TTC First Baby Thread 18 Already!

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@MrsEG thats really amazing! Your company clearly have a good ethos when it comes to the work life balance, I actually feel I have been more productive today than I usually am and not having the 1.5 hour commute this morning was just fab!

@FlapJackered hahaha I know, at least she's come today so will hopefully have a few AF free days on holiday, at least I know i can fully indulge in all the cured meats sea food and cocktails!! Good luck for Friday 🤞🏻

Hi ladies hope everyone is doing good. Wish I could work from home then I'd have stuff to keep me occupied while I'm signed off but wouldn't have to go into work!

Definitely found out who are good friends sort of surprised at some who have dropped me.

Think I'll make sure dinner is prepped for when DH gets home.

Xx

@ValidUser @LokiCat @MrsEG @FlapJackered @ELW85 no idea what DPO I am, I'm CD35 though.. stupidly used my FRER, BFN as expected but more CM this morning. Honestly don't know what's going on, I hate being in limbo 😩

@FlapJackered implantation pains maybe? X

Sorry AF arrived @Lozzlepop xxx

@Meenabeena eid Mubarak x

@MrsH497 I'm sorry, that's shit - but I'm glad you have your real friends there to support you xxx

@FlapJackered I’ve no idea what the sharp stabbing pains might be but I’m keeping my FX that it is a good sign for you!!!

@Lozzlepop I work so well at home, whenever I need a good admin day I just stay home and get shit done!! No one coming to my desk bothering me all day, it’s bliss!!
Enjoy those cured meats and booze!!

@MrsH497 i’m So sorry to hear that. You know you always have all of us, and I sincerely mean that xx

Ladies I have a question about EWCM. I never usually really get it, and if I do it isn’t much at all. Hence why I’ve used Ava/OPKs, Preseed etc. Anyway last week I had EWCM on Thursday and a big glob of it on Friday. Because I don’t know much about it I assumed that meant I was ovulating those days. Me and DH have DTD Sunday and Monday but I’ve just seen a post saying EWCM is pre Ovulation - is this true?? I’m really panicking now and feel like we’ve been idiots. Really didn’t want to try before our fertility testing. Hopefully I’m panicking for nothing??

@cupcakesandglitter Oh Hun so sorry it was a BFN and you’re feeling I’m limbo about it all. That really sucks and I really feel for you. Maybe give it a few days and see what happens?

@MrsEG As I understand, EWCM is in the lead-up to ovulation and it typically dries up after ovulation. In taking charge of your fertility they say it's a really good indicator that you're fertile. Sorry that's not what you wanted to hear!!

@cupcakesandglitter sorry about BFN, they never get any easier.

@PaintingOwls yeah that sounds strange...no idea just didn't want to read and run!

@MrsEG Thankyou, I'm gonna wait again until next week, I don't have any FRERs left and I'm saving my digi for when I get a BFP! When I have EWCM I'll usually ovulate on the last day I have it, so if I were in your position I would've ovulated Friday/Saturday but it is different for everyone I believe. Don't worry about it, you have 24 hours after ov anyway to catch the egg xxxx

@purplefig @cupcakesandglitter Thanks both, gotten myself in to a right tizz this morning over it. We really didn’t want to get preggo this month but I was so sure i’d fallen in to a safe-zone!! I guess I’ll just make sure I tell the consultant on Thursday that me and DH have still been DTD. It’s so unlikely we’d catch anyway without even trying. Feel like a right royal dickhead this morning though!

Hi guys, had three days away from thread and missed a good couple hundred posts. Congratulations to any bfp's I may have missed. Hope u are all well.

Has anyone ever used Maca? I'm interested in it to increase progesterone.

@MrsEG don't beat yourself up - you've had a lot on your mind lately. Good idea to tell the consultant but as you say, probs not the highest chances of it happening this month anyway.

@orangeloo I have Maca in my morning 'fertility smoothie'. Haven't done much research tbh!

@MrsEG I agree with what @purplefig said, don't beat yourself up about it xxx

@cupcakesandglitter @purplefig Thanks ladies, I do feel a bit better now. So glad I have this thread and you guys to help talk me down from the ledge at times!!

@purplefig I've heard it's amazing at balancing hormones but also read stay away if your oestrogen dominant (which I could be?) as think my progesterone may be low. Think I'll try my vit c, magnesium and b vits and see if they help first. Why is everything ttc so confusing and conflicting!?

@MrsEG - I usually have ewcm in the few days leading up to ovulation :)

@orangeloo - I've not, but been taking extra B6 and B12 this cycle to try and boost progesterone too, for 2nd half of cycle... will let everyone know how that goes once I actually ovulate.

All my opk's were still negative yesterday, in fact extremely negative, no sign of any 2nd line at all. Still paranoid I missed it somehow, but we've been dtd every other day still anyway and will just keep testing.
Am also going to stop with the 50mg of B6 for now until beginning of next cycle. Think I read somewhere it was most useful pre-ovulation anyway? I do want to lengthen my luteal phase, but also want to actually ovulate sometime soon 😬 will see if stopping it will bring it on...

Don't really like messing around with my cycles like this as was quite regular and predictable before, so maybe I'll leave it til the rest of our tests/scans are done and know what's actually wrong before trying to fix other potential problems!

@FlapJackered thanks for sharing your acupuncture experience, the needle going in I'm ok with it's when they twizzle th damn things! Very alarming to forget a needle in your ear!! 😨

@orangeloo coincidentally I posted about this yesterday, I've read tons that say it's great for both male and female fertility so I'm going to start taking a teaspoon a day (don't need a lot). Also vitamin C for men is great too!

Love how many of you can WFH, wish I could do that, it'll help so much with the work life balance.

@MrsEG I agree with that EWCM is often pre ovulation (usually the day ir two before and is a good sign your fertile and body is ready) I don't know anything about fertility testing I'm afraid so no idea how DTD impacts that 😞

@Lozzlepop sorry about AF.

@cupcakesandglitter what a confusing cycle!

@ImMeantToBeWorking First Response should be available in the bigger pharmacies in Ireland. They're good!

My trigger positives are getting fainter!

Thanks @cupcakesandglitter and @MrsEG I'm glad I've got you ladies to talk to.
It's been surprising had some lovely messages from people I wouldn't have expected.

@MrsEG No problem at all! It's a great support network. And replying to other people is a great distraction from obsessing over my chart haha.

@orangeloo Oh right, yeah I really don't know! I'm just having one of these every day (minus the bee stuff) www.babble.com/pregnancy/fertility-smoothie-lori-bregman/ and feeling pretty good on it. Agree it's a world of confusion out there!

Thanks for the responses @purplefig @Kiza @starkid think I'll leave it for now and see how I get on with the vits. X

Very interested to hear about your acupuncture experience @FlapJackered as I'm definitely considering this for cycle regulation. I don't ovulate until day 16-19 and I spot. So once I've moved in my house and feel other stuff not working it's on my list to try. Keep us updated x

@purplefig @cupcakesandglitter I wish! I don't think so though it happens when I move and I don't think implantation pains would be this bad, and it only happens when I move 🤷🏼‍♀️ I have my normal nausea that I usually get when af is coming (didn't get any symptoms when I got my bfp) so trying not to get my hopes up.

@cupcakesandglitter I'm sorry lovely, limbo is the worst! Hopefully it's just too early and a bfp is winging its way to you!

@MrsEG I understand the worry but it sounds like you're safe there. Don't beat yourself up about it, it is easily done.
Have you temped before as maybe take your temp tomorrow morning and if it's similar to your normal post ov temps you are probably ok?

@ValidUser that's great they are almost gone, hopefully then they will start coming back again with a bfp for you!

@orangeloo I was very sceptical about it, as I don't really understand how it works! But I do believe that ovulating 5 days earlier was due to the acupuncture as I did nothing else differently. I just hope it gets me a bfp then I will be telling everyone about it!! 😂

@FlapJackered I did actually put my Ava back on for the first time last night just to get some data back on there before we start trying again so good idea, will see how that looks the next day or two!! I just can’t believe with the knowledge I reckon I now have on TTC (I swear I could write my own book) I manage to slip up over EWCM! I’m almost 100% certain we won’t have caught at all and I guess ‘worst’ case I’ll get pregnant but will at least be under a fertility consultant by then who can maybe help out if I need any medical intervention.

Your pains sound so strange? Keep an eye on them - if it gets quite painful maybe call your GP?

@purplefig Ha!! I was so obsessed with my Ava chart last month I literally couldn’t wait to wake up and sync the data - i’d feel so nervous waiting for it to load!! Honestly, the things we do. Just a few more days for you to wait!

@ValidUser Really hoping those tests start getting darker for you now this week!!

@starkid Great to hear from you! If you’ve been DTD every other day I think you’re absolutely fine :)

Thanks @MrsEG I will head to boots later. I know they say they work 5 days before missed period or whatever but I always wonder!! Sorry to hear about the 700 emails, just delete them all and claim you never got them!!

I am the oposite it is a slow day in work for me, boss in a meeting and I need him to come out so I can go through some bits with him before he heads off on holidays tomorrow. I will probably have a quite week in here!! Needed after the mental-ness of weekend last week!!

@ImMeantToBeWorking I personally think 5 days before your period is a real stretch and have only ever seen decent lines from 11-12DPO (and even then they’re quite faint!) - so I think if you can hold out til 13DPO as you say, you should be fine :)

I know - it’s so tempting to just hit delete all! Such a boring task (hence why I am all over MN this morning instead ha!!)

Good luck with your test x

Yes @FlapJackered I suppose that will be the real test haha.

Also ladies I watched a video on YouTube yesterday and the girl was talking about what they did differently when they got their bfp ( they had tried for 14 months!). She was talking about the 'position' she was in when they conceived and it was doggy. Missionary is prob the go to for ttc however she said she has been told before she has a tilted pelvis or cervix and now she thinks about it she's sure her two previous pregnancies were also conceived doggy and cant believe she didn't think of that before. Obviously not proven or will apply to everyone but definitely something to think about and thought it was worth sharing with you xx