Over 40 ttc - Autumn baby dust for me!

[Orchid222]

Here's our new thread, let's hope it's a lucky one!

I’m so sorry you feel that way Boosey, it would be a shame to see you go.

Mimosa - did you take the soy isoflavones this cycle? Sounds like you need to be increasing your oestrogen. Green tea is apparently good for that too

Lets - fingers crossed you get to try this month! How exciting to have things moving

Cookie - fingers crossed your line gets darker, no af is always a good sign. Let us know how it goes.

Sorry to hear you're feeling like this @BooseysMom. Do what you need to but I'm sure everyone will be here for you if you wish to come back. That's the thing with Internet forums. Some days I can do multiple posts then go days without losing looking at it. No harm meant.

Treasure your little boy and be kind to yourself.

@CritterTamer brilliantly awesome news.

I went through a phase of thinking it's twins but this seems to have passed now. My 12 week scan is on Tuesday so I will find out then.

Mellon - I hope it goes well for you on Tuesday! Are you planning to do the harmony test?
Cookie - I’m so sorry to hear about your line, fingers crossed that changes when your tests arrive. xxx

Ooh good luck at your scan mellon! Let us know how it goes

Thanks everyone. I can't find a crying emoticon! Your msgs have made the tears come out. I'm always on a hormonal roller coaster. I was so unnaturally high a couple of days ago I just knew I'd crash at some point. I've never really tried hard enough and I'm beating myself up over it. I'm going to be 47 next Feb. It just isn't going to happen ..I've left it too late
But I really appreciate your kind msgs.
Cleo.. interesting about the palpitations...the way yours just went on their own. The doc tested me and it's nothing serious plus they said it isn't peri-menopausal.
Maybe I do need to step away from mumsnet for a time..I don't know. I do like being a part of this thread really though

So sorry you're feeling low boosey.
I'm beating myself up with the same "left it too late feelings" but we can't do that. You just do what's right at that point in your life.....
As for me, BFN on my AF due day. No surprises as have bad cramps 
I'm so grateful for the 2DC I have, really think it's time to stop but how can I ignore ovulation signs each month? That will be the tricky thing....

Thanks folks. I will see what they find out first. If my risk is higher than I'm comfortable with then I will. My nearest one is out of county.

I will admit it is the thing that has been worrying me since the BFP. Others seem to think I am worrying unnecessarily. Easy for them to say!!

I completely understand Mellon, if we get that far we will have the test. At the moment all I can focus on is getting to 6 weeks. x

Boosey I was also tested but they said it was nothing serious 'just perimenopause'. Arseholes.

I have also been having the 'left it too late' panic, but my chemical has weirdly given me a boost. Just need to imptove my egg quality somehow.

Weasle - sorry you got bfn. I think it would be physicaly impossible to ignore ov signs, even if you tried. Its just such a rollercoaster every month its hard to keep life normal.

Mellon - not long now till your scan. Hopefully it will reassure you

Rose - how are things going at the moment? Are you able to relax? The early stages are so hard!

Ah Booseys.....I'm sorry! I agree that taking an "if it happens, it happens" approach is a good idea. If you do get any good news in the future, please come back to share it. In the meantime enjoy being a mum to your son. I am more hopeful than you seem to be but I am starting to accept that I am also very lucky to have a child already and trying to think more about that and less about the desperate hope for a sibling. It's really hard. Hugs.

Thank you for asking Cleo, I am better than I was at the weekend, no more spotting and the lower back pains have gone. I did go to the doctors on Monday and was told there is nothing to do at this stage other than ‘wait it out’. Which of course I know.
She did give me some hope of getting an early scan, so all being well I will find out more next week. xx

All sounds positive rose, fingers crossed for you

Thanks for the kind thoughts ladies.

@Rose68 I hope you're able to have an early scan to put your mind at rest. I'm pretty sure this one is growing nicely because my jeans are really tight, but I won't know anything for sure until Tuesday.

Mellon- good luck!
Weasle- sorry about bfp.
Booseys- sorry you're feeling low, it's hard I know. As for me, I'm just coming back from another clinic. I'm fed up waiting for something that might never happen and desperate for a sibling for my ds so starting on an ivf journey.
Lets- I won't be far behind you! It's too late for me to do it this cycle since AF can come any time but going for Dec hopefully I'll have a lovely Christmas present in the form of a bfp.

Booseys I meant to tell you my consultant today said the oldest woman he's seen who conceived naturally was 54! So you just never know And remember the article I sent a while ago about fertility increasing around menopause? It's not over until it's over. Oh and the 54yo hadn't had a period for 3 years prior and still conceived!

Orchid have you had all your tests? What did the consultants say about IVF and chances etc? I'm still wanting to take that route but the chemical has thrown me so not sure what to do now. When would testing happen? Do they do it all in one go?

I too am in the camp preparing to give up but wondering how to deal with ovulation time, however just to cheer you up ladies here is a lovely story of a lady who failed to get pregnant all her life and just before menopause hit she had 4, yes 4 babies! Apologies if this is the same one posted by mellon previously, I wasn't sure.... x
www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2357909/amp/A-midlife-fertility-surge-left-Louise-holding-FOUR-babies-40s-The-little-known-phenomenon-deliver-big-surprises.html

Sorry meant orchid

Great story Dinah, I think someone posted something very similar not too long ago.
Cleo I had my blood tests and HyCoSy done earlier in the year and DH had his swimmers tested too. We just need to do the hep b and c, ivf and I need to get rubella (though my gp should've done that already during my pregnancy apparently) and one quick scan and I'm ready to go. They have some of the highest chances, I think 46% for our age group so I'm going for it.

@BooseysMom I'm sorry you feel that you want to leave, I struggle to keep up with every comment.. but I'm 46 next birthday ( next month!!) but I'm deffo in the "we are still having unprotected sex and will not stop.. " camp but not in a pressured way.. we are just doing our thing throughout the month.. i know it's not for everyone and people need more control over the process.. hope you do come back.. when you are ready..
or dip in and out every so often..
@Orchid222 54 years old!!! That's what I'm talking about.. keep doing the deed ladies.. throughout the month those eggs can get tricky when the pop ( early or late)
Sending lots of baby love out there 💕💕💕💕⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Oh you're all so lovely..thank you for the encouragement and support when i needed it

Weasle... thanks and sorry about BFN. You're so right ..you do what's right at that time in your life and there's no point beating yourself up over it. And yes, it's so unbelievably hard to ignore ovulation...more so than ever!!

Cleo..lol about arsehole doc's!! 😁

Petra...thanks for the hug . I'll certainly come back and share if I am ever able to. Imagine...46/47 and a natural pregnancy! In the meantime I'll do as you say and count my blessings.

Orchid...thank you. I do remember that article and the fact that in the old days women often conceived later in life ..it has happened throughout history. I still have that glimmer of hope. Wishing you success with your ivf journey. DH's brother's wife is about to have her first after her 2nd ivf attempt was successful.

Chat...I know..it sounded like I was angry with everyone but I didn't mean it and I'm sorry. So much happens here. Just a few days away and I miss so much..I can't imagine not being on here tbh!
But yes I follow the same philosophy as you. I don't test any more so I'm not obsessing too much but that makes the guilt and regret kick in. I would just so love to be able to say ' look, I'm 46 and I DID IT!!'

Wow great story Dinah!! I bet that woman just can't believe how her life turned out! :)