Sperm Meets Egg (hopefully)

[AllHopeAndNoResults]

Hi guys,

I’ve done a few threads on here for ttc but this month I am in a new positive state of mind and I am determined to get that BFP!!

I’ve been to the GP today who said my bloods have come back fine for hormones etc and just that I am very low on vit d (which I knew from last check up and have been taking vitamin tabs twice a day) anyway....

She has said there is nothing to suggest any infertility or that I’m not ovulating and that perhaps I am ovulating and not timing it. I was convinced at this appointment I would be prescribed chlomid, but no she said that I just need to come back in 2 months with a new blood test and see from there...

I came away disheartened and a little bit like I’d given up until I thought hold on she said there was no reason to suggest in infertile or have a problem therefore I am fertile and need to work harder! So I got online ordered loads of OPKs, preseed and a basal thermometer.

I also downloaded Sperm Meets Egg and I am determined this month to follow rule by rule. Sorry that was very long! But I am due AF any minute so will be tracking from about day 8 anybody want to do the journey with me??

Again sorry for how long that was!!

@AllHopeAndNoResults also according to natural cycles I'm due to have AF next Thursday and going to Paris on Friday so if it doesn't come then I'll definitely take some tests with me. This has been one of my shortest cycles but I'm so glad I managed to catch my ovulation otherwise I would have been so mad

@tinyole @AllHopeAndNoResults thanks for the welcome! So long story short I'm 39 partner 41. I'm ttc first child and he's got 2 from previous but they're 13 and 10 so a while ago. Didn't ovulate for ages but body started to slowly kick back in. Docs advised to try Smep of my own and opk and basal thermometer to determine ovulation. I'm averaging 31 days so I think I ovulate around day 18. Opk usually says positive around CD15/16
Had tests at hospital. Consultant says I seem fine but wants to flush my tubes to ensure no blockage. DH sperm analysis was slightly low percent howbwe speed count was HUGE so they're not worried. Only issue now is he's been prescribed medication for anxiety which reduces sperm count and motility of it so it may not even reach the egg. Been advised SMEP days 12/14/16/18 so that's where I'm up to..........

@tinyole @AllHopeAndNoResults only issue is we won't know if medication is actually affecting it so it's a trial and error and then if no success it's ivf or icsi. Sometimes feels like a chore though Smep

@AllHopeAndNoResults Yeah we’re on every other day until ovulation now! Hahaha the vision 🤣 it won’t fly away though, I promise!

@AllHopeAndNoResults sounds like you have a good plan of attack. It'll feel very proactive to get started! As for ac maybe start on lower dose, could always increase next month?

@tinyole that would be very romantic to get BFP in Paris! I just hope your trip wouldn't be on a downer if you got different result on a test.

@dobzyj welcome, this is the place for smep! I wasn't intending to do smep this month but looking back at the cycle I've DTD almost as often as it suggests!

@Skyla01 in this heat it's a nightmare lol! I've also been told today by a doctor that in this heat a guys sperm could be sterile in the testis cause they get too hot. They need to keep them cool and take the pants off at night he said. Are you starting as early as day 8? I don't ovulate til CD 18. What's your cycle?

@dobzyj I have longer cycles. I didn't ovulate until cd26. I DTD every 3rd day from cd10, then every 2nd day from cd16 until positive opk.

Good advice girls but I think because I have low progesterone the high dosage might be useful. I’ll use up this lot and if it doesn’t do any help I’ll go for the lower. I didn’t think about it doing damage tbh so I should really think about that.

@dobzyj the dr advised SMEP? That’s hopeful I think the more you track etc the more it feels like you’re in control as @Skyla01 said previously.

@tinyole it really would be romantic for it to happen in Paris. I’m really praying for you!

@Makingawish let’s hope it doesn’t 😂😂 I’ll let you know how I get on tomorrow

Thanks ladies I would love to get a BFP while in Paris I'm definitely praying for that.

@dobzyj how are you finding SMEP and temping? Are you using any apps? Great thing that your DPs sperme are fast swimmers! As @AllHopeAndNoResults said it's really encouraging of your doctor recommended it!

@AllHopeAndNoResults I decided to order some AC today, should arrive tomorrow. Went for it because if my charts are right then I might have luteal phase defects and might need some extra progesterone too. Seems like I'm having a period every 3 weeks. I ordered the 400mg and I'm going to start taking it as soon as it arrives until I get a BFP or AF shows it's ugly face. Hopefully it works it's magic for both of us!

@Skyla01 @VenusStarr how are you getting on this week? I'm already symptom spotting as stupid as I know it is 🙈🙈

@AllHopeAndNoResults @tinyole the consultant at the hospital advised Smep but I'm a shorter basis. My ovulation is CD 18 approx so I need to start DTD at CD12 then 14/16 and 18 to catch the meet.
Just need to get the DP on board as he feels it's too regemented and wants it to be more natural but he doesn't seem to understand that you only ovulate once and that unfortunately it ain't going to give you a BFP any other time in the cycle. I usually do an opk on day 14 onwards as I'm ore guaranteed a high result followed by peak without having to do it too many days. I only worked out my ovulation day by doing temp as it rose and stayed high at the same point after CD 18 every month for the last 4 months. So now I know when it is approx I can start DTD ready for that day.
How long have you all been TTC?

@Skyla01 do you use an app? I use Ovia. What opk do you use and so you do temps?

@dobzyj this is my 3rd cycle, since I stopped pill in March but cycles have been long / irregular but they seem to be settling down. I use Flo to record everything, it's very useful for me although can't predict stuff yet as my cycles aren't regular. I don't temp, used cb digital for first time this month. Got peak fertility a few days ago around cd25. Now in the TWW!

It's a shame your OH isn't to keen on smep. Hopefully if you explain the benefits he'll come round. Ttc isn't always easy, a plan like smep helps you maximise chances each cycle.

@tinyole I'm not much of a symptom spotter! I've had some cramps and sore nipples the last few days, I think I normally get that around ovulation. I'm only 2dpo just now. How about you?

@tinyole are you having any symptoms? This is why the symptoms diary is a good idea 😂 so you went for AC? I really do think it will help you, something about it is making me feel so good about it, although now I’m worried my dosage is too high 🤔 I’ve read of loads of people taking 1000 and getting BFP so should be ok. Let us know how it all goes down in Paris hopefully you won’t need AC

@dobzyj it is a shame your partner isn’t on board, I understand him though as it does feel very strict. Perhaps you could liven the nights up with something special? You know what men are like he will forget the days if you don’t remind him 😂

@Makingawish we used preseed last night and DP did it for me 😂 he was so good he was like a professional 😂 I said to him after did it feel different he said it felt nice 🤨 I was like oh so I don’t feel nice usually 😂😂 but no he meant it wasn’t that much of a difference so we can keep using it. I think we used up until 3? It’s weird how they work out the measuring and oh the palava trying to get it Into the syringe 😂

@AllHopeAndNoResults Yay!! I’m glad it worked well 🤗 the syringe is a palavar isn’t it?! It took me a few minutes to understand it! My DH says that it does feel quite natural too which is good.

@Makingawish I can see it being used because I didn’t notice it but I did have it in my head about feeling like you was weeing so I was regularly checking it hadn’t leaked 😂 it was so unromantic to begin with lol. Are you on a dtd day? I told DP it’s all go from here 😂

@AllHopeAndNoResults I might have felt it because I went from standing up to lying down so maybe gravity moved it a bit. Yeah we’re on a DTD day today! CD10 for me today and still a blank circle on CB test so that best change ASAP.

@Makingawish tbh I’ve decided to not really follow with opk I think of you’re dtd every other day anyway you’re bound to hit it if you are ovulating. Plus all the extras that we are all doing to ensure we have better chances, am I being naive? Lol

@Makingawish do you know when in the cycle you normally ovulate? I used cb for the first time this cycle. Starting testing early because I have long cycles but didn't want to miss anything. Got flashing smiley on day 2 but then I think it was 9 days until I got static! Keep going with it and hopefully you'll get a smiley soon. I think sometimes it can go straight to a static too.

@Skyla01 usually around day 14 I think but that’s reassuring that it can go straight to static 🤞

@AllHopeAndNoResults I know opk can be a bit of a faff, but if you have irregular cycles it might be nice to have an idea of when you ovulate. Hopefully the opk can help with that. Last cycle for me was 44 days, I went a bit mad wondering if I was pregnant or just ovulated late- had no idea when to expect AF. This cycle I feel much better knowing when AF is due & therefore I'll know if I'm late/ good time to test.

@Skyla01 yeah I know what you mean, it would be great to actually pin point it.

Hey everyone. 5dpo today and feeling a bit crampy but that's wishful thinking I think!! It's far too early for anything meaningful.

I'm not hopeful this cycle after my dream last night. It sounds a bit woo, but when I was pregnant I had a very vivid dream about our baby, before I knew I was pregnant. And then when I was miscarrying I had another that was very real about losing the baby. Almost like my subconscious is trying to tell me something. Anyway, I had a dream last night the I had a sudden, heavy bleed that arrived early. So not pinning my hopes on this being our month unfortunately. Hope I'm wrong though.

@VenusStarr I hope you’re wrong about your dream but they do seem a bit woo. Only time will tell, have you followed the plan this cycle? Fingers crossed for you

@VenusStarr oh dear, I hope that dream doesn't come true. Fingers crossed for you.