Yam Fam!

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Yammers thread 9!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

BFN for me this morning at 10DPO so that's me out.

Might have to give up for a bit. I'm exhausted with the emotion of constantly failing.

@JustLikeTheySaid I know how you feel, it really is exhausting. When I start to feel like that a lot I try a new hobby or fitness class or something to take my mind off it. Was just thinking tonight that in my hour-long yoga class I didn't think about TTC or work at all! Amazing! Did me the world of good after today's baby bomb. X

Oh yeh, and @JustLikeTheySaid I seem to feel better when I don't test. It's really tough some months and I still do occasionally but I find the failure of a bfn worse than fp for some reason.

Aaaand another baby bomb. My boss just said ‘I’m having a baby’ and rushed off to a meeting. I’m a bit bitter but actually pleased too, because she’s great and also she’s got to be about my age so it gives me a bit of (pointless) hope.

Oh god Sparkwood it seems to be the time of year for them. Hope you're okay.

My SIL just had the baby so I am an Auntie for the first time. Have been uncontrollably sobbing for about an hour and have to keep going to the toilets to sort myself out! So, so, so happy but also sad. Feels weird.

I actually am ok this time. I think it’s been a long and difficult time coming for her so it’s great.

Hope you’re ok too. Love and gin to you.

Hi - can I please join you lovely ladies?

I am 30 and have been ttc for 9 months now. I have long and irregular cycles. Currently cd22 3dpo.

Has anyone tried Soy Isoflavones? I have been reading good things about them so might give them a whirl next cycle.

Hi @FlapJackered - welcome!

Well yammers, sadly I'm back. Has been a hellish few weeks with family death and illness and my ivf cycle in amongst it all. Stressful to say the least. Got my period last night, 8 days after my 5 day embryo transfer - so didn't make it close to test day. I'm devastated to say the least. All that time, effort, hope and money for nothing. Feeling at a new ttc low today.

Oh Booksandbaths1 I’m so sorry to hear that.

@Booksandbaths1 I'm so sorry . I can't imagine how you are feeling. We're here if you need to rant and rage xx

I'm so sorry @Booksandbaths1, please be kind to yourself.

Booksand that's truly shit, I'm sorry.

Oh Books that's unbelievably shit, so sorry. I hope you have some good IRL support around you too?

Thanks guys, my DH is being amazingly supportive though it is upsetting for him too. We didn't tell close family due to the stuff they've got going on. My sister's in hospital really not well so I didn't want to burden my mum. We got a few embryos frozen so that's the tiny silver lining. Though it's hard to feel positive - if this transfer didn't work, why should any other. I was so hoping for a bit of luck after a shit few months but it wasn't to be sadly.

I'm so pleased you have some frozen embryo. I know it's got to be incredibly hard to see a bright side at the moment, but your odds of it working increase with every transfer. With three separate transfers it goes up to about 80%. Did your frozen embryos get genetic testing as well?

Now's the time to be kind to yourself, wallow in misery, maybe have a holiday if you can.

Thanks Si1ver. We didn't do any genetic testing - did you? I'm 34 so I guess they feel it's not necessary yet. I'm not sure on the 80% stat as I've researched and it's not that high. Certainly not for 3 transfers anyway but maybe for 3 complete cycles. It feels rubbish tbh, all that effort for not even a hint of bfp. Just my fucking period arriving early 😔 Kinda losing faith in this ever working for us.

I can't imagine how shit you must feel, going through all of that. The hormones aren't going to be helping you either. You must be feeling completely wrung out.

We had one embryo tested, our clinic did it as standard. I never got the point of testing one embryo rather than all of them. The odds are that you'll test one that's fine.

It was our clinc who said 3 transfers rather than 3 full rounds, but that might have been a lost in translation moment.

Does anyone ever just feel like giving up?
Have been really trying to stay positive but I’m not sure I have the mental will-power for the constant rollercoaster of this anymore 😢
Yet another AF so really struggling today. Is it just me?

I've just come on my period today too. Sat in my classroom crying my eyes out. Need to pull myself together before the kids come back.

It's so hard to keep going. I'm not sure what the answer is. I almost think it might be easier to give up than live with the hope every month.

Where are you at with tests/treatment?

FP got me here too. Arrived yesterday morning, in line with a horrendous hangover after drinking myself stupid to deal with arrival of new nephew. I didn't know it was possible to be so happy and so sad at the same time.

Sorry that FP is here for you too Just & Teacher. It really is so shit and it's such an in-your-face horrible reminder. I hope you can have some wine and chocolate and a good screaming rant this evening. On the fence between having a mega "throw everything at it" month (haven't done OPKs or temp in a while in an effort to be "relaxed" eye roll) or just give up and get back on the pill while.

Having said my period has come it appears my body is having a weird brown discharge but no period month.

Which is exactly what happened last time I was taking pregnacare tablets - so I stopped and my cycle went back to normal - but my doctor told me there was absolutely no way they could have an effect on my cycle and GUESS WHAT! Apparently they do!

Would stop taking them again except I haven't got pregnant without them either so hey, maybe they are worth a shot! Even if I basically don't have periods on them. Fucks sake.

It's been more than a year of trying now my cycles are still irregular 60-140 days compared to 29 pre mirena. And I just can't bring myself to go to the doctors. I'm sure they're just going to tell me I'm too fat and come back when I've lost weight.
Plus there's the feeling of just not wanting to be tols I've got something wrong with me, or worse that I haven't there's just nothing they can do.
Need to sort myself out

Hey yam fam how is everyone? Currently cycle day 9 over here.....sitting waiting. Enjoying my "month off" but not really not trying as planning to dtd lots but not doing opks this week really excited about this month as letting my hair down eating what I want and drinking and having fun!!