The July 19ers - The rollercoaster continues, scream if you wanna go faster

[Frazzlerock]

We can do this ladies.

We can take on anything

I told my gp I was taking it, she initially told me I shouldn't and then I asked her to read into it and she told me she can't recommend or prescribe it- but it seems to have no adverse affects so if it gives me race of mind to continue if I choose.

Studies have shown it increases chances of healthy baby's after miscarriage where no issues have yet been identified (ie before you have had three so no one cares) as it very slightly increases the blood flow to reproductive organs and stops very minor clots forming - so if blood flow to uterus or clotting was the issue this should help.
I figured if it's not hurting and it may help, why not.
I read to take it till half way through then reduce it gradually until off it for third trimester to reduce risk of excess bleeding during labour.

I take extra 25ug spray of vit d and 100mg magnesium on top of my pregnancy vitamins for same reason. Studies have shown deficiencies in these are linked to miscarriage- nothing I could find suggested they would hinder in any way.

I spoke to my DM about aspirin last night. She said that one of her BFs had 3 mc's after her first DC. Her GP advised her to take aspirin when she fell pg after the 3rd mc & had textbook pregnancy with her DS. It could all of course be chance.
This was all "back in the day" too.

As you said @tigsyboo I can't see it doing any harm.

Just checked my calendar. FW is due to start next Thursday... DH's work night out.
He doesn't go out very often at all so tends to "enjoy himself"... which is usually followed by 3 days of feeling sorry for himself to get over it.
I hate feeling like a nagging wife but we might need to have a chat about that 🙈 my anxiety is going through the roof thinking of sperm being pickled in cider and not being able to BD because of a hangover 🙈

@tigsyboo... don’t mind... they thought it was just over 9 weeks. Hence I waited for the reassurance scan this time until after 9 weeks. Such an anxious wait... keeping everything crossed for everyone on here...

My dr said she'd give me aspirin next time I got a BFP. I think it's quite common to take and doesn't have any known bad effects.

CD10 here today and should ovulate on Monday or Tuesday. DH thinks he'll only be away monday and tuesday so we should be able to cover it with sunday night and tuesday evening sex.

Glad he's only away the one night @Kinsters 🤞🏼 fingers crossed.

What's everyone up to this weekend?
Just taken my DDogs for a nice long walk & we are having fish & chips for tea 😋

Hiya @Bentley111 your dog is adorable 🐾🥰🐾 I threatened to take my 2 to the groomer this week which would have cost £70, which shocked my DH so much he got the clippers out and did it himself!! My little girl now looks like Shaun the Sheep! Oh well it'll grow back...

Otherwise I have a busy day; have done a Body Coach workout, given DS his brekkie, now heading over to my holiday cottage to turn that around for guests coming this afternoon then over to Essex for the wknd with family. I am doing Easter lunch for 16 plus 4 kids (I think, the numbers keep growing 🙈) next Sunday so I need to do a bit of planning. Hope everyone has a good weekend ☀️

She is beautiful ❤️ I'm sure it will grow out... poor pup 🙈

Aww such cute dogs! My chart this month is a total write off. I drank pretty heavily on Friday night and Sunday afternoon so my temps the days after (Saturday and Monday) seem much too high. We stayed out really late Saturday night as well and then had a lie in so I've got another high temp and FF is saying I've ovulated!

I'm pretty sure I haven't ovulated yet but even if it's today as I expected then my temp will just remain high tomorrow and I won't know which day is the correct one. Still no positive opks...

I'm really thinking of giving up charting tbh, I always get this have I or haven't I ovulated stress and I don't think it's worth it.

Or maybe I did ovulate that early... Looking back at my previous charts I never had super high temperatures on the couple of other occasions I've drunk a large amount (and the two times this month - yesterday I felt pretty sober by bed time and the Friday night drinking I was no more than a little tipsy).

Who knows!

Oh no @Kinsters they do look super high but if your body is usually fairly clockwork and you still haven't had the +ive opk, I would discard the temps as anomalies.
If it's not an anomaly, it looks like you timed BD at the right time if you did O when FF said so I would just try again tomorrow when your DH gets back and hope for the best... at least you're covered either way then.
Ps sounds like you had a fun weekend

He's now not back until Wednesday! Sucks. We've done the best we can for this cycle though and even if ovulation is Tuesday then we'll have got O-2 so that's OK.

The weekend was really fun! We crammed a lot in!

What a shame... that's rubbish, but at least you've done everything you can! Keeping everything crossed for you this month.
Let's hope for Jan 2020 babies

Fingers crossed @Kinsters !!

I've started spotting this morning, AF starting. Oh well. I'm getting really bored of this, and the baby making sex, urgh, it just feels like another chore and on top of that my DH expects me to pretend I'm enjoying it! Sheesh.

Fingers crossed for Jan 2020! If FF is right about my ovulation I'd be due 3rd January lol. Who knew it would take this long...when we started back in July/August DH was a bit on the fence and thought we should wait and aim for a late 2019 baby...now we'd be happy whatever day it was born on! Christmas day, NYD, all good.

Sorry, cross posted Betty. That sucks about AF.

You're right, it just becomes very boring. I desperately want a baby but I think maintaining this level of thought devoted to it isn't sustainable. I've started a couple of new hobbies and I'm just trying to make it not the whole focus of my thoughts. Easier when I'm not in the tww though. I can feel my obsession rising again now I've maybe ovulated and had sex in the fertile window. I loved having a mental break from it all last month, just wish I could stay in that head space whilst still ttc.

Sorry about AF @Betty, that's shit.
Know exactly where you're both coming from - I feel more in control tracking O and feel I obsess less when I do track but it is constant. I have started to dread FW because it feels so mechanical. I get upset if DH isn't up for BDing (which is horrible and ridiculous) and I take it so personally. I spend all of AF/weeks leading up to FW wondering if we will DTD enough over FW, all of FW hating him for not wanting to do it and then all of the TWW resenting him for not doing enough/obsessing about symptoms. It's awful.
No wonder he doesn't want to sleep with me
It isn't sustainable at all but then what can you do?

Right in the middle of DtD last month, DH said "so what do you want, a boy or a girl?". I was so upset I felt like saying "I couldn't care less, I just want one that's alive" but I didn't (because it was good timing for DtD) so I just said "you choose"

Good times 😔.

Mr Betty sounds very romantic

DH is exactly the same. Now the weather is improving, he's going fishing a few times a week with FIL...
"This time next year, I'll be able to take non-existent DS..."

How about we conceive a child before we talk about taking a DS that doesn't even exist yet fishing....?
Obviously missing the point that even if we conceived now, the non-existent DS would only be 3 months old and certainly not going fishing ffs.

It's so hard Bentley, don't blame yourself for your DH's low sex drive though.

We don't really discuss future children, it all seems too abstract at the moment - my FIL has been talking about when he gets grandchildren for years though!

My temp went back down today and still no positive opk so who knows about ovulation!

Good luck with the scan today @tigsy fx

@bently111 not sure this will help but we have similar problems re low sex drive. We literally dtd on the day the smiley face said we should and that was that, nothing since. I’ve tried to research into statins cause I had heard they could cause it but think there is more to it. I just don’t know what. I’d love to dtd more often but he just doesn’t seem bothered at all. When I got upset after the mcs and he said ‘what will be will be’ I got really annoyed cause nothing would have been if we just left things to hopefully happen naturally. I don’t think they understand how our cycles work and how low a chance there is of getting bfp each month, and then the likelihood of sustaining it. I did try to explain that to DH but it still didn’t seem to sink in.

Had my 12 weeks scan this morning!! 12+1 due 28/10/19. Heart beating fast and wiggling away!! I'm
So in love!! 💕

Oh god please ignore my massive strikethrough fail...!!

Congrats @tigsyboo that's the most fantastic news have you told the boys yet? So thrilled for you. How are you feeling in yourself?

@Buggles that's exactly like us, except if we get a smiley face and he's not in the mood/tired/eaten a big meal, we won't dtd. It's so frustrating isn't it!

Hoping we will dtd tonight - my tests haven't arrived in the post (ffs) so just winging it on EWCM. Tmi but lots last night and this morning so sneaking suspicion I'm O'ing early this month.

@Kinsters that so bizarre. What cd are you on now?

Congratulations Tigsy, how lovely!

Bentley I read a study that showed CM was the most reliable indicator of ovulation. They did ultrasounds on women every day to determine exactly when ovulation happened and the women also recorded all their fertility signs (bbt, opk and CM) and CM was the most reliable indicator. Apparently the last day of EWCM was generally O day (or maybe the day before O - I can't remember) whereas bbt spike and peak LH were often a few days off.

I'm CD14 today and going by CM think I ovulated yesterday (it's gone very creamy). This would be usual for me, I normally O on CD13 or 14. Hopefully I'll get a temp rise tomorrow!

@Kinsters that's really interesting. I do sometimes doubt the accuracy of OPKs especially as LH has to be released and built up to be detected.

@Buggles - also, just reading up on statins.... our sex life declined after DH's dose of Lisinopril was upped (Sept/Oct time). I wonder if that's something to do with the problem...?