TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD 10!

[MrsEG]

Hey guys, running out of room on the old thread so starting a new one! Let’s hope it’s lucky number 10!! Will try and tag everyone now :)

Welcome @19bee2 and @ttc12019 and @Jessikka lots of newbies for ttc in 2019!

@FlapJackered that temp sounds like a good sign, fingers crossed it goes up tomorrow too!

@MrsLBear I’ve got the Clearblue one in my amazon basket now ready to order at the end of this cycle (am still holding out hope that this one works)

@DuchessofPemberley FRER indents are such a pain! When is your af due?

@TrashKitten10 @19Bee2 we bought a big house this year, just need to fill it with babies now! It needs so much work doing on it though, will be starting that it the new year.

@cupcakesandglitter hope you’re doing ok, have you tested again yet?

@Jessikka I'm with you, better nobody try to take away my chocolates and pastries, heads will fly. Welcome to the group.

@Jessikka You have a deal - healthy Jan it is (with more incentive this year than previous years!)

I have been the same today, @Keyboard91 I took advantage of a long car journey today to trap my husband into helping me make a '2019 to sort' list of the many places in our house that need work - basically all of them! I always feel this way at New Year but it feels SO good to sort through things.

@starkid @DuchessofPemberley happy birthday!! X

Hey @stormtrooperjulian I'm good thanks 😊 still no AF, tested this morning and BFN as usual and another stupid indent in the plastic too 😂 I have one FRER left, I'm going to try and not use it tomorrow morning but easier said than done 😂

Hi @Jessikka and any other newbies I've missed! Xx

Ahh @KittieKath I think it can take a while for them to understand. My DH was the same but actually now he's getting that it doesn't just happen straightaway - he woke up this morning, looked at my BFN and then told me all these websites that recommend waiting a week after missed AF and all the stats etc etc... they just don't get it like we do!! Xx

@Keyboard91 glad you made the most of the sale, baby stuff is still quite expensive!! And neutrals are sensible anyway ;) xx

Ladies I've see a few mentions of Fertility Friend so I am having a look at it now but I just have one Q if that's ok; though answer may be obvious but I'm claiming fatigue ha!

Obviously having only stopped the pill 2 weeks ago I'm not in my proper cycle but atm my "cycle" seems to be mimicking a 28 day cycle like it's been for years (on the pill)... so I have added my cycle as 28 and just reminding myself it may be off this month.

Ovia has my fertile window starting on the 4th Jan with Ov being 8th. My CM has definitely started to alter and i noticed my cervix has moved from closed to medium and is getting softer so I believe I'm headed in the correct direction....

However FF has my FW as starting the 3rd and Ov on the 6th. Which is only one week after withdrawal bleed whilst Ovia is 2.

Have you had this? sorry for the essay!

Hahahaha sorry guys - I really am tired.

Those are the same bloody dates essentially.

What on Earth was I thinking?

Apologies; I will double check in future!

@Jessikka - ask away!!
To begin with, Ovia and FF will predict your FW based off the most common/ typical pattern of a [28 day] cycle. Everyone's cycle is unique to them though so it will adapt as you put in more information.
I've started charting only this month!
So I had the mirena coil out and charted from there. Out on the Monday, period on Wednesday and I ovulated CD12. I think FF predicted it would be on CD14. I used temps and OPKs to get a more accurate prediction.

The way to predict it would be to start OPKs (if you want to) to measure your luteinising hormone surge (12-72 hrs preceding ovulation).
You can also go off CM and cervix position to look at your most fertile window. (as I found it correlated well with OPKs, and later my temperature).
That may or may not have helped 😂

@thosethreewords
I have read about charting my temps and for 4/5 days I believe I could do it - I'm fortunate enough to work from home 3 out of 4 days so I wake up around 7 and that's great, but Thursdays I'm Office Based and I wake up at 5am so I think it would throw my consistency off maybe? Plus I'm a lazy mare on a weekend lol!

I have bought some OPKs but I think I will wait until Af has been and I'm in an actual sync... because I don't know when I will really ovulate I don't know when to test for the surge if that makes sense.

@stormtrooperjulian Another house waiting for babies! Though I haven't gone as far as @Keyboard91 and bought anything, I have been fantasy nursery planning haha. DH just muttered about how he hopes I don't want the paint colour changing as he's only just painted that room. Next time he mutters, I'll tell him he should count himself lucky he's not being taken to mothercare and taught all about prams!

@Jessikka I'm the same as you - so my WFH days/travelling days have really different wake up times, so temping didn't work for me at all because my chart was all over the place!! I personally would recommend it because mine didn't show anything x

Just checked my cervix and it's suuuuper soft and high up. Don't know what's going on 😂 x

@TrashKitten10 haha! See I thought that would be a threat! And I thought my DP was reluctant! The deal was I got him a McDonald’s so I did and didn’t mention anymore baby stuff. We got home, sorted out a few bits etc and then we dtd as he had to go to work at 4pm. He said after it was perfect way to end a really romantic day together! I was shocked! All we did was buy some sale bits at dunelm, the mothercare trip and a weekly shop ha!

@cupcakesandglitter
Mine hasn't moved from high at all! I'm pretty sure it was high before my withdrawal bleed too so it hasn't moved. Though it's opened slightly and I finally started noticing a change in cm two days ago.
I'm staying to think mine just enjoys staying high... hmm I'm 6 foot tall so maybe my entire body just likes height?!?! who knows lol!

Well on the topic of cervix position.....!! Just wondering - I know it's meant to go high and open and soft with ovulation.. but what sort of time scales are we talking for these changes to occur? Because normally I ovulate on CD 20 but I'm expecting messed up cycles post MMC in October (this is only my 2nd cycle post) and today my cervix is high and soft on CD 12 (unsure open/closed as always feels same) but was thinking either that just happens this far in advance of ovulation (i.e 8 days before) or could it be that I'm going to ovulate early this month?! Sorry for this complete rambling that probably makes no sense at all! Whhhhy can't I just relax and leave it up to fate why am I constantly thinking about this stuff! Argh!

@Keyboard91 Aww what a lovely thing for him to say, bless him! Its things like looking at baby clothes that make things feel so real, like goodness we are actually trying. Sounds like a lovely day :) I definitely think the McDonald's bribery could work when I need to traipse DH around baby shops 😂

@Jessikka honestly sometimes it hides I swear 😂😂😂

@Random2468 I'm not sure about timing, every woman is different - you should know your pattern after a couple of months. Log it all into FF! Xx

Okay so this is TMI but I had to share it. So I said that my cervix was crazy soft... just had sex with DH. Felt really good but too deep/sensitive. This I could deal with... except I ran to the toilet and then when I wiped there was very very light pink stuff on the tissue. Gross because it was mixed with DH (sorry I did say it's TMI! 😂) But it doesn't feel like AF at all? And I checked my cervix before and it was completely clear... has anyone else had pink blood after sex? I've never had it before 😩

@cupcakesandglitter where are you in your cycle? Xx

@Keyboard91 currently waiting on AF. It's late - but usually starts off dark brown then next day it'll be red etc, but this is pink not red or brown at all x

After frantically googling it is very very common in early pregnancy. Cue DH shouting at me that I'm just freaking myself out and to wait a week 😂😂 SHUT UP MATE I NEED TO GOOGLE

@cupcakesandglitter Sshh DH!!!! This week must be dragging it’s darn heels so much. What day are you next POAS?? I’m keeping my fingers and toes and legs and EVERYTHING crossed for you!

Thanks @Keyboard91 - I've asked my mum and now she's shouting (lightheartedly) saying that it would happen to her every time too but it's best we 'abstain'! I have one test left, but whether I test tomorrow depends on whether I'm still bleeding or not I guess xx

@cupcakesandglitter keeping everything crossed for you!! X

So now I'm confused.. pretty sure this is a positive OPK right? Chances of false positives...? As I've never ovulated as early as CD 13/14 before.. normally 20/21 and beyond.. or am I just all out of whack after the mc do we think?

@cupcakesandglitter good lord man just let her google to her hearts content!

Very exciting!

@Random2468 my very limited experience would say yes? it's a positive?

The control and test line look identical too me. But I'm new and have never used one before.

Thanks @MrsH497 ❤️

Tell me about it @Jessikka 😂

@Random2468 that's a positive 😊 get DTD!! Your body is ovulating early but that's not a bad thing. I'd do OPKs after too though just in case, as some women will get positive OPKs twice as they may not necessarily have ovulated the first surge x