TTC First Baby Thread 18 Already!

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@ELW85 has your DH/DP had a semen analysis yet? It was my gynaecologist who sorted ours, even before he saw me.

@ValidUser - he hasn’t actually, but it is really encouraging that they’re seeing us as a couple :)
DH has a child from his previous marriage, so in my head, I’m the blocker, but things change I guess.
We’re both quite pragmatic about things, so as long as we understand our scenario and options, we’ll be as positive as we can be I think.

I’m also like you and am a serial tester. Doing my OPKs this week to satiate the appetite 😂

Good plan @ELW85!

It's good to get seen together but soooooo frustrating to have your appointment changed too!

Still getting faint BFPs from the trigger, but they are fading.

@ValidUser ahhh I see! I'm holding out for 13dpo this cycle. In theory. . This is also my first month temping, so guess if AF is coming I'll be alerted by temp drop anyway.

@ELW85 oh that is annoying - but may be useful in the long run? How long have you guys been trying again?

I'm getting some very light cramping today and crossing all my fingers it's not AF as only 9dpo

@purplefig apparently high progesterone in the 2ww causes trapped wind. (May not be the case for you, but I was once convinced AF was coming early and it was just constipation.) 😳

Happy birthday @MrsEG - ice cream at the beach sounds wonderful!

Fingers crossed the cramping is a good sign @purplefig

@Purplefig - this is the thing, I’d told the lady on the phone that we didn’t need a fertility consultation as we hadn’t been trying for a year, but she said that it didn’t matter and they’d only see us together.

To be fair, I think they just need to gather histories and make sure we’re on the same page. It’s great that they have a consolidated approach too, as I guess these things are quite emotive so it’s nice to have both of you go through it together to balance each other out. Just need to get logged on nice and early on Friday to get a double appointment :)

Sorry, @ValidUser - I meant to include you in my response too, but agree, good to go together!
Is it next week you’ll be starting to test for reals? :)

@ELW85 next Monday I'll move from dipstick cheapies to pee on cheapies, and FRERs only if I see squinters!

@ValidUser - how exciting!! I’ll be sending you positive vibes throughout!

Thanking you @ELW85! ❤️

Hello all, popping up to say hello again. Final day of AF today, CD5 and feeling a little more optimistic - cycle 3 is going to be the magic number for us (maybe!) Catching up on the streams of messages but first off happy birthday @mrseg and oh my goodness congratulations @marleym28! Delighted for you

Lots of crying when AF arrived last Thursday and then on Friday we found out that DH's best friend and his wife are expecting. I'm frigging over the moon for them because this is their second round of IVF and they've been dealt a pretty shit hand with other factors of the years and while obviously we all deserve our BFPs for them I felt like it was super duper deserved. However, that put a bit of a dampner on our weekend as we were a bit sad for ourselves. I've been pretty crabby and DH has been too, we've kissed and made up though and had a nice weekend in the sun.

Just occurred to me while typing this that the day AF arrived ending cycle 1 a friend announced a pregnancy and then cycle 2 AF DH's best mate announced the day after! Our TTC seems to be making everyone more fertile... I wonder who we'll get announcing when AF appears this month? (Could it be us? [optimistic face!])

Day 38 and still no sign of AF even after an intense Gym Class which I thought may induce her arrival, starting to get frustrated now 🙁

@marleym28 - congratulations!! :)

I feel guilty as I'm so lax will keeping up on here anymore :(

But I had a question - has anyone else tried taking extra B6 during their cycle? I'm taking 50mg (along with the little extra in pregnacare) and wondering if it's delaying ovulation for me- has that happened for anyone else?

Having a look on Clue I usually get a positive opk around CD14-16, and am on cd16 and still negative. They were almost positive on Saturday, so even though I tested 3 times that afternoon/evening I wonder if I missed it, as it's gotten fainter since :-/

I'll test again at home around 6pm and 8.30pm and see what's happening, ans try not to drink anything else now... always fun and games eh!

@Dollywilde Glad you're feeling brighter, though I'm sorry to hear your weekend was impacted by the pregnancy news. I think if TTC has taught me anything (beyond patience hahaa) it's that two things can be true at once. You can be pleased for your friends who have struggled with IVF etc., but you can also be sad for yourself because it's what you want. I do think the TTC journey can sometimes make people feel a little jaded - I've seen threads where people have felt like other people haven't 'deserved' their BFPs etc - and I think that's when it becomes a problem/toxic.

@Lozzlepop Any sign of her at all? What has been your longest cycle before this? And do you know when you ovulated (as I think LP is rarely longer than 18 days)?

@starkid I don't have any experience but hoping you get your positive OPK soon, I bloody hate having to dehydrate myself!

@starkid great to hear from you! It is hard to keep up isn't it!
It's weird you say that as I was considering taking extra b6 next cycle. I know @KatBeCool has done research into this so might be able to share her wisdom?
If you have tested that much I doubt you have missed it. Are you temping too?

@Lozzlepop sorry af is being illusive. It's horrible being in limbo. I am sure she will turn up at the most annoying moment. Have you got any pms symptoms?

@FlapJackered - no, temping wouldn't work for me as often wake up for the loo an hour or two before my alarm, so wouldn't be accurate. I did try for a bit and was useless >.< I don't mind so long as my luteal phase gets a tiny bit longer/less spotting before AF, which is what I was aiming for...

@purplefig well that’s a difficult one, first cycle off BC was 33 days then second cycle I got my BFP on CD 28! I’m Currently 15DPO

@ FlapJackered I have some back pain and slightly sensitive nipples and that’s it 😒 just want to know if she’s coming or not as wanted here to have been and gone for the majority of the holiday which isn’t looking likely now 🤦🏽‍♀️

@Lozzlepop I hear you, mine have varied from 27 days to 36 days since coming off of BC which makes timing things a bit tricky! I do recall in Taking Charge of your Fertility the author said that by 18dpo of high temps you can be fairly sure you're pregnant. So provided you are on 15dpo, hopefully within the next 3 ish days you'll either get your period of BFP.

Hi ladies, just wanted to pop on to say Happy Birthday @MrsEG 🎂🎉😃

@Validuser, I will definitely be monitoring the thread to see your updates, got everything crossed for you!! Xxx

@FlapJackered just noticed I didn’t tag you correctly in the above post cos the tram shoogled! Also - how are you? Rude of me not to ask!

@starkid fingers crossed! I have heard good things about b6 so hopefully it helps!

@Lozzlepop she will definitely arrive in time for your holiday then 😂😂. Af is a witch! Fingers crossed your holiday is safe! When/where are you going?
I am good thanks, 8dpo and desperately trying to keep my mind on other things. I am going to test on Friday as I am going to London for the weekend and 3 parties, one of which starts in a sushi restaurant, so if I am pregnant it is going to be interesting hiding it 😬

Thanks lovely ladies for the birthday wishes! Had a super day at the beach, walked over 12km and finished off with a double-cone 99; told the ice cream man it was my birthday and I got an extra flake too ;)

@ELW85 Hope it all goes well on Friday! I agree I think it’s better for it all to happen together - DH is coming to my fertility MOT on Thursday, he won’t be having any tests but like you say, we’re both in this together!!

@LokiCat cookies sound amazing! I love baking, I find it so therapeutic

@ValidUser I am the same as @purplefig, I can’t bear BFNs and would rather AF just turned up than having to see one. It’s each to their own though!

@purplefig With all my BFPs I got cramping, although nearer to AF due date, but still - here’s to hoping it’s a good sign! It’s frustrating though as it can also be an AF sign, or as mentioned above can just be wind! It frustrates me NO END that preg and AF symptoms are basically identical. There should be some differences surely!! Good luck for Friday. Keeping everything crossed for you!

@Dollywilde Sorry to hear AF was so upsetting for you. Try to remember you’re only cycle 3 so early days and I am sure that BFP will be yours soon!

@Lozzlepop how annoying!! Have you considered testing just in case, or do you just want to wait it out?