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The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread

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Frazzlerock · 31/01/2019 10:32

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The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread
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BettySwoll0cks · 18/02/2019 17:42

Good luck @Pegase, will be thinking of you. Let us know how you are?

The nurse got me in with the GP who I have been seeing already for my referral to the infertility clinic. She gave me some pills to control the bleeding and has suggested we do another blood work to check my levels. Doesn't really explain why this is happening, she said if it's prolonged (ie the pills don't work) then I should have a cervix exam and that perhaps my body is still recovering from the last mc and my hormone levels might still be a bit out of whack.

On that, is anybody taking Vitex- agnus castus? It's meant to help boost progesterone and regulate cycles, really handy for PCOS apparently.

Btw I'm also in the nearly-40 club....

Buggles1 · 18/02/2019 18:02

Seen this?? Oldham teenager in coma wakes up with 'surprise' baby www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-manchester-47282950

edidxb · 18/02/2019 18:05

Hi all. I have hardly had any internet as I am away at the moment. But congratulations @tigsy! That's fantastic news!
I have just scanned the last couple of days of posts but sorry about the anniversary @frazzle. I am sending much love.
@@buggles totally know what you mean about being away. I am away at the moment and terrified of having a miscarriage here. But on the other hand being away is keeping me.distracted and making me think of other things.
Good luck tomorrow @pegase.
Xxx

TwittleBee · 18/02/2019 18:11

Yeah I saw that yesterday Buggles ! Bloomin scary for her surely when she woke up and how close she was to being potentially dead with preeclampsia! Imagine finding out you have 2 wombs too! Reminds me of a similar story last year about a teen that went from being perfectly flat stomach to being popped out unexpectedly 2 weeks before she gave birth, she also didn't know she was pregnant.

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Frazzlerock · 18/02/2019 18:21

@BettySwoll0cks it sounds like you've been given tranaxamic acid?

Re Angus Castus, I've read a lot about this since I was TTC DS2 and it's one of those natural remedies that can jeopardise things. I was warned against it by a woman on here who was like a PCOS oracle. I can't remember why its not good, I think it can really screw up your cycles or something.
But that was 10 years ago. Just be really careful with natural supplements.
I might see if I can find what she said about it.....

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ratherbeshowjumping · 18/02/2019 18:21

What an amazing story... imagine waking up and being given a baby would be my absolute dream

Hope you're having a fab time @edidxb xx

Rose68 · 18/02/2019 18:22

@Betty I’m glad you got to see someone. I think there are a couple of ladies on the over 40’s thread who are taking vitex, one in particular whose LP was quite short.

@edidxb I hope you are having a lovely holiday!

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Frazzlerock · 18/02/2019 18:28

A couple of quotes. One from the lady I mentioned below

"Do not take this. I did, against all advice and it gave me a 142 day cycle!!

Its a very strong herb and shouldn't be used unless done so under the supervision of an expert.

Search the threads and you'll find other people with horror stories. Also agnus castus won't increase your chances of getting pregnant. it doesn't make you more fertile."

"AC can in some cases make hormonal imbalances worse.

It can be a bad idea to self medicate with AC: if you really want to take this you should only do so following the advice of a medical herbalist."

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BettySwoll0cks · 18/02/2019 18:51

Crikey thanks @Frazzlerock. Funnily enough I am worrying that I have done exactly that by taking evening primrose oil, which has upped the oestrogen and now my progesterone is low? I don't know how else to account for the low BBT and heavy periods. Really I just need to see a specialist instead of messing about with supplements but I don't know where to go (except the referral to the nhs clinic which I've been waiting for for over a month)

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Frazzlerock · 18/02/2019 19:26

I take EPO too @Betty but only until ovulation. My temps weren't affected by it after ovulation. But before ov they were crazy, like the Rocky Mountains!
I'm interested to see what will happen this cycle on EPO...

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tigsyboo · 18/02/2019 20:06

I dunno about supplements.... I took pregnacare conception last month which messed cycle up - stopped this month and FX it's going right...

I found out my boots own pregnancy supplements today - then suddenly had a churning in my gut thinking - what if I take them and that caused the MMC!! I know it sounds daft, but if conception ones mess with your hormones so much it can fuck up Ov, is there a chance pregnancy ones can be counterproductive too??

I think I'm sticking to my folic acid and maybe get some seperate Vit d and magnesium?? I don't know if I'm being really daft 🤷🏼‍♀️

tigsyboo · 18/02/2019 20:06

@BettySwoll0cks hope the meds sort your bleeding out... how awful!!!

TwittleBee · 18/02/2019 21:28

Urgh, DH seriously pisses me off sometimes, well quite a bit lately. He does this thing where he just shuts down a conversation I want to start. Usually it's about some news topic or a theoretical query, usually quite "high" level conversation he will do this to although can be mundane ones too. He just shouts at me until I give up trying to talk. Well I just flipped back tonight and it's resulted in a shouting match with me now in bed alone and sad. It's hard to describe but it really feels like he just doesn't want to hold conversations with me lately and I've noticed he is pretty much always on his fricking phone now (I know I can be bad but he has really ramped it up).

TwittleBee · 18/02/2019 21:29

Apologies for the rant, just needed to write down how I feel to people who might care and understand?

InDreamland · 18/02/2019 22:39

Hi ladies. Sorry, struggling to keep up, this is one fast moving thread.

@tigsy CONGRATULATIONS! That is one very strong line!

@Frazzle FlowersFlowersFlowers

@Betty I hope you've seen your GP or at least called NHS Direct. That amount of heavy bleeding should be seen to.

I need slapping..........2dpo and I'm bloody symptom spotting! I'm such an idiot!!!!!

InDreamland · 18/02/2019 22:40

Oh @Twittle, any idea why he's being like that?

InDreamland · 18/02/2019 22:44

Sorry @Betty just read your update. Glad you got seen and have some medicine.

InDreamland · 18/02/2019 22:47

Hope you're having a lovely holiday @edidxb.

TwittleBee · 19/02/2019 07:04

Not sure, InDreamland we had it out via text as I always find I get really over emotional if I try and talk in person and that pisses him off. He just kept denying it or twisting it round on me.

Yes don't start symptom spotting yet! So early haha but you know that. Impossible not to isn't it.

ratherbeshowjumping · 19/02/2019 07:35

Oh Twittle that sounds really frustrating, no wonder you flipped out back! Has he said sorry yet?
Is his job still under pressure? Maybe he can't handle "intense" conversations at the moment (no excuse to be a twat though). Hope you are ok. x

@InDreamland oh no 😂 it's so hard not to isn't it!

@BettySwoll0cks how are you this morning?

@Pegase Thinking of you today!

Had loads of EWCM this morning, I'm on cd6 & don't usually get any until 10. Waiting for my OPKs to come today or tomorrow so I can't even test. Surely you can't O this early?!

Rose68 · 19/02/2019 07:47

@Twittlebee I don’t blame you for retaliating, it sounds like he’s being very frustrating!

@Pegase I really hope today goes well for you. Keeping my fingers crossed. x

@Betty is the bleeding any better now?

@Rather that does sound a little early. I usually get ewcm on day 9 & it lasts for 5 days. Then O on day 14.

TwittleBee · 19/02/2019 08:27

maybe your body is just getting super prepared Rather ?

Idk, I guess I just feel that we only coexist atm, i miss how close we used to be. Been feeling this way for a while now tbh, probably kicked off since he said he didnt want another baby around Xmas time. Just been loads of little things. It could be job stress but he has just been signed off for a promotion so I doubt he is worried about security now? I have tried asking him if everything is okay and he just says he is really happy etc and doesnt seem to show any sign of being down apart from how far away he feels from me now. Maybe I am just hormonal but I dont think that excuses the way he talks to me

InDreamland · 19/02/2019 08:35

@Twittle I think sometimes men are just hopeless with really properly talking about how they really feel and think. I hope that he snaps out of it soon as you need some TLC x

@Rather it is early but could just be your body being funny, mc seems to do all sorts of weird stuff. I never know what my body is doing now. Hopefully it's a sign of a really healthy egg or something.

@Betty how are you this morning.

ratherbeshowjumping · 19/02/2019 09:04

Thank you all, I hope so... everyone's body does seem to have done crazy things since our mc's so hopefully it's just that... opk's have just come through the post so will do a 4 hr hold (if I can!) and see what happens.

Big hugs Twittle. It must be awful to feel like you're just bumbling along with someone, especially when you're pg. That's great news re the promotion. Do you think he's worried about the pregnancy since the mc and just doesn't know what to do? Men aren't great at expressing their worries or fears, they just tend to insulate themselves Sad is he excited about the pregnancy?

TwittleBee · 19/02/2019 09:13

I dont know if he is Rather not like he was with DS. I asked him if he wanted to rub bio oil on me the other night, as he really enjoyed doing that in the evenings whilst we watched TV when I was Pg with DS as a way of connecting, but he just scoffed at me and carried on watching TV. Whenever I try and talk to him about any worries or pains or sickness issues I have he just replies with "well you're the one who wanted this". But then he has also been engaging in name ideas this time round with enthusiasm .