TTC FIRST BABY THREAD NO.7

[Delilah7]

Another thread ladies ❤️

@Delilah7, it's va really positive sign the dr said all looked normal :) Sorry to repeat, but try to relax and think positive if you can. We're all here for you xx

@cupcakesandglitter, omg I would be fuming if dh said 'nice' re new frillies!! Maybe 'niiiiice' would be acceptable, but not a one syllable 'nice' !! How would they like it if we shrugged and said 'nice' when they got their dicks out?! Sorry, that was a bit uncouth, got carried away :)

Ok ladies, I'm looking for opinions again, sorry!! So I'm due af on 23rd Nov according fertility friend ap. That is the day I go on holiday with ladies from work. Dh thinks I should test the day before (if af hasn't come) so we know... I'm not sure. I'm thinking I should just leave it, see if af arrives and test when I'm back home if not? I don't drink and the holiday will be super chill, so not like I need to know for safety reasons. What do you gals think?? Xx

So after a month we finally have the SA back.

Normal forms come in at 2 when the minimum is usually 4. Think it refers to morphology. He has to do another sample in 3 months 😩 tried researching but not much comes up for morphology on its own. Don't know if it's bad or not. Doctors just gave us a complicated piece of paper. Anyone know anything on this?

Welcome @DayDreamer1707 sorry to hear about your MC but great news your all back on track now. Will have everything crossed for you xx

@ValidUser glad the result is better!!

Welcome! @DayDreamer1707 sorry to hear about your MMC. This is a great place for support and to rant with some lovely lovely ladies.

@FivexFive ooo tricky one, I personally would wait as I hate bfn's and you don't want to be sad when you go on hols. How long is the holiday for?

@SullyWifey it's so confusing isn't it! my DH's morphology was 5, our doc said as long as the sperm count is good this isn't a problem. She said these days most men's morphology is not good. What was your DH's sperm count?

@FlapJackered, we go reeeeaaalllyy early Fri morning and get back late Mon night. Dh says he wants to know, which I get. But I also think that if it IS bfp (doubt it will be tbh!) he might worry about me going! Sounds daft, but he's a worrier. I'm really torn... don't want to be thinking about it while I'm away really. We'll see how it goes next week. I'll probably get af on the plane knowing my look!! Xx

@FlapJackered oh really, that's good to know. Did you book an appointment to discuss your results or how did you get them?

Count is 133.8 million. Guessing that's ok??

@FivexFive - that's a difficult one - you could wait and see how you feel on the day?

@SullyWifey yes he had an appointment with the doctor soon after and she went through the results. It was really good actually as they were quite confusing and overwhelming to read. I would book an appointment with your doc and try not to worry about it too much. That seems like a good count though!

@FlapJackered how long does your surge usually last? And how often were you testing when you got that darker result? Hopefully you've been DTDing then.

@FivexFive I'd wait until you're late. Just because you didn't pee on all the sticks early doesn't mean it'll take your pregnancy away.

@stormtrooperjulian @BabySquid we BD just in case, I don't think it's gonna happen though, don't see myself being pg this year x

@FlapJackered honestly 😂😂 omg the fucking phone, DH is CONSTANTLY playing stupid games on his, it's infuriating. How about having sex with me during that time instead....

Oh god @FivexFive I completely agree, they'd be SO self conscious about it but it's not supposed to be a personal thing for us when it's the other way round?! 😂😓

@Crossfitgirl how was the course? X

WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO GET PREGNANT HONESTLY!!! I'm genuinely so bloody upset about how it's making me feel, I just feel shit 24/7, I'm trying to do everything I can to look after myself, I'm stressing about not stressing and I feel like I'm no fun to be around... I literally have no idea what to do, I know DH is getting really sad too.

@FlapJackered think I will get him to book in then as it needs explaining.

Girls I'm totally pissed off and feel like shit. So I'm going to vent.
Iv just got home from Pilates and on my way home I text saying fancy running me a nice bath? Came in, bath was run, very nice, he's still playing xbox, out the bath I get, come down stairs, doesn't acknowledge me, still playing xbox. I said, you playing that all night then? And he said yeah was going to because I won't get to play it this weekend (like he's a bloody child)

Now I know that seems petty but what it means is that I will go to bed on my own and he won't up come till 1/2 in the morning and just fall asleep.

So no DTD! Today is my peak, I'm either O tonight or in the morning as a second day of positive OPK. We last did it Tuesday. Feel like we totally missing the best time slot after doing so well keeping it up.

I feel like he has done this on purpose. He's being so offish with me. I actually could cry. Why doesn't he act like he wants this as much as me :(

@cupcakesandglitter I feel like I'm totally re iterating your point about. Just put the bloody game down and have sex with me!! This should be the best time of any mans life having his wife want sex on tap!! Whhyyyy!!!
Literally your whole last paragraph I totally relate. I'm doing the same, stressing about not stressing etc etc. 11 bloody months. I don't know how much longer I can do this :(

@SullyWifey that's so frustrating, have you told him that you are ovulating?
That Xbox is the other woman in the marriage isn't it! DH wastes so much bloody time on it. We literally never go to bed at the same time.
We Dtd tonight but it took some coaxing and I just don't get it, as you said you would have thought they would loveeee all the extra sex, not act like it's such hard work!
It is so demoralising isn't it and exhausting. I just don't get how the world is so over populated when it is this difficult to get pregnant!

@FlapJackered literally other women. It's like he try's to balance his time between the two of us!

No I haven't because we spoke last month about he hates it when I tell him as he feels so much pressure. And he kept finding it hard to get to the finish line. I thought ok that's fine I'll respect that, but just feel like he used it is an excuse. Now I feeel bad if I bring it up and put pressure on him.

I really don't know what to do. I'm sitting here fuming. If I tell him now it will just be the most un-sexy thing as he clearly isn't in the mood for it.

@KatBeCool I am not sure how long it lasts. I normally only get one positive opk? I test 3 times a day plus I do clearblue too so I don't think there's a chance of missing it 🙈
Trying to Dtd but the DH is not overly keen. I have told him at all costs we are hitting ovulation this time so he has agreed once I get the positive opk that we Dtd everyday until the temp rise!
How are you doing? What cd are you on now?

@SullyWifey oh ffs what a twat, sorry but it's so stupid of him!! If it was me - I know I'm gonna get backlash for this - but I'd straight up block the TV, and not let him play jack shit until he's played with me first 😂 I can't believe they're so blasé about it!!!! I've just had a chat with DH about it and how sad I am, and he said "I guess we'll just have to try more" ......... IVE ONLY BEEN SAYING IT FOR MONTHS FFS!!!

Don't give him a choice, go get your man xx

@SullyWifey hmmm what if you text him saying to come upstairs you are really horny and want sex now! It takes some guts but if he says no, you're in no worse position that you are now?

@cupcakesandglitter 😂😂 oh my god your amazing. Christ I wish I had the balls to do that. I just know it wouldn't even make a difference right now, is that sad or what?!. He's an actual twat right now, can't believe how much I hate him haha. SO blasé about it.
Well done for taking to hubby though, I really hope he follows through with it!
I'm going to talk to mine about it at the weekend and just say how disappointed I was and that I don't think this whole me not telling you when's my best time is going to work. It's not like we just starting out ffs.

Omg @FlapJackered I just don't know if I'm that brave?!!! He probs won't even text me back. He's got he's bloody mate on the stupid headset thing.
God am I a wimp or what?!!! Ffs.

@cupcakesandglitter 😂😂😂
@SullyWifey noo don't be so hard on yourself it's not easy putting yourself out there like that. I am terrible at it!! I would definitely chat to him about it though as I had to have that convo with my DH when he wanted to wing it, I just said that if I don't tell him when I am ovulating I am never going to get pregnant and he did come around to it. Although I only tell him about the positive opk if he tries to put off having sex.
I would try and talk to your DH now if you can, then you get it out there and you might still be in time?

@SullyWifey I suppose it sounds good when reading it, but honestly it makes me really sad to think I have to force my own husband to want to have sex with me 😩 I completely get how you feel - my DH won't do anything about it, it's all words honestly.

I think you do need to have a real chat with him, and not let the pressure be used as an excuse, but I think you need to really explain to him that you're under 10x more pressure and that he's making it worse xx

@cupcakesandglitter the course was good! It's all about your breathing and being in the moment, but you have to do homework and practice it at home too, as at the mo it's just impossible! But I'm determined to get there!

I had reflexology last night and it was glorious, have to admit I wasn't too keen on it during, but afterwards I felt sooo relaxed and my legs were all floaty!

@sullywifey OMG I HEAR YOU!!! @Flapjackered you know this too! A couple of months back my DH flat out refused sex on literally the day before and day of ovulation, I was so upset i cried and we had a right to do. It's like we've said before on here, men need it spelling out. The amount of times I've tried to find different ways of saying "have sex with me" is untrue! You have to be bold and brave, he is your husband - getting your way with him will be easy and trust me, is he really gonna turn you down? You literally do have to sometimes just block the tv and sit on him. I have started now just swiping his phone from him, and straddling him and taking my clothes of. Believe me, I would NEVER have done that before, but now it's like well... there's only a few days per month you're fertile so i would rather risk getting turned down than have to wait another bloody month and feel the frustration and angst of not having tried to have sex with him cos I'm too embarrassed. I do have to psych myself up sometimes. But seriously- try the texting. Make it seem like it's his idea. I find that works the best!

"Hey baby, why don't you come join me in the bath, I'm already naked and I want your naked penis inside me too..." 😂😂 seriously I have said shit like this and because it's so blunt, and makes it so clear whar you mean, as soon as he pictures it he's already getting in the mood!

Honestly, you got this.
Go get him!!

Well it turns out there's something in the air apparebtky! DH flat out rejected me tonight as well. I'm supposed to ov today. Safe to say I'm quite upset

@Crossfitgirl glad it's going well and you're feeling more chilled and relaxed after reflexology xx

@MrsR16 it is super shit. Sorry your DH has caught whatever shitty man vibe that's going round today XX

Time for another thread I think before this one fills up? I'll add a link x

Sorry again if I've missed anyone out!!!

TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD NO.8 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3425082-ttc-first-baby-thread-no-8

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Hi everyone this is my first post on Mumsnet but I just need to talk to someone. We are TTC right now and supposedly during my fertile window according to Natural Cycles but haven’t had a smiley face at all so far (supposed to ovulate tomorrow) even though I’ve had smiley faces the last two cycles. We have been having sex every night and I just feel so despondent and down- I really want it to happen but somehow I’ve convinced myself that if it doesn’t happen first time it won’t happen for ages!! Also after me constantly telling him how worried and down I feel about all this and how much I’m dreading the The two week wait he texts me this morning to very bluntly tell me a friends wife is “preggers”. When I point out how insentiive this is he says “oh sorry I thought you were feeling better about it as you said you thought the app might be wrong”. Gah! He just thought somehow I’ve compeltely got over the worry due to that one comment which was really more about making myself feel more positive about no smiley and all this “wasted” sex we’ve been having! Help please it’s so lonely and I feel like I’m going mad.