still TTC your first baby? want some glastonbury luck?

[fifilou]

hi ladies from the old TTC thread, time to start a new one you think? Its gone way past 500!

Right.go on then, a little bit of magic is fun!

am off to Glasto this weds, and aparantly its good luck to run around the stone circle 3 times.

I'm doing it once for myself and some of my TTC buddies, but if you fancy a little of the glasto luck your way... pop your name here!

(its only a bit of fun!)

nomore- glad your feeling ok, it takes over doesnt it? I never thought it would from day one!

hope all goes well on thurs, what are you expecting to hear? Did i miss something?

Content is good nomore. Really glad to hear you are feeling calm and ready to deal with the docs. It is so much better to find out what the issue is than keep wondering and worrying. Good for you.
Had a look at that website and it really helped - though now think I have missed the surge altogether. No matter though as we've be bding like mad! Poor dh will have no sperm left at this rate.
Fi I totally know what you mean about it taking over. I have gone from being very casual about the whole thing to being completely obbsessed! We have to try to stay calm. And thanks for the hug! you are so sweet!
Also I have been getting crampy like twinges for the past week. But think it's my bowels - been eating way to much fruit!
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Hi Treenie it is not recommended that you test your morning wee. Your afternoon/evening wee is better and make sure you do not drink too much because it can dilute your hormones.

Hi Fi glad you had a great time. It is really hard not to get obsessed, Im trying to relax.

Hi Nomore at least you will know what is going on with your hormones. I hope they are nicer with you this time. Weren't they a bit off with you last time or did I dream that?

Im thinking about telling the doc a little white lie because he will not see you until you have been trying for 12 months.

Ok just had an email from my friend in Oz who is 6 months pregnant. Lots of pics of her with big bump (and huge boobs!), looking so happy. Now don't get me wrong, I am thrilled for her, but also very jealous and feeling even more fed up. I know I have no right as have just started trying but feeling crap never the less.

And BB, could I have missed my surge completely then? And yes def lie to your doc - you pay your taxes don't you therefore you deserve treatment. I don't think it's fair that they make you wait a year. Haven't you been trying for almost that long anyway? Really feel for you. Can't imagine how shit it must be to feel like this month after month. Big hug.
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oh Treenie, its ok to feel jealous! Its normal!

I know what you mean though, I'm surrounded by happy mums and most of them are my really good mates. They are so smug, but not in a mean way, they dont realise what theyre doing when they go on about how happy they are, how lucky they are, how wonderful motherhood is....dont worry about feeling grumpy about the whole thing.

I'm ok at the moment, im staying calm, and trying my best not to get mental! I do thikn about it alot, but I know that my life is pretty good as it is, and its important to focus on what you do have, not what you want.

That way, when what you want does come along, youre ten times happier!

god, im really hippy today, its that glasto air and spring water, it went to my head!

Am getting crampy alot now. boooooooooo!
Is that AF knocking at my door?

GO AWAY!!!!!

Hi BB, the nurse was a bit rough when taking blood last week but I'm ok about it now. (I was feeling a bit emotional I think!)

It depends largely on your gp as to what they are willing to do for you after so long of trying. Some say 12 months before testing, my doc said 8 months+ if you're healthy and have no reason not to be getting pg and know what days to bd on, others say healthy couples under 35 should try for 18 months before tests. Guess it probably comes down to money at the end of the day! Is your gp a nice sympathetic person? Could you go for a chat about ttc and ask what you could be doing to maximise your chances? That way at least you'll be on his/her radar when 12 months is up and he/she will know that you have been targetting your bd and doing whatever else is suggested.

Have you read up about all the things your gp might suggest you do/take and about the tests? I firmly believe knowledge is power. And if it help 8-10 months was about the time I felt lowest about ttc.

hth((hugs))
nomore x

nomore.......the nurses in my docs are roughety rough, i have a big fear of needles and usually pass out. When i was ill about a year ago, i had some tests and i told her i was frightened and would probably pass out. She looked at me like i was an idiot, laughed and said, oh come on youll be fine.

I passed out!

When i came to she wasnt at all sypathetic, just aid next tinme you feel like fainitng pls warn me.

Stupid cow bag.

Next time i might eat a huge curry then barf all over her nurse frock. Can you imagine how many times im going to faint if i get pregnant and have to have all of those tests?

Ive gone all floppy just thinking about it.

*regarding docs 12 months thingy, i let my doctor know asap that we were ttc, as a friend had told me they wouldnt do anything about finding out problems until they had on record that id been trying activly for 12 months.

The other nurses are lovely, I had two gentle ones the last two times I've been in, so the rough one caught me unawares! At least she was only doing bloods, not a smear as the first (nice) one was!

im going to tell you something now, and youre all going to fly off at me, but its ok, as ive got to dash now and wont be back until tomo.

Smears....havent had one for 3 years as my last one was so traumatising i never want one again. Same nurse as before, made me bleed, bruised (im 'a bit small down there arent you dear?' apparantly)

I know I should go again, I really do. Doctor nags every time and I told him why I wont and he just said, well I could do it? Er, no thanks.

fi - i totally understand, am not mad at you!! but when you get pg you do know there will be loads of people poking around down there don't you?

Sorry Fi but I am mad at you! Had dodgy smears in the past and if I hadn't got them check out who knows what might have happened. Not worth the risk. Go to the docs today and stop being a big baby! I know that is harsh but it really is for your own good. I know a woman who got cervical cancer and was left infertile. Hope that makes you see why it really is worth it. Imagine how terrible that would be.
Take your mum or friend with you for moral support and you can hold their hand, but don't put it off any longer!
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Ok now I feel like a big meany for calling you a baby! But just would so hate the thought of something bad happening to you that is so preventable. I know it's horrible - the test and treatment I had were dreadful, but I knew it was worth it. And most of the nurses I'v met are really nice so maybe you were just unlucky. At least have a think about it. x

Treenie I know exactly what you mean. I have felt insanely jealous that other people are pregnant when I'm not - didn't help having to wait so long after 1st mc before being 'allowed' to start trying again... Similar situation now with NCT group starting to get 2nd lot - 'didn't think that I'd be the first' - well actually you weren't but I had a mc in the autumn and would have been giving birth by now but havn't told you about it (didn't say that of course, but that's what I felt). Every 2nd woman going down the road seems to be pregnant too, or have vsmall baby. How broody am I!!!

Fi- thanks for the running, lets hope it helps some of us.... Re needles etc, a good friend has a phobia about them, but managed - she had to turn up for an appointment about an hour early and get some numbing cream (extra strength) put on, then lie down and put on walkman for actual proceedure. If she managed to get through it, I'm sure you will as you sould a lot more hardy. Can't imagine her in a muddy field! No wellies for one thing.

Maximising chances: I have a friend who is now a consultant (in the field). The advice that she gave people coming to her clinic was to ensure that bdg every 2 - 3 days for critical 10 days (ie before and after you're expecting relevant day to be). Also had suggested not to get up immediately afterwards, although that probably common sense. Apparently she had people turning up to her clinic only managing once a month but still wondering why they were not pregnant.

How many loads of washing Fi? I had a housemate some years ago who got back and had to dry tent on washing line after hosing it down... And that wasn't quite as wet a year.

Thanks Mistlethursh - so nice to know I'm not the only one. Feel guilty that I'm not just happy for her. Must be so hard for you seeing your friends pregnant. It will happen and when it does it will feel even more amazing because you've been through so much. Hugs to you too my dear.

I've not been jumping up after bding to make sure some gets up there. Have been swinging around with the help of dh and putting my legs against the headboard to help gravity along.

Have also decided to give up on the ov tests as still haven't had my positive and it's stressing me out - just going to do it every day and hope for the best!
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I was insanely jealous when my business partner announced she was pregnant. I mentioned that I had been ttc for 7 months. I cannot believe what she said to me. Something along the lines of DH and I must not really want a baby or be in the right place. I could have cried there and then. She has no idea what it is like as she caught after one lucky BD session. But I got all this off my chest in the Hut of Gloom so Im in a better place now but I still cannot get my head around why someone would say that to you.

Anyway I have just booked my first appt with doctor next Tuesday. I am going to lie and say we have been trying for 12 months. I have been checking my temp, ov sticks and cervical mucus. I've started to change my diet and I exercise. I don't smoke. Is there anything fundamental I have missed?

Fi

I know how you feel about the smear thing but you have to promise me you will go. I hate it and I've had some rotten experiences.

I had an old school friend who passed away because of cervical cancer and i've had cells lazered, sorry if thats to much info.

I tell you in my next life I am coming back as a man, I can feel my pelvis aching just talking about all this.

Fi

I know how you feel about the smear thing but you have to promise me you will go. I hate it and I've had some rotten experiences.

I had an old school friend who passed away because of cervical cancer and i've had cells lazered, sorry if thats to much info.

I tell you in my next life I am coming back as a man, I can feel my pelvis aching just talking about all this.

Gilly - hi there honey, how are you too? I'm really well thanks. OK heres an update but for the sake of sounding unsympathetic to everyone on here I'll whisper quietly to you....I'm now 11wks and have my 12wks scan next week - feeling a bit ropey and nauseous but generally really good.

Whats happened to Ready - is she still around?

Can I just butt in and say if anyone is debating using OTK - try First Response and do them for a full 7days around ovulation....absolutely marvellous and they helped me to get pregnant. They came highly recommended by my sister who has managed to have 3children....so give it a go!!!

BB - how insensitive! I sometimes wonder if we're all the same species. I had a bit of the same after my 1st mc - not as bad - workmate got pregnant and lots of talk of names, how you're feeling etc etc etc. At that job only 1 person said anything when I came back after mc - and that was one of my male colleagues - I felt everyone else just wanted to ignore what had happened. Whilst I can imagine that they might have felt awkward, apparent indifference was not what I needed at the time (neither was several colleagues getting pregnant with no problem, so I know exactly where you're coming from).

Good luck with the Doctor anyway - I don't think its unreasonable to stretch the time a bit (as long as they don't have a record of you still being on pill or something) - it will probably be more like 12 months by the time you actually get to see someone anyway (in my experience).

Nomore - hope doctor's appointment on Thurs positive and that you can see that something is progressing. Keep trying anyway (its fun practising, and, you never know, like me, it just might happen naturally just in time)

I think insane jealousy is justified - and here is a good place to have a rant about it.

However, I am proof that, even when things don't go to plan, it is still possible - so hang in there everyone!

ok ladies....ive just called to make an apt for this horrid smear thingy and just my luck there was no apts available. My surgery is crap too, you cant book in advance-just on the day. Oohhh!

Just as i pluck up the courage!

Treenie, dont worry, i need to be told off, but im not a baby, im just scared as ive had something not so nice happen in my past which makes me vunerbale when someone routes around 'down there' so i guess its a reason why i get so scared and into an awful state.

my Bf said she would come along, but that horrors me even more! Cant get my bits out infornt of her, i would be even worse.

ooooooooh, what a to-do.

My friend had cervical cancer too, she had to have a hysterectomy, she goes on at me all the time. I know i should, i know, its just hard.

Good for you fi - very proud of you and I know you're not a baby - sorry!

BB there is nothing you have missed - don't blame yourself. Speak to the doc and take it from there - it could be your dh maybe?
You are trying your best and that has to count, maybe nature just needs a wee helping hand.

I was out at a work dinner last night with a woman who is 47, has had five miscarriages with her own eggs and two with donor egg - has one donor egg left and then she has to give up - now that is scary!
Felt so sorry for her and really glad that I was getting on with it.
Still feeling very fed up that I didn't get a positive on the OPK tests but trying not to worry about it.
Did get some sharp pain on my left side last night and then a crampy pain? Is this ov pains do you think?
Do any of you get them and how do they feel? As much detail as poss please and I'm trying to figure out if I just had wind or not?! But according to all the ov calenders I should be ov yesterday (ish) so really hoping.
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Hi Treenie!

Sounds like ov pains to me (thats what ive been told before on this site)

I'm not sure if i even ov'd as i sint use a ov prediction test on my day 14.

Im getting weirdy periody feelings. My Dh bless hi is convinced im pregnant and i think he will crash down more than me if im not! great that hes so encouraging though!

im due fri if my AF is going to be any way normal, or i might not have even ov'd yet! Its all a bit crazy bonkers!

Am going to just chill out and see what happens. Have decided that if there is no sign of AF by Monday, I will test.

bleurggghhhh! I'm feeling a bit poorly ladies

I feel all bloaty and crampy and quite sick. Gross.

I'm thinking its the glastonbury experience (lugging a heavy rucksack on my back, loads of cider, no sleep for 5 days..) and my AF is due. Am totally convinced now shes on her way, as the funny feeling is getting worse.