Yam Fam!

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Yammers thread 9!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

@JustLikeTheySaid sorry fp came

Morning yam fam. So I got a BFP last weekend when I was late for AF but unfortunately it got progressively fainter and I started spotting yesterday, woken up with worse than AF type cramps today. So this is loss #3 for me. All of them have been before 6 weeks. Have an appointment on Tuesday with GP to ask to change the infertility referral to a recurrent miscarriage referral. What a bag of shite.

That's shit @strawberrye, I hope the recurring miscarriage clinic can help you out.

Hope you're as ok as you can be at the moment.

Sorry for your loss strawberry

Hope everyone's doing ok? I'm sorry I've not really had a chance to catch properly and had no internet while we where away. I ovulated earlier than usual this cycle I'm now 6dpo feeling twinges on the right hand side which I'm sure is 100% unrelated but I'm feeling better about this cycle than last 🤞 x

I'm sorry to hear this Strawberrye, and have been exactly where you are in the last 18 months. I actually got pregnant with DS a week exactly after my third loss at 7 weeks and my recurrent loss appointment came through as I hit 12 weeks. It's totally shit and the third time really made me feel hopeless. I know everyone tritely says to be kind to yourself but it's so true. Just because it's early, those recurrent losses are no less painful for those of us ttc. Hugs.

I don't know your stats, sorry, but I'm 41, and GP was very encouraged by the fact that I fell pregnant easily. I did start low dose aspirin as soon as I got that bfp, and my consultant kept me on it til 36 weeks, anecdotally I'd heard positive things. I hope your appointment comes quickly and is helpful.

Thanks @LimpLettuce, and thank you for sharing your experience with me, its comforting to know that you got there in the end with your DS.

I'm only 27 which is good one the one hand as it means I've got lots of time - but also a bit of a kick in the guts on the other because it feels like even worse luck when I'm young, otherwise healthy and lead a healthy lifestyle. I started low dose aspirin at BFP this time as I have had 1 borderline positive test for APS, waiting for the second test, unfortunately no difference though. Will just have to wait and see what RMC says.

Thanks again for your kind words, and congratulations on the birth of your DS.

I was so negative Strawberrye, literally like a stroppy child, and the 4th bfp arrived the night before I went wedding dress shopping, I just cried and panicked. I did hesitate posting that, Yammers being excellent at stroppy, but god I wish I'd known it wouldn't all go to shit again, I'd have saved myself some really dark thoughts. It may be you need more than the aspirin, and you're right, you very much have time on your side. I've caught myself saying this week I wouldn't rule out number 3, as if the last 18 mos haven't been hellish and dreadful, and as if my next birthday isn't forty bloody two. Anyway I'm rambling on but the main point is that there is light there, all you can do now is one day at a time, and you're very much not alone in this thread.

Hey all,
First time post on this thread. I just wanted to have a rant about my GP. DH and I have been TTC for nearly 18 months, with one early mc after 12 months. I asked to get some of the basic tests done to check our fertility and was told if having a baby at my age was a priority we should go straight to a private clinic and have ivf. I’m 34! I know I don’t have the fertility of a 24 year old but seriously?! In the end, I convinced him to order the bloods but I realised I’m still pissed off so blehhhhh. Rant over!

Hi all,

Still reading this thread and thinking of you all.

Unfortunately looks like I may be joining you all again shortly.

Hope there's more BFPs and positive outcomes for everyone soon. This thread got me through some tough moments.

Sorry.. shouldn't of posted that. So emotional tonight. Sorry.

Are you ok @maddiie?

@Si1ver Nearly 2 years of trying I get my first BFP and not even a week later a doctor tells me to not get my hopes up and prepare for the worst it's all just cruel. Holding on to a slither of hope but I'm heartbroken.

@LimpLettice thank you, I'm feeling like I'm in a dark place at the moment. Went Christmas shopping yesterday and it suddenly struck me that I should have a 2 month old baby now, or be looking forward to a boxing day due date, or planning to tell our families our news. Then thinking how many Christmases will I be wistfully looking at other people's children wondering whether I'll ever have my own? I normally love Christmas and just don't feel excited about it at all this year.

@auroracase I think you are very much entitled to rant, that seems odd that they wouldn't even do the basic bloods for you? Maybe they were trying to be kind and have some personal experience of the investigation and referral process for infertility taking a long time and then being unsuccessful and blaming it on age? But certainly doesn't sound like they expressed that in a sensitive or appropriate way!

@maddiie I'm so sorry you are in this situation, you must be distraught. Post whatever you like on here and keep us updated. Keeping you in my thoughts and hoping your doctor is wrong

@maddiie I'm so sorry my lovely. I'm keeping everything crossed for you that it turns out the doctors are wrong.

I do know how devastating being told that is. My only natural bfp was after 18 months of trying and I was completely broken when it went wrong. Keep talking to us. Don't ever feel that you can't post.

Hi all, hoping I can join you. I've been ttc #2 for over 2 years now. Had an ectopic pregnancy which ruptured Nov 2016 and they seem to have removed my fertility along with my tube. I got pregnant again after trying for 11 months and then found out at a 9 week scan that there was no heartbeat. It's now been 12 months since the ERPC and not a bloody whiff. So many people have had pregnancies, babies and first birthdays and I'm still not pregnant. Feels like a huge kick in the teeth. We are now due to start IVF in Jan. Been reading through your whole thread and feel like I could have written some of your posts. I'm so sorry you're all on this tough journey too.

I've also been on the TTC after pregnancy loss thread for a year and agree with @strawberrye. Whilst I'm so happy for people getting their happy endings it's really hard to constantly be the old cheese left behind. @strawberrye I haven't checked that thread for a few weeks- I'm so so sorry to hear that you've had another loss. Sending hugs hugs.
@Pinkemi congratulations! Loved hearing a positive IVF story.
@Booksandbaths1 I'm so sorry it didn't work for you and that you're going through such tough times.
Sorry for everyone who's out this month. I'm just at the end of my period and it all starts again. Last natural cycle so I'm sure I'll be even more crazy than usual guzzling down all my Google supported tablets and potions! 🤦‍♀️

@Maddiie sorry i didn't mean to skip you. I have everything crossed for you that you have a determined little bean in there and that everything will be fine.

@Boboelephant hello again! Sorry to hear AF got you this month. I will be keeping everything crossed for you and hope Murphy's law kicks in and you're pregnant just before starting IVF.

@maddiie how are things today?

Thanks all 

@Si1ver Essentially just waiting for the miscarriage to start. Apparently with my hcg levels not doubling it's just a matter of time. I feel so disgusting because my body feels so pregnant, it is pregnant, but for how long? If this is really going to end I just want it to hurry up and start miscarrying because every pregnancy symptom I have just makes me want to scream.

That sounds hideous @maddiie. I don't want to give false hope, but please remember that it's not necessarily every 48 hours that the HCG doubles. It can take a little longer than that in some women. Keep resting up. Keep hydrated.

How far along are you now?

@Si1ver Mine rised for 3410 to 5106 in 48 hours. The nurse said that was a 49% increase and that the lowest ever seen in a successful pregnancy was 52% and that she "doubts I'm setting a new record" going back today for more but they all told me not to get my hopes up. I'm 5+5 I think.

@maddiie have been where you are, just went to look up my HCGs:
22/8 - 66
24/8 - 120
27/8 - 156 (this is when I was told bubba might not make it)
31/8 - 930 (fertility specialist delayed this test longer to be absolutely sure)

Will be crossing everything I can for you xxx

@BGDino It's heartbreaking. If it wasn't for the levels I wouldn't have a clue anything I was wrong. Swollen boobs, morning sickness, exhaustion, food aversions.. if it really is game over I just need it to end because I feel like my body is lying to me right now.

At 6wks something should be visible on a scan, only two more days until that's an option. Fingers crossed things look better today.

sorry guys... for some reasons the updates weren't being sent to my phone so thought you had been unusually quiet!

@Booksandbaths1 I am so so sorry to hear of your losses love. If it helps, my clinic said to me that you get a higher chance of success with a frozen embryo transfer compared to a fresh transfer. (Hugs)

@strawberrye So sorry to hear of your loss. (hug)

@maddiie oh no.. I am keeping my fingers crossed that it is all okay for you!

I have my 7 week scan tomorrow and I am bricking it.. So many days I just dont feel like anything is happening.

What is the HCG levels? is this when you get the blood test done at the doctors? my clinic and my doctors both refused to do this!

Ahhh @maddiie sending all the love your way your situation sounds utterly heartbreaking. I do hope they're all wrong 
@Pinkemi that's so exciting I was I total shock with my little ones first scan it's so weird 🙈 x