TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 26 - BFPs are coming!

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Another new thread! This is a lovely supportive thread for anyone who has suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately known as the penguin huddle - this is the place to survive the ups and downs of this crazy journey.

Kicking off with a roll call:

RedRobin7
Age 30
TTC #1
MMC at 12 weeks in March 18
NMC at 7 weeks in July 18

Currently under a private gynaecologist and waiting for tests results. Hoping to join the TTC bus again in October.

@Yukka that's productive news but what does APS stand for

@lilimum5 it’s antiphospholipid syndrome or Hughes syndrome was the old name. It’s a blood clotting disorder that causes miscarriage. Whilst it’s rare, it’s the most common diagnosis for women who have had recurrent mc xx

@Lilihun5 thank you hun, I hope af starts soon for you so you can get out of limbo x

@Mistymeow @InDreamland I totally agree, I really shouldn’t be testing! 🙈 I’ve not got any tests left so stopping now. It just feels like I only believe it when I’m looking at a positive test! Got a dr appointment tomorrow so will talk to them about how I’m feeling. Have already been told by hospital that in subsequent pregnancies after Charlie I will have more appointments and extra scans at 8-9 weeks, 16 weeks & third trimester (if I ever make it that far 🤞) so that’s a bit of a relief. Just taking it one day at a time right now!

@Yukka I’m glad that you finally have some answers and that it’s treatable! Having some control over the situation always makes you feel a bit better. Glad you’re doing okay! X

Just realised I wrote hun instead of mum @Lilimum5 my head is all over the place, sorry 🤦‍♀️😂

Had my little bean today after 12 hours of medical management. Got stuck in cervix so quite painful but relieved it’s over.
Onwards to recovery. Feeling sad to leave him there though.
@haleyfx congratulations to you, all my love.
Thanks to all for your kind words. I’ll have a proper catch up tomorrow, very tired now xx

@Melpops36 sending you healing thoughts, I know a little bit of that feeling too as I had the same problem but it had to be resolved by surgery, thank fully my baby came before that. How old was your little baby if you don't mind my asking.

My little baby was 9 weeks old and beautiful. I'm so glad I got to see him/her.

I hope you have a quick recovery xx

@Tinestsky it can be difficult to accept it's happened because it's your hopes and dreams.

@Luxembourgmama that is so unhelpful of her to say! So you miss your period, you're a few days late, what are you supposed to do? You think you could be pregnant so you take a test. How early is too early for her? When does she think you should test, when you've missed 2 periods? Ignore her, test when you feel you're ready to.

@MeghanV07 I think that sounds like a plan.

@Lilimum5 it is crazy isn't it! I hopefully you get the -ve HPT and AF soon so you can start again.

@Melpops sending you massive hugs!!!!!!

@Rachyxxx sorry you find yourself here. All the ladies here are so so so supportive even though it's the worst club in the world to belong to.

@Clumsykitten thanks for sharing your experience, it does help hearing how different others found the very early mc's. This one was very different to my 12 week one. I'm really hoping I can enjoy this holiday. I'm so anxious about going away now, just generally worried about something going wrong.

I'm waiting for the bleeding to stop and I think I am just going to start TTC again straight away. I'm 38 so feel like I'm losing time. I've got terrible lower backache today, never had this before. I really am feeling like the whole universe is conspiring against me.

@Yukka it's great that you have answers, or at least some answers and hopefully with the extra support and care you'll get your next baby will go full term and you can bring them home all happy and healthy.

@hayleyfx it's good you'll also get additional scans for your next.

I really need to look into private testing. Found the Lister Clinic online but no idea if they're good/reputable.

Hello ladies, would like to join the thread. Found out 2 weeks ago I’d had a MMC when I was 9+2. Had medical management on Monday, just waiting for the bleeding to stop. At the moment, I feel like the only way to get over my heartbreak is to be pregnant again. As soon as we can we will be trying again, will probably wait 2 more weeks to and check I’ve had a neg HPT before starting. Sending good wishes to everyone xx

@PurrMaid
This is exactly where I was at the beginning of September. So I know exactly how you are feeling. Sending you all the love and luck for your journey back to TTC.

@InDreamland thank you so much for the welcome. It’s so nice to have somewhere I can come to talk, and to realise we really aren’t all alone in this horrific place, and to help eachother realise there is hope for us all.

Xxx

did a test this morning and could see a very very faint line. Hardly visible. Run to London to get blood tests done so I don't second guess it. Sadly it's Negative. And now moving onto IVF. Next month. Still staying positive!

@Yukka pleased you have a diagnosis now-as much as you hope nothing is wrong better to know what you are facing and at least you can treat it now. Fingers crossed for you.

@hayleyfx how did the appointment go today?

As for me I think I'm trying to convince myself I'm pregnant. I'm about 6dpo (positive opks thurs/fri/sat last week!) but have been experiencing tender boobs, lots of CM and also some pain/discomfort on my right side (had something similar when I caught with bow). I know it's unlikely as we only successfully dtd twice -once the Saturday before the positive opks (so pushing it unless OH spermies are super long lived!) and the only other time was Sunday morning just gone.

I've not had an AF since my miscarriage ended...desperately want it to be true but wonder if it's that desperation giving me symptoms rather than actually being pregnant. I'm driving myself nuts aren't I?

Feeling really down now after that appointment 😣 at first it was fine, dr said she’d refer me to the EPAU at 6 weeks for a scan and gave me a stronger folic acid dose. Then I left and got a phone call from the dr basically saying that she doesn’t believe me that I’m pregnant. She wants to me to go in and give a urine sample on Monday before she’ll consider referring me. As I had a scan about 3 1/2 weeks ago that showed I wasn’t pregnant at the time and was just about to ovulate - because of this she said I can’t possibly be more than 3 weeks pregnant. I said to her that you usually add 2 weeks though and go from the last period? Yes 2-3 weeks since I conceived but technically I’m 4-5 weeks. She said nope. You’re 3 weeks pregnant, maybe only 2. But I’ve been testing positive for a week... so before I even ovulated?? Makes sense 🤔 I told her the urine test will definitely be positive as I have about 20!! Positive tests at home and she just said “okay if you say so...” I’ve really let this get to me 🤦‍♀️ Am I totally wrong? I’m confused now. & I’m telling myself that I must not be pregnant. She finished it by saying “take the folic acid if you want to anyway I guess in case you are pregnant...” Wish I didn’t bother with the doctor now!! 🙄 sorry for ranting!

@Laney79 thank you for asking, I should have left it! Also really hope that they’re all good signs that you’ll get your BFP this month. Twice is still enough to do the trick! Will keep my fingers crossed for you 🤞

Sorry for posting again 🙈 but just looking at my positive tests and thinking surely the doctor is wrong? & I’ve missed my period now. Doubting everything after that appointment. Feel like screaming.

Btw sorry I’m probably overreacting. I think it’s the hormones combined with my tiredness and worry - everything is getting to me haha 😬

@hayleyfx she sounds pleasant, it's like one extreme to another isn't it? Either doctors don't wanna know until you're at least 7 weeks and don't pay attention to you or they're making you feel stupid.
I'm currently trying to get over my first mc without knowing for sure I had one, all I'm left with at 5 weeks is guessing and assumption.
I hope you get some good news soon x

@hayleyfx looking at your tests I will say yes you are defo pg. I would take the folic acid definally and give her her sample. Please don't worry its not good for you. Surely with your past pgs you could call the epu and they would see you with out her referral anyway.

@hayleyfx those tests are very clear lovely. You are pregnant. Your dr is out of order. I'd bypass and go to EPAU. I'd be tempted to make a complaint or at least ask for an apology from her on Monday. It's not fair to make you feel like this. First do no harm also applies to mental health xxx

Sorry was a bit vague there lol
I found out I was pregnant last week on Tuesday and by Thursday I was bleed light and Friday fairly heavy with clotting. All signs point to a mc but epu said they couldn't do anything until 7 weeks and I was 4.
You hear stories of implantation bleeding or people just heavy bleeds and still being pregnant, and while that hope lingers it means I can't move forward and accept it. I'm just sitting here like a lemon waiting.... I did a test yesterday (week after the bleed that last 2 days and suddenly stopped) and it's still positive, I know that can be normal for a couple weeks after mc but none of this is helping

@Clumsykitten no worries, it has been hard but it's the battling with myself that's hardest "you might be pregnant, don't be stupid cara no you're not!, but I could be" I'm just tormenting myself.
Can the doc telly up there and then or do they send off blood tests?

Hi folks,

So I have been lurking for a while as I have never posted anywhere before.

Age - 30
TTC baby #1
Miscarriage July - 4.2 weeks
Miscarriage October - 7 weeks
Miscarriage November - 5 weeks

It has been an amazingly challenging 5 months and I have never been through such a range of emotions in my whole life!. We got pregnant the first time during the first month we started trying and we're so surprised and ecstatic but unfortunately that was short lived as I miscarrried at 4.2 weeks. The pain was like the most intense period ever, and I was literally rocking myself in pain.

The next time was even more devastating as we were really hopeful that the first time was just fluke as my body was probably just getting use to being pregnant and would be fine the next time but this wasn't the case and at 7 weeks I miscarried and the pain was really significant this time. It really felt like I was going through labour pains.

The most recent is currently happening and started on Monday when I would have been 5 weeks exactly. This time has been painless surprisingly, I've only felt like my womb was contracting or sort of shrinking back to its original size. On this occasion I was taking folic acid with vitamin D way before my TTC journey began and I also decided to take 75mg 'baby aspirin' this time as I have heard this can't harm the baby and might support the development.

We were offered an investigation after miscarriage two and have an appointment for February which I never bothered to cancel so we're going to take a break until the new year. I really hope that the consultat is able to find something so these loses are explained.

I've been so inspired by all the stories I have read and hope that my experiences helps someone else. I wish someone explained to me how varied the pain can be when experiencing a miscarriage as it really isn't like the movies and I think it's so important to hear about this from people that have actually experienced it.

@Orchid88 sorry to hear about your experiences, sounds like you've really had a time of it, I wish there were words to help but I know from my own experience that there's nothing I can say.
I agree with the mc symptoms, I miscarried last weekend for the first time and first pregnancy, it was very much like a mild period that lasted 2 days and I've been fine since (touch wood). You see the movies and you think you're gonna be rushed to a&e in an ambulance don't you lol
I hope they find some answers for you at your appt, I am also crossing my fingers that this mc was a fluke one off but I'm a bit of a cynic, all of us being in the same place with the same issue probably doesn't help with that

@hayleyfx I cannot believe she spoke to you like that. Especially after your previous Mc's?! Who the hell does she think she is? I'd be making a complaint & going back to see her with those bag of tests you have!! Even if you hadn't had any mc's I think she's still out of order!

@Orchid88 I'm so sorry for your loses 💙 I hope you appointment on Friday goes well & you can at least get some answers. TTC to conceive is stuff, we've just got the added stress of 'mc fear'

Xxx