Yam Fam!

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Yammers thread 9!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

Other pregnant people make me mad too!
FP here so at least I can go for my first blood tests on Friday.

I am worrying that one of the blood tests is for chlamydia antibodies. I'm now worrying I might have chlamydia and not have known and have made myself infertile. What if this is all my fault? Health anxiety is a bitch.

@impatientmammy yeah holiday booked fuck the boss!

Soooo me and dp had an argument last night, I found something on his phone about a woman and although he showed me we argued it wasn't anything bad but still annoyed he didn't tell me. So last 24 hours been an emotional mess. However we're good now but meh. Had some ewcm last 2 days and cycle day 16 but thought I ovulated at the weekend! So anyway might try for a make up deed tonight

@inquisitivebadger welcome back!!

@JustLikeTheySaid aww love hope youre ok

@JustLikeTheySaid does it make you feel any better if I tell you it’s a standard panel that they do for everyone and not that they think you have it? hugs

@BGDino Must be so hard to see your friend with a little one after everything you've been through.
Thinking of getting some OPKs this month. Haven't done it before because I thought it would just make me more obsessive and stressed about it all but I'm worried we're just missing my ovulation every month. Has anyone got any tips? Any brands better than others? I feel like @maddiie recommended something a while ago but I can't find her comment.

I am using the clearblue dual hormone one which I would say is very accurate. But it is expensive and the cheap ones from Amazon always pinpoint the exact same day too!

I second the clearblue ones @inquisitivebadger they give you a heads up that ovulation is on its way and they're easy to read.
@Owlpatrol glad you booked your holiday.

My other half somehow roped me into a night out on Saturday when I'll be 9dpo even though I said over and over that I might be pregnant and it's to early to test. I sent him to Asda for first response and they're rapid result ones so def won't work. My only way is to wee in a pot Saturday morning and keep it until an Amazon delivery arrives but I know I won't feel certain enough if it's a bfn anyway. I got a bfn at 10dpo last cycle and was pregnant. If I have another chemical I'll blame any drink and my friends no I don't do sober nights out. He's such a dick I'm so annoyed with him. If anyone has any magic advice I'll be greatful if not thank you anyway for reading such a long rant. I know no one else will understand x

It's definately been the week of men being dicks @impatientmammy I caught mine messaging a women (although innocently) it's majorly depressed me, and we're meant to be ttc!! We are going out Saturday and I'll be around 9dpo as well, but I drink a little during the tww anyway. I probably shouldn't that's probably why I've never been pregnant

I usually do @Owlpatrol it's just with actually getting pregnant last month I didn't want to. I'm guessing it wasn't someone you knew of 😔 x

Yes I'm totally with you hun @impatientmammy I need to get my life in gear. I have finally bought a 2019 diary, I really need to think of some goals this year which aren't ttc but it's so hard. No not somebody I know it's someone he knows from this support group on Facebook he's on, she lives in Canada so I'm not too worried. I read the messages and he's got rid of her so I've had to draw a line under it x

That's understandable @Owlpatrol if you ever wanna talk about it we're all here. Me and my OH have argued loads this week I'm just pleased I'm not fertile tbh x

@Owlpatrol sending hugs

@impatientmammy I usually don't drink during TTC as the fertility clinic says not to drink during fertility treatment, which might explain why I'm taking advantage of the time between now and my appointment to drink all the wine hic

Currently a mixture of spaced out and tipsy as I woke up tonight after sleeping for 18 hours straight and I'm drinking what's left of the bottle of white wine I opened 2 days ago for cooking. Guess my body decided to call in 2 months' worth of sleep debt all at once???!!!

As we're getting to the end of January I'm hoping that we all get a kick-ass February!

Omg @BGDino I envy you 😩

@Owlpatrol @impatientmammy sorry to hear your DHs have been pricks too. I've actually just found out so has mine and I'm struggling not to break down. Can I have your advice please?

We both stopped smoking at soon as we were dead set on ttc. DH was vaping but it was doing my head in and honestly I didn't want stupid chemicals everywhere so I told him if he wanted to vape we weren't going to TTC until we were both ready. I said that it wasn't an ultimatum as such or a threat, I just needed him to show me he was sensible enough to not run to vaping/smoking every time something got tough - after all, why would I want a baby with someone who could potentially run to fags when they're stressed with a newborn baby?! Anyway, I had a dream last night that he was smoking - woke up and I had to ask him... turns out he's had a couple when he's been stressed. I'm absolutely devastated - it was the only thing I asked him to do for us, his health and for our future baby... where do I go from here? Am I overreacting? Please be honest with me 😩

Not at all @cupcakesandglitter men get it so easy and this isn't meant to sound like man hating but for me it's about trust as well, all they have to do is dtd but ttc aside us women have a lot on our plates, working, carrying a baby, emotional drain. You're not over reacting at all

Thanks @Owlpatrol - I didn't know whether I was being irrational. I know DH thinks I was being selfish and not compromising when I told him not to vape months ago, but why should we go through all the hard labour when they just sit there dicking around. They are so selfish! As if TTC is hard enough when it doesn't happen straightaway, they choose this time to do what they want instead of supporting us 😩

Glad your getting a much needed rest @BGDino
I hope your ok @cupcakesandglitter did he seem apologetic. I think quitting smoking is harder for some than others 4 years on I still want to smoke on nights out. Hopefully it was just a relapse and won't happen again
Owl patrol I keep meaning to ask where you going on holiday?
I'm so nervous to test tomorrow I know it's gunna be negative it's so early x

Hey @impatientmammy I'm okay thanks - I think. He is really sorry and he has said he won't ever do it again - I completely get it's hard, especially with all this stress I've wanted to so many times. I guess I haven't because I don't want anything to ruin the chances of maybe getting my BFP. It's hard though because he lied about it - and if I say we'll carry on TTC then doesn't that make me a pushover? It'll mean going back on my word 😩 how many DPO are you tomorrow? X

Tbh @cupcakesandglitter my oh would have to do something big for me to stop ttc however that's not the healthiest outlook and we already have a kid so I know he's a good dad. You know him best go by your gut don't forget to think of yourself too. I'll be 9dpo I'm all excited and I know I'm gunna be crushed and I won't believe it cause I'm a glutton for punishment 🙈 x

BFN this morning on a FRER. There's a huge part of me screaming that's what happened last cycle but it's probably true 😔 so I have to go out tonight and I probably won't drink just in case dreading AF arriving I'm gunna be gutted x

@impatientmammy I know it's not a big deal, and I know he's a good husband and will be a great dad - just sick of bearing all the stress of TTC by myself. Sorry about your BFN 😩 I know it doesn't help, but you're not out until AF arrives, so I think not drinking tonight is a good idea xx

Thanks @cupcakesandglitter I think this has been the hardest bfn yet I'm really struggling today I think if I drank tonight I'd end up crying and oversharing so it'll def be a sober one. I do get what you mean it's def a trust issue but yous will get through it. Maybe have a month off ? I think @Owlpatrol had a bit of a break recently and found it helpful x

@impatientmammy ahh sorry to hear the bfn but I hope you have a good night tonight. We've booked Ireland! We are thinking of having a date night tonight as we haven't had one for ages but can't decide what to do! I had a break for a month and this month I've skipped opks so looking forward to seeing what this month brings. About 7dpo today

I hope it's amazing @Owlpatrol I've never been x

@impatientmammy crossing fingers for you.

@cupcakesandglitter one of my closest friends who is an addiction specialist like me gave up smoking 4 years ago and still uses those nicotine sprays to stop the cravings

Trying to convince myself to get out of the house to go swimming!

I had one fruit kopersburg last night and then Pepsi all night came home at about 1 cause I was feeling queezy then was fine this morning till I had som cherrios and it's came back this is how I felt Christmas Day so
I'm feeling really hopeful it's just like a really mild carsickness so could easily be just too much Pepsi 😂🤞 no more tests till I'm late now though don't think I can cope with another bfn. X