TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD 10!

[MrsEG]

Hey guys, running out of room on the old thread so starting a new one! Let’s hope it’s lucky number 10!! Will try and tag everyone now :)

Thanks guys! Ok I will assume this is a true positive but maybe will bbt for next few days to see as I'm not convinced I can be this early! Damn I said I wasn't going to opk or bbt this cycle as I was becoming obsessive. I've lasted a whole 13 days 🤦🏻‍♀️ why can't I just let nature take its course!

@Random2468 looks positive, but like @cupcakesandglitter said, keep testing cos you may get another surge at your usual ov time

@TrashKitten10 I haven’t bought anything either, DH would think that I was being crazy if I bought baby or maternity things before actually getting pregnant so I’m resisting the sales temptation

My skin has gone nuts!! Don't normally get spots and today skin has decided it would be fun to be spotty! Why do hormones do this to us?! Probably about 4/5 days until predicted ovulation according to apps.

DH has said for first few months wants to just see what happens not "try" so I don't get disappointed.

@cupcakesandglitter thinking of you and everything is crossed. 2019 is your year ❤️
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@MrsH497 that's what I'm trying to do though I am slightly obsessing.. though not obsessing with OPKs and POAS I think I'm just trying to learn everything there is so that if I do think I need to start looking into it more I know what I'm doing. I'm definitely a contingency kinda gal! so I like to have facts to read!

I'm not married but my OH and I have been together 10 years and he's been asking for kids for a long time and I kept saying not yet (uni and then working) but im 28 and he's 30 now so I feel like it's our time so just trying to have fun with it and see what happens!

Thanks @MrsH497 ❤️ I think your DH is right. If I am pregnant, I think it's because we took a month off - for the first time I didn't cry when AF came, I ate and drank (a lot) but without caring or worrying. I know it's so much easier said than done, but actually I've had such a lovely month with DH without knowing where in my cycle I was, and not telling him when I had EWCM meant I couldn't make sure we had sex, and we actually only ended up having sex because we wanted to! We've had months of just doing it to make a baby, and it's not the right reason at all. Sorry if it doesn't help, but I felt more pressured with OPKs/temping etc especially when every body is different and so we panic or overthink everything anyway! Xx

@Jessikka same message above applies to you - it is good to know all the lingo and know what to look for when you decide you use OPKs/temp but don't forget that it can make you more stressed. Although we'd like to think were in control, we really aren't x

@cupcakesandglitter I'm definitely going to remind myself of that post if I find myself getting lost down the rabbit hole.

It's funny, a friend of mine who had struggled for 18m ttc said she just stopped and packed it in. She said she would get into such a state when AF would arrive and it was so stressful she was a mess. She logged out of the forums and just relaxed and like you gave herself a break and conceived that month. When she told me not to obsess with it I told her "no no I won't, if it happens it happens" but I can 10000% see now why people do!

No @cupcakesandglitter it does help!! He's I think interested when in my cycle is the "best" time to have sex but I do agree with him. By the sounds of it you've had a much more positive happy and relaxed month!

@Jessikka agree having fun with your OH/DH is the best! Just having sex because you want to because the mood takes you not just because it's the "right" time.

Ladies you all rock xx

Hello all - is it OK if I join you? On cycle 4 TTC #1 and driving myself mad already!

@Syncope hello! I'm new today too - a few hours older than you lol!

These lovely ladies have made me feel at home already!

@MrsH497 definitely!! Oh and we didn't have sex anytime I had EWCM, but I'm okay with that!! @Jessikka that's exactly what happened to my mum, it happened every single time. As soon as she just stopped it happened! There was a fab lady @Crossfitgirl (hope you're well!!) who moved into her new home last month I think it was, only had sex once the whole cycle and fell pregnant!! It can happen, we just too easily fall into the trap of pressurising ourselves. I was just speaking to my mum, and she said that we think TTC is bad but then when you get your BFP it gets 10x worse with worry! So relaxing is really the best thing - also sex should be fun, not robotic (we were definitely a little robotic the first few months) XX

@Syncope hi!! Of course you can 😊 we're all a mixture of ages and cycles here so there's plenty of craziness knowledge around 😂 xx

@MrsH497 sorry, this is going back a few posts but I'm having the opposite - my skin has gotten loads BETTER!

I was given a progesterone only pill and it caused me to develop adult acne around 24/25 and for the last three years it's driven me to despair... I swapped to Cilest which has more Estrogen than Progesterone and it calmed down but deffo still there.

Now two weeks off it and doing au natural my pores have shrank, no oil and spots are going down with no new ones - I can't stop smiling in the mirror!

Hi @Jessikka and @cupcakesandglitter !

Have been reading back through the thread to catch up a bit but as this is already 10 threads in there's bound to be loads I've missed!

I'm 32, on cycle 4 of 'properly' trying - before that I was just letting things settle down after coming off the pill, not tracking dates etc. Having settled into nice regular 32 day cycles, I got my hopes up last month when I had a random 36 day one.

Using the Clearblue digital ovulation tests for the first time this month - has anyone found these useful? Got flashing smiley 'high fertility' yesterday and today, so now impatiently awaiting that static peak...

Looking forward to getting to know you all on this journey!

Loving the support and advice on here already, particularly regarding pressure and stress of TTC. I can already see how that could so easily take over and have almost respect for those of you who are still here supporting others and bringing positivity. Loved your comment about our ultimate lack of control, despite wanting to have it @cupcakesandglitter I think that desire for control is absolutely why I have researched, temped and read all I can before even TTC. My husband tells me I am putting too much stress on myself (which I likely am) but it's how I cope with things. Definitely going to take the advice of you ladies and aim for the relaxed approach if possible.

Oh, and hi @syncope
I am new here too (but have been silently following for a while) and just starting cycle 1. Sorry to hear about the long cycle last month. Fingers crossed for some good news in in the New Year.

Hello to all the new ladies! I’m a few weeks new myself and everyone has been very welcoming and helpful, and it’s vern nice to see some folks who I’d been following since I started lurking here get their BFPs in the last few weeks. It’s a very positive place.

My DH and I started TTC in September so cycle 4 now. We’re old (38 and 39) so quite realistic about our prospects....he’d definitely not be on board with me buying baby clothes already! 😂 though I also noticed the Mothercare closing down sale!!

I’m not doing anything special yet, no special pills, no temping, no OPK, a whole world I’ve learned of since I came on here. Rather naively I suspect we’re just trying to DTD at roughly the right time each month.

Given my age, I suspect once we’ve been trying for 6 months (so scarcely only 2 more cycles) we’ll go off to to GP for some advice and may try done of the other tactics after that.

It’s all become a bit more real for us the last month or so, we’re tslking about it more and a couple of close friends know that we’re trying. Between them our friends have dozens of kids from about 13 downwards so we’re surrounded by a very family orientated network. Hopefully we’ll be joining them before too long...in the meantime it’s lovely to have this group for advice and encouragement. I don’t contribute much coz I don’t know any answers but I’m grateful for you all!!

Hi @Syncope!! 👋👋 great to have new members on board the crazy bus 😜 not even joking
I'm off to bed now - another day closer to POAS 😬😬
I must admit, I think with Christmas and charting, I probably have gone a bit mad. If this isn't my month, I'm going to try and just enjoy the process a bit more. It's hard though because I know DH has been broody for way longer than me and so he doesn't "help" by talking about it constantly!
We're at ILs at the moment and he keeps saying things in a really loud hushed voice like "are you pregnant yet?" "Do you feel different?" Etc etc
Bless him!

I'm out 😭
13dpo and just tested with a frer and not even a squinter of a line. So my chilled out month didn't work. What is wrong with my stupid body, and why won't it make a baby!

@FlapJackered don't count yourself out yet, bfp can be as late as 16-18dpo. Aren't your temps still up? Speaking of stupid bodies can't say mine is very smart either.

Morning ladies!
So woke up this morning. Temp was down to 36.52 and I redone it straight away and it was 36.75. I thought nope I'm out. Had period cramps and that feeling when you stood up when you know af will show her head. As it's New Years I thought I will just do a FRER in case I am so if I'm not I can drink away my sorrows.

And I literally nearly choked when I saw this.
I'm 14dpo today!

And I got a bfn on 9dpo not even a squinter.
I've got no symptoms. Apart from my boobs got a slightly bit sore 2 days ago which I normally get pre-AF and then yday my nipples got really sensitive. But I've had sore boobs before af to a point where I couldn't touch them so just thought it was another way my body was playing tricks on me.

Sorry to hear that @FlapJackered. Fx for you next month but as @KatBeCool said it might be too early for you as it depends when you implanted. There's still hope ❤️

Sorry for the upside down photo 🙄

@MrsLBear congratulations! That's a blummin clear line, so happy for you

@MrsLBear congratulations! There's no guessing if there's a line. I bet even a digi would show a result. You owe us some tips 😊

@MrsLBear what a fabulous way to end the year, congratulations! 

@FlapJackered it's not over until AF rears her ugly head, crossing my fingers for you