Over 40 ttc - winter baby dust for me!

[Orchid222]

Here's our new thread ladies.

@Littlemimosa, my dhea is from Biovea x

Cleo how much was the private fertile check and what did they do? :)

Mimosa - I take the biovea one 75mg split into 3 at breakfast, lunch & dinner. No side effects yet!

Weasle - my fertility check was half price, so £400 for AMH, SA, AFC, hycosy and an hour consultation at the end to go over results and discuss options

Just checking in to say hello! Congrats Critter, lovely news! And twins, fantastic!

Sorry to those of you who’ve had MCs and CPs.

And well done to those of you keeping going - Minime, Mimosa, Orchid, Cleo, Letsdothis and others. It’s definitely worth a shot, right? Fingers crossed for everyone x

Good to hear from you ali - how are things with you?

Hi Ali- so glad you popped in to say hi. Another ‘old timer’! How are things with you? Are you still TTC? We keep going on unprotected sex and hope, but my cycles are a bit squiffy these days so that’s worrying.

Cleo and Rose - thanks. Think I’m going to order some. I’m going to start small though and get the 10mg ones and take 3 a day. If I tolerate those ok I’ll up the dosage.

Yes still TTC. Had another CP in October. Really thought I’d cracked it! Urgh, more disappointment. Had so many CPs now. 3 this year I think. Did you have one recently too Cleo?

I find the first week of each cycle really hard. Around ov is ok and post-ov I’m fine. Just need to bottle whatever it is that makes me feel good! Progesterone I guess.

AF is due just before Xmas so hope I’m not feeling too glum over Xmas.

So sorry to hear you had another CP Ali.
I totally understand what you’re saying about the emotions in each part of your cycle. I personally think I’m a bit low in oestrogen in the first half which leaves me feeling a bit low and then I think higher hormone levels plus the ‘hope’ makes me feel better second half. The feeling of ‘maybe just maybe’. Does that make sense?

Ali - yes I had a CP in October too. I'm also due AF just before Christmas, we must be in sync!
I know what you mean about the emotions too, I always feel grumpy abd generally shit in the first week. Then 2ww is quite relaxed and happy for the most

Yes that does make sense Mimosa. That thought of “my work here is done, now just need to wait”.

Plus progesterone makes us feel nice and relaxed. :-)

Sorry you had a CP too Cleo. How many days did the pg/positive hot last for?

It's BFN for me. Of course gutted but soldier on. Waiting to hear from the doctor. Think will have to wait for a cycle and then start IVF again since we don't have frosties.

Ali - Yeah I love progesterone....

My CP was pretty short lived, got a positive test when I was about 3 days late, then period came about 3 days later, so making period about a week late. Very disappointing but nothing like the drama's of my mmc.

Russ - sorry you got bfn. Fingers crossed for next time

@Russkispy, I’m so so sorry, it must be gutting for you to have been through all of that just to get a bfn. Sending you hugs x

Thank you lovely ladies! Waiting for AF to fully start. And after it's gone then a shagathon time! Haha and if that won't work, then will start IVF again and will fly home from day 1 of injections, so I'm under full observation of my doctor. Till ET.

Sorry it's bfn @Russkispy 😕 fingers crossed for your next cycle ✨

Annoyingly my next fertile time is likely to be over Christmas when there is zero chance of dtd! Maybe I can convince dh to squirt some into a cup or something 😬

Hope everyone has a nice week x

@Russkispy - I'm so sorry it was a BFN today - I know that horrible bleak feeling when you see it and realise you've put yourself through all that for nothing. You seem to be such a strong positive person, but do let yourself have some time to properly get over this - failed IVF cycles take a horrible emotional and physical toll and you may find it really hits you in a couple of days (it did for me). Please remember that first cycles fail more often than not, and your medical team will have learned a lot from it, and be able to tweak your protocol for the next cycle so that it will be far more personalised to you, and hopefully more successful! One thing I would advise is not to jump into another cycle to soon - a minimum 3 cycle break is recommended between cycles or the response to stims will be poorer. I was gutted when my clinic explained this (and they won't do another cycle without a 3 month break anyway so I had no choice), but then I researched it and realised this was for the best and I'm so glad I did wait now - I responded So much better the second time around 😊

Anyway I hope this helps and do take good care of yourself over the next few days. xxx

Thanks everyone for updating with your news. Sending you all good thoughts as we head through the holiday fun and frenzy.
We had our test results this week from the MMC a month ago and it was a boy with Trisomy 14 plus another duplication on a different chromosome. Since it’s our third miscarriage we’re eligible for further genetic testing so it will be nice to know more when that all goes through. Hoping this was just a random thing if likely age-related.
I also wanted to mention that I had a surprise and fairly drastic hemorrhage out of the blue last week. Everything had finally calmed down after the procedure a month prior so I was pretty shocked but fortunately managed to leave work (a primary school!) without too many people finding out. Apparently it was some retained tissue and this just happens sometimes. Yikes

@Alibaba2..nice to hear from you and sorry about your CP

@Russkispy..Sorry to hear it was bfn. Take heart in that my sis-in-law was successful with IVF 2nd attempt and now has a beautiful baby boy for Xmas! As Critter says give yourself those 3 months to rest and treat yourself over Xmas xx

@lii222...omg that sounds horrendous. You poor thing. i'm so sorry to hear about your mc and hemorrhage. So difficult whilst at work too..you did well to hide it. Hope you are ok now?

After MMC I thought it might take a month or 2 at least for things to settle down, but it seems my body bounced back quickly and I think I may have ovulated on CD16 (if MC was CD1) as normal.

Russ so sorry it’s bfn. Still plenty of hope for you.

Liii so sorry to hear of your mc and hemorrhage. Hopefully tests may help you get some answers and move forward.

Mahotsukai glad you feel your cycle has normalized after your mmc.

AFM I think I ovulated yesterday on CD13 which is the best day I’ve had in months. I’ve had no hot flashes and just generally feel a lot better. My period wasn’t as heavy and draining either so I’m v impressed with acupuncture and herbs. Only managed to dtd on Sat pm and this morning though so not great effort this month with sex. Hopefully timed it ok. Can I ask everyone about ewcm and ov pains....do you think ovulation comes before, during or after these for you?

Been travelling home today from middle East for Christmas so feel awful. I think my period has started but a)I'm on double dose of progesterone plus vaginal gels and b) it's brown. Not red or pink.
There is quite a bit on wiping but don't need a pad.
Could this be implantation? I'm 13dpiui. Tested yesterday and got bfn. My Greek God doc has told me to test tmrw.

@littlemimosa I've always thought that ov pains come before the ewcm... as thought it was the ovs getting ready to release..
so sorry about the bfn @Russkispy
Oh my goodness @lii222 what a dreadful time, here's hoping you can get answers soon.
@mahotsukai the female body is a strange beast..
@Presh12345 it could be implanting
Hubby is following me around like a dog on heat at the moment... says I smell diff... well loads of ewcm this cycle.. so dtd every other day.. although I keep getting pounced on during the day.. but it's too bloody cold in our house at the moment to even entertain removal of clothing... ohhh the romance 🤣🤣🤣

@littlemimosa I get ewcm for a few days, possibly 5ish days, then I get bad ovulation pain on the last day of ewcm. My ovulation pains last about half a day (12 or so hours), I have always assumed once ovulation has happened the pain gets better. That seems to be the case for me anyway. I have been trying to dtd the day before ov pains, the day of ov pains and the day after. But I think it’s before ov pains that’s the important one. xxx

Mimosa I find I get ewcm for 2 days then nothing for a few days then ov pains. I think it's different for everyone

Hmmm interesting responses so far. Thanks ladies.

Presh - it’s still early for testing. Don’t lose hope yet.