Over 40 ttc - Autumn baby dust for me!

[Orchid222]

Here's our new thread, let's hope it's a lucky one!

I feel horrendous. I've had a rotten cold since Wednesday and feel shite. I've got sore boobs. AF due tomorrow but on so many tablets i doubt she will arrive anyway. 10dpiui today.....not even sure about that, do you count the day it happens? Sore throat. Feel depressed and sad and down and have no reason to. Sorry for the moan.

Oh and could burst into tears at anytime

@Presh12345 sorry you're feeling shite! Hope tiny fell better soon and AF won't turn up at all! Would you test again? My clinic counts the day of IUi as a zero day. I'm supposed to be having HCG tests on Friday and Monday, providing Friday is positive. But I'll take a hpt first as don't want to track all the way to London for nothing! Fingers crossed for you!

I just have a feeling it's on its way. But I'm on so many tablets it could also be them.

Big hugs @Presh12345 just past af and know the teary feeling.. try and rest to get over the cold.. xxx

Booked our fertility check at the clinic for 14th December. Aaaaargh! So scared

And also.... feel like a fraud. I hate the part when they ask your age. 41 for me, 44 for DH (he'll be 45 in 2 weeks) I feel so stupid for asking for checks and I feel guilty as I already have 2 beautiful children. I hope they are not judgemental as I feel stupid. And selfish. Maybe I'm too old for this.

Presh, keep your chin up. It could be AF or it could be crazy pg hormones. It could have been implantation bleeding. I'll keepy fingers crossed for you. That time of the month is horrible and I totally understand your despair and teariness. Big hugs x

Cleo, you aren't too old and you don't need to feel like a fraud. You have every right to get some checks done. Don't feel stupid or selfish.

I went back to see Mr Shehata today and I've got to start taking steroids and progesterone and something else - can't remember right now - from ovulation. Take a test 10 dpo and if BFN stop taking the drugs. If BFP then continue. It's all so unproven that I don't know how I feel about it but I may as well try. Feel a little nervous about the prospect though

Let's- you've been quiet the last few days, how are you doing? Has AF stayed away? Have your meds arrived? Have you started on your ivf cycle? Hope AF never showed.

@cleozeta don’t feel like that! I am 40 so is partner and have a 16 year old son already. If you start treatment you may be a few weeks behind me so I can let you know how it goes 😬 I have my TIA on 21st November. We are just ploughing ahead as my AMH was 4 so not waiting any longer! I’ve cried all weekend 😬 just be aware most clinics shut down over Xmas. Doesn’t look like I will get a cycle in before Jan at this rate as next cycle due 10th December so egg collection will fall smack in the middle of Xmas 😭. I just want to get going now and cross my fingers for our ICSI baby!

@Presh12345 aww I’m keeping it all crossed for you. I’m dreading the wait for mine. I really feel for you, 😞

Thank you taxgirl & reality. I didn't feel like that until I made the call it just suddenly hit me! Reality - it would be good to hear how you get on with yours. I'll hopefully start any treatment in the new year but it's bloody expensive!
What is TIA?

@cleozeta we went to an open evening at Herts and Essex then got AMH and SP test half price. Went back on 8th November for tests and got result for his straight away he obviously has supersperm 🤦‍♀️ But I’m low on AMH. We have now booked a Treatment information appointment where you pay your cash they go through all of the drugs and show you how to do it. I will be on the short protocol as I’m 40. I think I will have to have a scrape to help implantation but they will know more once I start on 12 days of the drugs. Yes it’s expensive but look at Access Fertility we are going for ICSI as I want the best chance possible so are doing the multi cycle where you get two transfers. It’s cheaper than the clinic alone by about 5k!

Reality - I just looked up access fertility and it turns out my chosen clinic (the one that appeared OAP friendly) is part of that. I've booked into the full fertility check for half price, would have been £800 but now £400. Bargain. Also saw the 2 cycle IVF deal. Shame we are too old for the unlimited IVF one!

Random question about the SA. Do they have to 'supply' the sample in-house? Or do they bring it in? Slightly anxious my DH will not be able to 'perform' under pressure!!

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cleozeta- thats brilliant glad I mentioned it! Yes SA done in clinic. I was really worried about DH, he has anxiety about it anyway but we were told not to do anything for 3-5 days before. We were actually on Holiday the week before so only managed to not for 4 days before. Then day before test 🤦‍♀️ Were naughty but had to stop! I was so worried he wouldn’t be able to on the day but he did just fine. Was a bit flustered when he came out 😳 I was clock watching and then he said he couldn’t do it I was gutted. He was kidding obviously !

AF due today. Tested this morning with FMU and BFN. Think I'm out this month. And as AF isn't here, will have to wait for her to arrive before starting next cycle. 😪

Hi All and thanks @orchid222 and @Booseysmom

I am keeping up guys I promise, just feel utterly shit at the moment! not sure where I'm up to telling you all about this weird time..

AF was due around Friday 2nd November and I knew I wouldn't get IVF meds in time as they were due to arrive with me on Tuesday 6th so I had basically discounted starting IVF treatment in November, DH has booked off two weeks from work mid November to travel out to clinic for EC and ET, no AF on due date so I thought there may still be hope that I could start taking my meds on CD2-3.

Meds arrived Last Tues and still no AF we were now on CD34, apart from June I've been regularly 28 days and then I had a weird 46 day cycle with BFN's and back to normal after that but around 28-30 cycle.

I am now CD 41 no AF not tested as I am sure its what happened in June (annovultry cycle?) I know I should test but I'm too anxious and apprehensive and my clinic is wondering whats happening! I was going to leave it until CD 46 to POAS, I have all the pains like I had my ghost cycle, I just wish my body would make it's mind up. Was raring to get one IVF cycle done to see how my body would react and now I'll be waiting until January as December (clinic closing etc) is out.

I just wish I could plan this without all the worrying about my body shutting down.

I have been thinking of you all and to all the new members too, I fell crap for reading and not posting, just feel so weird all the time, mad sad uncertain and everything rolled into one, trying to keep normal in RL is getting harder too!

On the plus side I have all my meds here reading and waiting for when I can start IVF treatment! and I'll be ready in January, might give myself some time to go on a health kick!

Let's how frustrating! I'd test just to rule it out. Since you're not hopeful you won't be too disappointed and at least you'll know it's a weird cycle. If AF arrived within a week is there a chance you'll squeeze one cycle in before the clinic shuts down?

How frustrating lets. Deffo test, at least that'll give you a better idea of what is going on.

Presh - you are not out until af is here.

Reality - ah yes I hadb't thought about the abstaining part. I hope the appointment doesn't land in fw!!

As for me. I am in my most dreaded part of the cycle. Pre ovulation. I hate this part it's so stressful and something different happens every cycle to stress me out. So this time everything was looking lovely. Ewcm on cd14 (Saturday) opk's started to get darker etc. Then today, when I expected ov to happen, bloody opk goes blank!! And I've not had a positive or peak yet!

@Letsdothis43 you have nerves if steel, I'd have tested.. @Cleozeta don't wait for the line get at it... boys in the tubes just to be on safe side x

@cleo definitely get active. The info that comes with the Ava bracelet says you have a fertile period of 5 days I think. And it's so easy to miss the peak/surge. All so painfully unreliable. Like chat says just get busy!!

@Lets, how have you not tested? I would have done about 100 tests by now!!!

Presh - worth testing again tomorrow or Thursday if AF doesn't arrive....