TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 30 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

[Lilimum7]

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Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This is a wonderful supportive group for anyone ttc after the loss of a pregnancy or baby. Together we can get through the ttc crazyness xx baby dust to everyone xx

@Avocuddles thank you :)
I'm feeling so tearful today and uncomfortable. Horrible AF.
About to order some pre-seed and tests though!

Hope everyone is doing ok.
Me and DH are back to DTD since the MC and pre pregnancy. We aren't trying but not not tying. Haven't yet had a normal period but it's 2 weeks since MC well I think. I had 2 bleeds a week apart so I don't really know when it happened I only got told after the second one it was happening.
Let's see what happens I guess

Hi ladies - hope everyone has been having a nice weekend.

I realised this morning that DP is away on a stag do during my fertility window this cycle 😩 obviously not his fault, but I can't help be a little annoyed.

Ladies talking about anxiety, have you tried Rescue Remedy? I've been taking a few drops in water throughout the day and I don't know if it's a placebo effect or not, but I do think it's helping me feel less anxious. It's all natural as well so perfect for anyone who is pregnant too.

Quick question ladies sorry GP never gave me any information post MC. When should I expect my period?

I'm so sorry for your loss @MrsH497 I'd count the first day of bleeding as day 1. I ovulated about three weeks later which was a week after a negative pregnancy test. AF should come roughly a couple of weeks after that. I hope that helps. Everyone is different and it might be different for you. I hope your body recovers quickly! Xx

@MrsH497 it varies on your body and your cycles pre-mc but usually within 4-6 weeks. Mine came back on week 5 post-mc. I would contact your GP if your period doesn't come back after 6 weeks.

@Catconfusion thank you. I don't know when I miscarried is the problem I had 2 lots of bleeding a week apart went to hospital the second time when I had clots that was when my HCG was done (was in USA at the time) it had gone way down. First small bleed was 11th bigger bleed with clots was 17th.
Now I didn't have a lot of bleeding was only when I went to the toilet barely anything on a pad and hardly any pain. Did a test about a week ago and it was negative.

It is a tricky one @MrsH497 I'd say AF roughly 3 weeks after the negative test as ovulation normally happens close to the negative. I was shocked at how quickly my body kicked back in. I hope it comes quickly so you can recover. It's such a horrible thing to go through! Xx

@Teaclepie19 sorry you find yourself here. You'll find the ladies very supportive.

@MrsH497 it's different for everyone but the advice is to see your GP if it doesn't come within 6 weeks of the mc. I've had no experience of knowing whether/when I ov after the mc because for both of my losses I just didn't monitor or use OPKs until AF came and I started a new cycle. After both losses my head was just not in the space to be wanting to know if I ov'd.

Hard to believe that this time last year I was still on cloud 9 having found out and had my first ever BFP. I was already 5+3 weeks when I tested on bank holiday Monday because when AF was late I just didn't believe after so many years trying I could ever be pregnant. I only had 6 weeks knowing I was pregnant before the bleeding first started and then I didn't actually pass the baby/sac until a week later. Crazy to think how much has happened to me in the past 12 months from super high ecstactically happy to hitting rock bottom. I hope I'm pregnant again before the anniversary of mc#1 and due date of pregnancy #2.

@MrsH497

Your experience sounds quite similar to me.

I only had very light bleeding for a week then a 2 day break and then it started again for another week but heavier.

Been doing OV test and I got a pos test 3 weeks since the first light bleeding started, which would make my cycle 5 rather than the usual 4 weeks.

Hope you work out where you are soon and sorry you have been through it too

@Avocuddles We managed to find the keys in the greenhouse in a pot with another pot on top! We are looking at a Hyundai Tucson so they’re having one brought up from another showroom but I get so easily seduced by the sexier cars!

@InDreamland It is amazing what can happen and change in a year. I hope it happens for you too 🤞

I'm such a muppet, went the bought hpts ready for testing then caved in and bfn ( not a surprise considering I'm only 8dpo) it really upset me. Why do I do this to myself???

@Laney79 great news about your scan hun xx lol my fingers and toes are crossed 🤞 for this bubba xx

@InDreamland you've been on a wild ride over the last 12 months hun! Really hope you fall pregnant again soon. Stay positive x

Have any of you ladies had mumps? I have had weird pains in my neck sort of below my ears today, not something I’ve experienced before, and wondering if it’s mumps. DH helpfully said he thinks mumos can cause infertility. I worry about everything so obviously immediately checked nhs website which says it can affect ovaries and testicles and was once thought to cause MC if caught when pregnant but there is no real evidence of that...

@AliceRR have your had the mmr vacation, if so you don't have mumps? Under your ears you have glands they can swell and hurt with alsorts of illnesses, I often used to get tonsillitis and I had pain in the neck then and swollen glands. You can get it just from being run down. If you get a temperature and very bad head aches too go see your doctor. Fingers crossed its nothing hun xx

Thanks @AliceRR. I hope it happens for all of us here. Goodness we all deserve our rainbow. I don't think I've ever had mumps. Hope that's not mumps and just something minor.

@Lilimum7 don't beat yourself up, it's still so early to be testing ....... says the person who intends to start testing in 3 days. I'm only 2 or 3 days behind you. If you have HPTs at home, especially ICs, it's always tempting. Try to hold off until Tuesday morning ...........

@InDreamland I'm going to try really hard not to test I'm just so worried about the progesterone thing and I'm anxious to find out as early as possible and start using the aspirin and progesterone. But all I seem to be doing is winding myself up, thinking its not going to happen or if it does I'll miscarry before I can get the progesterone in my system. But then if its another chemical pregnancy then I don't want to know about it. Arrrh nothing about this is easy or fair 😭

I was just at my parents and my mum said I’ve had the MMR but who knows. I don’t recall that I’ve ever had pain in this particular place before which is what made me think it could be mumps. I’m just paranoid about everything but I expect I am run down so hopefully it is nothing serious x

I’m 8DPO too (well 9DPO now it’s after midnight) @Lillimum7 Not sure when I’ll test as I had a 26 day cycle last month and a 34 day one before that so not even sure when to expect af. I’m the opposite of you though and too scared to test! Maybe we could agree a day to test together if it would help x

How about Wednesday then that will be 11 dpo, should know either way if we use any early detection test.

@AliceRR Wednesday lol did say in the other post but for got to tag you

@Lilimum7 oh see I was thinking in about a week’s time! 🙈 But that’s cause I expect not to be and I’m scared to test so trying to hold onto hope. If this cycle is “normal” length then af would be due a week today but CB thinks af is due on Wednesday 🤷🏻‍♀️ Sorry that doesn’t help does it x

@AliceRR OK lol which day would you like instead lol

CB - are you using the digital connect how are you finding it

I was trying to wait as long as possible, thought we’d help each other pass the time! When is your af due?

I like the CB Connect app. It doesn’t do anything Ovia doesn’t except a digital test obviously has advantages over the OneStep tests and it’s handy to have everything recorded in an app. I used it from CD9 and got ten flashing smileys / “high fertility” days but didn’t get a static smiley / peak. I only have an idea of when I ovulated as I used OneStep. So it wasn’t that good at actually detecting ov!

Morning ladies.

Quick (sensitive) question if you don't mind - long did it take for your MC symptoms to completely go? 11 days have passed now (natural mc at approximately 7 weeks) and I thought that the bleeding had finished about four days ago however this morning I had some very dark spotting when I wiped.... Off on holiday for a few days (London then Amsterdam!) and was hoping to try to draw a line under it but now there's a pesky reminder staring at me!

@Lilimum7 I'm with you there, nothing about TTC is fair or easy, especially for us on this thread. Fx that when you do decide to test again that you get a BFP and the asprin and progesterone helps.

@Avocuddles so sorry you're having to deal with that, it's such a head f**k. Don't really know what to advise because once my bleeding properly stopped with both losses then I didn't bleed again until it was AF. the first loss though I did bleed for almost 2 weeks IIRC.

This TWW is dragging. All I want is my rainbow. I am surrounded by pregnant women everywhere, it's in my face every where I go, I can't escape it.