CP last month, hopes too high this month

[Jeds55]

Hi all,
Feel I'm just setting myself up for failure here...had a BFP quite unexpectedly last cycle (only dtd once and took ages for first bfp and bfp for my daughter I always thought was assisted by hsg). Unfortunately was a CP - accepted this pretty early on and glad it ended early if something was wrong.
My issue is this month I am convinced I'm going to get pregnant. The rumours of increased fertility after a CP and about 1000X the usual amount of ewcm, coupled with dtd 2 days before and suspected day of ovulation has me convinced.
I'm normally a realist and expected I was in ttc number 2 for the long haul (first bfp took almost a year then mmc, 2 d&c, investigations into scarring, also I'm 37) but can't shake this feeling. Someone please talk me down or at least tell me you've been there!? I know I'm going to feel extra crap when (if) AF arrives.

Omg. I could have written this exact post myself. Had a cp last month after dtd once. Unexpected BFP and this month I have such high hopes. I'm 10dpo and BFN this morning. AF due Sunday and I know I'm probably out now, and it feels even shitter this month than all the other months.

I also feel I'm running out of time. I'm 41 this year and it's all a bit last chance saloon.

@Whyhaveidonethis sorry for your CP and that you're also having to manage high expectations this month, ttc truly does mess with our minds.
I'm only about 7 or 8dpo so a bit behind you, told myself I wouldn't test early this month but seems to be dragging so much. At 10dpo there's still a chance the result could change for you, I really hope it does, but know how much of a rollercoaster it is. I normally try to protect myself by convincing myself I'm out but this month as I said have gone mental!

Hi both, sorry to hear about both of your Cp's.

The same here chemical last month and now I'm just about to ovulate but it's dragging already!

Really don't want to test early and have the same heartbreak but I'm not sure I have the will power not to

Hope you don't mind me joining I had a Cp nearly two weeks ago. I didn't really know what it was been trying a year and a half. Never been pregnant before. I'm 36 we were absolutely heartbroken my own stupid fault for getting excited. Now I would normal ovulated around now and the Opk are negative. Sick of people saying this month will mean another BFP cause I know I'm going to be more upset than normal if it's not. I have my fingers crossed for you all.

@Ladybug82 sorry to hear about your company. Sounds like the same time as mine (about 2 weeks ago)
🤞🏻 for you.
Last month I got my positive opk on cd 12 and yesterday they were slightly there but lighter than the day before so I thought it wasn't going to happen at all or maybe later. This evening I got my positive opk. It can do weird things to your cycle but it can also be a normal just slightly delayed one. 🤞🏻 for you
I'm hoping this month is luck after last month, I suppose the silver lining is I know it can happen just hoping one sticks soon!

@Abi58 fingers crossed for you too. I hope it's just going to be a late ovulation. I completely agree our sliver lining we can all get pregnant. I had just been referred to fertility clinic so maybe don't need that just yet there is still hope.

@Ladybug82 and @Abi58 sorry to hear about your CPs too.
@Abi58, I remember your thread about your lines not getting darker and so wanted your experience to be different.
@Ladybug82 ovulation was delayed by a day or two only for me
Hope it all works out for everyone soon

Sorry to hear this. 😢 I had a CP last month too and it is so, so hard not to get hopes up this month. Particularly with all the anecdotal stuff you read about being extra fertile straight after.

Fingers crossed for us all. If anything, at least we're not alone this month.

@Ladybug82 🤞🏻any luck with opks? Looks like I got my positive opk last night (and another this morning! So that's about a day and a half later than last month - and I started bleeding sat night and counted that as cd 1 so could even be technically 2.5 days later. Everyone is different though.

@Jeds55 thank you me too! Trying to focus on the silver lining while not getting my hopes up too much.

@TryingVeryHard2015 sorry to hear about yours as well. Definitely harder as game so close and got excited especially with everything about being more fertile. I like that we've got each other, definitely need my hand holding this month.

OP sorry that you're in this situation, I have been in something similar. Had a mmc and was waiting for 6 weeks for af. Convinced myself I was pregnant but it got my last night :(.

Sorry to hear about your CPs 😢

I couldn't have written the original post myself.

I thought I had the vaguest bit of brown CM yesterday and was inconsolable for the same reason. DTD before and after peak opk and loads more ewcm so I was like "oh so I am super fertile it's bound to work"

Trying not to test incase it comes and goes again xxx

No luck with opks just yet I'm still trying though so glad we've got each other to go through this I was driving myself crazy. It's so hard and some people don't get it. My Partner has been amazing though it though.

Argh- stupid autocorrect.
I could have written the original post myself

Sorry @TryingVeryHard2015 @Chanel05 and @pinkoi to hear that you are in similar boat. It's truly crap.
I hear you @pinkoi about trying not to test early as even if there is a second line I know I won't be able to totally enjoy it. My friend got positive pregnancy test, did a digital to see in writing then tested no more, no major symptoms and waited until 12 week scan. I think unfortunately once you've experienced something going wrong you can never truly chill out again! The bfp just becomes the first in a long line of things to stress about.
That said where is everyone in their cycle? My app has my period due on Tues but by dates of major ewcm and positive ov test I'd guess it's more like Weds or Thurs. Really trying not to test until Tues at very earliest. If I get my usual pre af spotting I'll know I'm out before then anyway.
Going to enjoy a few drinks this weekend and tey forget about it

@Chanel05 @pinkoi sorry to hear you've both gone through this as well 🙁

@Ladybug82 let me know if you get a change with them. Yes me too!
Great that your partner has been so great! 😁

@Jeds55 yeah I don't think I'll be able to not worry now. I'm probably not going to say anything until it's a few days after af due this time don't want to get husbands hopes up! (Will tell him if doesn't work out but want me telling him to be a great happy and joyful experience without so much dread and worry)
Thankfully mine was recorded at drs (confirm pg and then confirmed not) so I'll probably ask for a blood test and hope they agree to stop me worrying.

That's good not long to wait! How are you feeling?

I have my positive opk last night and this morning so ovulating anytime in the next couple of days then due af anywhere 29th June-1st July according to apps and my calculations. Waiting for temp rise to confirm ov.

Enjoy your drinks! I'm going for cocktails tomorrow night as well 😁

If anybody is looking for a unpleasant dose of reality read on.....

After my cp/early miscarriage I was not to deterred as I had read all about the massive increase in fertility after a loss and was excitedly hoping for another bfp within the next couple of months! Nope, clearly didn't apply to me. Was over a year before I fell pregnant again (happily this one is going well at 22 weeks). Just thought I'd share this to help with managing your expectations.

Of course I hope I was very much the exception and that you all are pregnant soon but I wanted to share so that if it doesn't happen straight away for some of you that you don't feel like you have failed😘

@Abi58 am so crap at keeping secrets, not sure I could do that! It may be an idea tho, why both stress before we have to...
Time to dtd for you then, good timing being the weekend. I'm feeling ok ta, madly hopeful but trying to be realistic...@MrFlibblesEyes thank you, your post is helpful, all you read about is women who got pregnant straight away it helps to hear it from the other side. Congratulations to you, glad things worked out the next time round (eventually!)

Thank you @MrFlibblesEyes for letting us know the other side. This is the reason we are keeping our fertility appointment in case it's another year and a half. Or in case there is some problems. So glad you got your happy ending huge congratulations to you

How's everyone doing. I got a smiley face today so I'm in a happy mood for once. Feel like finally some normality is back and can be positive again thank god im ovulating I didn't think I was going to.

Good news @Ladybug82 I remember feeling the relief too that body getting back to normal.

Wasn't going to test until Tues at earliest, think af due Weds or Thurs, but hadn't had pre af spotting so did and got this.
I'm not allowing myself to get excited about it as looks exactly like mine last month, no other symptoms apart from bit of bloating but get IBS anyway. Will test tomorrow with fmu and compare. If it goes wrong again I'll book to see GP as didn't report last months.

@Jeds55 keeping my fingers crossed for you it will hopefully get darker as the days go on. Remember your hcg hormones double every 48hrs. Keep us posted xxx

Thank you, will do xxx

@Jeds55 🤞🏻 crossed for you! Dr did tell me (2 diff drs) that it doesn't mean good or bad with the strength of line, how try I don't know but they both said it. Try not to worry as stress won't do you any good try and relax (hard I know) look after yourself and go to the dr if you are worried and they can do a blood test to check levels 🤞🏻 for you