TTC after Miscarriage

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Hi ladies,

I suffered a silent miscarriage end of October and was just looking to start a thread for ladies in a similar position to me, who are trying to conceive at the moment. Would be lovely to have some support and guidance.

xx

I would say if you can afford and want to go private then I would do it.
It is not being a snob we just have to think about ourselves and what we have been through

Sounds selfish but when your in a&e for 5 hours bleeding and things knowing nothing to be told to wait a week for an appointment you stop caring about the illness of others.

Im definitely going to just go private when i can afford it and have the 1:1 etc x

@Em39ma

When I conceive again I plan to book an early scan privately

@chocolatecake08 I can see why you'd want that reassurance. I had a natural miscarriage in the last pregnancy. I think I am going to book an early scan at around 8 weeks privately. I could possibly get one before then for free @ EPU after talking to midwife. However after my previous experience with the EPU I am not keen. Also as it can be difficult to see a heartbeat at 6 weeks sometimes this may unduly worry me. My friend had this experience-empty sac and no heartbeat @ week 6 then could see a heartbeat the following week. But as you can imagine it was a tense week and I would be the same, especially after my experience. I will likely contact the midwife early into the week coming xx

@lnfb

I really recommend a private scan it puts your mind at ease, but i can see why to wait xx

@chocolatecake08 I think I will definitely do one. Any earlier than 8 weeks often requires TV so that's why EPU is probably more appropriate from that point of view xx

@lnfb

Are you emotions just all over the place? X

@chocolatecake08 Definitely hun, I just feel like I can't be happy & excited like last time. My fiance is the same. But every now and then we'll allow ourselves a little burst of excitement and it feels so good! It's like rationing positivity about what should be a joyous and beautiful time you know? How are you feeling about it? xx

@lnfb idk i feel really emotional and crying about irrational things x

@chocolatecake08 Awww, sending you cuddles. It's absolutely to be expected though. You can always talk to us on here. Are there people around you that can support you too? xx

@lnfb

Thankyou ❤️❤️❤️

Meh i dont really have much friends so dont often go out anywhere, and my partner just doesn't really understand he just replies with one word answers when i talk to him🤣xx

@chocolatecake08 Well you can always chat to me on here and can pm me anytime too. It's better to talk about how you're feeling than go through it alone. I think men don't know what to say about these situations but inside they will be worrying too xx

@lnfb

Thanks so much❤️

I just feel like everyone talks about how i must be so happy and things but im actually beside my self with worry🙄

@chocolatecake08 It's not as easy as that though hun and I wish people would understand that. The emotions are so complex and everyone is different too! Don't you worry about what others think or expect, you just feel how you're feeling! You owe yourself that, especially after all you've been through. You don't need to explain yourself or your emotions

@lnfb ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Do you feel sick etc yet? X

Not really, a little bit sometimes if I get hungry. I'm not a very sicky person though and rarely vomit. How about you?
My boobs have gone up a cup or two though but I'm just squeezing into bras haha, also my nipples at times feel nippy.
I have a bit of a feeling of very dull period like cramps in my lower abdomen sometimes and a feeling of heaviness in my pubic area too. I sometimes have strange tight sensations in my upper abdomen, think it's constipation and heartburn starting...the joys!
I'm also starting to feel warmer than usual and am a little tired but just taking it really easy and napping whenever I get the chance!
It sounds like loads but it's not really, I feel pretty normal and my symptoms really vary day to day. Some days I'll have few if any and there'll be mainly in the evening at night. It's early days though!

I understand what you mean by men not really understanding.
My partner didn’t understand when I put on Facebook that I was missing so of my business commitments because I had a miscarriage.
I started the post with we should be able to talk about these things rather than hide them.
Within the first hour I had 30 messages from people saying it happened to them too and we should all talk about miscarriage

@Em39ma Well done for doing this, that is so brave and so necessary. There is so much stigma and taboo about miscarriage. We all really need to talk about it xx

If more research was done there is believed to be 2 miscarriages to every live birth.
So it is actually more common to miscarry than go to term.
If you put in all the numbers from chemical pregnancy, very early miscarriages and miscarriages up to 16 weeks the numbers would be huge I believe.

@Em39ma well done you for putting it on Facebook. I write a parenting blog and posted about my miscarriage in November, in order to help other women going through it too. It took a lot of tears and time to get it done. But the amount of support and like you said, women who had gone through it too, was amazing! x

@Em39ma i agree more people should talk about it its a lonely time, well done for being open about it.

@lnfb i feel really really sick and the worst boob pain ever😫😫xx

Hi Ladies,

Hope it's ok for me to ask this on here as I'm not in the right head space to start TTC yet after a MC at 10wks but seeing a heartbeat at8wks with my first pregnancy.

Has anyone got pregnant in the time between the MC and your first period since the MC?

@Kelpies it is possible, but not recommended.
There are some articles that say it is fine, just doctors don’t know how to date the pregnancy. But there are other articles that suggest you are more likely to miscarry again. I think it is one of those, nobody really knows.
They thought I had, and got told off by my EPAU, but turned out my hcg levels are a bit strange.
Really it is up to you for when you feel ready.

@Kelpies

After i stopped bleeding and felt ready to have sex again (not TTC) thats when i got an infection, the doctor advised me that i just wasn't ready yet and to wait for my period xx

Morning ladies, been up since 2am as woke up feeling extremely nauseous feeling like I was going to vomit but was able to breathe through it, use trigger points etc to not. I think it was linked to eating dinner fairly late last night and needing to move my bowels (which helped).

I know this sounds weird probably but I really hate being sick and usually avoid it because of that fact, I've not been sick for about 15 or 16 years. I feel like such a wuss even typing this! I know if it happens that's that but anyone got any advice for dealing with this better? I'm going to do everything I can to minimise risk-small meals often, eat healthily, get fresh air as much as possible. I'm also thinking of speaking to my GP about it and possibly getting cyclizine just in case.

Thanks!