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Yammers thread 10!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

@dragonmummy17 I thought I'd already replied but my plan is to BD like it's our first month TTC use all the vitimans I have fertility lube somewhere and I bought a moon cup this month so I'm basically planning to do everything we've tried so far all together 😬 oh and I need more clear blue ovulation sticks might even temp. I'm gunna just be all out full on obsessive 😂 x

@NotMaryWhitehouse that is a shit thing to have in common! Hopefully we'll have get sticky BFPs at the same time too! I used to take that iron supplement on the advice of my acupuncturist, it tasted a bit grim but I did have more energy.

@impatientmammy full on obsessive is the only way I know how to TTC these days! Everything is so out of our control in this process that doing all that makes me feel like I have some control over what's happening.

10DPO today, AF due tomorrow, BFN this morning and the cramps have started. Pretty sure I'm out but at least I ovulated!

I know what you mean @NoseringGirl I'm very all or nothing which I think is why I've gone so far the other way this month when I tried to relax x

CD1 for me

@NoseringGirl oh I'm sorry 😐 it won't make you feel any better today, but hopefully you are about 13 days away from the next chance to get pregnant. To be honest, I always find the couple of days before I'm due worse than coming on.

It's that precipice where your brain really knows that you're not pg but your heart keeps telling you that you 'might be'.

@NotMaryWhitehouse I hope you're right. It's the first time I've had a normal length cycle with ovulation in nearly a year and I'm really hoping it wasn't a fluke. I almost enjoyed the TWW as having a little hope was such a novelty.

Sorry AF turned up @NoseringGirl but I'm glad you've had a proper TWW, fx this kickstarts your body to ov again this month xxx

Thanks @cupcakesandglitter how are you doing?

Meh @NoseringGirl I've just been moping around. BFN today, I'm CD30 but I looked back at Flo and I didn't realise but my cycles are becoming irregular again so irritatingly I don't know when AF is coming - having one of those days where I'm googling symptoms and then finding threads with people who got pregnant as soon as they clicked their fingers. So irritating!!!

@NoseringGirl sorry for AF but hope you get another cycle where you ovulate this month

Can I join you lovely lot pls?! Ttc for 14months, slowly losing the fooking will. I’m 37 and I’ve two dds with exh who I’m eternally grateful for. desperate to add to our family with my dh. All tests so far have come back fine, I’ve still my day 21 ish ones to go. Hate the bloody limbo x

Does anybody feel like doing a boring analysis with me about when I ovulated?

Hi @Popsiclewopsicle of course, we've all definitely lost the will several bloody times 😂😂 welcome! X

@NotMaryWhitehouse go for it, I'll try!! Xx

@Popsiclewopsicle hi. Looks like we are at a similar stage. I'm just coming up to 14 months ttc and had day 21 test this morning

@cupcakesandglitter sorry about the irregularity creeping back in! I can definitely sympathise with that. I was so excited and hopeful when my cycles were regular then it all went to shit. I know what you mean about the googling, how are all these internet people so fertile?!

@dragonmummy17 thanks, me too! Hope you get the results of your CD21 test back quickly. How are you feeling about it?

@Popsiclewopsicle welcome! Hope your CD21ish tests go well. Has your DH been tested too?

@NotMaryWhitehouse of course! I'm always up for analysing other people's cycles. Gives me a break from overanalysing my own.

This AF is awful! Normally my anovulatory cycles end in light bleeding so I'm not used to the heavy, painful periods that come after ovulating. I'm meant to be going out tonight but just want to be under a blanket with a hot water bottle.

Eurgh can sympathise @NoseringGirl that was me last AF. I had a positive OPK this morning but BFN on a test, fuck knows what's happening but I just want something bloody hell. I'd curl up in bed and snuggle that hot water bottle 😞 hope you feel better soon x

@NoseringGirl hope you are tucked up in bed! I should get the results on Tuesday. I asked the HCA about the cd4 test and she said it had been marked as satisfactory. Once we have all the results including DHs SA then GP will talk me through the results. I'm hoping that all of this isn't needed... for some reason I'm a bit more optimistic this month. Maybe because I've decided that if this month isn't successful I'm going to get the couch to 5k app and start doing something positive for myself that isn't ttc related

@NoseringGirl @cupcake did I ovulate in day 14 like the app days..... or day 18 like my acupuncturist says...?! I mean, I'm inclined to believe her rather than an app, but I'd be interested to see what others think. All other temp data I have recorded has suggested day 16/17/18 but it is only three months worth.

@NoseringGirl I think it was you that mentioned FF, thank you, I love it......now recording data in three places 🙈🧐

@NotMaryWhitehouse it will have been me, I love it too! Have you tried changing it to different detector settings? I find the research detector better than the advanced. I would say CD17 is most likely from that chart as you've had a dip that day. Interestingly, I had a similar pattern last cycle, my temps went up then dropped (when I ovulated) and rose back up again.

@dragonmummy17 keeping everything crossed that this is your month but sounds like you've got a lot of good plans in place!

I ended up going out last night and it was lovely but I was very glad to get back home and into bed. I really want to fast forward the next couple of weeks to see if I ovulate. One of the worst parts of TTC is how much I wish my life away just to get to the next part of my cycle.

@cupcakesandglitter sorry for the BFN! Have you tested again today? Could you just be ovulating now?

@NotMaryWhitehouse I'd swing towards CD18, I'm guessing maybe you had EWCM and your body geared up to ov but then only actually did on 18? OR maybe something threw the results off on CD18 that's why your temp dropped? But you did have cramping afterwards so maybe you did ov around 18... tricky one! X

@NoseringGirl thankyou, I haven't tested today because I'm going to wait a bit... did an OPK though and it's a lot darker than my usual OPKs but not quite positive so I'm not sure. If I am ovulating now this'll take me to my longest cycle since TTC which I literally cannot be arsed for 😂 I wanted to be relaxed and more chilled out - was even gonna take a month off to lose some weight when FP turned up!!! Who knows 😩 has FP eased up for you? X

@Nosering @cupcake thanks ladies, my thoughts are much the same

Not sure if I should be pleased or not that the ovusense tracker basically shows that I don't ovulate.... fertility friend thinks I did but I am sure it is wrong. So.... not sure if that is a good thing (because at least it is a problem that there is a fix for) or if I should be gutted....

Not had anything through from the fertility clinic yet, I will chase them if I haven't heard by the end of the week.

@JustLikeTheySaid have you changed your FF setting to say you're using a sensor thing rather than BBT?
Also, is ovusense accurate straight away? I know Ava takes a few nights to get the readings right.
Good that you're getting more information from it though but sorry it's not looking more ovulatory!

@cupcakesandglitter any more progress with your cycle?

AF seems to have eased off here. CD5 and in the boring part of my cycle of waiting to see if I ovulate. So worried last cycle was a fluke and my useless ovaries won't manage it again any time soon.