Crushing disappointment of TTC

[TheChineseChicken]

TTC number 2 and struggling with the miserable disappointment every month. DD took quite a long time to conceive. Tried for a year, fell pregnant then miscarried at 9 weeks then pregnant again 3 months later. Been trying for number 2 since August and stupidly convinced myself it would be quicker this time due to friends' experiences. But here we are on cycle 5. The not knowing is the worst bit - it could happen this month, it might never happen.

I know that no-one can give me any reassurances but I just wanted to have a moan!

I fished this morning's test out of the bin for some inexplicable reason and saw a faint second line, which is clearly an evaporation line. Just did another test to confirm and it's negative

Sorry @Mass22 - well done for trying to keep positive! I just found out my best friend is pregnant with her first, I'm so happy for her but at the same time so jealous. About to enter my fertile phase so hoping something happens this time! Am doing dry January as I've heard that alcohol can affect your fertility - has anyone else heard that?

@AllySC thanks. Congrats to your friend but understand that must be tough for you. I've heard to avoid alcohol but then heard many couples say the night they conceived they had been drinking and think it happened as they were merry and relaxed!

I've had a look at the evidence for drinking when TTC. Apparently you're significantly more likely to get pregnant if you drink 0 units versus 14+ per week. Anything in between that there are no significant differences. So if you currently drink less than 14 units per week then cutting back probably won't make much difference. That's just the woman though and doesn't consider the man's drinking.

Should be ovulating today and have a funny tight feeling down where my ovaries would be. Of course that's made me google if you can feel fertilisation

Fingers crossed for everyone else this month.

Ladies, not sure if appropriate place to ask.... but my test has a 2nd line but not sure if its strong enough.... Or evap... does anyone use the allere cassette tests and know if the evap line is pink? Its taken so long to get second line that I am doubting it

How long after doing the test did the line appear? I think the best thing way of knowing if it's really positive is doing another one

Exactly the same result second time round. Not getting my hopes up. Will get a digital one for tomorrow

@dottyp0104 could you send pics of the tests?

Hi I just got a first reponse test, they say a line is a line and I see the line.

Congratulations dotty that's a definite line.

Thank you 😊 Trying hard not to get excited, its what happened in April and then lost it. Desperate to tell OH but don't want to jinks it like last time. Maybe wait a few days xx

@dottyp0104 there's no denying those lines! Congrats but understand your hesitation. Wish you all the luck. Keep us posted!!

Dotty it's understandable to be nervous but they are definitely lines, everything crossed for you

Thank you ladies. I am completely in shock. I had just resigned myself to it never happening. Fingers crossed and wish you all luck too. I did not think it could happen xx

Great news I totally understand why you're a bit nervous and reluctant to celebrate though. Really hoping it works out for you this time after such a long time waiting

Hi ladies, would love to jump in...feeling quite low this cycle. We're ttc #2 and I think we're at cycle 14 now. DC1 was conceived on 1st cycle so ofcourse I figured it would happen quickly again but nope. I'm 33 now and DH recently turned 40. We're otherwise in good health, neither of us drink or smoke, but we finally had some fertility checks done including a diagnostic laparoscopy 2 months ago (they found some slight endo) but nothing to explain why it's not happened yet.

I'm on CD 15 today and just starting my 2ww so keeping my fingers crossed :/

Welcome pink, that sounds tough. Wishing you patience and resilience for your TWW

That's really tough pink. Did you get tbe testing done on the nhs?

I'm the same. IT was super easy with my first so i thought it would be again but its been 9 months an MC and a chemical pregancy so far.

Hi @pinkstar01 sorry to hear of your troubles. On the positive if nothing has been found to hinder you conceiving you know that you can keep trying and hoping. Fingers crossed for you. It's so hard.

@mass22 on supplements i'm taking evening primrose oil (its supposed to boost progesterone levels) and omega 3 and raspberry leaf and obviously folic acid my hubby is taking coenzyme 10 and zinc and selenium. Probably a waste of money but i feel i'm doing all i can.

Thanks everyone...I am fine for the most part and it doesn't consume me but a lot of my friends have recently had their second or third and I'm just not sure if it's gonna happen for us. I do feel so blessed to have my son and I'm so grateful for him though.

@Roguebludger yes it was on the NHS, my laparoscopy was partially needed because I'd been experiencing terrible pelvic pain and back pain for over a year and it would be worse around ovulation time so they looked and found some endometriosis towards the back which they removed. At the same time they checked my tubes ovaries and everything else and didn't find any issues.
My husband recently went to our GP who is brilliant and she referred him to get a sperm count done and that was all fine too.

This is the first month I've started tracking my temp tho and so I'm quite sure when I've ovulated so that's reassuring I guess!

@Luxembourgmama thank you I don't know whether to try anything bar folic acid but shall keep in mind. @pinkstar01 hopefully you get good news soon. Hopefully everyone on here does

Can any of you advise on basal body temperature and how you do it? I'm lost! Does it actually work?

I just came on. I knew it was coming because all the negative tests but it's so gutting when it does.

Sorry to hear @Roguebludger even if you know it's coming it's horrible when it actually starts

Sorry about that Rogue

I do wonder if supplements help or not. I suspect that if they do the effect is negligible in most healthy women. But then you want to know you tried everything!

I think my fertile window is up for this week so now we just wait...