Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...2!

[Hobbes39]

New thread as last one filling up - will try to link to this in old one...!

Thank you Rose68 I've always been crap working it out it was the 8th last month so definitely a few days late would the fact I had a 7 day period rather than 5 make any difference? Thank you

@Marty77, I don’t think the length of your period makes a difference, but again, I may be wrong x

Congratulations on the engagement, jan 12-8 Feb (27/8days) I think so you were perhaps due on Thursday if you are having another 28 day cycle.. I think.. and period length makes no diff.. new cycle starts on day one of period.
@Russkispy 3 little beans keep growing 💕
@barnburntdownso sorry af arrived.. it's crap, don't know anything about zita west sorry..
@karryk Sorry af has come, can you just have some fun dtd and fingers crossed some swimmers might be in the tubes at the right time..
@BooseysMom Have you tried decaf?
Atm day 4 of cycle , was deffo out of the race @littlemimosa. And always lovely to hear success stories..
anyway back on the horse so to speak... new cycle, onwards and upwards.. sending lots of love, positive energy and baby dust to all you lovely ladies.. ( 3 days late for international woman's days.. ) you all rock ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️💕💕💕💕

Thank you @Chatbash72 I wasn't sure, you're single for years then bam I'm going to do a test tomorrow, thanks I'm never late but I'll know tomorrow, hope so and it's not that I'm nearly 42 and things are going weird x

Hope everyone is well, this site has been so comforting thanks everyone x

Marty 77 good luck with testing.

I didn't plan on further kids as I have 2 dc already. Am so did not expect to meet an amazing man as a single mum , albeit a man without kids . I relate very much to what you are saying.

Ps Congrats on engagement

Boossys thanks for taking the time to reply.

Yep. Just need to ditch the cigs again. Have had 2 today. Tomorrow I'll just not have any (I'm able to go a few days at a time !).

I'm trying only the odd medicinal wine too this week. Cd3 so I'm looking forward to AF finishing and getting back on the saddle!

I have about 3 coffees per morning then just a tea or two later. Not great .

're the Zita West book it's about tailoring your diet to your cycle. I'll grab a preview on kindle and decide. I guess anything that helps me feel more on control of fertility is good.

3 embryos are still growing just been told! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Hi @barnburntdown thanks it sounds like we do! I have 2 dc and I've been living an unhealthy lifestyle having the odd cig I'm not a big drinker and it's the stress of raising 2 kids on my own and having a stressful job, it's a bit scary as we have so much to sort out like him moving in and him getting a teaching job where I live but we've spoken about it so much and we'd be so happy and this baby would be so loved, I think we would actually have a healthier lifestyle because this baby comes first and making changes in work so it's less stressful x I had to do everything on my own last time it would be great to have someone to support you this time x

@Marty77 congratulations on engagement. I too am struggling with the smoking. I’m on iqos so not proper cigarettes but still bad. I’ve cut my coffee down to 1 per day. Work days are better as only have one in the morning but when I’m working from home it’s worse!

@Russkispy that’s great news and three is a good number!

AFM I’m on 8 days of stims now. Starting to get the bloating like last time. I’m back at clinic at 10:30 today for a scan, really worried they won’t have grown anymore as last time I had scan at ten days they stopped me. I really don’t know what to do if they suggest going ahead this time with only a couple of follicles. That is what they seems to be suggesting last Thursday. The first time round when i only had two at the right size they said no. This time I had three last Thursday all over 10mm but if they havent improved or I’ve lost any, it seems a waste to go to egg collection with only the chance of one or two eggs.

@Marty77... Congratulations on your engagement x

@barnburntdown... that book sounds interesting. I think you need something nice though as I've found that the stress caused by total denial can be worse than anything!

Chat..I don't mind decaff. I've got some decaff tea and coffee and it's ok ..just need to drink it more!

Hooe everyone has a good Monday. The sun is shining and I've got to get my arse to work and AF due today too. She's usually early so don't know what's going on there

Hi all, just having a look at this thread and it’s not filling me with confidence:-(
I’m 44 and we have just started trying for another baby again. We already have a son who is 11. I’m trying to find some positive news from people who have had babies at this age! I hope it’s not all bad news xx

Hi @Deb813 this is actually our 7th continuous thread... we have just had to juggle the titles each time.. and we've had some lovely success stories both natural and ivf... we're a happy positive bunch and you'll get a bucket full of advice on supplements, positivity and lots of other stuff.. welcome.. xxx

Thank you! I look forward to the journey with you all xx

Right girls I need advice. Just had scan, have three follicles one 22, one 21 and one ten, they are saying EC Thursday with the hope the 10 gets to 14! Should I really be going ahead with only two follicles ? I may only get two eggs or even none! Then they may not fertilise and then they may not get to three days let alone 5. I’m stressing !

@Deb813 Welcome! It is hard going at this age, there is such time pressure. I am 43 and if it doesn’t happen in the next few months I will be walking away, I just need to find something else to focus on.

@Realitysucks sorry my ivf knowledge isn’t great. But it seems to me that one or two eggs is a zillion times better than no eggs. Remember it only takes one. If you decide to cancel again, what would your plan be moving forwards?

@realitysucks what's your thinking on not going ahead? Because of the cost or the emotional stress or the physical stress on your body?

Because on the face of it, if you don't go ahead then you have no chance but if you do go ahead, you have a chance and surely a chance is better than none?

Is there an advantage to not going ahead and waiting? Does it affect the success of the next attempt or are they unconnected?

Welcome deb

Reality - try looking at it from another perspective. What if those 2 eggs are great eggs, what if the do fertalise? What if they do get to day 5. What if they do become babies? I'd take the opportunity and run with it

@Realitysucks I agree with @Cleozeta . Take a chance. I certainly would. With my very first IUI I only had 2 follicles. Around 20-21mm respectively. 1 resulted in my DD

@Realitysucks - it's so hard - but I think if they are happy to go ahead, then I would. As others have said - those 2-3 could be the ones, you never know...
Plus I think that i would try to not be pinning all my hopes on them, but also see it as an opportunity to know a little more info..? At the moment you don't know whether your eggs are decent quality or not, you don't know if they actually do fertilise if the sperm meets them at the right time... etc.
If you collect these eggs you will at the v least get more insight into what is going on....? (and while I don't want to get your hopes up, there is the possibility that if you have other possible follicles that you may get more than you think - I had 7 follicles of a good size they could see one round and got 9 eggs 🤔)
So all in all, I'd go for it if they think it's worth it. Good luck x

@Russkispy you don't try you'll never know.. xx

@Deb813 .. Welcome. Yes I echoe others..lots of BFPs here. I'm just 47 and still on here. I'm just trying not to stress too much about it. I know at my age it's pushing it but still you never know while AF comes. Good luck with your journey x

@Realitysucks.. Yes take the chance otherwise you'll never know! They may be the ones! Best of luck x

Thanks everyone! I’m feeling much better already! I need to learn these abbreviations though...AF BFP?? Xx

@deb813 Welcome! AF is aunt flow. Bfp is big fat positive pregnancy test.

Duhhhh sorry @Russkispy you are already with bump.. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ @Realitysucks you'll never know if you don't try..

Thanks girls, it’s the emotional stress and also financial. I’ve spent over 4K on drugs so far. I have 8k sat in the bank ( fertility bank!) for two cycles. If I cancel I get around 7k back. I know I have to go ahead. @Hobbes39 like you say it’s a fact finding mission as in what are my eggs like , am I even ovulating etc. It will give us more info as to what is going on in there. My biggest fear is they don’t get any and we find out nothing. Or they are bad and fragmented. The doctor said I’m never going to respond any better so it’s best to get the eggs they can and then make a decision. If I withdraw after this I’ll still get some money back maybe about 3k. The financial costs has just been so much more than i first thought. We had set aside 12k of my inheritance and have already gone past our limit. The stress is getting to me, work is stressful, I’m blown up like a whale. Just getting from now till Saturday seems like a marathon! Ok my running friends would now say you’ve run shed loads of marathons just get on with it! The timing couldn’t be any worse for work. I’ve got shed loads of service dates this week. I just feel like it’s all too much. The one question I want to know is they said they would take all eggs they can. My understanding is that anything under 14 is unlikely to have an egg. 14-18 is likely to be immature. Why take them all as I don’t have many and will this affect me going forward? There are always the miracle stories of people who go through ivf unsuccessfully and then a year later conceive naturally. What if taking these eggs affect that?