TTC after Miscarriage

[pandaobsessed]

Hi ladies,

I suffered a silent miscarriage end of October and was just looking to start a thread for ladies in a similar position to me, who are trying to conceive at the moment. Would be lovely to have some support and guidance.

xx

What @lnfb is very wise words❤️

Thank you both 💕

@chocolatecake08 I can understand why you would go for a private scan Hun. I don't think it's worth me getting one though, as I'm pretty sure I know what's going on. It will only confirm things really. If I was unsure, I would definitely contemplate it.

@lnfb Thank you for those words. Just what I needed. It's sometimes hard to come to terms with the fact "it's just meant to be". You try and find ways to blame yourself. Makes me worry when they've happened one after another.

So sorry @pandaobessed.
We all know what you are going through.
Sending big hugs.

Thank you @Em39ma. I didn't have any pain with my miscarriage in Nov. Only had bleeding as needed surgery to remove everything. But the aches and pains I'm getting this evening are really not very nice 😞😢 making me feel sick.

@pandaobsessed are you in much pain?? Xx

@chocolatecake08 I would say it's a 5 out of 10. It's a horrible feeling. Making me feel like I want to puke - is this a symptom of a miscarriage?

@pandaobsessed

I never experienced sickness, i found going in the bath helped ❤️

@chocolatecake08 that sounds like a good idea actually. I'm currently sat on the sofa with a hot water bottle.

@pandaobsessed

I remember crying I couldn't wash my hair from the pain i was in, have pain killers xx

@chocolatecake08 oh bless you. It's so cruel. It's horrible knowing the pain is causing further pain (heartbreak) and there's nothing we can do.

@pandaobsessed my heart hurts for you☹️

panda

I’m so sorry. It’s heartbreaking. Having a little cry for you. xx

@pandaobsessed I was in a lot of pain when I naturally miscarried too hun, I was having back and abdominal pain and also was breathing rapidly and feeling sick. It's the body's response to blood loss. Relaxing in a hot bath definitely helped naturally alleviate some of the pain, are you able to do that? Is anyone with you that can help you? Please try and keep hydrated, sips of water or even lucozade/something with glucose would be better to keep your energy up. You will be in my thoughts and my heart hurts for you. I'm so sorry you have to go through this

@chocolatecake08 @NightDreaming I'm so sorry ladies, it's probably bringing back memories for you also 💕

@lnfb how far along were you when you experienced it? It's pretty amazing what our bodies go through, physically and mentally. The thought of a bath right now really does make me feel even more sick. But I'll definitely consider it when I feel a bit better. I have my hubby here with me who's being a diamond. It must be hard for him to see 😞 thank you for your lovely message xx

@pandaobsessed I was around 5 weeks too lovely, it's such a horrible thing to go through You just do whatever makes you comfy, it sounds like a bath might just make you worse! Do you feel able to take any paracetamol? I'm glad your hubby is with you, he will be awfully worried about you but let him look after you. You need to be completely resting right now. You can always call 111 for advice if you feel you need it hun, don't feel like you're being a bother because you're not xxx

@pandaobessed
I didn’t have any pain when we found out I was miscarring , about a week later was in feeling just like you say. So yes, I think it is a miscarriage sign.

@lnfb it doesn't matter how far along you are, I don't think the heartbreak is any more or less 😞 I've been taking paracetamol this morning, but hasn't helped an awful lot. Just wish there's something I could do to make things better. Don't think I can go through this again xx

@Em39ma aww it's awful, why do we have to go through these things. The amount I'm bleeding and the redness of it means it has to be a miscarriage. I'm almost sure. Still feeling a bit sick x

@pandaobsessed have you rang 111?? X

I'm so sorry @pandaobsessed it's so so hard xx

@pandaobsessed I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through. Really hope you are feeling a bit better today. Sending hugs x

I know, it would be nice if the DH got some of the bleeding, pain or something.
Though if they had to go through this, the population would die out.
Though my partner is very good, because i get awful AF. He just finds everything he thinks I might need and put it next to me.

@pandaobsessed Aww you little love, I'm so so sorry. And I totally agree regardless of the time the pregnancy loss happens during the course of the pregnancy it is just as heartbreaking. The second we see that positive on the pregnancy test we start getting excited for our future baby and start dreaming about out future.

If the pain worsens it might be worth phoning 111 lovely. I only say that just because they were worried with me that there may be blood lodged and irritating my cervix. Sending you lots of love xxx

@chocolatecake08 no I haven't yet. Having said that, I've not felt too bad this afternoon. Going to have a bath and see if that helps now I'm a bit better. Blood is a lot thicker today though 😞

@glowingtwigs @Kelpies thank you both 💕 feeling a bit better than yesterday I think cramp-wise, but there's more blood today.

@Em39ma yes, they don't know half of what we go through. It must be hard for them to watch I can imagine. I know my hubby feels a bit helpless bless him. Sounds like you've got a good one too 😊

@lnfb you're right. I told myself I wouldn't get myself excited this time round, but you just can't help it. I'm an optimistic person, so it's hard to stay so poker-faced and emotionless. Having a baby is exciting and you don't want to think it might end like this. I'm going to have a bath now I'm a bit better today, but if it gets bad again I will call 111. Although the bleeding hadn't calmed down at all 😞 x