TTC buddies needed DESPERATELY

[MrsB899]

I desperately need some TTC buddies. We've just started trying for no.3 and we haven't told anyone. I'm bursting but with no one to talk to. I realise this makes me sound like a total sap

Sorry for the radio silence. My SIL has just had a little one so had a couple of days out with our nephew. I'm really happy for them but so wish it would hurry up and happen for us too. Have a feeling I'm about to come on shortly given the crazy lady mood swings so fingers crossed for everyone this next month!

@Hall84 I know how you feel. Our friends had their baby yesterday. While I'm pleased for them I can't help but feel a bit jealous

Thank you for making me feel a little less crazy MrsB! The logical half of me knows we chose to wait for a reason but the smell of a newborn has the tendency to defy all logic 😂

@Aberforthsgoat
I may have signed up to run a marathon in Oct so hopefully I won’t actually be doing it, but trying to plan stuff like you say anyway!

Hopefully its a lucky month for some. My brain goes in waves of ‘goodness, whats that feeling, maybe that means its happened’ to ‘ oh i feel totally normal, maybe its happened as lots of people don’t know they are pregnant’
Or maybe I’m not pregnant at all! Who knows?!
Anyway good luck to all :)

Good morning, how is everybody getting on? So AF has turned up today in full force 😭 feeling quite deflated about it. Honestly how hard is it to get pregnant!! One of my friends has just gone into labour and I'm in the middle of planning my sisters baby shower and another friend is due in a few weeks, obviously I'm happy for everyone but why is it so hard?
Anyway rant over..😄do any of you do temping and if so where did you get the thermometer from?

Good plan @cmgh

@dizzy85 I feel for you that must be tough :( AF should be finishing up for me today/tomorrow
So I’m going to start tracking again but my health anxiety has kicked in a bit this week so I’m not feeling great. Although hopefully it will distract me from obsessing about TTC!

Yer it is tough but I'm determined not to stay down about things onwards and upwards 😄 that's good your af is stopping, what kind of tracking will you use?
I'm sorry about your health anxiety, I know how crappy anxiety can be.
So along with AF today I have also woke up with a giant spot the size of the moon on my chin the kind that hurts to open your mouth or even smile 😆and I have a party this weekend with a white dress to wear..I guess you have to laugh 😂

Oh lord but of course, you should have KNOWN dizzy, this is how the universe works!! Anyway if you watch the sanpro ads you’ll know you can pop on that white dress, swan around on roller skates and have the BEST time, no problem

Good on you for trying to focus on staying positive and not getting sucked under, it can be so easy. And I do believe it’s easier to get pregnant when you aren’t stressed/anxious as both times I’ve been pregnant I hadn’t been trying - typical - but not preventing and boom, first time.

This thread is really helpful though as it reminds you you’re really not alone.

Yes the health anxiety is a nightmare I am
Currently obsessing about a bump on my face (been there a while) and a bump on my foot which I’ve had checked out but anxiety didn’t care about that. Why is it I have all the bumps
Except the one I actually want?!

@CmGH I love your way of thinking def something id do sign up for something in the hope something comes up to stop me doing it 😆 @Aberforthsgoat AF should be finishing for me today so it's all systems go hopefully. My selfish husband is going on a stag break in a couple of weeks which is CD 18 for me so I'm hoping I don't miss my slot. I keep saying I'm gonna relax and see what happens but I highly doubt that'll happen 😆

@Aberforthsgoat oh that did make me laugh..I might just get myself a pair of roller skates pop on an always ultra and glide around the party like it's 1999😂

And yes Thankyou universe for my second head I'm truly grateful!

Your health anxiety is definitely something I can relate to, I often have things that I find I become obsessed over, they usually turn out to be nothing but I know the feeling the anxiety can make you have..just stay away from google!😄

Hello!

I would love to join you. I’m 3 cycles in, ttc #1. Currently 12DPO.

We haven’t told anyone that we’re trying, and it is a bit isolating. Knowing other people are going through the same thing really helps!

Xx

Hi @novella12 welcome! I think having something like this thread can really save your sanity.
So you're in your two week wait? Good luck! Fingers crossed this will be your cycle x

@aberforthsgoat thank you! Each time I’ve found the first week after ovulation fine, but the second week drags on into infinity!

know that feeling well! I find the last couple of days before AF inevitably rears her head the worst, that's when I seem to teeter on the brink of hope and despair the most! But hopefully this will be a lucky thread and we will all get our BFPs soon!

Hey can I join!
TTC number 3 also and have told no one apart from one friend. It's a very lonely world isn't it when you are on this journey? This is our fourth cycle now.

@aberforthsgoat you’re absolutely right! Especially as it’s the time when all those PMS symptoms are just a google away from being pregnancy symptoms 😂

Hello @kinsella82 it can be very lonely as well. I find myself not really wanting to talk to people in real life or wanting to admit how much I want it to happen, as it feels weirdly like I might jinx it if I do which makes NO sense.

@novella12 you're in good company here, we can all obsess over every symptom together

@Aberforthsgoat yes I totally relate about not wanting to tell people because it'll make the bfn seem even harder than they already are somehow.
Also I am TTC number 3 so I know some people won't understand the desire I have deep down.
I've only joined this thread today so I don't know anyone's story yet. Are you TTC for long.

@Kinsella82 I'm totally with you. I'm ttc 3 too and I know if I struggle people will just be thinking well she should be happy with what she has which of course I am but I feel incomplete, I desperately need another baby and i know we would get the "are you pregnant yet" if we tell anyone we're trying. I think I drive my husband mad too so it's nice to have other women in the same boat to talk to

@MrsB899 you've hit the nail on the head! And I know there's lots of people struggling to have their first baby so I am so so thankful for what I do have already.
I try not to bang on too much to my husband about it. He is all very positive etc but he doesn't get it in the same way. He doesn't think about TTC like I do at all!!

@Kinsella82 my husband is very laid back "it'll happen don't stress" but he doesn't have all the tracking and worrying. Oh to be a man! I'm sure it'll happen for us just wish the obsessing and worry didn't have to go with it

@MrsB899 are we married to the same man?! Sounds exactly like mine!

Hi! I’m TTC my second. About three months in and I think I just had a chemical pregnancy so waiting for periods and body to settle down now.

@kinsella82 I’ve not been properly trying for long, a few cycles although it feels like forever. I had a loss a year ago at 20 weeks and before that a missed miscarriage at 9-10 weeks so I’m really hoping it’s third time lucky!
I caught really quickly previously so I’m getting a bit frustrated that it’s not just immediately happening now that I feel ready
Must be very annoying to know people would say “oh just be happy with what you’ve got” just because you already have two - that doesn’t mean you can’t yearn for more!!

@student26 I’m so sorry to hear that chemicals really suck. I always tell myself I won’t test early so I won’t know... and then I test early
And repeatedly anyway.

@Aberforthsgoat so sorry for your losses. That's really hard but fingers crossed things will happen ASAP for you now x