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ttc after MC July 2007 - anybody out there?

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popsy76 · 27/06/2007 11:11

Hi ladies, our old thread is full and now I can't find anyone
I have posted here and on bereavement thread with same title - come join me if you find this

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lissie · 14/08/2007 13:35

im still lurking wheelybug (unfortunately) i know how you feel tho

Wheelybug · 14/08/2007 13:38

Thanks NH - thats how I like to look at it when I'm in a positive mood (rather than the longer it takes must mean there is a problem) and I know there's lots of people worse off than me but am just being a bit selfish and self-obssessed at the moment.

Will no doubt be back soon when I can't bear to miss out on all the gossiping.

See... I can't even go now....

Wheelybug · 14/08/2007 13:40

Hello Lissie - hugs.

BTW, if you're still lurking (or anyone else that knows) could you let me know the procedure for DH's sperm test. He's dragging his heels a bit about going to the gp to get the ball rolling (so to speak) and if I could tell him what happens from the point he goes to GP that might help (obviously you can gloss over the actual production of the sperm - I think he knows that bit ).

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lissie · 14/08/2007 13:52

the sample gets sent off to a lab where theycount the sperm, see which ones are swimming in the wrong direction and check the fluid consistency. often men just need to eat a bit better and drink more water/less beer (sperm are very delicate) but a specialist wont take any more steps (eg clomid/hormones/steroids) until they have the results of a sperm test back. we lost our last appt coz dh had dragged his feet over filling his pornpot and the results werent back in time. so the sooner its done the sooner any treatment can start. HTH

lissie · 14/08/2007 13:53

hi gilly!

Wheelybug · 14/08/2007 13:56

(See still here - GO AWAY I hear you all shouting !)

Just wanted to say hello Gilly - I was only thinking about you when I wallowing in self pity ! Good to hear from you - glad the move went well even if you have landed in nappy valley (postive thought - when it happens at least there'll be lots of things to do when you're on maternity leave !). Hope the job is going well.....

Wheelybug · 14/08/2007 13:57

Thanks Lissie - did you have to get the sample to the hospital v. quickly ?

Wheelybug · 14/08/2007 13:57

ooh and how long does it roughly take to come back ?

lissie · 14/08/2007 13:58

he did it at the hospital. apparently it was v grim. but i think he would have had 1hr to get it to the hospital and its all handled v discreetly and as sensitively as poss.

poor mites eh

lissie · 14/08/2007 13:59

between 2-4w the longer it takes the better apparently but depends on the time of year.

Wheelybug · 14/08/2007 14:01

oh right - I have told dh he'll be able to do it in the comfort of his own home.... ah well ....

Don't worry he's had the lecture about what I've already had to go through and what i will have to go through and all he has to do is this one slightly embarassing thing. Men !

Wheelybug · 14/08/2007 14:02

Right in that, case I will nag him a bit more to do it before we go on hols and then it might be back shortly after and then we can get referred.

Thanks for the info !

lissie · 14/08/2007 14:02

dh had to do it at the hospiatl coz we dont drive. promise him some good porn.

dh had the nerve to whinge about his test not long after i had my HSG, i was FURIOUS!

Wheelybug · 14/08/2007 14:04

I can imagine Lissie !

Right, will invest in some nipple tassles and perfect my erotic dancing...... erm...... on second thoughts perhaps not (it'd either put him off or make him laugh too much).

lissie · 14/08/2007 14:06

tell him to make the most of the sanctioned porn/celeb fantasies. he'll soon come round

lol at nipple tassles

nh101 · 14/08/2007 15:48

Hi Gilly, good to have you back! The way I deal with seeing mums/pregnant women is to open a bottle of wine and then have a lie-in the next day

Make the most of it while you can!

What is the Clearblue trial?

Wheely, I know you want to leave but can I ask you what investigations you have had or is the sperm the first thing?

Wheelybug · 14/08/2007 16:46

nh - I don't know if you know my history but I have 1 dd (2.5) who we conceived 3rd month of trying and I had a m/c last July which we conceived a month before we started trying (I know that doesn't make sense but basically we were just being careless as we knew we were going to start trying). we have then been properly ttc since last Sept. Just thought I'd put my tests into context.

I went to the gp probably in about March/ April time as were having no luck and although my periods were pretty regularish (as regular as they had been before which I think is borderline for beign regular usually coming anywhere between 29 - 34 days) I was having really extreme pre-menstrual symptoms and very odd hormonal going ons (v. dry skin etc).

So, to cut to the chase eventually, I had an internal ultrasound, day 2-5 bloods (to check ovarian reserve level I think) and day 21 bloods (to check for OV). All these came back normal but I then had a second day 21 blood test just to check I wasn't inconsistently ovulating.

I was told I could be referred July/August (mainly because last time I went I was a bit of an emotional wreck and I think they thought theyd better do something for my sanity !) but I calmed down a bit and we decided I would ask for referal in September as that would then be a full year of trying since m/c and we would have a holiday before then ! I am fairly sure, given my history, that it is probably 'unexplained secondary infertility' caused by stress given I haven't had any trouble before so, I want to try some alternative stuff before going down a full on medical route as I am not sure at the moment if I can face having IVF if it came to it. I may change my mind by then but I think I would just decide enoughs enough and think myself lucky with dd. However, I don't really want to think about that right now as I think thats a while off.

I was told that the next step for me would be a laproscopy (I don't know why not an HSG because I think they do much the same thing ? I would prefer the HSG I think as I'm pretty scared of the general anaesthetic although don't think either is nice !). Before all that though dh needs to have his sperm checked. I think he's a bit concerned that it will be his problem as he does a pretty stressful job and works exceedingly long hours and doesn't always eat properly and then drinks too much wine but then he's always done that and we've not had problems before.

Have just realised I've written an epic but thought I'd put it in context for you !!! Apologies if you've nodded off in the meantime.

ladylush · 14/08/2007 17:23

Hi Wheely - can understand how down you must be but some of us have been pregnant 3 times in 18 months and have no baby to show for it so we are all in a similar boat one way or another. There is nothing wrong with being self-obsessed - you're only human and you're bound to find it harder at certain times than others - don't give yourself a hard time about it.

ladylush · 14/08/2007 17:25

Sorry that sounded a bit "pull yerself togetha girlfriend" - didn't mean it like that at all Meant you are not on your own.

Wheelybug · 14/08/2007 17:44

I probably do need to be told to pull myself together Ladylush - and I will - but I didn't want to just disappear from the thread(although haven't done a very good job of disappearing so far).

popsy76 · 14/08/2007 18:13

STOP WHEELY DO NOT GO ANYWHERE!!!!!!!!!!!
What the hell would we do without you hon?
Even if you don't post for a few days - keep checking in - and let us know how you are doing

Hi Gilly sunds like has been mad for you - and yes there are millions of PG women around - think they all have rich DHs and are yummy mummies (am sure they are dreadfully unhappy and unfulfilled...)

Off for reflexology byeeeeeeeeeeee

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flosspot · 14/08/2007 18:18

Wheely- what a trauma you have been through. You definitely deserve a break!

Dh ended up doing his sample by himself in nhs finest loos....yuk....having been told collection was due in five minutes and if he didn't do it then, he'd have to come back anothher day before 11am. Major points for being able to do what was necessary under pressure!!!

Gilly- know what you mean about Islington- used to nanny there. It really is bugaboo central. Keep strong- one day you'll be one of the bugaboo crowd!

ladylush · 14/08/2007 18:38

Wheely if you need a break then do take one but please don't disappear from the thread because I (along with everyone else on here)want to shout hurrah from the rooftops when you get your bfp and I won't be able to do that if you have disappeared

ladylush · 14/08/2007 18:49

I found out today that the hospital lost the referral form for the recurrent miscarriage clinic - it was either not sent or lost in the post. More waiting

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