The July 19ers - The rollercoaster continues, scream if you wanna go faster

[Frazzlerock]

We can do this ladies.

We can take on anything

Congratulations on the scan edi! And yay for reduced Ramadan hours! It's only the Muslims and civil service who get reduced hours here (which is fair because they're not taking lunch breaks). We're still fine to eat and drink as normal though because there are so many non-muslims. I do feel bad for the Muslim employees at the sandwich shop I go to though, having to serve food and drinks while they're fasting must be so tough.

Oo Bentley if you've never listened to true crime podcasts you should try case file (it's on Spotify) - it's my favourite and I'm a bit obsessed with the narrator's beautiful accent (he's Australian).

Still no more bleeding, I'm just counting down the days till the first scan. Dreading/looking forward to it in equal measures.

Well done @edidxb that's great - here's to the 30 wk milestone

I FRER'd this morning. Big fat white nothing. Cue mid week bottle of wine and the last episode of Line of Duty on iplayer. Winning.

20 wk, sorry @edidxb

Sorry the FRER was negative Betty, I really hope it's a false negative.

Fingers crossed it turns positive @betty

So can’t believe you’re almost 20 weeks @edidxb

Glad everything settles down @Kinsters

How many dpo are you now @Betty? Hoping it's just too early to pick up!

@Dartmoor how are you getting on?

@Kinsters tried a podcast whilst riding this morning...the narrators voice is so dreamy... but aside from that I really enjoyed it, thanks so much for the recommendation! I'm so looking forward to my ride tomorrow

10-ish dpo @Bentley. I think it's a lost cause this month, apart from feeling a bit jaded today after last nights bottle of rose (oops) I dlike not feel at all pg any more. Think I was just run down with a cold tbh.

I'm really fed up of this whole process right now. Going to the fertility info evening at Cambridge next week so hopefully that will help me to feel a bit more positive and less like giving up entirely

Glad you liked it Bentley some of the episodes are better than others but generally they're pretty good.

TTC is really tiresome I agree Betty. It's so frustrating watching other people getting pregnant at the drop of a hat and having no worry that it'll go wrong. Having said that, of my friends in real life who I know are TTC none of us are having an easy time.

Hi ladies. Hope you are all ok. How are the pregnant ladies? Hope all is going well.

@BettySwoll0cks I'm 10/11 dpo and using ICs to test early, so far only stark white, not even squinters. It really sucks, TTC was so emotionally painful, TTC after mc is just pure shit. Hope you find the fertility evening helpful.

Hi @Dreamland how are you? Sorry you've not had any luck this month, when is AF due? How are your antibiotics going?

@Betty, any news? Hope your evening went/goes well.

Really sad this thread is going quiet. Sending lots of love to everyone x

I guess this thread was always going to go quiet eventually because it's not like others can join in. It was a very good source of support in the early days post MC though.

I had another lot of bleeding and it had clots in it so I was terrified it was another MC and brought my scan forward but the baby's there and has a heartbeat. Bleeding seems to have stopped for now but I'm pretty worried it'll start again.

Hi, sorry I’ve been off thread for a while... I’m reading even if I’m not getting chance to respond!
Congrats on the bfp @Bentley. Was really chuffed to see that when scrolling through.

Thinking of all those still trying as well. I’m sticking with this thread cause I really hope to see everyone one of us through to a happy conclusion.

We’ve had a bit of a scare over the last couple of weeks. I flagged as high risk of downs after the 12 wk scan so we were offered an amnio last week. Sadly it wasn’t until the point they were about to stick the needle in that they told me my age placed me at 1/100 (my results were 1/91) so it wasn’t anywhere near as bad as they had made out. Anyhow. We had a full scan at 16 wks and the amnio, results came back a couple of days later - thankfully all clear. It was such a relief. So I’m now almost 17 wks and I really hope the rest of the journey will be stress free. I’ve had enough of the worry and the upset now. Although my dad tells me to expect to keep worrying about them for the rest of my life now, oh boy!

We seem to have a common theme on this thread... we’re also expecting a little boy.

Congratulations on the clear scan and amnio and yay for another boy!! It's interesting that so far I think everyone on this thread has/is expecting a boy!

That's great news on the scan Kin, I'm so pleased. Wanted to message you to see if you were ok but didn't want to upset you if things weren't good.

Guess it was inevitable - such a fantastic support, I care about all of you so much.

Thanks Buggles. Oh gosh, what a worry for you! Congratulations though, I'm glad you're in the clear. Can't believe you're almost 17 weeks.

Definitely seems to be a boy thread!

It's a stress minefield isn't it @Buggles1 and @Kinsters? I hope things go smoothly for you both from here.

I was at the Cambridge IVF info night last night. I've made a private appt to see a consultant who specialises in recurrent mc but even that isn't til mid July, so still hanging around. They are very IVF focused (obviously) and in truth I hadn't considered going down that path but it was interesting to hear about how egg and sperm screening along with embryo selection could help to eliminate a number of factors that might be causing my mc's. It's not guaranteed to work though, and the procedure sounds pretty savage, so just one to think about for now. I did pay for an AMH test yesterday though so it'll be useful to know what my ovarian reserve is looking like.

Bentley I'll come back to the January 2020 thread if I get to 12 weeks! I'm just being stupid and superstitious but I didn't post on there for ages and then pretty much as soon as I posted I started bleeding. It was such a stressful 24 hours. I don't know if this experience will soften the blow if I do end up miscarrying.

That's good the evening sounds helpful Betty, that is an awfully long time to carry on waiting though, especially given all the waiting you've already had to do due to NHS fuckups. Hope you get a good amh result.

Hi all

Sorry been quiet!
I have been checking in but with some ladies still struggling I didn't want to post gushing about being pregnant!

We had our down etc tests back all negative which was a relief!!
I'm currently 16 weeks and getting big!!
Really tired but that's the only negative so I'll suck that up!!

Still in the midst of a house move - in a never ending chain of dickheads!! Move date was provisionally agreed by all to be Friday.... we still haven't exchanged!!!

@Kinsters I hope the bleed is nothing to worry about my dear, fx for you.

@Buggles1 Have you considered the harmony test??
I'm 36 and mine came back 1:10000 (not sure of your age).

Hope everyone else is still ok and staying positive. Has anyone heard from @Frazzlerock? Xx

Hey, Sorry I've not been in touch.

Things are pretty dull over in the Frazzle end. Although I finally have my hysteroscopy next Friday and blood test results, which means we can finally get back to TTC again. But it is 3 weeks away from my 40th so I'm not feeling good about that. I want to postpone my 40th until I am pregnant and have some small hope that the baby will survive. I'm thinking about forgetting my birthday and celebrate it when I am about 20 weeks preg (if I ever get that far).
The past 12 weeks of not TTC has been excruciatingly long, but I am pleased we've stuck to it. If I had got pregnant and we lost another one I may have had to start this whole stupid recurrent MC clinic waiting bullshit all over again.

Busy wedding planning which is keeping my mind off things somewhat.

I've not read any posts since I last posted so I'm sorry I don't know what people are up to. I really really struggle with other pregnancies so I've had to stay away. I don't really know how I overcome that without being pregnant and know that things will be okay.

But I do think of you guys and I hate that my head doesn't allow me to just be normal.

xx

So nice to hear from you Frazzle! Well done for sticking to the 12 weeks not TTC, that must have been so tough. I hope you get some answers and good fortune coming your way soon x

@Betty glad you found it worthwhile. Interesting that they were trying to push IVF - do you think that's for monetary gain or do they genuinely think it's the best option? I'm sure with all the screening it's definitely worth thinking about. Good luck for the AMH test x

@Kinsters know exactly what you mean. Lots of people on there seem very "confident" which does worry me somewhat.

@tigsyboo nightmare re the house move... I am so pleased the house we put an offer in a few months ago fell through, moving is the worst. Can't believe you've not been given an exchange date yet. Ffs!!
So pleased test results came back ok.

So lovely to hear from you @Frazzle. I can imagine the past few months have been excruciatingly painful. I don't see any reason why you can't postpone your birthday... hopefully the hysteroscopy will shed some light and you'll be celebrating it before you know it. Glad you've been busy with the wedding plans - have you managed to find a dress yet?
Is it The Courteeners you're off to see soon, or did I imagine that?x

Morning all,
It's true. I don't want to post too much as I am firmly in the pregnancy stage and not everyone wants to hear all about my constipation!
However, the support I have had, and I feel all of us have had from this group following December has been HUGE. I really feel like it helped out so much.
I'm not sure if it worth creating a group on Facebook or anything so we can keep up with each other even if we are not on here that much anymore!
Great to hear from you @Frazzlerock. Good luck with the procedure next week. I really hope it can give you some answers. I have thought a lot about your wedding and I hope the plans are going well!
@kinsters, that sounds really scary with the bleeding. How many week are you now? Fingers crossed it was one of those things. I remember @twittlebee had quite a lot of bleeding and was OK. Haven't heard from her for a while but she is about 4 weeks ahead of me so must be about 24-25 weeks now!
@buggles1 that sounds like a really scary time for you with the amnio - did it hurt? Thank goodness everything is OK though for you now. I was so worried when I got my NIPT results back again.
@tigsy - moving house is so stressful - I hope you are coming to the end of it all now. 16 weeks! You are 2 weeks behind me! I'm not too bad tiredness wise now but am struggling with a slow digestive system!
@betty let us know how your test results are. July is still so long to wait, even private? Wow. Are you still TTC in the meantime though? Are you still having to move? I remember at one point you were going to have to move somewhere else......
@bentley - how are you doing now? All OK?

Weekend here today but it's GCSE exams and we have to do them on a Friday at UK timing so I am at school this afternoon for exams starting at 4pm! We are on a rota so it's the only weekend day I have to do. Have a party tonight (always fun when not drinking!) and my car is getting serviced tomorrow - exciting stuff!

Nice to hear from everyone.

@Bentley111 AF showed on Wednesday so been feeling really down. I'm struggling a lot with being surrounded by pregnant people in real life and being unable to get pregnant then when I do I can't keep the baby. Just feeling like life is really unfair and somehow the universe is conspiring against me. We finished the antibiotics and DH has had to give another sample, we're waiting for those results now.

@Kinsters so glad the bleeding has stopped. Fx it doesn't start again and this baby sticks.

Congratulations to all the pregnant ladies, sounds like all is going well - hoping that's a positive sign for the rest of us that we'll also have the same luck.

@BettySwoll0cks glad the info evening went well. Fx for a good AMH result. Yep, private clinics do push IVF but I found that NHS does too. Apparently something to do with £££££, even NHS because it keeps all the consultant gynaecologists in work (I was told by a doctor).

Hey edi! I'm around seven weeks. Had a few days of no bleeding but now it seems to have started again so I don't know. I wish it wasnt so stressful. It's only a small amount of brown bleeding and I've got no cramps so I'm really hoping it's ok. Can't help but think the worst though. Just praying it doesn't get any worse.

I love the idea of keeping in touch!

InDreamland so sorry that AF arrived. It's just shit and it is really unfair. How long will you have to wait fro the results?

Hey edi! I'm around seven weeks. Had a few days of no bleeding but now it seems to have started again so I don't know. I wish it wasnt so stressful. It's only a small amount of brown bleeding and I've got no cramps so I'm really hoping it's ok. Can't help but think the worst though. Just praying it doesn't get any worse.

I love the idea of keeping in touch!

InDreamland so sorry that AF arrived. It's just shit and it is really unfair. How long will you have to wait fro the results?

Whoops sorry for the double post! I guess I'm just really worried because this is exactly how my last MC happened - bleeding so I went to get a reassurance scan which showed correctly sized foetus and a good heartbeat then the bleeding carries on, next scan and it's died. I'm worried the same thing is going to happen again. Only two weeks to wait for my next scan...