TTC FIRST BABY THREAD NO.7

[Delilah7]

Another thread ladies ❤️

@stormtrooperjulian yes I'm totally going to chase them up! As @EltzBee said, they have to be done same day as sample is given. So I find it odd. Annoying if something has gone wrong and he needs to do it again!!

Also @EltzBee yes we keep being cycle sisters!! what cycle are you on now?

Xoxox

@SullyWifey - I came off birth control almost eight years (!) ago. The fake hormones made my auto-immune condition worse.

BFN on my early pregnancy test. Sad and furious at the same time.

@Hadaley ooo yes Crikey! I remember reading your first post now! (Sorry they start blurring in to one and I can't remember who's who and what's what!!)

Well I'm afraid I do think that is an odd one! Ahhh our bodies are so annoying!

Just did an OPK and line much stronger, not quite a positive but have attached ydays for comparison.

So definitely gonna have to BD later! Thinking positive the extra day rest for DH yday will hopefully mean some quality swimmers...Thinking I might find a way to jump on DH when he gets home from work as I'm working from home...lol

@SullyWifey this is cycle 5 of ovulating (not counting the first weeks off the pill til I got a proper period). On Cycle Day 15 today according to my Apps so should be due to ovulate imminently (and the OPK has just come back much stronger so looks like my body is gearing up for it). Which cycle are you on now? I've probably asked before but my memory is shot some days! lol

@EltzBee oh yes what a difference a day makes. That will likely be positive tomorrow I reckon! Mine was very faint yesterday. I will test later tonight and let you know!

This is cycle 11 for me, which I still can't get my head round! Beeeen a long journey full of ups and downs so far. Never in a million years thought would take us a little longer. Gutted I didn't come off the pill earlier than I did to be honest, but hindsight is a marvellous thing!

@SullyWifey oh yes it is so surprising how long it takes. Technically I think this is actually cycle 6, as I did ovulate the first month between my last 'pill breakthrough bleed' and my first real period.

I waited until after our wedding and honeymoon to come off the pill so I came off it as soon as I feasibly could. I was on it for 14/15 years before that though! How long had you been on it?

They do say it's quite 'normal' for it to take a year, so fingers crossed it's your turn soon. It's never what you want to hear when you're trying though, is it! 3 of my friends got pregnant first time trying to! I think having to try and taking a while is more common than we realise, we don't talk about it in real life though, really?

Fingers crossed your OPKs turn positive soon too - I was surprised how much darker mine was today as the past few days have all been very faint. Always feels reassuring to see things are working! :)

@SullyWifey did it take your body a while to get back to normal after being on the pill?

@EltzBee I'm just a lurker but I had to say that reading your last post is very reassuring and exactly what I needed to here. AF just arrived and I'm on to cycle 6. I really thought it would happen quickly and feel like something must be wrong because it's taking so long. You saying that it's probably more the norm to take a while to conceive is reassuring - maybe people Just don't speak about it much! X

Couldn't wait and ended up doing a FRER. Cannot believe it

@SophiePie congrats!!! X

Congrats @SophiePie xx

@EltzBee @bonfirelatte I completely agree - you either hear about two extremes I think, either people that conceive straight away or people that take years with IVF (or never conceive at all). It's horrible being sort of stuck in the middle, because I can appreciate there are people that wait for years, but then every week feels torturous when you have the TWW/AF turn up 😩

@SophiePie wow congrats! Xx

@EltzBee your so right hun we really don't talk about it in real life. I feel like I can't talk to anyone around me because they won't understand as they have all got pregnant so quickly. And it's never something you want to share on Facebook is it? But sometimes you do wish people knew a little. I think if it goes on any longer for me, I will just say to people yes we are trying and it hasn't happened yet. Because suppose my silence isn't helping anyone.
It's hard because the longer this goes on the more bitter I'm becoming and finding it hard to be happy for people as I just want it to be me! Makes me feel like a horrible person but suppose it's normal!

But it's going to happen really soon :) for both of us!!xxx

Congrats @SophiePie

@EltzBee 15 years crikey! I was on it for 7 years and that feels like a long time! My body went back to normal quickly after coming off. Had withdrawal bleed as normal then a real period 5 weeks later. Was so glad! Was sure I would be pregnant right away haha!

@cupcakesandglitter yes we do only hear about the extremes!! Ah hate being in limbo!!

@SophiePie congrats - amazing news!

@SullyWifey honestly 😩 I know what you mean about feeling bitter etc.. I get so jealous when I see random mums about with their baby. I saw a mum today with her baby smoking right next to her - I know it's not my place to judge, but I couldn't help feeling so bloody angry. My vile mood didn't help but it just pissed me off so much that she gets to have her baby but chooses to smoke in front of her etc and just honestly I just wanted to cry. This makes no sense whatsoever, im a mess 😂

@cupcakesandglitter OMG hun I totally know what you mean!!! Don't worry your not a mess. Your me 99% of time haha I'm obsessed with looking at random pregnant women honestly. I drive around a lot (I'm a letting agent) and I swear we are in the midst of a baby boom as everywhere I look someone is pregnant. There was one woman today doing the very same thing. And it just made me sad.

What CD are you? And what cycle? Sorry if I have missed an update xx

@SullyWifey YES!! EVERYONE IS PREGNANT, WHY?! 😂 it is sad 😩

I'm CD 18 - cycle 4 this year but if you count the two last year I'm cycle 6? I'm supposed to be doing CD21 bloods but I've been using OPKs and I don't think I've ovulated yet (amazon have sent me some botched stupid faint ones so it's hard to tell 😡 why is the universe against me 😂) so I'm actually not sure about what I should do 🤷🏻‍♀️ x

@SophiePie congrats!

@bonfirelatte I'm glad it was helpful :) @cupcakesandglitter @SullyWifey oh yes I think that's just it, we don't talk about this stuff unless it's an extreme. I think I'd have gone even more mad if I hadn't found you ladies here. Always good to remember when we hear about the 'extemes' either end that that isn't the norm :) so keep positive (I'm trying my best, it's bloody hard though)

@SullyWifey yep, I went on it when I was 14 as I had such awful heavy periods as a teenager - they were crippling and having the pill was worth it. Never came off it til this year! Swapped pills a few times - had a couple of dodgy ones that I had to come off or didn't suit me!

It's been a right learning curve understanding how things are meant to work and about cycles again!

@Delilah7 @cupcakesandglitter @SullyWifey @purplefig @mrsof20118 @EltzBee Thank you

@Hadaley - thank you. It's such a rotten feeling, isn't it?

@EltzBee - thank you for your message. it is like grief, every time AF shows, it hurts. I've never temped before, maybe I'll try next month. I've only ever done OPKs but didn't do it this month because I was on my honeymoon. I was really hoping for a honeymoon baby :( but like you say, there still is a possibility I could be. AF is due Friday but I don't feel pre menstrual at all and I'm normally pre menstrual 5ish days beforehand. We shall have to see whether comes on time now I guess.

@rj995 I know I shouldn't test early but it's SOOO hard to resist, isn't it? This is cycle number 5... definitely going to be as active as possible on here as it's hard to speak to people IRL about it.

@SophiePie Congratulations! That is a great line! TTC is soo draining & causes so many tears. Wish I didn't care so much. Glad I've got this place to vent now as was feeling pretty lonely before I found it.

@SullyWifey Definitely not testing again until Friday now. Just used my last FRER this morning so only have IC left and don't hear good things about them anyway. Just wish I could take a chill pill about it all! Sorry to hear about your bestie... that must be hard. My closest friend is struggling to get pregnant as well but I don't see or speak to her very often so can't really vent to her as much as I would like!

@stormtrooperjulian it's good to be around people who understand. Holding onto the fact I'm not out until AF shows.

@MrsAW2018 temping helped me last month when AF came, because I saw my temperature dropping and I was prepared for it when it did come. Don't get me wrong, I still did an early test (knowing it would be negative but couldn't resist) and I was still so sad when AF turned up. Grief was the only way I could explain it to my DH.

I have started telling a few people we are trying, the longer it goes on the more you need people to understand. If we end up having fertility treatment depending on our fertility clinic outcome, I will probably stop drinking completely - and at that point I will be telling my close friends as I can't bear the thought of assumptions I'm pregnant due to not drinking, when actually it's the opposite.

I don't personally think it's a massive deal telling people, as even if I did get pregnant and God forbid before the magic 12 weeks miscarried, I would actually need people to know so I could cope with it. and also since 99% of my office have kids, are pregnant, or are off on mat leave themselves, I would need some tact from them.

I'm booking myself in for a course of reflexology tomorrow :-) try to de-stress. The lady specialises in fertility reflexology so I'm excited :-)

Also I'm loving all these essays!! Look at you guys, letting me set a great example - in fact some of them are even longer than mine!! And that's saying something! 😜