TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 26 - BFPs are coming!

[RedRobin7]

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Another new thread! This is a lovely supportive thread for anyone who has suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately known as the penguin huddle - this is the place to survive the ups and downs of this crazy journey.

Kicking off with a roll call:

RedRobin7
Age 30
TTC #1
MMC at 12 weeks in March 18
NMC at 7 weeks in July 18

Currently under a private gynaecologist and waiting for tests results. Hoping to join the TTC bus again in October.

@Lilimum4

Thinking of you today @Lilimum4 ❤️

Does anyone have spotting 1-2 days before AF arrives? I'm not self diagnosing myself with low progesterone levels 🤦🏽‍♀️.

Dr google is not my friend today xx

@meghanVO7 it can happen especially after mc cycles can be very strange indeed. How long since your mc?

Could also be implantation bleed but that’s a little more rare. Is it red or brown?

@Yukka It's been brown since yesterday... sometimes red when I wipe but has only just this evening started as red in my panty liner.

I feel like I'm so unaware about how my body should be after my mc, I feel like I was just left to figure it out all myself so I'm questioning everything at the moment 😔. My mc was 8 weeks ago xx

@MeghanVO7 yes it’s hard to know what’s going on after mc as it takes time and there’s everyone is different. I presume you had one period since as you said you were due on in 2 days is that right? If So it’s prob early af starting slowly xx

@MeghanV07 I had that for quite a few months after my MC. So confusing and you get your hopes up that it could be implantation (which it could be!) and then AF shows up :-(. Hope your cycle regulates soon.

@Yukka @Newbie21 thank you ladies.

AF has fully arrived today. Just worry so much! Going to get some multivitamins, B6 and some more B12 today. Hope that helps this cycle. I want to just get back to normal, whatever that may be!

Does anyone just chart their BBT and not use opk's? I'm not using them as they make me worry too much as I know you can miss he surge very easily & even then a surge doesn't guarantee ovulation.

Hope everyone is okay today xx

Hi @MeghanV07 sorry to hear about AF. I was wondering about giving up the opk. I think it can give you a bit of a head start on when to dtd especially when your cycle is out of whack but I found that fertility friend usually pins my ovulation on the first +opk any way, and that I see ewcm in the days ahead. If you're doing something like SMEP, you'd likely hit your most fertile days regardless.

Vitamin wise, are you taking a pregnancy multivit? You defo need some folic acid in there. I also take iodine (kelp tablets) - it's prescribed in pregnancy to pregnant mamas in Australia and New Zealand, www.health.govt.nz/our-work/preventative-health-wellness/nutrition/iodine.

I really recommend seeing a reflexologist. Mine has been (expensive but) wonderful. She is a fertility and PCOSs expert and so knowledgable about cycles and fertility related health. I also really recommend Lara Briden on Instagram and her book Th Period Repair Manual to understand your cycle and ways to fix it holistically xx

Thank you @awakeatnight that's really helpful. I meant to say I am taking 400mg folic acid each day too. I'm not taking a pregnancy multivit no, so I'll get some of those today. I'll try SMEP this month, but worried as I won't be doing opk's will that matter?

I have considered reflexology or acupuncture. I think with those I'm going to give it 3 months from now and if I still haven't fallen pregnant I'll go down that route.

I haven't had any ewcm since my miscarriage 😔 so that's another reason why I'm sure I'm not ovulating at all xxx

Hello ladies

I wanted to let you all know that it all went to plan yesterday and my beautiful little baby left me last night. I did lose it a little bit when she came (I say she due to a feeling I have) but overall I think I'm handling it better this time than the last few times.
I don't know about you ladies but the dates that I pass my babies isn't remembed as miscarriage day for us we choose to treat it as a birthday.
Thank you all for your support and kind words.
Now I'm going to take a few days to rest this very tired and sore body.
Love and hugs to you all xx

Sending you so much love @Lilimum4 ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Hello I also just wanted to let you know that I will be changing my member name to lilimum5 now, just incase you think I've disappeared.

OK all changed. Thanks for your support. DH also thanks you all for your kind thoughts. He has read all your messages and sends his love to you all also

@Lilimum5 thank you for letting us know. So glad it went smoothly and you were able to say goodbye to your little girl. Take care and rest up, I hope you are recovering well. Snuggle up to that lovely dh of yours x

@MeghanV07 try not to worry- I know, easier said than done. But it's completely normal for your cycles to be out of whack after miscarriage. Your hormones are readjusting and settling down after the trauma. It's frustrating that we are given little info on what could happen next following a miscarriage, so I understand the worry. I have had all kinds of random symptoms and unpredictable ovulation, all caused by hormones. I even had ewcm during af! I wanted to reassure you that this is all normal and will take time, but I don't want you to do what I did and get yourself all upset and anxious by thinking there is something wrong with you. Give yourself time. I did find temping very reassuring so I knew I was ovulating and when to expect af x

Out of interest, what does vitamin B6 and B12 do?

@lilimum5 thanks for updating us it’s good to know you are through that part. I am truly sorry for you both. Rest and take it easy, we’ll be here when you’re ready or need us.

@meghanVO7 my cycles have been a complete mess since last mc 5 months ago only last month and this one seem to nearing normal. My ecwm disappeared too but after acupuncture came right back (like within 30 mins of a well timed session last month, I’m not kidding...). This week I’ve had it on and off since tues and opk was flashing this morning that LH is on the rise. It’s cd 12 so this is a really good sign for normality for me. A weekend of dtd ahead for us.....

I also started hatha yoga on the advice of acupuncturist - highly recommend it for general well-being. Its brought a new empowerment to the notion of “just breath” on the difficult days.

Hope everyone else doing ok?

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@Mistymeow I think that's what I need to remember, this is only my 2nd cycle since the Mc so my body is probably still going crazy. I've got ewcm right now! Driving me crazy! I'm going to continue temping and if I can bring myself to, I'll do opk's the cycle after. I read somewhere you need B6 whilst TTC & then B12 helps with iron levels? I took B12 when TTC for DS & it seemed to help, I also took Royal jelly which helps with egg quality, but you need to stop that once you've ovulated.

Wow @Yukka that's amazing! I spoke to someone today who said about acupuncture so really going to look into that & reflexology. I need to do something to help calm me, do you go to classes or do it from home?

Hope everyone else is well ❤️

Hi ladies, unfortunately a few days ago I had some very light pink discharge when I wiped. Doctor sent me for blood tests at the EPAU and they have revealed that my HCG levels are falling so looks like MC no. 2 :-( I should have been 8weeks 1 day today.

@Newbie21 , so sorry to hear it! Would you go again for blood tests to see HVG levels? Or leave it to see what happens next?!

Hi ladies haven't been on here for a while and just caught up. Sorry about BFNs and AFs. And congratulations to BFPs.
I'm all booked for IUI next week. Finishing Clomid on Sunday and scan is on Monday. This will be my last IUI. I know we've been incredibly lucky with IUI and I've got my beautiful baby girl. Sadly second IUI ended up in MMC. Last IUI didn't work and yet to see how this IUI pans out. I'm already discussing IVF. And will either start in December or January, providing this IUI is unsuccessful. In the meantime lots of acupuncture and reflexology. And lots of supplements. I've added DHEA to my mix. As per doc's recommendation. And of course I'm staying positive. Baby dust to us all!

@Russkispy I have been told to go for my scheduled booking in appointment at the hospital tomorrow and have another blood test then but i have already had 2 which has shown the drop.

Does anyone know if they always do scans or will they just wait until I miscarry? I want to know how far a long the baby got. It's only my second and my NHS trust requires 5 before they do tests.

Hi everyone, I haven't been on for about 3 weeks and have been trying to read back but there is so much to catch up on. For those that commented, thank-you I had a lovely time in Oz. My af arrived the day before we came back and then I got the flu so af, jetlag and illness resulted in me feeling very low and sad and just needed to take a break. Feeling more like myself again now so decided to rejoin you all.

@Newbie21 I'm so sorry love. I just read about your bfp and was so happy for you. Sending lots of hugs to you. It's so unfair.
@Lilimum5 my heart is also breaking for you. Sending so many hugs to you. I'm so sorry.
@Mostimproved I'm also so sorry that you're back as well. Hope you're doing ok.
@awakeatnight congratulations!! May the next 8 months be healthy and happy.
@TinyPaws how are you? How's the IVF going? Thinking of you.
@KnitKitty I'm sorry you've had such a tough time but glad to hear you are seeing RMC and your acupuncturist sounds great! I just saw a new lady on Wed who does acupuncture and shiatsu at the same time so we'll see how that works out. I remain convinced that you will be a mum and will always have everything crossed for you.

Sorry I can't comment on everyone but am thinking of you all. Special hugs to @Mistymeow and @strawberrye. @InDreamland thanks for asking after me. I hope you're ok and tww isn't too tough.

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@Newbie21 I'm so sorry hun sending you love

@newbie21 I am so sorry 😐 xxxx

@Lilimum5 @Newbie21 my heart goes out to you both. Look after yourselves. This is so rubbish isn't it.

Thanks for all of those that sent me kind messages after my MC number 3, the other week. It's been a tough couple of weeks but am feeling a little better in the last few days. Thanks for the counselling tips, I was almost feeling guilty I had carried on with life. Have decided to leave the counselling for now but keep on review.

I just wanted to update on practicalities. I went to GP Thursday with a printout off of internet to say I wanted a referral to Tommy's research miscarriage at St Mary's. GP had never heard of it but quite happily did as I asked. I got a email yesterday from st Mary's, and appointment date of 15th Jan for investigations. I was very impressed how quick and easily it all happened. I realise appointment is a little way off but have had 3mc since June so my body needs a break. Am also booking wedding for 7th feb so will try again once married and tests back. Just thought I would share in case helps others x

Hi

Hoping I can join you

I’m 30
TTC #3
Had an early Mc in July and have been trying since with no success

I’m frustrated as I know it’s not been that long but with ds1 (3 yo) and ds2 (21mo) and the mc we got pregnant first try each time so this is the first time it hasn’t happened. I keep worrying that the Mc has somehow broken me which I know sounds ridiculous but everyone keeps telling me you’re meant to be more fertile after a Mc and it seems the opposite for us