TTC #2

[rollerskaterdata]

Hi ladies! Just wondering if anyone else is trying for DC2? Hoping we can support each other through this journey 🙂 I have a soon to be 4 year old, on cycle no 2 and currently waiting to exhale ovulate!

Good luck @Ellikopter for your first midwife appointment not too long to wait

@Ellikopter I know right! Oh that's not too far away then! How far along will you be? I've got an early scan at 6+2 cos I'm super impatient 😂

Mine won't be until I'm 8/9 weeks along as I'm moving house, so towards the end of October 😩

ahh I so wanna join in with pregnancy chat!

One of my friends from antenatal group is already pregnant with their #2 and I know another has started trying too so probably wont be long for them! And my sister is due in November with her 2nd and my other sister has given birth a few months ago to her 2nd one so bloody feels like I am seeing cute siblings or cute baby #2 bumps everywhere atm! haha. Keep getting asked "when you having your second" as well! Bleughrhgrgrhr. Sorry, wine is needed tonight

According to my last AF I'm 5 weeks lol but feel like I'm bigger lol I'm so scared that when it comes to the scan day they'll see two! Lol

@TwittleBee it'll all come at you when you least expect it :)

@waitingforbaby2 lol no not long now but I'm inpatient haven't told any family yet lol so don't know what to do ATM :(

haha Ellikopter not sure I'll ever not be expecting it now we are approaching the 1 year mark of TTC

When you forget about it and don't think about it anymore that's probably when it will happen :-)

Yeah but that is impossible,. literally get so fed up being told that haha. I cant just switch it off. We have stopped charting and using OPKs now though at least.

@Ellikopter did any of your family know you was TTC, when do u think u will tell them the good news

Also has anyone else told family they are TTC

@TwittleBee it's easier said than done isn't it?! When you want something so badly you can't just switch off. Your time will come hun. You know what I think to myself now? There will always be someone who does something sooner than you and makes you feel jealous. And there will always be someone behind you too, who looks at you when you get what you want and is jealous themselves! Be that getting married, buying houses, having babies, buying a fancy new car, you name it! It's so hard but just try and enjoy your stage of life and what you have now. I have so many friends that have already had their second child and weren't even pregnant with their first when I was pregnant with my first! But we waited for a reason, we're soon going to move into our first house and they're still renting. Nothing wrong with that of course, but they may look at me and be jealous I bought a house sooner than they did. And I could equally look at them and be jealous they had a second child before me. Iyswim?!

That ended up a lot longer than I intended! 😳

@waitingforbaby2 I have the biggest gob ever and already a bunch of people know our good news! And I wouldn't have it any other way. We're excited! I understand the higher risk of mc before 12 weeks, but honestly the risk is something like 1-2% after 12 weeks and (I'm so sorry this sounds horrible I don't know how else to say it, please don't think I'm being insensitive!) someone always ends up being in that 1-2%. In my mind there's a reason the risk of things going wrong at any stage of pregnancy cannot be 0% for anyone.

I sound like such a b*tch don't I?! I really hope it didn't come across as awful, I just didn't know how else to say it! 😧

@rollerskaterdata you don't sound insensitive your just stating facts is this your first? How far gone r u? When I found out about my first we told everyone straight away

Thanks for thinking of me Ellikopter! I did a FR test today but negative - depends on when I’m due tho - if Monday, then it’s negative but if weds then maybe too early?

@waitingforbaby2 thanks, things always sound worse via text coz you don't have the body language and expressions to go with it! I'm 4+2 going by LMP and this is my second. With my first we told most people pretty much straight away too for the same reasons. I'm open like a book and wear my heart on my sleeve (for better or worse - or both!) and if something were to go wrong everyone would end up knowing anyway because I wouldn't be able to hide it or bottle it up! It's just my nature 🤷‍♀️🙈

@rollerskaterdata I agree I think it's better for people to know as then if things go wrong you have that extra support and people are more understanding as to why your upset and you don't have to try to hide your emotions but good luck with your pregnancy I'm sure all will be good, it's strange to think I'm TTC 9 years after my first I do wonder if it's too much off a gap but so many things got in our way it wasn't the right time until now

Hello, I'd like to hop on if that's OK.

@rollerskaterdata congratulations on the driving test, it will make life so much easier with the Bubba. I didn't drive when I had my first and would have to do the weekly shop on my bicycle with the trailer! Puff! Been driving about 5 years now.

DP and I are ttc#2 my DS is 13! I had the Mirena taken out on the 14th Feb this year (romantic!) and we officially started trying in June. Had one funny cycle in July two weeks late, lots of symptoms but no BFP then pretty normal but painful AF.

AF is due on Sat but think I've just had a positive. DP is working away so isn't here, (I'm going to tell him in a special way anyhow) and I've just ordered another FRER on Amazon but won't arrive until Sat.

Cripes!

@Misslove83 welcome! Oooo exciting, hoping it's your BFP! And it's @Ellikopter who passed her driving test - I've been driving for 7 1/2 years!

Which reminds me - @Ellikopter have you done anything to celebrate?

Oh no! Sorry! Congratulations on passing your test @Ellikopter.

I did post a thread but here's what I think is my BFP done tonight. There's a 13 year age gap if it is. Anyone have any experience of big age gaps between siblings?

Misslove83 certainly see a clear line there! There's 12 years between me and my sister. All I can suggest it making sure teen feels involved in the pregnancy as I really didn't until the end when my school told my mum i felt pushed aside. Once I was involved I got really excited about it all. In the end I actually ended up raising my little sister as my mum became disabled but that's a whole different story

rollerskaterdata thank you for that actually, it's really bought it all into perspective. I'm still in my early twenties so I have youth on my side. And I've a house and a career already so I suppose I just have to be patient with DC#2. Really actually bought me some peace this morning x

@TwittleBee thanks for that, we asked him if he would mind having a sibling before we started trying but the last thing I want is for him to feel left out. Thankyou I will be really mindful of that.

I've just been reading about your own struggles, every test I've taken or when AF has arrived I've been filled with dread and that's a tough one to move on from, every month the process feels like such a long one doesn't it!? And you're absolutely right about wanting more or what others have, if you can keep that rational thought as a little mantra to get through the tough moments (although wine is good too)

Was it you that I read had had the Mirena?

@waitingforbaby2 no nobody knew we were trying just incase it wasn't going to happen for us. We're thinking on telling our families this weekend xx