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TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 27 - BFPs are coming!

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Yukka · 28/11/2018 19:31

New Thread as we're at 988 messages on thread 26. we'll do a quick roll call:
Age 39
TTC x1
MC x 3 = Sept + Dec 2017 + May 2018
Currently pregnant again 5w4ds
Diagnosed with APS/Hughes Syndrome. On Asprin since October and start Heparin tomorrow. First scan Monday.

xx

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fnej01 · 08/12/2018 13:45

@Russkispy fingers crossed for you x

Well I've just had my first acupuncture session really interesting. Lots of things bang on the money. She basically said that I am amazingly balanced and really good shape considering 3 miscarriages since June, this concurs with what the healer and the reflexologist have already told me.
She thinks that the second two miscarriages were likely to be caused by the fact my body and blood hadn't recovered since the first loss, and that I just wasn't ready to cope with a new pregnancy. She said that Chinese medicine says 3 months before trying again. She also said next pregnancy I need to rest because I have great strength and resilience and I don't know when to stop, hideously true I have not had any time off for last two miscarriages (didn't tell her this). She was also very good checking I had been referred and getting appropriate investigations after 3 losses.
I feel super chilled now and booked in to see her again in about 2 weeks. Definitely recommend it as an option, for others looking for holistic treatment.

DayDreamer1707 · 08/12/2018 16:27

@Russkispy FX ad love how positive you are being!! Wishing you all the luck in the world for your test x

I have a question which, I'm sorry will be TMI. Me and my OH DTD last night, not trying to get pregnant at that point because I was on CD24 and we we just fancied getting a bit naughty 🙊. Well after I went to the loo and wiped and there was a little bit of pinkness mixed in with the other stuff (sorry I know ewww) do you think it was just because of the sex or could I be about to have AF....there's nothing there now x

MeghanV07 · 08/12/2018 16:50

@DayDreamer1707 I've had this after sex. Especially after some certain positions and if you get carried away 🙄😂

MeghanV07 · 08/12/2018 16:50

Ps @DayDreamer1707 I had it in my last pregnancy before this one but didn't know I was pregnant. 👀

DayDreamer1707 · 08/12/2018 17:02

@MeghanV07 we wasn't doing anything special haha but least I know it's nothing to worry about. I had it last time too, then found out I was pregnant 6 days after AF was due. I just don't want to read into things. I'm also feeling pretty ill which I don't know if that happened last time too. Just have to wait and see and try not to overthink things...easier said than done x

MeghanV07 · 09/12/2018 07:34

@DayDreamer1707 much much easier said than done. Im hoping it's all good signs for you ❤️

TinselBee · 09/12/2018 08:06

DayDreamer1707 So hard not to read into things like that isn't it? I've found that I get that if I do just get carried away a bit too much, think it is pretty common.

Pretty interesting fnej01 and something I'll certainly consider. I visited a Chinese medicine woman when pregnant with DS and she was so spot on with everything, even to the point where she told me to rest as my waters are looking to break pre term (which they did) and that I was gonna give birth in next couple of days (which I did)

Ladies, when did you find you ovulated after surgery and how long did bleeding last for you all? Had the ERPC surgery Friday and after heavy bleeding Friday I only had spotting yesterday and today there doesn't seem to be anything yet.

Yukka · 09/12/2018 08:52

Morning all sorry I’ve not been on since Monday it’s been a busy week.

@knitkitty really glad the acupuncture seems to have helped your cycles and @fnej01 it’s so enlightening when they pick up exactly how you are doing and it’s trye. Hope you benefit from it as much as I did.

@russkispy fingers crossed for the next two weeks he finds s nice little spot to snuggle n.

@justintime87 great news on the scan I can also recommend yoga it’s helping me stay calm.

@boboelephant gosh that seems to have come round quick now?! How are you feeling?

@laney79 sorry ov hasn’t occurred yet. Can you remind me where you are at with testing as didn’t you have x3 mcs at 6wks? Did you start the aspirin? Most say to start once pregnant but I think this is too late especially if you have a problem that requires your blood to be thinner, then this needs to occur as the uterus lining is developing not afterwards. I think starting the aspirin in advance is what helped my implantation this time.

@meghan07 thinking if you, try your very best to relax xx

@hayleyfx glad you’re feeling better lovely xx

Today marks 7 weeks for me. This week has been exhausting, insomnia at night, feel sick, no appetite during the day, and long days at work. So I bit the bullet and told my boss on Wednesday as I was supposed to be flying to India with him in January and can’t go due to high risk. He was so nice, gave me his full support. I told him the background (I didn’t work for him when I lost the others) and explained if it goes wrong I will be taking time off to recover, but again he said to put myself first, reduce my hours and focus on getting to the 12 week mark. He also said he and his wife put kids on hold for his career, and when they decided to try it was too late and nothing worked, he’s regretted it ever since. I run an IT of 140 staff so I was a little worried about how he would take it but he was just brilliant. Also I’ve never known someone of ‘my level’ go on mat leave, with all the current talk if gender equality I think this will work more in my favour when I get to that point 😬.Felt relieved. When I got back from London on Friday, I scoffed a whole pizza and have slept the last two nights, I think I was actually a little stressed out. Onwards and hopefully upwards with this one.

Oh some of you may recall my sis and I were pregnant at the same time on my last mc and we were both due this week, well she had a healthy girl on Friday morning. Very Relieved everything went well for her.

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DayDreamer1707 · 09/12/2018 09:26

@MeghanV07 thank AF would technically be due tomorrow going if my positive OPKs but il wait longer as I don't know after the MC.

@TinselBee yes you can't allow yourself to get excited which is sad really. Even my OH has said he thinks I'm pregnant because I'm so ill but I've told him not to over think things. Just got to hold out now and just hope. I didn't have any surgery but sounds like things are going good for you after yours x

@Yukka that must be such a big relief that your boss is being so supportive!! Least that can make things easier for you. Congrats on becoming an auntie too 😘

Lambaman81 · 09/12/2018 10:54

@TinselBee - so pleased to hear the surgery went well. I hope you are doing okay. I had ERPC on 9/11, stopped bleeding on to a sanitary pad on 11/11, blood when wiping up until 14/11. I then had evidence of brown (old) blood until 23/11 on the odd occasion. Hope that wasn't TMI! HmmAs I was 12 weeks in to the pregnancy, I promised myself not to take a HPT until 3 weeks after the operation, as I knew it could take sometime for the levels to drop...but I got a BFN on the 1/12. It was a very bold negative! If you have any pains I found a hot water bottle helped loads. Make sure you drink plenty of fluid x

Laney79 · 09/12/2018 13:18

@Yukka basically the consultant said that my lupus and anticariolipid tests were negative, and those were the disorders he could treat. As if only had two mc's he wouldn't get a full thrombophilia screen or genetic testing past the lab as I don't hit the criteria. He's said to take aspirin if I get a BFP as there's no evidence it'll harm, and it may help if I do have a low level clotting issue that they haven't yet discovered. No suggestions of anything else I can do/take. Just go away, get pregnant, hope you don't mc but if you do then they'll do the rest of the tests. To be honest I wish I'd pushed for referal to prof Quenby at Coventry as I know she would accept me but my gp said to go this local route first. I don't feel very hopeful if I'm honest. Feels like waiting to conceive so I can miscarry again and finally get answers, horrid thought.

And to add to the current misery, cd17, low fertility and now bleeding lightly, like the start of AF. Had some brown Cm yesterday and despite knowing I've had no positive opks part of still was hopeful I'd had a super short surge and it was implantation, but it appears not. My body is truly screwed up. Really sick and tired of it now. Going to try and see the gp and talk about private testing -thinking hormone panel so I can find out what the hell I'd going on as well as thyroid antibodies and vitamin b12/d levels.

I'm really pleased things are going ok with you-your boss sounds great! And congrats auntie! Xx

Lilimum5 · 09/12/2018 17:56

@Laney79 sorry your appointment didn't go as well as you hoped. Hugs hun x
@DayDreamer1707 hope af stays away for you x
@russkispy got my fingers crossed 🤞 for that bfp x
@justintime87 great news lovely x
@fnej01 glad to hear your feeling better and more relaxed
@OctoberGirl91 good luck for tww fingers crossed 🤞 x
@MeghanV07 how are you hun?

Lilimum5 · 09/12/2018 18:18

@TinyPaws how are you getting on hun?
@Boboelephant fingers crossed you have a little miracle this month
@hayleyfx, @KnitKitty, @Mistymeow, @Tinselbee thinking of you ladies.

As for me I'm still in limbo no af, no ovulation and still getting positives on ic hcg tests. Bloods numbers seem to be coming down just slowly. Feeling so down now. Been on iron tablets high dose for over a week now but still don't feel recovered yet. I'm on multi vits and omega and iron and vit d but still feel like I've been hit by a bus. Got some test results due back on 19th and an epu appointment on the 17th so hopefully I'll know where I am after that

Lilimum5 · 09/12/2018 18:22

This is my most recent ic hpt. Mc happened on 31st October so I would expect a glowing white - ve by now. Two medical managements and a erpc later and its still dragging on
Any one got any tips for getting back to zero

TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 27 - BFPs are coming!
Laney79 · 09/12/2018 18:36

Sorry @Lilimum5 I have no advice, but I just feel so awful for you. Virtual hugs coming your way xxx

Lilimum5 · 09/12/2018 19:02

Also I've decided to give asprin a go this time it can't hurt right? But should I start it before bfp ie after af finishes or only once I've got the bfp. It's confusing me a bit

Laney79 · 09/12/2018 19:06

@Lilimum5 I'm doing the same with aspirin. My consultant says only after BFP, but I know other docs disagree and see @Yukka 'a message to me a few down this thread xxx

Lilimum5 · 09/12/2018 19:25

@Laney79 so when do you plan to start taking it hun

MakeLemonade · 09/12/2018 19:27

@Lilimum5 I’m also on high dose iron and my GP said it takes a month for it to start really kicking in, I’ve got a repeat blood test booked for a month after starting them to see what they’ve done to my levels so don’t worry too much if you’re not feeling the impact yet.

Laney79 · 09/12/2018 19:40

@Lilimum5 if I get another BFP I'll start taking it x

Lilimum5 · 09/12/2018 20:02

OK ladies I thought I'd waste some money ( you know why not) and broke out the more expensive tests done just 15 mins ago to see if the ic were just fooling me but no as you can see +ve's. What the hell do I do now it's been 40 days since my mc and what the hell.

TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 27 - BFPs are coming!
TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 27 - BFPs are coming!
DayDreamer1707 · 09/12/2018 20:24

@Lilimum5 you have probably already said but have you had your AF since? I know they say it can take up to 6 weeks to leave your body but noting ever works the way we want. I had a MMC so I was still technically pregnant way over 4 weeks when I shouldn't of been. It's like our bodies don't want to let go. Keep going, it will work it's self out.

smerlin · 09/12/2018 20:50

That's a nightmare @Lilimum5

I presume no chance you are pg again already?

Lilimum5 · 09/12/2018 21:06

@DayDreamer1707 no af yet and no sign of it either.
@smerlin no, no chance DH has done is back in and is on diclofenac dimethyl ammonium so no sperm even if he could preform

Russkispy · 10/12/2018 07:54

@TinyPaws how are you doing?! Have you retested again?
@Lilimum5 , absolutely nightmare for you! And I hope it all stops soon for your own sanity! Thanks

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