anything about that matter nor will i do it now. I'll just go with the flow. Nothing else I can do! I've already been doing a lot for it to happen! And brown discharge/bleed returned pretty much after the scan. Think it's because of his poking during the scan. The sonographer told me the body is either absorbing or shedding it and in my case is shedding hence this brown discharge. And they're not concerned. I can live with that

Good news about the heartbeat @Russkispy..

Great news
@Russkispy

I think AF is on the way for me terrible cramping this morning and had a tiny bit of spotting 2 days ago which is odd because that's a good week before I'm due

Onwards and upwards for August though. That's my last chance as I said I'd try until the end of the summer and otherwise give up.☹️

Good news @Russkispy fingers and toes crossed that everything is progressing wonderfully at the next scan. You definitely have the right approach and mindset xx

Well I am pg again. Praying this is it. Previous 3 were chemicals. 4th time lucky?!

Congrats @KCM99 - did you just find out? Fingers crossed this is it for you!

@Icecreamalldaylong thank you! Yes just found out today at 11dpo. Had a D&C 5th July for suspected molar (got the all clear)

Oh you poor thing, what lovely news for you. Stay positive and enjoy it.

Hi everyone, i haven't posted here for a while but still check from time to time. I wanted to say what lovely news @Catconfusion. Congratulations
Also congratulations to @KCM99
And great to hear your news @Russikpy.

@Constance1234.. i think you are brave to make that decision. We have cone to terms with it now too. I have to admit it took years but i truly don't want to spend all this time thinking of what we can't have but focussing on what we do have. I wish you all the best xx

Funny how my phone still recognises most of your names on this thread..see, it was meant to be that i stay here a while longer! I hope everyone gets their BFPs or finds peace in the decisions made

Thank you @BooseysMom that means a lot. Also congrats @KCM99

I listened to a podcast where a lady was talking about coming to terms with it not happening for her. She said the saddest thing was realising she'd missed out on so much life through ttc and pregnancy loss. It felt like she was in a cycle of disappointment and let down then trying to get back to who she was before she started trying. The truth was she would never be that person again and what she needed to do was come to terms with who she is now. It really struck a cord with me because I felt I was desperately trying to lose weight and get back to how it was before my mmc and mc yet there was so much resistance. It was actually when I started accepting where I am now my mental health improved and I am extremely grateful that I then got my bfp. That aside I honestly think accepting the trauma and being open to the future, whatever it brings really helped. I appreciate it's not easy though and we've all been through our own version of this hell.

mstheword.libsyn.com/

I think it's episode 5 if anyone is interested. I'm just generally enjoying this podcast as it's very real and relatable.

Xx

@BooseysMom I told you...you can't leave us!

Feeling quite crap at the moment. Still waiting on ovulation. So incredibly nauseated and heavy feeling in my pelvic area last two days. Miserable.

Hope everyone else has a good Friday xx

@KCM99 tentative congratulations! Hope it all goes well!
@KristieP2018 Not sure if you've seen the update from the rainbow mumma but she went for her scan today and no heartbeat anymore. Very sad. And that's her 7th miscarriage

@Russkispy I saw this morning. Just shattered for her. I've sent her a few messages on Instagram. Just so heartbreaking

@KristieP2018 it is, especially all those miscarriages back to back. I contacted her directly from the other day as wanted to share my story with enlarged yolk sac and what that all means! And I'd be lying if I said I wasn't concerned about it. I know we're all different and our TTC journeys are different and so on but I'm just hoping and praying this is my rainbow 🌈

@Russkispy I know it's hard not to worry. We'll just keep all being positive for you Praying it's your rainbow xx

@KristieP2018 really appreciate it! Nobody knows IRL. Just you ladies and a couple of other threads. This journey is proving to be harder and harder by a minute. Big sigh

Congrats @KCM99!!

I'm having some very odd symptoms which are making me think. I had a tiny amount of blood the other day ( a week before AF) but I have had spotting once before so don't think it's implantation bleeding

Then today and yesterday I've felt really sick in the mornings and faint and hungry. Today I had to sit down on the loo after coming out of the shower as I thought I might pass out!

AF due next Wednesday.

I am not going to test because I don't want to be disappointed! Especially as after next month I've decided to give up so this is my last 2 chances!

Good luck everyone

Thanks all but it's another biochemical pregnancy and this one should be all over very soon. I prefer the short ones than the ones that just drag on and on where hcg doesn't double quick enough but just enough for you to stay 'pg' (if you can call it that).

Frickin roller coaster. Feeling down today.

But happy for you hmmmm - good luck!

Hope you are ok Russ. I'm sure hearing about that other lady has you worried now but your baby will hopefully be absolutely fine.

I'm miscarrying as I'm typing this. Started with a dull pain in my back earlier on. Came home and bleeding started. Red. With clots. Very bad back pain. No cramps. It was too good to be true, this natural conception. I've never miscarried naturally. Don't even know what to expect and scared of it 😢😢😢 thank you for all your support!

@Russkispy I'm so sorry to hear your news

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So gutted for you. Sending hugs

@hmmm123 thank you!
Our EPU is closed tomorrow but open on Sunday. I'll go there then! I'm in bed and feeling ok. Millions of thoughts are going through my head right now and I don't even ask why this is happening to me. I'm 43 and perhaps my eggs are not good after all. And when we went through IVF in March and tested our embryo, it came back with trisomy in 18. Maybe that was a sign then. And maybe I should have gone for donor egg right there and then last month but it's too late to even mention it. At least we can say, we tried absolutely everything and anything now and even fell pregnant naturally. And it didn't work. And that's the way it is. Fair enough. And we won't try Naturally again. Donor egg is not an answer to all but believe it gives more chances. For now I need to go though this, get all my energy back, stay positive and on track and I WILL have my rainbow in the end

@Russkispy so sad to hear your news, your strength is amazing. There is, as you say, no point in looking back - you did the right thing at the right time for you. It really tests us though.

Ooh @Russkispy sending big hugs..,, rest up.... and try to be gentle with yourself 💕💕💕💕
Sending lots of love to all you amazing ladies 💕

@Russkispy - I'm so sorry to read this, my heart is breaking for you. Take care of yourself XXX

@KCM99 - sorry to hear it's another CP - that's rough.