Sperm Meets Egg (hopefully)

[AllHopeAndNoResults]

Hi guys,

I’ve done a few threads on here for ttc but this month I am in a new positive state of mind and I am determined to get that BFP!!

I’ve been to the GP today who said my bloods have come back fine for hormones etc and just that I am very low on vit d (which I knew from last check up and have been taking vitamin tabs twice a day) anyway....

She has said there is nothing to suggest any infertility or that I’m not ovulating and that perhaps I am ovulating and not timing it. I was convinced at this appointment I would be prescribed chlomid, but no she said that I just need to come back in 2 months with a new blood test and see from there...

I came away disheartened and a little bit like I’d given up until I thought hold on she said there was no reason to suggest in infertile or have a problem therefore I am fertile and need to work harder! So I got online ordered loads of OPKs, preseed and a basal thermometer.

I also downloaded Sperm Meets Egg and I am determined this month to follow rule by rule. Sorry that was very long! But I am due AF any minute so will be tracking from about day 8 anybody want to do the journey with me??

Again sorry for how long that was!!

www.whitelotusclinic.ca/blog/dr-fiona-nd/alternative-to-clomid/

Thought this might be worth a read

@AllHopeAndNoResults I think I’ll get home from work and throw the windows open/put all the fans on and hope by about 9pm it’s a bit more manageable 😰 we had a storm too but about 2.30am 😴

@Makingawish it's been a bit sweaty!

@AllHopeAndNoResults good luck to starting with Agnus castus next cycle. What cycle day are you on now? If you want to know of ovulation has happened I think temping is the easiest way to do that. It's hard to know otherwise, I wouldn't get your hopes dashed unnecessarily. You could be ovulating fine.

@Makingawish I think it does get a lot cooler after 8pm

@Skyla01 thank you. I’m Day 7 which Is so bloody surprising to me that AF finished so quickly! I think I will be temping but it will take me a while to get used to my regular temp. When do you check? In the morning when you wake up? I really hope I am ovulating. It’s weird how much I know now, the last fews months any time I dtd I was hoping I got pregnant, now after dtd last night I know it was way too early and no way I would have

@AllHopeAndNoResults I haven't temped myself. I think you have to be strict and measure early at the same time each morning? It might be useful for you to help confirm ovulation. There is a temperature change after ovulation that can confirm it has happened. Whilst opk tell you the LH surge has happened, it doesn't guarantee you then ovulate.

They say after a while the sperm get stale, so it's good to get them moving early in the cycle so new & stronger sperm are ready to go by ovulation. That's what I think anyway!

@Skyla01 so it’s when your temp rises you’re meant to ovulate? Hmm don’t know if I can be bothered to faff around and I think it’s one more thing added to an already strict regime for baby making. I don’t know if I have any more energy in me 😭😭

@Skyla01 it sounds like I’ve never temped 😂 I have just sporadically and never invested too much into it which is probably where I went wrong tbh

@AllHopeAndNoResults I don't know the ins and outs of it at all! I think it is very faffy but if you stick with it can give you lots of accurate info. I'm not a good sleeper so I don't think it would work for me, if you wake up a lot of will raise your temp artificially. That's why the ava thing is appealing, it measures temp for you.

@Skyla01 it’s all getting on my nerves now tbh. I’ve been using the OPKs and every single one of them comes up invalid! Grrr! I might just get the Ava but it’s so expensive isn’t it? Or am I looking at the wrong one?

I found temping really stressful @AllHopeAndNoResults. I'm only doing it this cycle because my reflexologist asked me to. I think it's good to confirm ovulation and to work out your luteal phase. I am now worried in the tww that I will be analysing every day wondering what it might mean (nothing, it means nothing until af is late and your temps are still up!)

It is faffy though, you have to wake at the same time and literally not move / Talk / get up for a wee until you've measured it. And you need to have slept for 3 hours. I find that when I temp I become more aware so I wonder if I don't sleep as deeply as normal. I'd recommend for a cycle or two to get to know your cycle but not sure of the benefit long term. Although my cycle is regular so perhaps with a longer / irregular cycle it's handy. But you can't generally predict ovulation, you'll only know you've ovulated after the event.

Hope that's helped!

Hope everyone is OK today. Finally feel a bit cooler x

@AllHopeAndNoResults are you using the cheap opk sticks? I haven't used them myself. How do you know if they are invalid? I think ava is fine if you want to spend the money. But it would be much cheaper just up have lots of sex, and probably the same chance of conceiving.

@VenusStarr how many days post ov are you?

I think 2 days, but fertility friend says 3 dpo @Skyla01... Its going go be a long 2 weeks!

Tbh girlies I think I’m writing this month off. I am going to do the plan and the AC but I think I’m pinning my hopes on it all so much that I need to just chill for a bit lol.

So are you guys in the TWW already? I never really like saying that because the whole month is a bloody wait isn’t it? Especially when you know exactly how many times you dtd 😂

@Skyla01 yes the cheapies. There is only one line and it’s the control line. I’ve heard good things about them so was sure....

If it’s negative then it will still have 2 lines just very faint, but mine have 1 and all the times I’ve used it has only 1 and on the packet it says if that’s the result it’s invalid. Surely that can’t all be. There’s 30 in the pack!

@AllHopeAndNoResults do you have the PreMom app? You can upload pictures of your OPK’s to that and it gives you a score based on how strong the control/test line ratio is. You might find that you never get what they deem a testbook positive but it helps figure out YOUR peak because not everybody is the same 😊

@OP maybe they are negative and a line will start to appear as the results get more positive? Haven't used them though myself. Would be weird for them to all be duds.

I would give it a good shot this month- you have every chance! But if you don't succeed you'll have reinforcements for next cycle. Try not to stress to much.

Yeah I will be 1dpo tomorrow. At least tww us shorter than the 3.5 week wait I have for ovulation!

Hi ladies hope you've all had a good day!
@AllHopeAndNoResults no luck regulating for me unfortunately. I think ive ovulated but I'll know for sure tomorrow. Fingers crossed we've done enough. Ava is saying in ovulating in Friday but I had very positive opk tests this weekend. It's too bad you can't put this info on Ava as that would be helpful.

I found the cheapie opks good enough but I've read mixed reviews about them. Where did you get yours from? I bought a pack of 50 from amazon (where I get everything from 😂😂)

I've been using Prénom app and found it really good actually to be able to grade opk tests. I've attached a picture of my tests and cycle from it so you see the kind of information you get.

Temping is annoying, especially for me since alcohol makes my temp spike like crazy but I'm still doing it as well as using Ava because it's giving more accurate info at the moment. I know Ava can take some time to get to know you. I tend to just do it whenever I wake up, even if it's in the middle of the night and I need to pee.

DH and I will keep DTD until Friday just in case Ava is right.

Has your AC arrived yet? Do you have any idea when you normally ovulate? I would continue with the tests, you might not have hit your surge yet. Also what time are you taking them? I have to sneak at lunchtime at work to do them which can be awkward 😂😂

@Skyla01 I think I'm 1DPO too so we can countdown together. I'm trying not to test until at least 9DPO, last month I started a 6DPO and burnt through so many tests as well as drove myself mad 🙈🙈

@tinyole that app looks really good! If I use ic opk in future i will get the app to go with it. It can be useful to have a record too, you could compare with past months. It's useful you'll have the temping info to confirm ovulation. Looks like we'll be in the TWW together! My AF is due 8th August which is when OH and I are off for long weekend. My plan is to not pack a test and leave it until I'm home. Easier said than done...! Although my last two AFs have come bang on 14dpo so I think that AF will act as a negative test if she shows up.

@AllHopeAndNoResults maybe have a look at getting the app for help with your opk?

Morning,

I’ve downloaded the Premom app and I’ll use that now thanks for the recommendation! Maybe I’m not waiting long enough for them to develop? I think I’m using them as though they are pregnancy tests and not seeing a line develop so throwing them 😂 I’m waiting until day 10 which is Saturday as the SMEP said for long irregular cycles opk from day 10.

I hope you’re cycle isn’t messing you around this month @tinyole it’s reallt not something you want to head into the TWW with. It’s like our bodies know and do it on purpose. Sometimes my mind is so detached from my body I treat it like a second being sometimes 😂😂

I did get my cheapies from amazon which I also buy everything from maybe I’m just not doing it right. AC will fingers crossed be here tomorrow so I’m keen to get started with that I won’t touch the preseed until it comes as I’ve got it in my head it won’t work unless both used together!!

@Skyla01 I’m just like you the other day when you said you needed to give your head a wobble. I was even talking to DP about names and gender reveals yesterday 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ Not for us to make a big thing but a private one for ds, and then dp was trying to rearrange our bedroom and calmly kept saying things like ‘well if we move the bed here then the cot for the baby is away from the windows’

I’m honestly letting this take over my life BUT I’m a strong believer in, what you say to the universe then it shall deliver. Maybe if I talk about it enough it will happen 😂😂😂 it’s kind of how my how life has operated so far to be fair lol.

Enough about me and my bloody long posts 🙄 what’s the mood all round? Are we all still feeling positive? I really hope we one by one get the BFPs as you’ve all been so dedicated and worked so hard for it ❤️

Morning! FF has removed my solid crosshairs because I am still getting fertile cm, although my temps look like I have ovulated. I do recall having ewcm around cd14/15 on the cycle we conceived but I doubt that means anything. It's apparently to do with an oestrogen surge. I think I'm only 3dpo but FF has af due on Sunday 4, but usually it would be 6 August. We have dh's godson's christening on the Sunday, really hoping that all our hard work pays off! 🤞

We're in the tww together @Skyla01 @tinyole

Hope you start to see some progress on your opks @AllHopeAndNoResults :)

@VenusStarr I’m so excited for you guys, even if this TWW isn’t what you hope it will be you have 100% upped the game to keep track for the following cycle which of course heightens your chances. You’re doing everything you can to get that BFP.

It’s also really lovely you can go through it together for support.

Thank you for that, I’m not putting everything on the OPKs but I do feel I am wiser and more clued up then the last few months. I hope if you guys get a BFP you will come back and let us know as I’m so invested into you ladies now 😂😂

The summer is among us and it’s a good all round vibe let’s start sprinkling baby dust ✨

@Makingawish how are you feeling and getting on?

@AllHopeAndNoResults I'm only on cycle 3 but already feel more clued up and in control, like you. It takes time to get to know your body and cycles. As you're still early on in your lots if time to get used to opk before they'll be positive. DP and I sometimes have a chat about future baby but tbh I feel like we'd be jinxing ourselves. I don't like to think about it too much until we're actually pregnant. I use it as a way to avoid extra disappointment when AF shows.

@VenusStarr good luck to us in the TWW. Aww that's lovely your OH has a godson. I'm sure there'll be lots if baby dust at the christening...!

@AllHopeAndNoResults all good so far! Started day 1 of the plan last night with preseed and actually feel quite positive this month! Have you used it yet? How much did you end up using? We used about 2.5g but think it may have been too much. Felt like I was weeing 😂🙈