The Hut of Gl/doom part IV- it's still never going to happen- but ^in^ ^style^, yes

[duchesse]

After all that desert sand, we are in serious need of slightly damper place...

This one is a hamam, complete with essential oils and thick Turkish towelling bath sheets. Mosaics on the floors, marble pools. You get the picture. It still needs some decorating though.

We have had a few graduates (OK, quite a few), which is good, but time to dust off the old Hut for those of us who are still barren.

Poor both of you. It shouldn't be this way xx

well tbh we've kind of given ourselves til dec to ttc naturally, if it doesnt happen by then we'll pick the negligence case back up and go down the ivf route.

That sounds very practical, and a decent timescale.

shitty shitty shite shite.

thats all i want to say! i figure i'm allowed to swear in here?

i have been on my own with kids for about 3 weeks now. every day i have done everything . dp has been working or doing car booty woth his mate. now, he has hurt his shoulder and is going to bed when he gets home tonight.

the other night, his mate came round unannounced at 6pm asking if he would come out to play-this bloke doesnt have a gf or kids, btw.probably the reason why he came over at kiddie calming down/reading time. guess who went out and guess who did it again.

he is staying home all weekend this weekend though, there is a local festival all weekend.i'm just so tired and want someone to help me. i asked my mum to take ds1 to a party yesterday and she couldnt. neither could dp, df or anyone. i walked about mile there and back with a screeching ds2.

i just want some help today

phew, thanks!

Oh Scorpio that sounds TOUGH. Poor you. It's really hard when you just don't get any time off. You know, just enough to catch your breath, or get on top of the washing up... Not like you're going to be off having fun or anything

Thanks, impatience. i just want an hour or even two to chill out - go and sit in a cafe with a book, or something. or i want someone else to make pack lunches for dcs just once. i dont think im being unreasonable! normally im fine, its just doing it for so long without an hour off [arrgghh]!

ds2 is going to nursery tomorrow, so im going to have from 12 until 3.15 off. shame i have to pay for the privelige.

I guess it gets harder the more you have, because at least with one at some point they WILL go to sleep (even ours...) or will go to play with a friend etc. I guess with 2 or more you have to get all of them to conk out at the same time to get any peace, and does that ever happen?

(Can you spot the hut dweller who is making progress towards coming to terms with only having one child?)

they never sleep during the day. see, thats the prob with two or more-there is always going to be one needing/wanting something! i have a dss too, btw. he is nearly 6.i do like the madness though.

i'm sorry, i'm not very good at knowing what to say- but i just want to say in a nice way that im sorry for your ttc troubles. it must be hard or you, maybe only having one? im sorry if i ome across all wrong, i dont mean to.

Thanks Scorpio. I don't care how you say it! Yes, it's hard, and we would dearly love to have a whole troop of kids. I always wanted the adults to be outnumbered by children, so it's a child's house. But I've been getting rather philosophical about it all lately, and feeling grateful for what we do have and thinking a lot about the positive side of not having more than one child: a bit more freedom mainly. Of course there are pros and cons of anything, but at the moment I'm really trying not to let my misery about not having more children get in the way of enjoying the one that I have. Of course I'm not always this irritatingly rational!

Does your dss live with you? How old were you when you 'acquired' him?

he doesn't live with us since he started school, we see him in hols now. before then, it was half and half with his mum. i was 18 and he was 1 when i got him!

Hello Hutters.
Thanks to Lissie and LNO for Aspirin information. Very interesting. I think I might go for that as it's a relatively straight forward thing to do with no ill-effects. Also for the hope. I thank you. Although, I do feel a bit like Impatience and that I'm 'getting used ' to the fact that I might not have any children. I'm not sure what to think about this as the idea of positive intentions says, 'assume you will and it will come'.
Definitely no pg BFP for me this month as DP was not around at the right moment, so I am 'on hold'. .. it's a bit boring. I'm taking B6 as per instructions for PMT so am hoping to glide through imminent PMY zone without a care. Any bets??
Scorpio1, you sound drained.I hope that couple of hours to yourself went well.
Think Impy is brave to ask the question about preference to pg and then m/c or no pg. Tough one. As a not-a-mumsnetter, I think I would rather have the pg and the m/c than no pg ever again. One more chance might make me feel like I have really pushed the subject rather than cocked up the one bit I seemed to know how to do (that is get pg in the first place). It is all so personal.
Duchesse, I have missed you. Work less, it's all rubbish anyway and play on MN every day - even if only for 10 minutes!!

Crikey, Scorpio, you must have been 18 with two under-2s then! Did people give you any flak for starting your family so young?

I just don't buy that positive thinking malarky Soreheart! Perhaps if believing you weren't going to conceive made you so miserable that you never had sex perhaps the negativity would prevent you conceiving! But I just can't believe that imagining your egg beckoning the sperm makes any difference to what's happening. Bah humbug!

I hope my question re mc hasn't upset anybody. I haven't had one but fear it: If I do conceive after all this time to then lose it I think it would just do me in. I think it's an awful thing to happen. [Gentle arm squeezes to all concerned.] Thanks for sharing, Soreheart. Your poor heart.

So, my exams start tomorrow. I remember clearly the month that I weighed up whether or not to TTC because if I conceived that month I'd be due this week, and worried about the exams. In the end I decided to tempt sod's law. (See, not so dryly rational all the time...) As if.

Impatience - it was funnier when i was pg with ds2 at 19. some women (old nosey bitches actually) outside my local shop started tittering about "oh look shes having another" nosey old bags! yes, i got some funny looks, but i don't care.rofl about their reactions this time round then!!

Good luck for exams, too.

very quiet in here.....

[suspicious]

hah! caught you snooping too.

duchesse? are you here?

oh and as an afterthought

shite

and

ouch

lissie!!!

i think ive guessed one... dont know about Rainbowdays though...

was sure i knew who rainbowdays is, but now i know im wrong

oh its driving me mad!! wonder if they are a ttc'er on a thread we know??

yes, shes from the ttc boards. did think harveysaunt might be missnatalie....

i tried to namechange. but am v rubbish at it

do you know???

oh i wonder. she said she was 39, didnt she??

i dont ever bother namechanging, its too hard!

are you telling anyone in RL yet?

no, waiting til i have my early scan, tbh tho i want to tell everyone but we've been so unlucky. i wish i could get excited like i did when pg with ds but i cant now