TTC FIRST BABY - Thread 11!

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Hi all, thought we needed to start a new thread!
@KatBeCool
@cupcakesandglitter
@MrsAW2018
@Crossfitgirl
@EltzBee
@TrashKitten10

Does anyone else dream about having a baby or being pregnant? I seem to dream about them both most nights and it's hard to wake up and realise that I don't have a baby or that I'm not pregnant😞😢

@Bettythecat you're right, there's no such thing as TMI anymore 😂 I suppose that's a plus! I think I'm going to get some next month, I've heard nothing but good things. Found this thread btw I'd maybe give this a read - seems there's nothing wrong with it every day! thoughts on dtd daily/more vs every other day during ovulation www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2986229-thoughts-on-dtd-daily-more-vs-every-other-day-during-ovulation

@MrsAW2018 ALL THE TIME!! I've dreamt everything - the birth, finding out im pg, having a newborn/toddler etc... it is horrible, especially when the dreams are so realistic :(

@MrsAW2018 I had this last night!! I was sooo sad when I woke up this morning non pregnant 😢

@Bettythecat Oh I'm so confused because I've read that the temp rise is the only thing that does actually confirm ovulation has occurred. You can get a false positive opk as your hormones can surge throughout your cycle but reach a certain level to then actually ovulate. Last cycle I had a positive opk but then didn't have temp rise till 2 weeks later and this must have been correct ovulation as AF came 12 days after this!
To add complication I have also read your temp rise can be a bit delayed... so realistically who knows when I actually ovulated in that 5 day window but we tried to do it lots so praying for a bfp this month!
It's all so confusing so I'd just say BD from positive opk onwards! And yes we did it lots from when we got the opk don't worry 😉

Oh and also with the bbt - it shouldn't be influenced by external factors such as temp of room etc as your body regulates that. If you do the bbt at same time each day without being unwell/jet lag/drinking it is actually very accurate. I've been charting since feb last year and it seems super accurate as I've been having irregularly odd long cycles and it's shown it's because I've been ovulating late in cycle

@cupcakesandglitter @Random2468 it's so rough, isn't it?! My dream last night was about being in labour and having my waters broken. Woke up feeling all disoriented thinking where's my baby😞😔 they're always so vivid as well. Horrible!

Hello all, hope you don't mind if I join in :)

Very new to all of this so looking for your words of wisdom, came off of the pill at the end of December (29th) as we want to start TTC but not really sure when I am due to ovulate of when AF is due. Was on Cerazette for years without any periods, and have not had a period or withdrawal bleed since coming off of it. Reading other forums here I know some people say you can be very fertile after coming off the pill so I have downloaded a couple of apps one said I was ovulating over the weekend (due to CM). We DTD Wed, Fri, Sat and Sun...probably being over hopeful but when is best to test if I'm not sure when AF should be due?

Thanks :D

@Bettythecat OPKs can’t confirm that ovulation actually happened, you can have the hormone surge but not actually release the egg, so the temping confirms that it happened.

@KatBeCool you can have a temp dip before a big rise like @cupcakesandglitter said! You’re not out til AF arrives.

How are my cycle buddies @MrsAW2018 @Random2468 doing? I’m 7dpo now, had some cramping earlier today which is a bit early for me, seems to have mostly stopped now though, just a bit of pinching going on now.
I was thinking I might give temping a go next cycle. I’m a restless sleeper so it might not work for me but I guess there’s no harm in trying.

@stormtrooperjulian I'm feeling very impatient... took a lot to not POAS this morning despite being only 7dpo😱 had a bit of pinching too over the past few days, nothing major but just slightly uncomfortable. I was thinking about temping too but I don't wake up at the same time every morning so not sure it would work for me either😞

@stormtrooperjulian yup I know it can’t confirm it actually happened but what I meant was is it possible to get several days of positive OPKs but not ovulate until later in the month? My googling seems to say the only reason you would get an LH surge and a positive OPK at a time other than body preparing for O is if you have PCOS or similar. Having said that though it seems from what @Random2468 says you can get a random positive due to a surge at other times 🤷‍♀️

All this information is baffling- turning us all into amateur scientists and doctors 😂😂

@Lozzlepop maybe count 14 days from when you guessed you ovulated and then try an early detection test... if You’re not lucky this month then you can start counting from the day of your next bleed and that will give you a bit more certainty. I came off contraception last August and my cycle was pretty quick in getting back to normal after waiting around 3 weeks for af so hopefully yours will be soon.

Fx for the BFP though- you never know!

Ladies when you stopped your pill (or other bc) did you put weight on?!!

I have put 3lbs on this week yet I've hardly really eaten anything.

I was told people loose weight, not gain it!

I'm 6foot there's already enough of me to go around I don't need more 😑!!

@Bettythecat
Yeah the PCOS thing worried me too but that was the cycle after my MMC and ERPC so hoping that's why it was 9.5 weeks long..! This cycle seems more normal with ovulation at CD17 (4 days after positive opk).

Also when I had multiple scans with the mc pregnancy they printed out reports and there was never any mention of cystic ovaries - said normal - but does that necessarily rule it out just on scan? Now worrying I may have PCOS!

@stormtrooperjulian @MrsAW2018 hey cycle buddies! Hanging in there. 6dpo today. Yesterday had some very mild cramp/pinching sort of at front of lower belly. Tbh I presumed it was IBS related which I suffer from but when it never got worse or was accompanied by diarrhoea (sorry TMI) i thought it couldn't have been! And today I'm feeling a bit light headed and really mild nausea (nothing major) and obviously im getting excited by this but also think I'm overly symptom spotting... argh I just want to know! Fx for all of us!!

@Bettythecat thanks for the suggestion :) Good to hear your cycle went back to normal pretty quickly, hoping for the same here! do you suggest using an opk? I have seen quite a lot of contradictory advice and its all quite overwhelming :S

@Random2468 symptom spotting is the worst! I was a little bit nauseous yesterday but feel okay today... when are you planning on testing?!

@MrsAW2018
Hmmm I think I'm due AF 17th jan - really wanting to wait to see if I'm late but how realistic is that with my maniac tendencies...?! 😂 Realistically I think the earliest I'll test is next Monday...
What about you?

I need to get a reality check I'm really thinking like it could be a bfp this month when I know the odds are against me. Need to try and temper my expectations!

@Random2468 I’ve read thag mc can cause a positive OPK so it seems likely to me that’s the reason you had a positive way before you ovulated. Sorry didn’t mean to panic you with talk of PCOS- I’ve half convinced myself I’ve got it too (despite no symptoms) but this TTC just drives me mad! 😂 I’m sure neither of us do.

@Lozzlepop I think the best thing when you have come off contraception is to try and work out your cycle. Charting and temping is a good way to do this and OPKs might help you predict things too. I would get the Clearblue digitals at first maybe as they are a bit easier to use but more pricey... start using them from about day 10 of your cycle (day 1 being the first day of your period). They are quite good because they give you another indication of what’s happening with your body but Shouldn’t be the only thing you rely on as other ladies have said. Welcome to the insanity of TTC! 😂

My grand daughter is trying for a baby and she's looked on here but is put off cus she doesn't know what all the abbreviations mean and she's too embarrassed to ask. So could someone tell us please. Sorry to barge into your thread

@cupcakesandglitter I just got the natures aid Soy Isoflavones 50mg from Amazon. I will report back any changes they have on the cycle. I am hoping they bring my ovulation day forward as it's a bit late at the moment. I think I will start opks early this month just in case (I had better stock up!!).

Welcome @Inthesky42 @Lozzlepop @OrangeDuck 😀

@TrashKitten10 I don't worry too much about waking up at the same time, I still see a definite rise at ovulation. You can use a bbt temperature adjuster to alter the temp, it's not going to be perfectly accurate but will help if it looks like it is way out.

@Babytrain89 My skin is terrible as soon as I have ovulated. It is a good indicator that it has happened but not fun! Apparently you can tell which ovary you ovulated from depending on which side of your face you have the most spots.

@KatBeCool Nooo stupid temp dip! It may not be af though as your symptoms sounded so positive, will keep my fingers crossed the temp goes back up tomorrow.
Yes I am going to use opks this time as apparently the Soy can bring forward ovulation which would be a win for me. So I am going to start opks from tomorrow cd10.

@Catrina1234 she would be very welcome to join us here, we're a friendly bunch!
Here is a list of the abbreviations.. www.mumsnet.com/info/acronyms

@Bettythecat thanks for this, think I will see how we go this month and see when/if AF turns up, you never know and we could have been lucky or my body might not even have kick started itself yet. Had quite a lot of symptoms that could indicate ovulation but to be honest its hard to tell as been so long since having a "natural" period! Might give opk a go next month is no success but will keep my fingers crossed in the meantime🤞🏻

@Lozzlepop sounds like a good plan!

hi all hope you don't mind me joining in,
Age: 31
TTC:#1
cycle: 9
CD:1
new to mumsnet, finding the journey pretty difficult especially as i get closer to the one year mark, anyone else feel like this or am i stressing over nothing?i heard you should go to the docs after one year but im a bit worried about what they will do/not do.

Hey hope everyone is ok.
Age- 23
Cycle- 1. Fresh off BC so I'm also all over the place!
CD- 10

Really enjoying the lack of control over my body at the min!

Had a withdrawal bleed from the 31st-5th (standard for me when on the pill)
However since coming off this week I've had all sorts of random spotting and stopping so that's quite infuriating. Hope it sorts itself out soon! Not holding out much hope for anything happening this month, won't stop me trying though!

Hi all, just wanted to say hello! I’ve been a quiet watcher. I wonder how many of us there are!

I’m 34
TTC #1
Cycle 5 (of doing things right 2 pretty poor attempts initially). Starting to get impatient!

I’ve been using Fertility Friend to keep track of cycles. I initially used cheapo internet OPK’s for 3 cycles last cycle used CB digi. I had an earlier peak to normal and I skipped the high straight to peak. DTD at what I think we’re good times but without confirmation of OV I could still be guessing!

So my point of my long post, I wanted to try BBT charting but due to shifts etc this will be a bit pointless. So I’m giving the Ovusense a bash this cycle! Tonight will be night 1! So I’ll share what I discover!

All of you already active in this thread I thank you for giving some good positive advice (even if you didn’t know you were!)

So reassuring to hear others experiences and to realise I’m not the only one going slightly crazy during this quite emotional and a little bit lonely rollercoaster!

Welcome @Muddypaws12 @thumper59 and @finleybobinley1 - hope this thread is as useful for you guys as it has been for me! Lots of great advice and support. This TTC journey is lonely and hard but hopefully we'll all get our BFPs this year! Xx

Evening ladies, just checking in! This thread seems to move so quickly when I can't keep checking it! 😂 I need distractions this TWW although I already know AF'll come and hit me square in the face - I didn't manage to BD anywhere near as much as I should!

Welcome to all new ladies! This is the best thread on here!