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Chooklass · 09/10/2018 06:30

Yammers thread 9!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

  • Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shalt not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night
  • Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

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Chooklass · 21/10/2018 07:30

Welcome @strawberrye! Sorry you've been having a rubbish TTC journey but you're in good company here .

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Owlpatrol · 21/10/2018 07:48

@strawberrye welcome! Yes we have many times where we are totally fu!ked off with the world!

Owlpatrol · 21/10/2018 07:51

Oh man I've woken up with a really bad hangover, hungry and fed up! Detox and diet must start again tomorrow. Why can't I sleep in when I'm hungover I'll never understand. I'm also in a really bad mood, I had an argument with my sister because she shared something with me that she then overheard me talking about to mum which mum already knew about, but my sister got really sensitive about it. I know it was wrong but I'm just annoyed that she has this way of making everyone feel bad when we're only trying to help! Anyways.....

JustLikeTheySaid · 21/10/2018 11:12

Another negative FRER this morning so I am most definitely out.

I'm absolutely losing it this morning. Sobbing, huge fight with husband who tried to tell me that it's really normal not to get pregnant straight away - yes, fine, but LOADS of people do. Told him if we aren't pregnant by January I want to pay privately for the initial checks to which he said it was a waste of money and I went fucking apeshit. So now we arent speaking.

7 months of ovulation stick proper trying plus 18months of no contraception and NOTHING suggests to me there has to be something wrong. There has to be.

I'm overweight and have no willpower to change it and that is totally shit, probably the reason we aren't getting pregnant but equally I'm comfort eating because I feel like shit all the time about my total failure to be a mother when everyone else seems to manage it at the drop of a hat.

Off to a christening today for a baby who was conceived

JustLikeTheySaid · 21/10/2018 11:14

....when I remember thinking oh how lovely that we will have kids that are a similar age because of COURSE we will get pregnant soon! For FUCKS sake.

Sat on the sofa sobbing my eyes out. Need to pull myself together and get ready for an afternoon surrounded by small children which surely if conception was as tricky as everyone makes out, wouldn't exist!!! Except for most people it doesn't seem tricky at all.

Sorry for the rant.

Pinkemi · 21/10/2018 11:27

Hey guys.. so.. im fretting. I feel like i cocked up ny trigger shot. Sad

Firstly i ended up bending the blasted needle so i bent it back then inserted it. Pushed hard down as much as i could and thought i had gone straight to the bottom. When i pulled it out i noticed there was still some left (or it could have been an air bubble.) I turned the dial back to try again and for some unknown reason. I pressed without putting it back in my tummy! i had a tiny puddle in the middle of my hand. Confused i have no idea how much i put in.. and worried ive screwed it up. Honestly i felt like crying at the wedding.

Owlpatrol · 21/10/2018 11:55

@JustLikeTheySaid oh that's totally shit and you are more than welcome to rant here. Dp and dh's think they mean well but they aren't. We had a row a few weeks ago which almost ending our ttc journey all together as dp thought we couldn't afford to go private. Great. So all the saving is literally for nothing. No child no IVF what the heck is the point!

I've not spoke about it much here but I'm a a step mum (yes at the grand age of 30!) To dp's children from previous. I love them to bits but as you can imagine it's very hard for me. if I think about it sometimes I get upset/angry about how dp is happy with his already 2 children and I have none. And I wonder why he doesn't want his sperm testing, in the row mentioned above I asked him if he'd had the snip and he totally flipped at me. I do believe he hasn't but my irrational mind is determined he has!!!

Owlpatrol · 21/10/2018 11:56

@Pinkemi sending hugs, I'm sure everything will be fine Flowers

OrcinusOrca · 21/10/2018 12:45

Oh @Pinkemi no wonder you're worried, they must expect instances such as that though, not quite all the shot to be injected etc. You're not a clinician so hopefully they account for a little extra margin. I think you've done really well the amount of injections you've had to do, I'm OK with needles but I'm not sure how well I would manage! Did the wedding go to plan?

@Owlpatrol hope you feel better soon! Families are so hard, hope it's forgotten about shortly.

@JustLikeTheySaid I feel like we could do with a penguin huddle on days like this! Regarding your weight, honestly so many people who are very overweight don't seem to have problems conceiving so don't feel like it's the one thing etc. I had an interesting conversation with my friend about diet. I have PCOS and feel like I should eat more leafy greens, less sugar, less carbs, but I really can't be arsed. And I said to her, surely if I wanted to conceive that badly I'd do it, so why am I so against it? And she suggested that avoiding doing it because if I do, and I still don't get pregnant, it's like the final nail in the coffin, and I think she's right. Psychologically I can't take another slap in the face. I'm young, healthy, even got married and have a mortgage, decent career with decent mat pay, and the one bloody thing I can't do is reproduce 

This is turning into more of a rant about me, but I felt like your comment about not having the willpower etc really resonated. Do not beat yourself up about that.

I'm trying to step away from the OPKs and things now because I feel like I get too obsessed, but I've already started temping again. Telling myself I'm just making sure I'm back to normal after the chemical, ha..! I swear long term/not very successful TTC sends us absolutely barmy x

Si1ver · 21/10/2018 16:48

@Pinkemi don't fret, I bent two needles during my shots. A tiny puddle isn't going to make much difference in clinical terms I wouldn't have thought.

Think positive.

Chooklass · 21/10/2018 17:14

Don't apologise for the rant @JustLikeTheySaid - that's what we're here for!  It's really bloody tough TTC long term. One of the toughest things a woman can go through but we can rarely talk about it in real life. Totally get what you mean re will power too - it's a vicious cycle.

@Pinkemi - sounds really stressful but I'm sure they will account for a margin of error. If it had to be exact to work there's no way they'd trust us plebs to inject themselves!

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Chooklass · 21/10/2018 17:19

I totally get what you mean @OrcinusOrca - after I was diagnosed with pcos I managed 3ish months of really healthy, low-sugar diet and it really helped. My skin cleared up, periods more regular and less painful - but still not pregnant. I know I should of kept it up but think there is defo an element of self-sabotage because it was so hard to deal with yet another thing not working. Trying to start being healthy again and was doing ok until a choc-fest this avo!

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Owlpatrol · 21/10/2018 17:55

@Chooklass snap I am totally craving carbs today!

strawberrye · 21/10/2018 19:57

@OrcinusOrca sounds like you've had a crap year too, I can see your angst over whether to report that chemical or not. I'm just taking a supermarket pregnancy multivitamin. Toyed with vitamin B6 for a while but it didn't seem to do anything to my LP and actually delayed my ovulation so stopped that.

Thanks for your welcome @Chooklass and @Owlpatrol. Hope your hangover buggered off quickly @Owlpatrol!

@JustLikeTheySaid that sounds really tough, I hope you managed to get through the day. Don't beat yourself up about the willpower side of things, TTC is shit enough without self-blame.

Booksandbaths1 · 21/10/2018 21:04

Amen to all that yammers - you ladies rock and this is long term ttc is fucking hard. It eeks into every part of our lives and messes with our emotions. I'm so grateful for all the support this thread brings and how it makes me feel less alone. I hope everyone is having a lovely, relaxing Sunday eve. We won't feel like this forever (even though it has already been ruddy long enough).
Masses of luck and positive vibes for egg retrieval @Pinkemi (if it's painful pls don't tell me!) 😆

Si1ver · 22/10/2018 08:24

Good luck with your ER @Pinkemi

Chooklass · 22/10/2018 08:54

Ooh, is ER today @Pinkemi? Thinking positive thoughts for you!

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Pinkemi · 22/10/2018 15:08

So we got 6 eggs!! Still waiting to hear if they are all useable. Feeling very uncomfortable and a bit sore still.

Si1ver · 22/10/2018 15:43

Well done! That's a great result.

Put your feet up and take it easy.

Chooklass · 22/10/2018 15:43

Well done @Pinkemi!

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ImpatientMammy · 22/10/2018 18:28

@Pinkemi that's amazing news !!! Have everything crossed for you. When will you know? C

Pinkemi · 23/10/2018 10:55

Morning Yammers.. So we had 4 eggs fertilised.. 2 of them were immature and they couldn't use them. :( So now we wait until Thursday to see if I have a day 3 or a day 5 transfer! I am keeping all my limbs crossed that they all make it to day 5!!

Still feeling a little uncomfortable.. its like having period pains! im back at work today when in reality i just want to be at home sleeping. haha

Hope you are all doing okay! Sending everyone penguin hugs!

Si1ver · 23/10/2018 11:33

Four is great! Did you have IVF or ICSI?

ImpatientMammy · 23/10/2018 11:47

Ahh I have everything crossed for you @Pinkemi when will you know? How you feeling about it all? C

LookingAtTheStars89 · 23/10/2018 12:43

@Pinkemi. Hey great job! Fingers tightly crossed for you x x

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