TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 27 - BFPs are coming!

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New Thread as we're at 988 messages on thread 26. we'll do a quick roll call:
Age 39
TTC x1
MC x 3 = Sept + Dec 2017 + May 2018
Currently pregnant again 5w4ds
Diagnosed with APS/Hughes Syndrome. On Asprin since October and start Heparin tomorrow. First scan Monday.

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Yeah it was fmu @Laney79 :(

Thanks @strawberrye and @RedRobin7 I know it's a bit early, but I'd convinced myself, again, that I was upduffed because of stupid symptom spotting. I really am an idiot-when I think back to this time last year things were so simple. I was away with oh on a city break, drinking and having fun. We conceived for the first time whilst we were away. I didn't even test until I was over a week late. Life has changed so much since then.

Also been winding myself up looking at impact of late implantation on miscarriage stats so that is making me worse. I wish I could just step away from google.

I only have a 12 day luteal phase so AF due weds. I'm going to try with all my might not to test again until weds earliest, prob thurs, and hope that if I'm not Preggers AF is kind and turns up on schedule.

@strawberrye I'm hoping you won't need to be firm with them. Go in, informed and well researched and I'm sure they'll see you're not being pushy, just need help. Xxx

OK update. Scan confirmed my 3rd mmc in 11 months and the placenta has now grown to a size that is now classed as a molar pregnancy because hcg is still being produced, fab because I needed that. Erpc under ultrasound on 29th January. It just keeps getting better!!!

Nurse said that the sack they saw two weeks ago has gone but I now have a mass growing producing hcg so my body still thinks it's pregnant. I really don't know what I have done to deserve this crap. But I've had enough. the mass is 4.2cm x 3.5cm x 2.1cm I mean really, really!!

Oh @Lilimum6 you really are going through the mill. It's just so bloody unfair. Did you have much of a struggle to get them to agree ultrasound guided erpc? Huge hugs xxx

@Laney79 no they agreed straight away but that might have been because I was in such a mess and they took pitty on me

@Lilimum6 oh I am so sorry to read your update. You haven't done anything to deserve this, nothing at all. Unfortunately shit things happen to good people. Sending you hugs and I hope you are well stocked with chocolate and wine x

Sorry to hear that @lilimum6. Hopefully after this you can have a fresh start x

I'm sorry lilmum6. That's so deeply unfair. I hope this is resolved soon for you so you can start healing.

strawberrye I don't think I have come across anyone who has only had early losses either. They started me on heparin at 10wks and 150mg asprin. I'd been on 75mg asprin since the bfp, so I have no idea if it's the asprin/the heparin/just luck. As I started on heparin so late my gut says it's the asprin.

Laney79 you aren't out yet, good luck for Wednesday

beaglemum93 sorry about the test. I wouldn't draw conclusions till AF arrives though

Hi everyone,

I have been having sore boobs and heightened sex drive (this was my main symptom last time) since Friday and was umming and ahing all weekend about whether to test early or wait. One the one hand, the earlier you know the more time you have to anxiously wait for first scan and more chance of noticing an early loss. But then, if you keep having early losses isn't it best to know? Do doctors take lots of chemical pregnancies as a sign of something that needs further investigation, or do they just dismiss them as a common occurrence? Do you wait or test early?

I gave in and tested this morning at 10dpo with an internet cheapie and feel like I can maybe see the slightest shadow of a line, but nothing conclusive and dh couldn't see anything

@Lilimum6 so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you

Just had a call from epu and they are saying that they will not do the guided erpc now the surgeon will not do it. Can this get any worse

@Lilimum6 that's not good - did the surgeon give a reason? Can you ask to be referred to an epau that will? X

@SerenaOverjoyed one of the reasons I want to know if I'm pregnant ASAP is so I can start on baby aspirin. Consultant said not to until BFP but as my babies both stopped growing at 6 weeks (3.1mm and 4.2mm) I'm nervous it would be too late if I don't start straight away. Hope all continues to go well for you.

@Dimblebimble I had a hint of a squint on an IC with my second pregnancy...got slightly darker the next day but still not very clear even inverting colours, but frer was positive the next day. Fingers crossed for you.

@Beaglemum93 keeping all crossed.

As for me, I'm getting a bit worried about pains I get on and off. Low down right hand side. They are very short lived but sharp. Had them on and off all month I think so now the worrier in me is freaking out the that mc's have caused a womb problem. No sign of any pregnancy symptoms now at 10dpo so fully expecting AF weds/thurs. X

Hay, quick one-
Just on my way to my rmc appointment. The nurse rang me last week to tell me it will be just going through my history then blood tests, but what should I expect? What blood tests will they/should they do? I want to check they’re being thorough as I’ve been waiting for this since August!

Thanks @Laney79. I couldn't resist taking another one when I got home from work just now, me and dh can definitely see a faint line on this one (see pic). Keeping my fingers crossed it is what I think it is, and that we have more luck this time around.

@Dimblebimble I can definitely see the line and hopefully gets darker in the next couple of days! Fingers crossed!

@Dimblebimble deffo a line! Tentative congrats. Are you the first BFP of 2019 on here? X

Sorry I've been awol ladies - last week was the hardest yet.. 2 people I know announced their pregnancies and they're already all over my social media feed with baby updates. Happy for them of course, but I found it very hard to process so soon after my own loss. So needed a bit of social media detox. Feeling much more positive this week!

@RedRobin7 OH and I went for a really long walk and talked through everything over the weekend and it's helped so much. He thought that because I was holding it together on the outside I was fine - which I suppose is partly my fault for not letting him know how much I was hurting inside. He apologised for assuming I was fine and being insensitive, so we're ready to move on now. Feels like a big weight has been lifted, and I can now start to heal and move on and get ready to start TTC again. Started tracking ovulation but nothing yet.

Sorry that AF showed up for you. Are you tracking ovulation?

@Lilimum6 So sorry hun! Life can be so cruel. Did the EPU say why they won't do the guided erpc now (after they agreed they would?!) and can they refer you to someone who will? Thinking of you!

Keeping everything crossed and feeling hopeful for those of you who are in the tww. Want to see lots of happy ladies with BFP's!

Ladies the only reason I was given was that he won't do it and they don't do it as standard. That's it, they said I can still have the erpc if I want it or I can wait it out. I'm gutted

Thanks @russkispy and @Lany79. I've had two chemical pregnancies in the past, so I'm a bit nervous - not going to get excited yet. Am aiming to test again in 2 days, but let's be honest, I'll end up testing tomorrow. No self control!

@Lilimum6 I'm really sorry to hear your news. Is there a chance you can go private? I wonder why they don't do it as standard. Sending you lots of hugs, this has been going on far too long and you need to start recovering which you can't do if you "wait it out". I hope there is a resolution soon for you.

@Laney79 did you have an ERPC? Only since mine in April I got lots of sharp low down pains, not as bad now but it did get me worrying. I went to the doctor and he said it was nothing to worry about, and it has got better. You could pop to the doctor's if you're concerned? I hope you're ok.

@Dimblebimble I definitely see something on that test! Fingers crossed.

I'm also 10 dpo and there is a faint line on an ic that came up straight away. I can't get a good picture, and also I just wouldn't believe it anyway. We begin IVF first consultation Friday, can't let myself hope.

@Lilimum6 just because they don't do it as standard is a poor excuse. With your history surely they can see why you want it done that way? Can you ask to speak to someone more senior to argue your case? Or maybe ask about going to a diff hospital that will do it the way you want? It's just so unfair. I'm really angry on your behalf! Xxx

@Mistymeow no erpc...repeated medical management when I lost Bean, passed bow naturally in October. Just very odd. So scared the MC's have caused a problem that will stop me conceiving. I'm a bundle of worries.

Fingers crossed your line darkens lovely! I'll hope on your behalf xxx

@Mistymeow fingers crossed for you! I've never had a false line on an internet cheapie so you never know!