Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...3!

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New thread for us 40+'s

@karryk - I’m so sorry to hear that. Hang in there, let us know what happens with the EPU scan next week x

Thanks @turquoiseturtle ❤️ sadly I know the drill by now as this'll be the 4th loss but I'm taking heart from the fact that I got pregnant so there must be a good egg in there somewhere!

Long term I think the aim is to try for the remainder of the year and early into next before switching to option B which is ivf with donor eggs but there's a way to go yet so let's see what happens.

How are you getting along - when is your scan booked in for? Xx

I'm so sorry @karryk 💐

@karryk It's so tough going through this multiple times. But you're right, if you just keep rolling the dice, hopefully the odds will come up in your favour!

My long-term plans are similar to yours, i.e. if this doesn't work keep trying until the end of the year and then think about donor ivf.

Scan is booked for the 29th, in six days time. I can't feel any symptoms at all now, so I'm just trying to wait and see...

@@karryk Oh no, so sorry you are going through this again! It’s good you have a long term plan though. If things don’t work out for me this time (and I’m still feeling very unconfident) then we will try for another 6 months with the Clomid and if we don’t have any luck we will try to get our heads around being a one child family. I hope things go as smoothly as they can for you and you aren’t in too much pain xx

Thanks @twinkledag and @Constance1234 thankfully not much discomfort yet - the last one wasn't more than my usual period discomfort so I'm hoping for the same this time around. Yes, I've been trying to focus on really enjoying DD rather than obsessing over a sibling as I'd hate to look back and realise that I didn't give her the attention and love she deserves ❤️❤️ if it happens, great, if it doesn't then it's by no means the end of my world albeit sad.

Fingers crossed for you @turquoiseturtle ❤️ I have to have an op before having any ivf (complex gynae history!) so I'm trying to put it off but it might be my last stab if things don't work out with my own stash xx

Ooh @karryk sending big big hugs

Sorry to hear it hasn't worked out for you karryk

Karry- I’m so sorry this is happening again. You sound quite accepting of it though and a plan always help you through. Thinking of you 💐

Cleo - good to hear you feel your cycle is a bit better. In what way do you think the progesterone is helping? I’m interested to see as having just started on it myself I’m curious. I’m doing the cream morning and night as it only stays on your system apparently for 8-12 hours, even though the bottle says one a day. I think the guidance on the bottle is just general support rather than ttc support. How do the pessaries work?

Mimosa - the cream didn't work for me, not hardcore enough! The pesseries have extended my LP from 9 days to 15 (or 3 days after whenever I choose to stop)
This cycle ovulation was cd14 so I could have a normal 28 day cycle!

Welcome @twinkledag. Sorry you have had a bad time of it ttc. Wishing you success now. It happened for me at 40 and I was almost 41 when I had DS. Baby dust blowing your way!

@karryk.. so sorry to hear your news. I think that focussing your energy on your DD will help you cope. Sending you hugs x

@turquoiseturtle ...Good luck for your scan on the 29th x

@karryk sorry you're going through this again. But glad you've got a long term plan. And I'm more likely to go for donor egg myself if nothing happens naturally in the next couple of cycles. And I don't think I want to go through another ivf just to be told my embryos are not viable for transfer, i.e has chromosomal abnormalities. Spoke with my doctor and they already sent me a donor egg form. We've got holidays booked in July and once back, we will see when we start the process if not successful naturally
@turquoiseturtle Good luck with you scan. Hope it goes well!

Thank you for your kind words ❤️ @Cleozeta @BooseysMum @Russkispy @littlemimosa @Cleozeta

The worst bit for me is the feeling nausea etc for days afterwards...just want to feel normal again. Other than that, onwards we go ❤️

Xx

Huge congrats @Crittertamer, your twins are beautiful, your DD shares the same first name as my DD1, I love it.

@Karryk, so sorry to hear your news. Onwards and upwards...

Hi ladies...just a quick question how can i tell if i have enough eggs to concieve and the quality of them xx

@Kimm123.. Hi! Sorry I only wish i knew the answer to that question. Someone else might know more esp the ivf ladies. Good luck x

I though AMH measured your egg reserve. In terms of the quality I suspect you wouldn’t know outside of IVF.

I seem to hear of so many people successfully conceiving healthy pregnancies in their forties. Personally I can’t seem to catch a healthy egg at all. Which is very frustrating as I don’t drink or smoke and haven’t done either since my early twenties. It makes me wonder what’s screwed my eggs up so badly 🤷‍♀️

I think a lot of it is down to the luck of the draw to be honest. I'm over 2 years trying now and I've forgotten what hope feels like. Age creeps on and chances get lower day by day

Morning everyone, wondering if anyone does anything in particular to 'help' their fertility? We both take supplements and try and eat healthily but also realistically!

We vape - a few puffs at the end of the working day with a low nicotine liquid but I've been reading even low levels aren't good so quitting that from today. I also confess to having the odd cigarette on a night out, I'd say I've had less than 5 this year? A few puffs and I feel sick and chuck it!

I don't drink as much as I did when I was younger at all, on average 2 wines a week? Should I cut it out?

I don't want to be all 'woe is me' but it's so hard to be 'good' all the time. I've been on this journey for 8 years in total, I should've had all my children by now and be out of this TTC stage!

I think you need to be realistic. If you cut everything out and focus everything on ttc you could end up miserable and not even succeed. You have to live your life too. But cutting things down within reason is a good idea. I've cut down on stress, that seems to have been my main problem causin area. And alcohol, but I will still have one or two here and there. Suppliments and TCM may also help regulate things, but as far as actual conception, it's just luck of the draw

Hi everyone, hope you don't mind me joining!? Been searching the net for some comfort, hope, I don't know, and came across this thread.
I'm 40, 41 next month and have 2 children, aged 6 and 8.
We've been trying to conceive #3 for nearly 4 years. Miscarried at 6.5 weeks in 2015 and miscarried again at 10 weeks in 2018.
I swore after last time, when I miscarried 3 weeks after seeing a strong heartbeat that I couldn't do it again. However here I am, cycle 2 of actively trying (we've not prevented at all since July 15). I'm 11dpo however had a definite negative on a FRER this morning so don't think this is our month either. I feel so tired! Not fatigued but drained I guess, of the ongoing hope followed by crushing disappointment. Sorry to moan! Just one of those days after yet another BFN

Wonderful to see the beautiful twins posted by CritterTamer - absolute ray of sunshine in such a difficult time!

Congratulations to everyone here who has their BFP and love to those who don't yet. When there's rain look for rainbows.

Welcome @EllieJaye I hear you!!
Just found out one of hubbys friends couples are "pregnant again" not you're not preg your wife is.. whoppty fucking do was my reply... yup today feeling warn out and normally I try to stay so positive.. sending lots of love and moan away.. xxx

Welcome Ellie - I’m in a similar boat to you, I have 6&8 year olds, been ttc #3 for 3 years but I’m just turned 43 and have no miscarriages. So sorry for your losses. I like your saying ‘look for rainbows in the rain’! I’m currently trying progesterone cream in my luteal phase as I’ve recently been getting irregular periods. Also trying to deal with stress and some emotional cr@p (check out the books Inconceivable and Fertile Heart).

Twinkle - I agree with Cleo, a couple of wines here and there won’t hurt but I’d definitely be looking at fully quitting the vaping and cigs. Also do you do any yoga or relaxing? What’s your diet like?

Chat - big hug to you today. Pregnancy announcements are a stab in the heart when you’re long term ttc. You’re allowed to be upset💕💐